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Lessons and Growth from Season 1 of Adaptable
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Feb 6, 2025
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! Join us as we reflect on the incredible journey of Season 1 of Adaptable | Behavior Explained! From thought-provoking conversations to personal growth insights, this season has been a transformative experience for everyone involved. In this video, we dive into: ✅ Key takeaways from our most impactful episodes. ✅ The lessons that shaped the journey. ✅ How challenges turned into opportunities for growth. Thank you for being part of the Adaptable | Behavior Explained community. Your support has made this season unforgettable. 🙌 Let us know in the comments which lessons resonated with you most or how the podcast has inspired you. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/
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hi everyone I'm Kell ooro and this is
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adaptable Behavior explained hi
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everybody thanks so much for tuning in
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for those of you who have been Avid
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Watchers I so appreciate your dedication
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and um time spent with us over this
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first season of adaptable Behavior
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explained um I wanted to talk a little
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bit about uh my Reflections and the
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growth that I've had from this first
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season and just revisit some of the
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purposes for doing this show and leave
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you all with um the invitation to share
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with me things that you gained from
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watching any of the shows that you
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watched and or offer feedback for
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thoughts about season 2 as well as
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topics or suggestions that you think
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might be beneficial to have as part of
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our library and I wanted to talk a
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little bit about what but um why I did
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this show in the first place I really
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wanted to create a library uh for people
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to be able to refer to during some of
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the different phases stages and
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difficulties of their lives and so um
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although the shows don't necessarily
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pertain to every person depending on
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what you've gone through you know
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there's there's um probably something
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for you at some point of your life and
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so please feel free to go back and look
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through the episodes and you know you
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know pick through and and watch some of
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the things that you um that you might
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have might benefit from and and then try
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to keep this resource in mind for
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something that you may uh need to
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experience so you know obviously I'm a
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trauma specialist I'm an EMDR trauma
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specialist and I've been a therapist for
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over 13 years now and I was a teacher
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before that which was part of what made
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me Bridge together the history of having
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been a teacher and presenting with the
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experiences that I've gleaned from being
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a trauma therapist for the last several
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years and wanting to bring the audience
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information that was you know factual
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that was beneficial and that could
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hopefully give people some insights as
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to how to deal with the things that they
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struggle with and how we work and uh
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things like trauma and healing you know
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parenting uh different phases of
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parenting from becoming a new mother to
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Parenting difficult teens um going
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through life changes and transitions
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such as divorce or caring for aging
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parents how we work as far as the
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emotions and um and a couple of my
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favorite episodes the reflections From
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the Inside Out movies I tried to bring
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to you information on how to communicate
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better more effectively um codependency
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boundaries uh EMDR therapy ketamine
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assisted Psychotherapy and and so much
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more and so my hope is that there's
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something that that can help help you
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with a phase of your life or or maybe
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even a resource that you can share with
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someone that you know or love and so I
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wanted to just dig in a little bit on
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the reflections that I made throughout
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this process um although I had presented
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many many times and as a teacher you
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pretty much are presenting every day all
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day thinking about something that had
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such a broad uh audience we're we're up
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to about 36,000 subscribers now and so
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we were able to reach a lot of people
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and that's a lot of ability that's a lot
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of uh exposure and so one of the first
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things that I really thought about was
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just the embracing of imperfection I can
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remember when I would watch some of the
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First shows and I would you know I would
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see that my hair was flipped up in a
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section or my collar wasn't straight or
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and it's all I could focus on it was
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just like oh my gosh how come someone
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didn't tell me that my hair is sticking
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up and as I think about just the whole
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purpose of my values being authenticity
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and compassion you know I wanted to
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really think about well my hair doesn't
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always look perfect and I don't always
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have everything right at the tip of my
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tongue and um and so embracing the
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imperfection of the human condition has
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really been part of this process for me
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and I don't now have the same standard
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for the show that I used to uh I don't
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expect it to be perfect I don't think
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that I always have to have the exact
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thing and um and say the exact right
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thing I'm coming from my perspective I'm
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coming coming from the experience that I
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bring based on my you know many years in
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this profession and working with
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countless individuals on their healing
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Journeys and so I have a lot of
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anecdotal wisdom and I think that that's
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valuable of course it's not going to
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match the perspective that everybody
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else has so one of the things that I
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really have fallen into in a more um in
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a more genuine way is embracing the
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imperfection of of the show in general
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and in so doing I realized I'm not going
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to be able to make everybody happy and
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so tempering the audience expectations
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that one show while it might really
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resonate I might say something in
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another show that really really um makes
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someone upset or makes them unhappy or
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makes them not like what it was that I
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said and interestingly uh some of the
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shorts were were edited uh on YouTube
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and they're they're out of context from
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the whole show and so interestingly more
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people had things to say around
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something was perceived as controversial
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but if you listen to the whole show in
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context I don't really say a whole lot
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that's too controversial quite frankly
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uh but it was interesting to kind of see
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that and let go of the um experience
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that I had where oh gosh someone was you
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know pissed or someone had something
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mean to say or or the you know the many
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trolls along the way through the social
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media comments and really trying to
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determine what do I want to do with that
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do I want to hide them do I W to you
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know remind people that this is an
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audience where I expect respect and they
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won't be allowed and block them do I
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tamper that even though free speech is
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really you know part of what I support
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and so all of those things were really
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interesting and what I just decided was
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on anything that was going to bring up a
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lot on um that might be perceived as
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controversial or people were going to be
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hateful or negative I was just going to
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remove all comments and just not allow
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for my platform to a place of spreading
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hate and vitriol so I thought that was
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an interesting um evolution of how I was
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going to handle those types of things
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and in in this process of of accepting
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my imperfection and and the show's
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imperfection and and tempering the
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audience
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expectations it's been interesting
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because I've learned to trust myself
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better I've gained more confidence in my
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presentation skills I um I've grown to
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trust my abilities and my shows are much
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less scripted I I used to spend you know
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at least two hours per show really
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prepping and now I could I can prepare
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for about a half an hour per show maybe
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40 minutes depending on the content um
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making sure that I have research to back
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what I'm saying but I um I definitely am
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not anywhere near as concerned about
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every single piece being uh just right
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and uh it it's nice to have a little bit
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more freedom in preparing and writing my
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shows I I noticed that even my
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presentation style has relaxed I had
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this very nervous tick at the beginning
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and I didn't know I ever did that uh
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where I would lick my lips kind of
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nervously and it was about this habit
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and I was so embarrassed when I first
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started watching my shows and as I've
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seen further shows after um since I've
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been filming I I very very rarely do
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that and so I encourage you if you're
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going to get in the arena with something
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to just see it through and so I've been
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able to to hang in there for about a
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year and a half now um for season 1 and
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so I've decided to give myself
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permission to take a break and kind of
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revamp and some things like that about
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how I want um to make sure I deliver
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continued quality content interestingly
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in my own personal Journey uh I think
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one of the main contributors in my more
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relaxed stance was after I um we went
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through the ketamine assisted
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Psychotherapy training with our team and
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and I think I shared in the that that
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episode specifically that our cohort
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opted to go through the full protocol
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and that said we were able to have six
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experiences with with ketamine uh
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assisted Psychotherapy and after that
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experience I noticed that the anxiety
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related to getting it right and you know
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being more sweaty and being more nervous
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and things like that really really
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dissipated and so in my own personal
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work I saw a tremendous change in my
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ability to show up just just more calm
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more flexible more relaxed and I think
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that as a result my show became more
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authentic and I was able to become a bit
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more relaxed and and more playful with
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the experience and so that that has been
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a fun Evolution for me to get to see in
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myself and in the outcome of the the
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quality of the production I definitely
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have enjoyed these shows where I've had
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guests coming on a lot more I I love to
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learn and um and I just really reflected
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on the value of having guests and having
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so many amazing people that I've gotten
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to get to know better um you know I had
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Chris Day maray on the owner of Rise uh
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Jennifer montjoy who is we call her the
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badass Medicine Woman Who took us
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through the ketamine assisted
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Psychotherapy training uh my friend
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Jamie Castillo getting to talk to her on
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a more personal level and her book about
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anxiety and what happened to make you
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anxious was really special and you know
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the continuation of her being here for
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shows on motherhood and getting to know
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her um better in that more personal way
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and her cander just was really fun for
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me to get to experience um I've always
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had tremendous respect for Diane
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Sullivan who um you know came on the
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show as as an attorney and shared with
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us so many wonderful tips on things we
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should know about divorce and the law
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about divorce and had a parent you know
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regarding divorce and the things that
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she's seen from her lens and I just
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really uh very much appreciated the
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wisdom that she brought to the show
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getting to know Megan stanbury who was a
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mother of adopted children and her
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cander and vulnerability and
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transparency on on being a mom of
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children that come through by way of
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transracial adoption and just the
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authenticity that she was willing to
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share in that setting uh was just so
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beautiful and lovely um and and satian
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Patel who's my singing teacher he's a
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true healer and to get to have more time
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to prepare for the show and spend with
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him and and glean even more wonderful
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little nuggets from him about the way
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our body holds energy and our our
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abilities to heal and I just really
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appreciated um getting to spend time
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with with some of these guests and it
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was also really awesome for me to get to
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invite different counselors onto the
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show for our counselor Cafe segment um
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you know I work with just the most
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beautiful brilliant wonderful great
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people and and it's a nerve-wracking
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experience to go on a podcast with
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someone and realize that there's no
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control over the outcome and the editing
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and everything like that and so for so
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many of my therapists that were willing
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to come on the show and be vulnerable
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and authentic and share their you know
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things about which they have passion and
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an experience was just a really lovely
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experience for me to get to share uh
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those that time with them on a more
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personal level I want to talk a little
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bit about some of my favorite moments uh
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I especially loved the uh motherhood uh
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new motherhood shows with Rota Gala and
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Jamie Castillo and I say that because
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it's such a vulnerable topic and that
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those were some of the earlier shows
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where I had guests and it really helped
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me feel comfortable setting the stage
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for vulnerability authenticity and just
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true transparency I mean we talked about
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things that were so raw and so real and
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I hope that that set the stage for my my
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future stance on how to just be okay
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being first human and second a therapist
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and and third a podcast um producer or a
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host of a podcast and so I hope that
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that that is what happened it felt
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really raw and also real and that feels
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congruent for me um I loved when saam
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came on and did the live demonstration
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with me using my voice and being able to
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model for you guys some of the things
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and how cool it was to connect with some
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of my own unresolved emotions related to
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some personal experience because of the
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activity that he did with me uh it was
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it was just so so cool um I really
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appreciated Diane coming on and all the
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insights that she had about divorce and
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parenting and just the richness of that
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information um and that episode has been
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really helpful I've I've run into people
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at you know stores and and places like
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that who are talking about their current
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experiences and I was able to just grab
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that show and Sh share it directly to
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them um so that they could have more
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support and um and I just I didn't
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expect to get as much out of of that
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topic as I did and and how much people
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are really struggling with that and and
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what a painful time that is for people
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and to have such a great resource uh
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accessible for them because of that I
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have to say that one of my um favorite
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shows was with Christina um egola who is
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one of our therapists she's the single
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mom of four and um she was U featured on
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the show the shows uh welcome to the
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show the truth about being a single
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parent and that especially was
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heartwarming for me because when I met
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her she was so zipped up so
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perfectionistic so reluctant to be that
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vulnerable and that authentic and just
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really had learned she had 14 or 13
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years as a Marine in the military and so
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she just was really um polished and I
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told her when I hired her I said you'll
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be a good therapist as you are but we've
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got to unzip you and take some of this
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armor off in order for you to be an
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excellent therapist and so part of her
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growth with us and through our own
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personal Journey has been to really
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disarm and to get to see her show up in
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such a vulnerable way and so honestly in
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that show just warmed my heart like like
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nothing because it was it was really
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emblematic of what we try to do here at
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infinite which is be with each other in
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in this journey of growth and and for
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her to have been able to show up that
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that um raw and honest was was really
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really fun for me as far as my own
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personal values go uh thinking about
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slowing
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down that's hard for
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me being in the Stillness is um
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something that I've gotten a lot better
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with I talk about it on the meditation
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show but this has been a big
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undertaking and I'm really proud of the
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product and uh I'm also really looking
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forward to um taking a break and um
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slowing down for for a a little bit of a
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Hiatus and re-calibrating
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and
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um I want to practice what I
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preach and doing that means I'm going to
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step away for a little bit from the show
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and take a break and spend time with my
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family and play pickle ball and let my
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grandkids have
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sleepovers and uh and really determine
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you know how we want to move forward
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with the season
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2 and um I'm really excited about about
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the break and I've loved doing this but
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I'm looking forward to the
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Break um and so we're going to continue
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to drop shows uh and segments of shows
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from from some of the episodes that
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we've done so there'll be something
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coming out every single Wednesday still
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but um but as far as um creating a whole
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new library that's going to be for a
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season to um like I said I'm really
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proud of this um we've done a good job
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and we've got like I said almost 36
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subscribers
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so I really um I'm looking forward to
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just taking a moment and
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exhaling and um I want to hear I want to
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take some time to brainstorm and think
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about how I can improve um make make
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some adjustments in how I plan meeting
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with meeting with some consultants and
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researching other shows to determine you
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know what direction we want to take the
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show and and maybe some stylistic
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changes we're going to look at more
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balance more creativity uh maybe more
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free flow um so I really invite you to
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share your ideas on how to maintain some
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balance um Foster some more creativity
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and I'm going to look at enjoying the
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process more um as part of an art and a
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creativity and expression and so I'm
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excited for that um and so rest assured
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like I said we're coming back um and so
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I want to encourage you to catch up on
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the important shows and the episodes
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that you might have missed this gives
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you a chance to do that and I really
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want to thank you for um for watching so
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please please take um take the time to
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give me feedback if you've got some and
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um give me your thoughts and suggestions
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for future episodes and and please if
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you've liked what I've done you know
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please share what what you liked on your
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social media and um encourage people
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that you know to watch shows that might
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resonate for them and um definitely if
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you haven't subscribed please do so and
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and go back through and and make
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comments or like the shows that you
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haven't watched because that engagement
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is helpful it gives uh it gives us more
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Credence on the algorithm and increases
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our our potential watch time and things
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like that and our and our spread through
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um through the social media world so uh
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again I want to thank you so much for
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your time and hopefully you gained
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something by being with us uh so until
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we meet again don't forget to lead with
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love it'll never steare you wrong
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