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I have both male and female parts, and I found love
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My followers think that I'm going to hell for marrying an intersex man. Stay away from me, Satan
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You're soon going to be destroyed. We're judged because I transitioned six years into our relationship
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I get things like, are you a male or a female? Or do you have a P or V
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I worried about if Chantel would miss being with a woman. I think that I didn't account for how it was going to feel
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I'm Island and this is my partner, Chantel. Ready? Who initiated the first kiss
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Who said I love you first? Okay, post it. Post. My content is just bringing awareness to being intersex
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I get a lot like, what's intersex? Isn't that just trans? Being transgender is transitioning from either male to female or female to male
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Being intersex is having characteristics of both male and female, biologically. The most that I get on social media is questions about my genitals, like what I have
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I get things like, okay, wait, so are you a male or a female
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Or do you have a P or a V? I was raised female. I was the youngest of nine children. Since I was like two years old, my mom says that I was telling myself or telling other people that I was a boy. My actual diagnosis, I was 29 years old
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I had a kidney issue and the doctor who diagnosed me, he was asking me questions about my genitals
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He was like, I know these questions are weird, but this doesn't happen to people that are in shape
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They figured it was more hormonal and that's what really started me looking into getting the proper testing done
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The diagnosis definitely gave me answers. All the things I've been dealing with my entire life
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I decided to transition because it was better for me medically And it just helped me feel more like myself And once I started the testosterone all the medical issues that I had stopped I never had any doubts about my relationship
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She really encouraged me to get what I needed done for myself before I even got my diagnosis
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We have been together for 13 years. I transitioned six years into our relationship
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I've always seen an island like this, so it hasn't really changed too much
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I think he's just gotten sexier. We met in 2010. Really, as soon as we locked eyes with each other, I don't know, I just felt something inside of myself
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Like a magnet inside of me. I am bisexual or pansexual. I just fall in love with the person
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It doesn't really matter what gender they are. I'd consider myself to be straight because I just love women
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When he told me that he was going to have to either go on testosterone or estrogen
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there wasn't really a question in my mind which route he was going to go
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I honestly never thought that he would transition because of the way that family felt about it
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Him having the courage to finally do it made me really proud of him
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I grew up one of a very strict religion. I wasn't allowed to date like regular people would unless I was going to get married
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When I was 22 years old, my father was involved in a serious motorcycle accident
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And in the religion, you're not allowed to get blood transfusions. That whole situation and dealing with my father passing in the hospital
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made me realize that I didn't want to be a part of that religion anymore. When I left, a lot of my family stopped speaking to me
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I started doing videos for social media about what it was like growing up
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I received quite a bit of hate from the religion on that page
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People judge us because I grew up super religious and I married an intersex man You going to be so angry at yourself knowing that you soon going to be destroyed and it is nothing that you can do about it
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Stay away from me, Satan. This world has reached levels of wickedness like never before
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A lot of my comments will be really, really long from these people. I apparently make them very angry
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And this is our literal reaction to these comments. We're just cracking up laughing
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Now that I'm out, it honestly makes me sad that this is what people believe
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Most of our comments that we get on videos we post together are positive
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Get it, King. I'm here for this. All I see is a sexy person
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The way you stand grounded in your truth is powerful. It's giving strength, self-love, and fine as hell all at once
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I think some family members were a little bit unsure. Can you get the plates for me
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I had a sibling say to me, well, you must have paid a lot of money for that because I changed your diaper when you were little
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So my sister is going to come over and talk about some of her concerns. When Island first told me that he was intersex, I worried about if Chantel would miss being with a woman
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I would like to ask Chantel if she misses a side of Island that no longer is there
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I don't think that we've really had those type of conversations with her before
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Hi. Come on down. You want to look at some old pictures
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Sure. We love looking at pictures. Look at that. I mean, look at the discomfort in that picture
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Right. There we go. There you go. There's an action shot right there
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Did you have any thoughts about when he transitioned about our relationship or reservations about that
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The only thing that I did wonder is if you were going to you know be a little bit sad about the changes that he was going to go through and whether I was going to Right If you were going to miss you Certain things Certain things yes I think for me because of my sexuality
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and not really looking at somebody's gender, it didn't matter to me what decision he made
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whether he stayed female or transitioned, that love wasn't going to change
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You know, when we first met each other, the first thing that attracted me to him were his eyes
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and those have remained the same. um there's just a little bit more facial hair now I would say that him going through like top
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surgery that I think that I didn't account for how it was going to feel but I'm really happy with
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the results and I'm glad that he's happy is it difficult for you to separate the two like me
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being your brother now compared to me being your sister growing up not at all
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I see it as like two different people sometimes it's even hard for me
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to remember when it was different Aylan as a little girl oh yeah
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I knew you guys would be together forever I'm so proud of you
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with everything I mean anything you do what I love about Aylan is
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the way he cares for people that he loves she respects me for who I am
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So I don't have to pretend or I can just be me. One word
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Tell me what you love the most of. I can't say what I want to say
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Her heart. I think she's really helped me embrace who I am
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Our relationship works because we're real. what I would say to people that judge our relationship is you wish you had a relationship
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like this you could learn something from us
