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My husband left our children unsupervised but refuses to admit the reason why

Why? He refuses to admit. Dang it. My husband is 43 and I'm 31

We've been married for seven years and have a five-year-old and a nine-month-old

My husband left our children alone and he refuses to admit to it or tell me where he was

I'm furious, enraged, and my husband keeps telling me I'm making a big deal about nothing

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So, this just happened this weekend. I'm on the board of directors for a local non-profit organization

I had to attend an event for that organization this past Saturday, and I was gone for most of the day

My husband was supposed to be home with our kids. I texted him a few times, and he responded

When I called around midday, he didn't respond, but that's not very unusual

Shortly after that, I got a call from my mom. She said, my son had just called, and when she asked him what he and his sister were doing, he said they were both watching TV

When she asked where their dad was, he said his dad wasn't there. My mom asked him several other questions, and from my son's responses, she believed he was telling the truth

and that my husband wasn't there, and that there was no adult there at all

She said he didn't seem scared to be alone or worried about where his dad was at

He just called her to chat. He has a tablet designed for children with pre-programmed contacts that he can call

It's only a few people, just family members. Dude, he's a resilient five-year-old

He's like, yeah, dad's out, but you know, what's up with you, Grammy? He's like, I'm doing pretty good

I'm holding a baby right now. We're fine. He goes baby babe

We're watching KCW. I left the event immediately and began texting and calling my husband repeatedly

He didn't respond to my first several attempts. It took him about 10 minutes. I was halfway home at that point to respond

I was so confused, so worried, really mad. and I asked him where he was

He said he was at home. I told him our son had just told his grandmother that he was at home alone

with his baby sister watching TV about 15 minutes ago. My husband denied it

and I told him I was too upset to talk and drive. When I got home, I checked on the kids right away

and they were both fine. I asked my husband again, where was he

He said he was home the entire time. He didn't know what our son was talking about

but he must have just been confused since he had gone to the basement to do some laundry

I ran down to the basement. It was the same load of laundry I'd thrown in the dryer the night before

He didn't do any laundry when I was gone. I asked my husband why my son would be confused about whether his dad was home or not

Where in our home would he have gone and for how long for our son to think his dad wasn't home

That doesn't make sense with a five-year-old and a nine-month-old. You wouldn't leave them unattended that long

Why was he nowhere to be found when my mom asked my son to go check certain areas of the house

I begged my husband to just admit it, to stop treating me like an idiot and to stop accusing our son of lying

Just tell me the truth. Because being lied to right to my face is so incredibly maddening

He insists he was home, but he can't come up with any believable story of where he was at or what he was doing that time

What does he say? Well, he's claiming that he was in the basement doing laundry

Okay, but is that story changing? Did she not say, but the load is the same load before I left

But it was the same load I'd thrown in the dryer the night before. He didn't do any laundry when I was gone

I think the next sentence says what he's saying. He insists he was home. The way he answers me when I ask him about this and demand truthful answers is so dismissive

When I tell him, you left our children alone. He quickly says, no, I didn't

So anyway. What? I'm sorry. I mean, if someone's accusing you of that, if you didn't actually do it, you'd be like

I swear. I was like, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that our son thought I wasn't there

and I make sure that I more like you would Yeah but it wouldn just say so anyway And I not I not blaming OP But if OP is maybe screaming which I understand she upset

Maybe it's just like. People deal with receiving a lot of charge and maybe it's just like too much

It was like I was here. You know, I can't deal with this. Yeah. I don't know. Possibly

Possibly. I am convinced he was gone. We don't have a ring camera, but at least one of our neighbors does

I'm so upset about this that I'm tempted to ask our neighbor for the ring footage

I had to go out of my car and scream and cry because I got so upset

Of course, I didn't want my kids to see my reaction. I can't put into words how upset I am about the fact that I know he must have really left

them alone, but have no proof and I'm being treated like I'm just a paranoid nutcase of

a mother slash woman by him. I wanted to say, I wasn't trying to be dismissive

I was trying to paint a whole picture of it. But I do want to say that you're upset and worried about your children and you deserve for your anger to be received and to be assured for you to not be made to feel crazy

And also it seems like potentially when given that she just said she went to the car to go scream and cry

I don't know how much of that was actually like that emotion was brought out when she was inside the house because she might have been wanting to keep it kind of cool for the kids. Oh

So it might not have been All of that Like anger and stuff But also it seemed

The way she was She was still making accusations Yeah Update Last weekend

My husband left Our five year old And nine month old Home alone

While I was gone And then refused to admit it Or provide a plausible explanation

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we've had many arguments about it i've been living in a constant state of anger and frustration i

don't want to fight about it anymore but i couldn't help it and i kept bringing up again and again

I couldn't lay low and pretend to get over it while I waited for him to do it again and catch him in whatever was going on

I also knew that demanding he tell me the truth wasn't going to get me anywhere. Since he'd been refusing to talk and deflecting for days, all it was doing was making me enraged and feel like I was about to have a brain aneurysm

I told him to hand me his phone so I could check his location at the time. He refused

He said he wouldn't do it and that it was a violation of his privacy. He won't be treated that way and refuses to give in to my delusions

You think I enjoy being in a situation where I have to beg my husband to show me his phone so I can see where he was at

I hate it. I don't want to live that way. I told him it's simple. If he was really at home the entire time, just prove it

Why wouldn't he want to clear this whole thing up? I got so mad that he wouldn't turn over his phone that I told him I was going to the neighbors to get their doorbell footage

At first he was like, fine, go do it. He didn't think I actually would. He knows I don't like to air drama to others, so he's probably figured I'd just swallow all of this crap he'd been giving me

so is this like the next door neighbor are they across the street can they is like are they gonna

get a direct shot of this yeah i don't know we'll see luckily i was totally being driven by anger at

this point so nothing was going to stop me from going to the she's like i'm too anger angry people

please yeah everyone can know as long as they have information when i actually started to go

out the door he tried to stop me and followed me at the door i felt pure anger rushing through my

veins nothing else the neighbor who i probably said less than 10 words to in the entire time we've

here told me he send me the footage i went home told my husband that the neighbor didn have the footage from that day anymore Oh A little lie Some Slytherin behavior coming in I see some of that cunningness

And told him I just needed to go to the store. Slytherins are normal people too, guys. Well, that is a, cunning is a Slytherin trait

We never said they weren't. This is a normal person. We just named a typical Slytherin trait

And now you're saying that? And now you're defensive. I'm defending the sly Slytherins

And told him I just needed to go to the store and cool off. So I put the kids in the car and went and parked somewhere while I waited for the neighbor to send me the footage

I have the neighbor's number now, too, and he told me if I need any more footage, he will be happy to give it to me

Conspiracy. Yeah, put it in. She's going to start sleeping with the neighbor. That is, yeah, I was like, yeah, I'd be happy to give it to you

And also if you want to, like, come and, like, watch it. Yeah, you could watch it. On my TV or something

Pour you a glass of wine. And also, I could watch the TV from the jacuzzi

Join me as we watch this footage of your husband. Got a jacuzzi with a TV set up

Yeah. I would cheat on with this man too. The video shows a blue car that I don't recognize show up and park in our driveway

A blonde woman gets out of the car and goes towards my house

She walks on the outside of her garage towards the gate leading to our backyard

The gate is too far back and out of the way to be seen on the doorbell footage. She and her car were there for 23 minutes

Imagine that. The car leaves right around the time that my husband called me to say he was home and had been home the entire time as I was rushing home in a panic and calling him on repeat

One of two possibilities as to where they went. She either came in through the side door of the house, which does provide direct access to the basement

Or, and what I think is more likely, is that they were in the back most area of our yard, which is a gated pool area

Immediately behind our house is a grass lawn. Then you step down a few steps and we have a patio

And then there's a fully gated area where the pool is. It's not like you think of when you picture a gated pool

It's a full six foot wood fence all the way around. Plus even taller landscaping for added privacy

You can't see into that area at all unless you're inside. So before we go any further, he was technically at home

Thank you. Cheating, but at home. Hey, this could be a coworker that needed help

Private help. Private help in the privacy of his pool. His gated pool

and is that a crime is that a crime to help friends regardless like he is at home but he still

was not watching a nine-month-old and that is a huge issue just adding on to the fact that he's

probably cheating okay i think it's more likely that they were back there because my son said his

dad's keys were gone and we kept that gate locked with a key the pool is closed for winter but

Duchess Cassandra sorry says maybe he was doing the blondes laundry yeah possibly possibly

could be friends just friends but they're the pool is closed for winter

but there is one small building back there sort of like a shed we converted into changing area

and there is a covered patio with furniture I'm convinced that's where they were

so technically he was home but in an area totally removed from the house

and where he couldn't see or hear the kids if something happened yeah that's yeah not appropriate

and the kids didn't know where he was yeah incredibly dangerous again nine month old

I asked him how he could explain this. What were they doing? I obviously don't need him to tell me what they were doing

but for some reason I still had hope that he'd finally be honest. He wasn't contrite

He showed no remorse. He was just like, yeah, she was here, but I obviously never left

What's up with this guy? He's just like, yeah, but I didn't leave the house

We were sleeping in the back. He's like, okay, but we established I never left. Yeah, what matters

So what's the problem? I don't see why you're upset here. Yeah, I cheated with her at the house

I never lied Who is she How long has this been going on And if he going to be such a disgusting despicable excuse of a man then why couldn he at least have found any other time and any other lie or excuse

other than when he was home alone with our kids? I told him I know this has happened before

and I demanded to know how many times he's done this when he's been alone with the kids

He swears this is the only time. And he's known for being incredibly truthful

This is not true. this this woman did not come over for the first time and and do these acts in in the shed wow his

kids were home and there's no way this is that was that was the the best time they could find

for their first engagement yeah no that would be ridiculous but he still doesn't have the balls to

confess to what they were doing i don't believe him that this was the only time fyi i still have

so many questions and i still feel like my heart is beating 200 times a minute my blood pressure is

through the roof i've cried a lot sobbed begged for someone to help me yelled screamed ordered a

bunch of books about divorce and custody and you know what the next day after our multiple explosive

fights him putting his hands on me whoa and me seeing the evidence he acted like everything was

totally normal what's up we good yeah he really so anyway breakfast you be hungry yeah any amount

of like anything being off is like this is ridiculous she's like how dare you cheat on me

And he's like, you're overreacting. Yeah, what are you talking about? What do you, can you, when's my breakfast ready

And like none of that stuff ever happened. I woke up still seething, exhausted, broken, and he's acting like everything's totally normal

He said he was ordering breakfast to be delivered from our favorite breakfast place. He asked if I wanted to go to the store together later and try this new recipe for chili tonight

Why would I want to do any of these things with you now? Absolutely no acknowledgement of anything he's done or what's transpired between us in the past few days

He deserves an Oscar for how well he was able to act like none of that happened

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Just search at Pokey Storytime. And there is just a wee bit left of this story

But do you have any final thoughts? People are bringing up some interesting things. Okay

So scary to think about how often he may have left them unsupervised. Son seems pretty comfortable with the situation

Yeah. Yeah. Most five-year-olds would be like, I see no parent in sight

That's really scary. And he was just chill with it. He was like, stop Grammy

Yeah, no, we're just chilling, but it's cool. It might have been a situation where the dad was like, I'll be right back or something

And I was like, okay, dad, you know, dad went out. Yeah, it's possible. But there's just a lot of strange things about this, especially like what OP is saying, how

she's bringing up his infidelity. This is wild. And he's just like, he's not acting like nothing

He's not even denying it. He's just acting like it doesn't matter. Yeah. Which is just strange. Yeah

It's like, oh, I didn't cheat on you. It's just like, yeah, she was here. Okay. Yeah, just no remorse

I'm curious, like, what's going on with her? Mentally crazy. I know that it's a waste of my energy, but I just desperately want him to admit the full truth of what he did that day and any other day with this woman

I want to hear it from him. It won't change whatever he's done, but he could at least have the respect and decency to be honest now that he's been caught

That's a ridiculous thought though, right? How foolish of me to expect this man to show decency and honesty now

If he was a decent and honest man, then he wouldn't have had a strange woman over to our house and been out of sight from our kids for 23 minutes

His continued denial and refusal to admit to anything other than the bare minimum

his attitude like I'm somehow being controlling or infringing on his rights by asking for information

that's almost more hurtful than him cheating on me that is the end of that story