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WHEN Grace took a pregnancy test at just 14 years old, she was shocked at the outcome. "I had no idea I could get pregnant at 14," she admitted to Truly. And when she revealed her baby news to her nearest and dearest, it was met with mixed reactions. "People around me were kind of like, 'What? That's crazy!' Everyone was just kind of shocked." Deciding to keep the baby, Grace is now a proud teen mom to seven-month-old Delina. She documents her parenting life on social media, but her content sometimes receives scrutiny. Grace revealed, "I get a good bunch of hate. It's like, 'Oh my gosh, you're 14. You're dumb. You're stupid. Why would you do that?" In this episode of My Extraordinary Family, Grace will be giving us an insight into being a teen mom at 15 and how she handles the tough criticism from haters. Reflecting on motherhood so far, Grace defiantly says, "Don't judge someone before you get to know them."
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I had no idea I could get pregnant at 14
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I thought she was lying at first. I get a good bunch of hate. Like, oh my gosh, you're 14
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You're dumb. You're stupid. Why would you do that? Why would you think you're infertile or couldn't get pregnant
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Why wasn't the option of not having the child even a thot? Oh, I was actually shocked
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I'm not ready. It was too early. We sleep together on my bed in my room
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I started co-sleeping when she was about two months, and I think it works best for me
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My name is Grace and I am 15 years old. When I felt pregnant, I was 14 years old
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All right, girl. What do you want to wear? Look at this. You want to wear this one
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My daughter is Delina and she's seven months. Delina's pretty active, you know
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I think she's a fast grower. She's fast-paced. I mean, she wants to crawl
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She wants to do a lot. I didn't think I could get pregnant because in my mind, I thought I was infertile
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Now, I don't know why, but it was like, there's no way. And then also my age, I was like, now I have my period, but I was like, there's no way
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So it's like, I guess I just put it in my mind. Like I'm infertile. I can't get pregnant. I was feeling so nauseous
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I was like, you know what? Let me just try to take a pregnancy test. I took that and it came really fast
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And then I was like, what? But because I was in disbelief, I went ahead and took the second test
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When the second round of tests confirmed, I got excited and I started hoping for a girl
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I went ahead and called my boyfriend at the time. And he was like, what
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You know, like, oh my gosh, we got to tell our mom, which I was not trying to tell our moms because I was scared
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But he soon convinced me and we ended up telling our mom. But he was pretty like shocked too
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My mom works third shift. And so I had to wait all the way till 12 for her to get back home
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So as soon as she walks in the door, she's like, oh, you look so pretty. Why are you up
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And I'm like, I didn't know I could get pregnant, but I think I'm pregnant
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She was like, what? How didn't you know you could get pregnant
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How are you pregnant? What, what? People around me was kind of like
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what, that's crazy. And, but there weren't necessarily my friends. So everybody was kind of just shocked
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What'd you think when Grace said she was pregnant? I didn't believe it at first
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until I actually seen it in real life. Like I've really seen the belly popping
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It's amazing. And the way she take care of a baby is amazing too
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I came back from school and she told all of us that she was pregnant And I thought she was lying at first but she showed us all the proof But I still thought she was lying until a few months later The birth was crazy
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It gets 10 centimeters dilated and it's time to push, which was kind of scary
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but I did end up getting the epidural. It comes to a point where my baby
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actually has a shoulder distortion and her arm gets stuck. And so a bunch of doctors come in
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and they're trying to pull out the baby and it's this crazy thing. And I'm so overwhelmed because I can't move because like the epidural numbs you
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And so I'm like, oh, my gosh. And then when they finally take the baby out, she's not crying
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I'm like, oh, my gosh, what's wrong with the baby? And then she starts crying eventually
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But she did have to spend some time in the NICU. Now I have a routine for my mornings
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I can't just lay in bed all day. Like I have to actually start to get up now
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First couple of weeks was hard. The newborn and I'm crying and I felt like I was going crazy for a little minute
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But as she grew older, I definitely started to adapt to motherhood and I started to learn who my baby was and what she wanted and what she didn't like
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And yeah, I feel like I've adapted pretty good. So we're feeding Delina mango with Carrie and then some yogurt
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I feel like the biggest changes I've had to make was probably not going out as much
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I used to go out a lot with people. I still do go out, but now I got to be cautious of when I get back and, you know, when my baby goes to sleep
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Me and Delina's dad are not together. My family's my biggest support, but her dad helps as well
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I like hanging out with the baby a lot. We usually play on the bed, like baby games
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She helps me out a lot. Like, most of the times when I'm, like, doing something, she'll, like, hold her
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or just when I need some alone time, she'll like go and help me and play with her and stuff
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I'm going to lay her down so I can start homeschool. Me, school, we never went together
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So I decided that homeschooling was going to just be the best option
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I needed something flexible if I was going to be a full-time mom
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It's a little hard, but I just try to make a routine because I've learned that if I make a routine
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and I know when my baby goes down and when I have to put her for her nap
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I like can make a schedule where I'm also able to balance my work
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If I see people going to prom, you know, I'm missing kind of out on that
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and also getting to socialize how everybody else is getting socialized. That definitely something big but I definitely knew that was gonna take a toll on me if I went to school pregnant with a big stomach in middle school So yeah I like it because I not socialized and I not being judged
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Spend the night with me as a teen mom with a three month old
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I always had a platform even before I gave birth. And then when my baby was born, I had posted like my body postpartum and everybody was like, what
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Oh, my gosh, you look so good postpartum. And I think that kind of encouraged me to start, you know, doing little get readies with me on TikTok and stuff
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Get ready with me and a baby that I had at 14 years old
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It was a good bunch of hate. But I was like, I'm gonna put this out there for the teenage girls that are pregnant or mothers to be encouraged to just love motherhood, you know
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Being a mom itself is hard, but it's just hard in general
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Just being young and still being in school makes it like 10 times as hard
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Okay, so I'm going to read a couple hate comments to you guys
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Such a shame. Why would you think you're infertile or couldn't get pregnant
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Why wasn't the option of not having the child even a thought instead of, I hope it's a girl
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So basically they're saying you should have f***ed a baby. Young as heck, fast as heck, not even with the father, goofy
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I get a good bunch of hate. you know it's like oh my gosh you're 14 you're dumb you're stupid why would you do that how's
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that make you guys feel see that she's getting that kind of stuff on her um i feel like even
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as young we don't know much about like protecting yourself and you never learn how to do
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any of that you will still get to that place so i feel like people should enjoy the book by its
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cover you should not take that in like as her for like how it's supposed to be because she already
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know what she's doing right and as a mother there's nothing wrong with whatever she's doing
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I don't take it personal because I'm like okay this is kind of funny but I've definitely never
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had one that really like touched me like oh my gosh this hurts my feelings. I never really was
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like that. My friend Nova is coming over. At first when she found out I was pregnant she was pretty
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shocked. Hi how are you doing? I'm fine. How are you? So why did it take you so long for me to find
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that you was pregnant and nobody told me. I just felt like you were gonna judge me
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And so I just didn't want you to know for a little minute
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because I was scared of just the judgment. I was actually shocked until I actually seen it with my eyes and then I was like oh she was actually pregnant and she actually gave birth I was like maybe you not ready Maybe that was too early And
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I was kind of worried about your health too, because something could have happened while
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giving birth. Was you worried when you found out you was pregnant or was you worried to become a
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mom? Yeah, I guess I was worried a little bit about my future. But then when the baby actually
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came then I was like okay I think I got this you know. So what struggles did you go through when
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you was pregnant and after she was born? The struggles I would say I was just crying I was
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just emotional the hormones and then after she was born um just having to um wake up in the morning
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and wake up at night to feed her and take care of her and it took a lot of my time the first couple
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weeks but I I'm adapting so I think you're actually doing great I'm actually like super
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surprised because at your age not a lot of things can actually do that and you're doing way more than
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a lot of moms are doing yeah I'm proud of you she's you
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I'm going to definitely spoil my baby but I also want her to be you know I want her to be respectful
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at the same time. So I want to be able to give her the life that I never had and grow her up in a way
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I didn't get the chance to grow up. What do you say to a 14 year old Delina
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She comes up to you and says, Mom, guess what? I'm pregnant. I would definitely be shocked. And I would also question my parenting because I'm like
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what did I do wrong? But I do also I would understand things do happen. And I definitely
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would give her my all support and you know see what she wants to do being delina's mom definitely
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changed my life had forced me to kind of say like you need to grow up and you you need to put that
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aside and like value motherhood i definitely do want more kids i love my siblings so much so
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i would definitely want more kids because i want delina to build a bond with her sister or brother
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so as you judge me i would probably say don't judge someone before you get to know them