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hello happily lovers welcome back to our
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Channel have you ever struggled to
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express how you truly feel in a
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relationship maybe you've said something
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harsh when deep down you felt hurt or
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scared the truth is the foundation of
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any healthy relationship is built on one
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simple yet challenging rule always
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strive to be honest kind and polite when
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sharing your feelings in this video
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we'll explore how sticking to this rule
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can transform your relationships let's
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dive in the problem why we don't say
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in our daily interactions we often hide
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what we truly feel for example one
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instead of saying I miss you we say I
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don't care when you come home two
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instead of admitting I feel vulnerable
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we lash out with anger or criticism why
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do we do this it's not because we're
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being silly or mean it's because one we
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lack Role Models one many of us didn't
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grow up seeing people communicate their
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emotions clearly and kindly two it's
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hard work two expressing our feelings
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honestly and politely is like learning
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to play the violin it takes practice and
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patience the solution turning a into B
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to improve our communication we need to
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turn our initial emotionally charged
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responses let's call them a into
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thoughtful kind statements or
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examples shut the hell up about your
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I'm feeling a bit ignored right now I
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know it sounds silly but I feel a little
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jealous of how much time you're spending
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them a I never want to see you again you
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rat B I'm feeling really upset right now
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and I think I need a bit of space I'm
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scared I might lose you a why didn't you
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kitchen B I feel overwhelmed when the
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kitchen is messy could we work on
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together by translating a into B you
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create space for understanding instead
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of conflict why it's worth the effort
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this approach may feel awkward at first
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but it's transformative when you share
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your feelings openly and kindly one your
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partner feels safe and valued two
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misunderstandings decrease and Trust
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grows three you model healthy
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communication which can Inspire others
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around you think of it like building a
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musle it gets stronger with practice the
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Rule at the core of this approach is one
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modest but life-changing question if I
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were going to be honest kind and polite
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what would I say now when you pause to
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ask yourself this question you break the
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cycle of reactive communication and
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create a space for love and
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understanding healthy relationships
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aren't built on Perfection they're built
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on effort honesty and kindness the next
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time you find yourself about to lash out
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take a moment to transform your a into B
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it's a small but powerful step toward
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deeper connections have you tried
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communicating this way before how did it
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go let us know in the comments below and
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