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Anger isn't something to fear, it's something to understand!
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Aug 4, 2025
Anger isn't something to fear, it's something to understand. In this powerful episode, therapist Kelly O’horo shares how reframing your relationship with anger can protect your health, strengthen your relationships, and keep you aligned with your values. 💬❤️ Let anger guide you, not control you. 🎥 Watch now: https://youtu.be/v93KjHitZLk #EmotionalIntelligence #AngerAwareness #MentalHealthTools #TherapistTips #EmotionalHealing #BreneBrownWisdom #RelationshipsMatter
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we can respond in ways that are more
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aligned with our values and and our
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goals about how we want to be and show
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up in relationship.
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Second, we can practice healthy ways to
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express our anger like using eye
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statements, setting boundaries, and
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seeking support from people that we
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trust. Uh, and if you don't have
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anybody, you know, go ahead and get a
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therapist. It's really important to have
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an advocate in your corner. But next, we
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want to reframe our relationship with
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anger. Instead of seeing it as a
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negative emotion, we can view it as a
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signal or something on our dashboard of
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self that says something needs to
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change. Something's not okay here and I
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need to address it. It's really
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important not to be afraid of our anger.
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Another way that I talk about this with
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my clients is if we allow for a healthy
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expression of our emotions and in this
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episode we're talking about anger, we
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are going to save ourselves from a lot
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of issues. If you think about if we are
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uh let's let's imagine we are a volcano
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and we're a dormant volcano. We're not
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one that's erupted very often and you
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think about inside of us is this molten
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lava that's just kind of brewing. It's
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not doing anything. And if we know that
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eventually it's going to blow, wouldn't
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it be wise for us to allow for the exit
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of that molten lava in a way that's more
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controlled, in a way that's beneficial?
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And so I I um use the metaphor if we
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were to poke holes in the side of that
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volcano in a town and we could build,
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you know, uh pathways for the lava to go
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out away from the town so it didn't
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destroy the town because it was planned
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and it was discharged in a way that was
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responsibly. We wouldn't have a
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destruction of the town. Well, the same
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thing happens with our anger. If we
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don't allow it to come out in a healthy,
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manageable way, it destroys
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relationships. It destroys and erodess
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trust and then we are harming and
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causing trauma to the people that we
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love. And so even though anger is really
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important, we want to make sure we learn
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how to change our relationship with
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anger. Again, it's a natural and
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necessary emotion. It's got biological
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and survival functions. And it's really
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important for us to understand how to
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name our anger and recognize there's a
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whole spectrum of anger from
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irritability and frustration all the way
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up to rage and um and so on and so
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forth. And that the stigma around anger
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often stems from our early experiences
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uh where suppressing anger can have
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unintended physical consequences. Um
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remember that research shows we can
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express anger in healthy ways and this
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helps us to draw attention to
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potentially harmful situations. And we
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want to make sure that our anger is in a
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low enough um expression uh category so
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that our person hearing us can listen.
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They don't throw up walls and defend
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themselves. We want to be
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self-responsive about our anger. We need
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to set boundaries and we need to also
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seek support if if we need to. So I want
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you to think about if you've know
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someone who struggles with anger or if
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you yourself have an issue with anger.
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What patterns in your life might have
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roots in your family's past? Think about
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those things and think about what you
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can do to improve your relationship with
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anger. So, if this episode resonated
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with you, please subscribe or share it
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with a friend or leave a review and let
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us know if this is helpful or if you'd
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like to hear more about this topic or or
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others. And uh I appreciate you so much
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for tuning in and digging into this hard
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topic. And um I hope that you found it
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helpful. So connect with me on social
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media. My Instagram is Kelly O'Horo. And
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I'd love to hear from you. So thank you
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so much for tuning in. And until next
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time, don't forget to lead with love.
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It'll never steer you