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We were both victims of attacks that left us completely blind
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We cannot see anything. I got tired of people saying they can't do this or people judging our parenting skills
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He didn't have any doubts or concerns about being a blind parent, but I definitely did
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You just find a different way to do things. Friends and family express concerns and doubts
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How do you know if the baby is safe? How are you going to take care of this baby? How can they take care of the animals they can't see
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So we're just gonna grab this one, and we're gonna do this one. I don't know if it's Mickey Mouse or Simba, but we're gonna go with it
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We don't know what matches with what, so we put the socks, a bib, and then the outfit on the safety pin
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That way, we can keep up with it. Me and my husband are both completely blind
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We see complete darkness at all times. No shadows, no shapes, no blurs
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The color is black. We both lost our sight in young adulthood
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Two days before my 19th birthday, I was attacked. Instead of my life, he took my sight
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I became blind six weeks before my 21st birthday. I was physically assaulted and it resulted in total blindness
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When I met him, I hadn't even been blind a year. We met each other at the place where individuals with disabilities go to get training
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And he was just showing me how to deal with that and how to process it
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And I think that's kind of what made me fall in love with him. We just built a life together
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Hello. You're laughing. I'm a big boy. When you learned you were pregnant, what were your emotions
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Oh, I was terrified. A fear of the unknown it was like what did I do You ready buddy You ready to get dressed He didn have any doubts or concerns about being a blonde parent but I definitely did
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What if we're not good enough for them? What if we fail them as parents because we do have a disability
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Hold on, hold on. Feel the diaper. See how low that is on that booty
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That ain't that low for real. In the back? But it is a low, but it ain't that low
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When Anthony was born, I think I found the most difficulty with the diapers
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We never truly know if he's clean. So I'm just gonna wipe until I can't wipe anymore
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And that's how we do it. It is different being blind, I can say that, but you just find a different way to do things. Good
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Okay, there we go. Photo just came in. Okay. So this one is a, it says ultra thin oven roasted turkey breast, but that's also honey
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ham. So it'll be two individually wrapped pouches. So we both have that app. They do like the descriptions of foods. They can let us know
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if something is cooking, if it's done or not. They can even like describe the room for us
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There's a lot they can do. This is pretty girl, Alani, my oldest
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We are currently making her some sandwiches. Alani is my firstborn. She's my daughter
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Yes, he is a great cook. And my favorite thing that he makes is his famous hamburgers
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With my dad, I help him when he's cooking. Friends and family express concerns and doubts
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How are you going to raise a baby? How are you going to take care of this baby
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And I like the same way that anybody else does it You know I just like I didn know how to even respond to the question that been a challenge for me it like doing what best for me and harim and the baby and
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and then trying to take into consideration the opinions of you know family members
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What's up, son? How you doing? I'm good. Where that big old boy? Look at him
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Hey, big boy. Mm-hmm. Yeah, he getting huge. The biggest concern was how can they take care of him if they can't lose
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I remember I was around the corner every five seconds. I would hear the baby
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Now, it's like I hear him. I'm too glad. I speak like a baby
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Those people that I know, that I'm close to, that have doubted, I put her in front of them and just, and they're in awe
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Once they see her change the diaper, nursing the baby, and their worries are put to rest, so they're not worried anymore
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We've had questions like, are you sure you should be raising kids
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And how do you know if the baby is safe? People judging our parenting skills
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A lot of crazy comments, like some stuff you'll never think you'll hear people say
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People say that we were pretending. I was like, I wish I was making this up
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I think a lot of people are like in awe, like shocked to see that we are doing it
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Don't be too quick to judge a book by the cover and you never read a page of it
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In the beginning, I think it was a little frustration, them not knowing them
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get to know what they can do and how they do it
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Because there's a method to the madness. They have a system in place and they do it very well I got tired of people saying that we can do this we can do this or just people thinking that we lying I just decided to just show people
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that we're really limitless, like nothing can stop us. Welcome back. People have to see it to
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believe it sometimes. Anybody that's, you know, trying to do better, that may think they can't do
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something we're here to tell y'all that you can and we've been through some of the worst but we
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continue to hold our head high and we doing whatever we got to do to take care of our family
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They inspired me a whole lot because when I look at what they're doing and all the accomplishments
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that they done made I ain't like I don't make no excuses because I say if they can do it I know I
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I can do it. Goldfish. We hope that the future holds just more blisses
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You took the words right out of my mouth. I pray that we continue to take care of our family
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the best way we know how. One more shape, you still doing it? I would love to have more kids
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Before I went blonde, I used to want like a starting five or like a baseball team
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But now I think we'll settle for maybe one or two more, maybe
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I can't speak for everyone but I know my kids inspire me to want something out of life
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I'm not going to be comfortable with being blind until we can live how we want to live
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and be the parents that we want to be. So far it's turning out pretty good
