Dangers of Hustle and Grind Culture Get Out the Rat Race!

What's good? Welcome to Ari Roars. This is Ari speaking. Thank you for watching this video

Today I'm going to be talking about something that's going to probably make some people itch

And I'm going to try to be a little gentle because I know this is something a lot of people

have been wired to believe is very important and have been living their lives based upon

And that is hustle culture, grind culture, paper chasing, coin chasing, all that stuff

I want to really unpack this and help people to understand that this is just not the way to go

I want to help people to learn to let money work for them and not the other way around

So I know in this video I'm coming against the system of belief that applies to an entire culture

and society and generation. So I'm going to try to take my time with it and just be really

authentic and honest with you. But I hope that in return you would come with an open heart and a

sensitivity to the words I'm speaking. We're going to break these chains y'all. Break these chains

Sorry, I got a little aggressive there. Anyways, if that sounds interesting to you

then just keep on watching. So most people know what hustle and grind means, but I'm really going to get into the

implications of it. Not defining it, but really talking about the different beliefs that fall

under the belief system that we need to hustle, we need to grind. The first and most obvious is money

motivation. You do it for the money. The main intention is the material gain. The main reason

that you act and exert energy is in order to get things back, to get money back. The next prong to

this concept is easy money. You're not just getting any type of money, right? You want to get quick

money. You want to get money that you don't really have to do much or care much about in order to get

it. It doesn't really matter what you're doing at all as long as it's giving you a lot of return

for your time. And it's also not about how much money it's going to make you in the long run

it's about how much money it's going to make you right now. Next is that you would sacrifice any

and everything for money. I sleep when I'm dead. If you ain't talking money, I don't want to talk

We don't care about anybody or anything, even ourselves and our well-being. It doesn't matter

as long as I can get money in return, right? And on top of that, we're going to sacrifice our values

too. Cheating, lying, finessing, stealing, it doesn't really matter. If it goes against my values but it

brings me money, I'll do it anyway. That's what hustle and that's what grind says. And before I

move on in this video, I do want to make the differentiation between this and like actually

just saving money for a goal. Like let's say you have a financial goal, I'm going to save this much

money so that I can get this thing. But the thing that you want to get is not just going to be like

a Birkin bag or like some like material thing that has no further building upon. For example

you might be wanting to buy a car so that you can work a specific job, so you're saving up

for that. You might be wanting to buy a camera because you believe your calling is to be a

photographer, so you're saving up for that. And then it also goes back to, okay, what are you doing

in order to save up for that? Are you now picking up a door dash job when you don't even like to drive

Are you dog walking but you hate dogs? Are you working 80-hour work weeks and you're like dead

tired? Or are you pouring more into your job as a server so that you can get bigger tips

You're helping the restaurant out by taking a double every now and then because you know that

your team needs it and it's also going to help you as well. Like what exactly are you doing in

order to move towards that goal? And is the goal materialistic in the end or is it possibly a

material thing that can help you with a greater purpose? So there is a difference there, I just

want to make that very clear. And we're going to break down some of that stuff later in this video

as well. But as I've already been getting into just a smidge, I want to talk about the harms of

the mindset of the hustle and grind. The first and most obvious is you're in a rat race. You're

literally chasing the wind, there's no achieving anything. We're looking for external prosperity

and just staying the exact same inside. And I really want you to sit and think about this

because it's like, okay, I have the belief that I'm lacking something so I'm going to put things

around me. That's what you're saying when you are in this hustle and grind culture. I feel like I'm

lacking something. I feel, I feel like I'm lacking something in me. Inside of myself, that's what I

feel. I just want to like really nail this in. I feel something inside of myself. So I'm going to

get things and put them around me. And hopefully that's going to make me inside of myself feel

different. It's a rat race because you'll end up doing that for the rest of your life

Get something else, put that around me. Put something else around me. More and more and more

and it's never enough because you haven't done the work to have that internal prosperity that

you actually desire. You're under the impression that whatever you're feeling on the inside

would feel better if you put something on top of you. If you hid behind all these things

that maybe you wouldn't notice the pain anymore. Not how it works. We usually just end up wanting

something else. You reached the million dollar goal and now you want 10 million dollars. You

reached the five sneakers goal and now you want 20 sneakers. You know what I mean? You just keep

wanting more things. And then ultimately you are trading your life in for money. You know, you're

dedicating every day of your life to making money. That means here's my life, there's some money

let's trade. I don't want my life as much as I want money. So instead of living my life for life

I'm living my life for things that I won't have when I die. Sacrificing all the potential and

power inside of you to just have more things around you. Yet there's pieces of you that are

just dying off because they're not being used. Your unique identity, the thing that made you you

you sacrifice it for an umbrella pursuit that everyone else is chasing as well. They all just

want the same money as you. Y'all could be living the same exact path. I'm doing exactly what this

next person is doing. Because of the fact that you don't want to acknowledge your unique identity

and what God put inside of you to pour out into the world. Instead you're just pursuing the exact

same thing everyone else is pursuing. And now you're all the exact same person in expression

Not in creation but in expression. You're the exact same person as everyone else. Your character

And think about the term character now because we have two kind of definitions of what character is

Character is like your character traits, your morals, your values, what matters to you

But your character also is who you are. A tv character, a character in a book. Your character

depleted. There's no character remaining because you've traded in your character for the thing

that everyone else wants. You traded in your character for the cumulative character of

culture today. And in the process of you accumulating all of this coin, right, you end up

sacrificing and losing out on a purposeful life that feels fulfilling. An experience that actually

pours back into you, not onto you. You lose out on that. And even beyond that it's just plain selfish

for being quite honest. Because since everything you're doing is for personal gain, you're having

to hide yourself, play a role, manipulate. And there's no authentic expression in what you're

doing. So you think this is just your career life. You think this is just your financial pursuit

But that bleeds into the rest of your life. So now you've got this career that's inauthentic and

you're breeding these relationships that are inauthentic. You're having connections with people based on how you met them through your job but you should have never been there because

that's not you. And now you're connected with people that you should have never been connected

with. Now you're forming relationships based on a false identity and chances are you meet people

that way they're the same way. So when you're two false identities presented to each other

there is bound to be some type of betrayal between that. Especially considering this rat race is

competitive. We're always looking to the left and to the right trying to see what they got and now

we want that. Now we're trying to take it from them and we end up using people and manipulating

people and cheating people and stealing from people and finessing people and pulling at people's

heartstrings to get them to believe one thing so that you can take something from them. Ladies y'all

know what I'm talking about. I don't do it. I'm just saying I know some of y'all be doing it. No judgment

by the way. I'm not here to judge you or anybody. I really just want you to feel and experience this

from a different perspective. It's harmful. You might think it's harmless because what just for

now this is only going to go on for a month. You know what I mean? They'll get over it. You don't

know that. You haven't even gotten over it because you don't even know why you did it and this video

is why you did it. This video is explaining why you did it just so you know. You're a part of a

culture and I'm not knocking you for being born when you were born. This is what we were all raised

to believe and we kind of have to work our way out of coming into agreement with the things that are

harmful to us because otherwise we're desensitized to the hearts of people and we end up becoming

robots. Y'all been scared of AI. Why y'all scared of AI? You are AI

Because if everyone starts to adopt these mindsets, I mean luckily there's still some people

who are either straddling the fence of trying to do both or are actually moving into purposeful

living and purposeful pursuits. If everyone was on this hustle and grind culture, we as a society

would be so isolated. We would have no personal relationships. We would all hate each other

seriously because we would have no personal connection to each other because we'd be hiding

our hearts. Our hearts are the ways that we connect and when we're hiding them, we're burying them

we're depleting them. There's no way to connect with other people genuinely. All right well we

did that didn't we? That was the tough part. That was the conviction of it. I really want to bring us

to a place of resolution and how we can work through this to begin to come out of the mindset

of the hustle and grind culture and it all starts with a change of perspective. The first thing that

you need to know is that if all you have is money, you have nothing. I just want to be so clear about

this. Just imagining your head right? Instead of anything, the clothes on your back, the clothes in

your closet, your friends, your family, your home, your food, your water. Instead of all of that, you just

had money and that's just that's how it had to be. You have nothing. With a bunch of pieces of paper

you're gonna stitch. You can't even stitch them together because you ain't got no needles

You can't make clothes. You can't do anything but bury yourself in it because money is nothing

All money is is a resource that we can use in order to get other things and those other things

you don't need money to get them. Can you have food without money? Yes. Can you have a home without

money? Yes. Can you have clothes without having money? Yes. There are ways to have any and everything

in life without having money. I would know because I've been there. I'm low-key still here now

Money is a tool. Like I said, it's a tool and with that tool you should be applying it towards

building in your purpose. Now it's okay to have material desires. It's okay to want things. We all

want things okay. I'm just saying don't let that be your main motivation for why you do things

Let that be the icing on the cake when you're pushing towards your purpose and all the surplus

comes in because you know you're using your finances, you're using your money to push you

towards your purpose, making sure that you have a good life, that you have a roof over your head

food on the table, clothes on your back, making sure that you have everything that you need

a car or whatever, making sure that you have all the equipment that you need for whatever

your purpose is and when you've invested your money into those things usually because you're

pushing towards your purpose you have a little bit of fringe coin. You know what I'm saying

And that's the money that you can put towards the things you don't need, the things that you want

your material desires perhaps, vacations perhaps. The next thing as I've mentioned multiple times

in this video is seek purpose. Do what's associated with your calling in life and if

you don't know your calling I got a video on that. Check it out because when you're doing

something that's related to your calling there's going to be so much abundance around you when you

really pour into that, when you really lock into that. There are going to be things that you thought

you needed money for that you don't. There are going to be things that you didn't think you would

ever have enough money to get and now you do because you're doing what you're supposed to do

You're doing what you're here on earth to do and you're not sacrificing the inner parts of you

in order to do it. When you're walking in your purpose and in your calling there is so much

building that's happening on the inside of you. A lot of us avoid taking this path because we feel

that building when we're trying to move towards it and it's intimidating when we get scared and

we'd rather do the easy thing. We'd rather get the easy money because it's the simpler easier path

but it's not the fulfilling path. It's not the path that gives us joy. Being purpose driven and

selfless is actually what gives you the sense of self that you need, what gives you confidence

what gives you fulfillment, what gives you inner abundance and then turns into outer abundance

It's the only way that pursuing something can get you both. If you pursue finances, pursue money

you're going to have money in the end but you're going to be lacking on the inside, actually deprived on the inside. If you pursue your purpose and your calling

you're going to be abundant on the inside and then that's going to bring you even more abundance on

the outside than you would have if you took the other route. Take one route, you deprive yourself

on the inside and gain on the outside. Take the other route, you're abundant both on the inside

and the out. And going off of that, I do want to say when you're taking that purposeful route

you need to be patient because there may in fact be a period of time where you don't have the

material gain, the material, you know, the finances that you really want to have and that specifically

is the main part that scares most of us off but you've heard so many testimonies of the most rich

successful people in the world having been dirt poor, homeless, alone, helpless, living in a car

whatever. You've seen the testimonies, you've heard the stories and it happens for a reason because

it gives you a sense of character. There's a humility that comes with that. You know

someone who's like, yeah I never had to struggle, I just got it and then here I am. There's no empathy in that, there's no being able to relate to other people, there's no being able

to encourage other people who are in the same situation and going on the same path

When you go through tough times while you're pushing towards purpose, that gives your story

a little bit more of a richness to it so that it actually inspires other people to push forward

for wherever they are. So again, it's a selfless route and it's not only selfless but it's also

fulfilling you because you now have the humility and the character that's going to help sustain

you and push you forward. You're never going to have the fear of going broke because you've been broke and you know that you were fine and you know that you had everything that you needed on the

inside when you were there. Easy come, easy go, pressure makes diamonds. A seed is buried

underground before it takes root and the deeper the roots, the taller the tree. You know when

you're underground you can't see, I mean most of us never been underground, probably won't until

we're dead, but just imagine it right? If you're underground you can't see. It just requires faith

in knowing that one day I'm going to come up above ground, I'm going to sprout and I'm going to bear

fruit and that fruit is going to produce more seeds that I can plant and that I can offer to

other people that they can plant and there's going to be an abundance of seeds and trees and fruits

growing all around the world because I was patient enough and had the faith enough to wait for my seed

to sprout. The reward in life is doing what you love and your desires are going to come along with

it as long as you're patient. So that's it, that's all I got for you. I thank you for watching this

video. If you liked it then like it and I'll see you next time. Bye