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They told you that masturbation was
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harmless at any age, a natural, private
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act, a simple release.
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But what if that's not the full truth?
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What if there's a hidden side,
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especially as we navigate the golden
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years of life? I remember a case
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vividly, a man vibrant and full of life
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in his earlier years. But after 70, he
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died alone in his bathroom, clutching
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his chest minutes after what should have
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been a private moment of relief. a
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tragic isolated incident.
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Sadly, he's not the only one. I'm Dr.
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Juul, a men's health specialist with
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over 60 years of experience. Yes, you
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heard that right. Six decades dedicated
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to helping older adults, particularly
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men, protect their vitality, their
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intimacy, and ultimately their quality
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of life. I've had the privilege of
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working with thousands of senior men
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across the country, listening to their
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stories, understanding their concerns,
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and what I've uncovered may genuinely
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surprise you. Because while
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self-pleasure can be incredibly
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relaxing, even healing in your younger
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years, a natural part of development and
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stress relief, it can actually become
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profoundly harmful if done the wrong way
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as you get older. Yes, those very habits
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that once brought comfort and relief may
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now be silently draining your energy,
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potentially damaging your prostate, or
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even disrupting your sleep and
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circulation, all without you even
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realizing it. In this video, I'm going
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to walk you through five critical
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masturbation mistakes older men often
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make, but more importantly, I'll show
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you exactly how to avoid them. My goal
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for you today is to keep this part of
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your life healthy, empowering, and safe.
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And please stick with me until the very
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end because I'll also share a simple yet
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profound self-care technique you can
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start using tonight to protect your
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health, restore genuine pleasure, and
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reclaim true peace of mind. The best
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part, no medication needed. Before we
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dive deep, if you haven't subscribed
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you tailored for this incredible stage
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And if you enjoy this video, if it
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resonates, if it helps you in any way,
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something I can improve, type zero to
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let me know how I can make better
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content for you. Your feedback is
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invaluable. The danger isn't just
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dramatic or rare. It often begins in the
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smallest, most ingrained habits. And the
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very first mistake many older men make
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is perhaps the most fundamental,
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treating their aging bodies like they're
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still 30. Mistake one, ignoring the
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body's new limits. As men age, their
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bodies undergo changes that are subtle,
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often imperceptible at first, but deeply
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important to recognize and respect.
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After 70, the heart, the intricate
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network of blood vessels, the delicate
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nervous system, and even the sensitivity
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of your skin all respond differently
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than they did decades ago. It's a
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natural evolution, not a decline in
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worth. Unfortunately, many older men
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continue to masturbate using the same
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intensity, the same speed, or the same
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pressure they grew accustomed to in
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They do so unaware that this approach
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can now place significant unnecessary
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strain on their body. Vigorous or rushed
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self-pleasure may not only be physically
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exhausting, leaving you feeling depleted
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rather than refreshed, but it can also
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lead to short-term symptoms that might
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seem minor at the time, dizziness, a
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rapid or pounding heartbeat, or even
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muscle cramps. These reactions might
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seem harmless, easily dismissed as just
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getting older. But over time, repeated
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overexertion during masturbation can
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stress the cardiovascular system. This
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is especially critical in those with
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underlying conditions like high blood
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pressure, existing heart disease, or
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diabetes, conditions that become more
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prevalent with age. It's like trying to
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run a marathon with a car engine
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designed for leisurely drives.
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Eventually, something gives. One
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frequently overlooked aspect is how hard
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the pelvic floor muscles are working
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These muscles, often invisible to us,
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are crucial for urinary and bowel
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control, as well as sexual function.
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When overused or strained, particularly
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with excessive force or prolonged
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tension, these muscles can become tight,
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fatigued, and even [ __ ]
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This in turn can lead to a cascade of
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uncomfortable issues. Urinary
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difficulties such as hesitancy or a weak
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stream, persistent groin discomfort, or
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even in more severe cases, a degree of
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incontinence. The very act meant for
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pleasure can inadvertently cause pain
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and inconvenience. Doctors and health
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professionals are increasingly urging
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older men to approach this part of their
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life with a deeper sense of self-respect
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and care. Masturbation should not feel
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like a test of performance, a challenge
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to overcome, or a race to the finish
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line. Instead, it should be a
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celebration of sensation, a mindful
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exploration of your body's current
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capabilities. It's not about speed,
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strength, or intensity anymore. It's
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about relaxation, a gentle connection to
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your body, and supporting your overall
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Gentle touch, a slower, more deliberate
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rhythm, and a calm, unhurried
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environment can actually increase
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pleasure while simultaneously protecting
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Think of it as a mindful practice, not a
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frantic one. Deep diaphragmatic
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breathing during self- stimulation,
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maintaining proper posture to avoid
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unnecessary strain, and even taking
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short breaks when needed can
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significantly reduce risk and profoundly
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enhance the experience. This stage of
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life offers a powerful opportunity to
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redefine pleasure. Listening to your
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body truly listening to its signals
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instead of fighting it is not a sign of
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weakness. It is profound wisdom. You are
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not less of a man because you've slowed
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down or because your body responds
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differently. In fact, you may discover
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more depth, more sensitivity, and a
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richer, more profound satisfaction when
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you allow your body the space to feel
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fully and safely. The key is to avoid
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pushing yourself into discomfort just
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because that's how you used to do it.
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Your body is speaking to you. Respect
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what it says. And yet, the physical side
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is only one part of the equation. What
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about the emotional and mental aspects
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The next mistake often goes unnoticed,
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but it may be quietly rewiring your
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brain in ways that reduce joy, dull real
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life intimacy, and even affect your
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Let's talk about that next. Mistake two,
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using pornography that overstimulates
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the brain. In today's digital age,
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pornography is more accessible, faster
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paced, and intensely stimulating than
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ever before. For younger men, the brain
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is still incredibly flexible, resilient
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enough to bounce back from frequent
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visual overload. It adapts, recovers,
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and recalibrates. But for older men,
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especially those over 70, this kind of
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constant highintensity over stimulation
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can silently begin to reshape how the
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brain responds to pleasure, to intimacy,
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and to natural arousal. Many seniors
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turn to internet pornography without
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fully realizing the unique risks it
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poses. At this particular stage of life,
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the human brain naturally releases
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dopamine, often called the pleasure
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chemical, in response to sexual
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stimulation. It's part of our reward
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system, driving us towards things that
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feel good. But when that stimulation is
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repeated too often and with
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everinccreasing intensity through highly
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stimulating pornographic content, the
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brain adapts. It begins to demand more
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and more intensity for the same level of
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satisfaction, creating a relentless
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cycle of diminishing returns.
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What once felt pleasurable now requires
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more extreme input to elicit the same
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response over time. This can lead to a
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condition known as dopamine
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What does that mean for you? It means
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that real life experiences like genuine
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intimacy with a partner, the warmth of a
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meaningful touch, or even the simple
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pleasure of a casual, engaging
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conversation no longer produce the same
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What once felt fulfilling may begin to
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feel flat, dull, or profoundly
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The vibrant colors of real life seem to
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fade in comparison to the hyper
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stimulated digital world. For older men,
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this can be particularly damaging.
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As natural hormone levels decrease with
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age, the brain's capacity to regulate
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emotional highs and lows becomes more
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delicate, more finely balanced, flooding
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it with constant artificial sexual
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imagery can interfere with crucial
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cognitive functions, memory, focus, and
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even overall mood stability.
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Some men even report increased anxiety,
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a sense of restlessness or heightened
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irritability after frequent pornography
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use, especially if it's being used as a
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coping mechanism for feelings of
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loneliness, boredom, or sadness.
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What may feel like a private and
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harmless habit can in reality slowly
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erode emotional resilience and cognitive
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sharpness. Doctors and mental health
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experts recommend a conscious shift,
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replacing overstimulating material with
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gentler, more nuanced alternatives. This
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could mean exploring erotic literature,
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which engages imagination rather than
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simply flooding the senses, or softer,
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more artistic visual content, or even
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more powerfully, simply reconnecting
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with your own imagination and internal
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landscape. This shift often leads to
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deeper, more meaningful self-exloration
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and significantly reduces the mental
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exhaustion that can follow over
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It's not about giving up pleasure, it's
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about reclaiming it in a way that
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enhances your overall health and
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well-being rather than draining it.
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There's also a powerful emotional layer
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to this mistake. Pornography, especially
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the kind designed for younger audiences,
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rarely, if ever, reflects the realities,
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the nuances, or the genuine desires of
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older adults. This can create a profound
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disconnect between what a man sees on
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the screen and what he truly needs or
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wants in his own life. It can lead to
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insidious feelings of inadequacy,
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frustration, or even shame. When the
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idealized, often unrealistic images on
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the screen don't match real life
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It's easy to start believing that
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something is fundamentally wrong with
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you rather than realizing the content
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simply isn't meant for your phase of
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life. Being selective and intentional
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with what you consume can dramatically
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improve how you feel about your body,
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your desires, and your inherent ability
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to experience genuine pleasure. The goal
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isn't just stimulation. It's
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satisfaction, peace, and a deeper
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connection with yourself. But
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stimulation isn't the only factor that
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There's another often overlooked risk
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that starts deep inside the body. One
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that's especially common in older men,
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and when ignored, it can quietly lead to
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serious long-term damage. Let's turn our
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attention to that next.
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Mistake three, not considering prostate
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As men enter their 70s and beyond, one
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area of the body demands more attention
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than ever before, the prostate. This
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small walnut-sized gland, often
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overlooked in younger years, plays a
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vital role in both reproductive and
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urinary health. Yet, many older men
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continue their sexual routines,
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including masturbation, without
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adjusting for the natural and
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significant changes happening in their
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This can lead to discomfort,
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inflammation, and in some cases much
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more serious consequences down the line.
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The prostate naturally enlarges with
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age, a condition medically known as
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benign prostatic hyperplasia or BPH.
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This change can place pressure on the
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bladder and the urethra, the tube that
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carries urine out of the body.
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This pressure can affect urinary flow
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leading to common and often frustrating
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symptoms like urgency, the sudden strong
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need to urinate, difficulty starting
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urination, a weak or interrupted stream,
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or even disrupted sleep due to frequent
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nighttime trips to the bathroom. But
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what many older men don't realize is
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that aggressive or improper masturbation
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habits can further irritate the prostate
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and the entire pelvic region.
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This includes applying too much direct
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pressure, repeatedly delaying
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ejaculation, or rushing through the
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process with undue force. Over time,
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these habits can contribute to chronic
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pelvic pain, increased inflammation in
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and around the prostate, and in rare but
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significant cases may even interfere
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with the early detection of more serious
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prostate conditions.
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The body is a delicate ecosystem, and
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sustained irritation can have cumulative
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effects. Some men also mistakenly
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believe that holding an ejaculation or
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forcing it can somehow strengthen their
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stamina or improve control. In reality,
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this can create unnecessary tension in
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the pelvic floor muscles and surrounding
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nerves, placing added stress on the
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already sensitive area around the
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prostate. The result is not improved
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performance, but often greater
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discomfort and longer recovery times
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This is especially risky for men already
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managing conditions like prostatitis,
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which is inflammation of the prostate,
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or a history of urinary tract infections
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where the system is already compromised.
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Health professionals universally advise
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that older men approach masturbation
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with care, with patience, and with full
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awareness of how their body feels, not
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how they think it should respond based
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on past experiences. Gentle touch,
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adequate arousal time, allowing your
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body to naturally prepare, and complete
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unforced release without straining are
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absolutely essential. More importantly,
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if you experience persistent pelvic
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pain, any changes in fluid or semen, or
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any significant disruption in your
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urinary habits, you should never ignore
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They may not feel urgent today, but they
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could signal deeper issues developing
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quietly over time. Issues that are much
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easier to address when caught early.
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Protecting your prostate means
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respecting it. Masturbation can actually
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still support prostate health by
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encouraging healthy circulation and
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helping to clear out old fluid, which
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can be beneficial. But it must be done
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with a new mindset, one rooted in
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awareness, not just routine. Your body
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is not what it was at 30. and that's
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perfectly okay. But it is still strong,
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capable, and deserving of proper gentle
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Yet, while physical harm is easier to
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detect, the emotional reasons why men
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continue certain habits often run even
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deeper. And the next mistake is one that
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can drain not just the body, but also
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the spirit if left unressed. Let's take
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a closer look at that now. Mistake four,
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masturbating out of loneliness or stress
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instead of connection. In the later
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stages of life, emotional well-being
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becomes just as important as physical
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health, if not more so. For many older
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men, especially those living alone,
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dealing with the loss of a partner, or
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experiencing social isolation,
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masturbation can become more than a
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physical act. It can become a way to
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escape the quiet, to fill emotional
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gaps, or to cope with the heavy weight
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of stress, grief, or profound feelings
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While there is absolutely nothing wrong
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with finding comfort and release in your
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own body, it is a natural human
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capacity, there is a fine, often subtle
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line between healthy self-care and using
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physical release to mask deeper
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emotional wounds. When masturbation
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becomes a substitute for genuine
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emotional connection, for companionship,
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or for addressing underlying feelings,
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it often loses its purpose as a joyful
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restorative experience. Instead, it may
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evolve into a habit driven by sadness,
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by sheer habit, or by anxiety. Over
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time, this can dull the emotional
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reward, leading to a kind of emotional
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numbness, where the act becomes
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mechanical rather than truly meaningful.
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Some men report feeling even more alone
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or disconnected afterward, especially
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when it's used to avoid dealing with
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difficult emotions. This cycle can
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quietly deepen feelings of loneliness,
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making it harder to seek out real
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companionship, to forge new friendships,
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or even to engage in light-hearted
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social interactions. The problem isn't
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the act itself, it's the motive behind
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it. When driven by boredom, frustration,
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or sadness, masturbation becomes less
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about pleasure and more about avoidance.
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The temporary comfort it brings fades
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quickly, often replaced by a lingering
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This emotional fallout isn't talked
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about enough among older men, many of
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whom were raised in generations where
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emotional needs weren't openly discussed
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or acknowledged. There was a stoicism, a
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man-up mentality that often stifled
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genuine emotional expression.
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But the truth is, emotional hunger
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cannot be truly satisfied by physical
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It's like trying to quench thirst with a
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single drop of water. It provides
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momentary relief, but doesn't address
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the underlying need.
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Doctors and therapists alike agree.
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When you notice that you're turning to
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masturbation more out of habit or
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emotion than genuine desire, it's a
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signal worth paying attention to.
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Ask yourself honestly,
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am I doing this because I feel good?
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because I'm genuinely aroused and
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seeking pleasure or because I don't want
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to feel something else, something
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uncomfortable like loneliness, anxiety,
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That one question can open a door to
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deeper awareness and self-standing.
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Sometimes a simple change in routine can
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make a world of difference. A walk
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outside, a phone call to a cherished
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friend or family member, picking up a
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long-forgotten hobby, or engaging in
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community activities can offer the
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genuine connection your heart is really
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craving. The goal at this stage in life
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is not to avoid masturbation entirely.
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It's to reclaim it as something
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affirming and healthy, a choice born of
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desire, not desperation. Your emotional
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health matters and so does your sense of
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connection, whether that's with others
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or simply with yourself. Don't let
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loneliness dictate your relationship
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with your own body. Pleasure, like love,
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should never feel like a substitute for
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what's missing. It should feel like
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something added to what's already whole
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and complete within you. But while
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emotional motives are powerful, there's
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another challenge that creeps in
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silently and affects both the mind and
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body. It's not about what you feel, it's
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about what you expect and how your
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performance worries may be quietly
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stealing your peace. Let's explore that
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next. Mistake five, ignoring erectile
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dysfunction or performance anxiety. As
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men age, changes in sexual function are
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common, normal, and often unfortunately
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not welcomed. Many men over 70
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experience shifts in how their body
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responds. Erections may be less firm,
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slower to arrive, or shorter in
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duration. This is entirely normal, a
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natural part of the aging process, just
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like changes in vision or joint
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Yet, far too many older men view these
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changes as signs of failure, as a
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personal indictment rather than simply
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the result of aging biology. In response
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to these perceived failures, they begin
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using masturbation as a way to test
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their performance. Instead of enjoying
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the experience, they become hyperfocused
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on whether they can achieve or maintain
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an erection, whether they're taking too
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long or if something is wrong with them.
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This mindset can quietly turn a healthy,
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pleasurable act into one driven by fear,
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by harsh self-judgment, and by immense
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pressure. Performance anxiety doesn't
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only affect sexual satisfaction. It
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affects the entire nervous system. When
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a man begins to worry during
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masturbation, his body responds by
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releasing cortisol, the primary stress
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hormone. And here's the critical point.
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Cortisol and arousal are enemies. They
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work against each other. The more
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anxiety present, the harder it becomes
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for the body to relax and respond
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naturally. What starts as a minor
20:56
concern can quickly become a recurring
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issue, creating a vicious loop of
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frustration and disappointment that
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deepens over time. The very act of
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trying to perform prevents performance.
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Many men don't realize that this cycle
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is not just psychological, it's deeply
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Ignoring erectile dysfunction or letting
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it silently dictate your emotional state
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is one of the most harmful patterns an
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older man can fall into.
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Instead of accepting changes and
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adapting with grace, many choose to
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suffer in silence, too ashamed or
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embarrassed to talk to their doctor or
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even to acknowledge it to themselves.
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They carry this burden alone. But the
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truth is, these changes are not a
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verdict on your masculinity. They're
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simply biology doing what it does, a
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natural progression. And the good news
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is there are many ways to support sexual
21:50
health and well-being without falling
21:52
into shame or stress.
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Reframing masturbation as an act of
21:56
self-care rather than a performance test
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is key. It's not about how long or how
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hard. It's about how you feel. It's
22:04
about reclaiming comfort in your own
22:06
body without judgment, without external
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expectations. When this shift happens,
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when the pressure lifts, the body often
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responds more freely and naturally.
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And when there are concerns that go
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beyond stress, like persistent erectile
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difficulty or significant changes in
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sexual fluid, it's not weakness to seek
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help. In fact, it's one of the most
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powerful, courageous things you can do
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for your health, your confidence, and
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your peace of mind. Performance doesn't
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define a man. Presence does. Connection,
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comfort, and honesty with yourself are
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what matter most. As the years pass,
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your body might be aging, but your
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ability to feel, to experience joy, and
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to be at peace with who you are remains
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fully alive. Now that we've explored the
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five most common masturbation mistakes
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older men make. One important question
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remains, what practical steps can you
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take today to reclaim healthy, joyful,
23:06
and safe sexual habits that truly
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support your well-being?
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Let's answer that next. Final thoughts.
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Reclaiming pleasure and peace. Aging
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doesn't end intimacy, it refineses it.
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By now, you've seen the hidden ways
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masturbation, when done without
23:22
awareness, can quietly harm your body,
23:24
your mind, and your emotional balance
23:26
after 70. But this isn't about shame.
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You're not broken. You're evolving. And
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with that evolution comes the incredible
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chance to embrace pleasure with more
23:37
care, more purpose, and more honesty
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than ever before. Masturbation in your
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golden years shouldn't be about
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performance or escape. It should be a
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celebration of life, of presence, and of
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Gentle touch, mindful intention, and
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emotional clarity can transform a
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routine habit into a profound moment of
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healing and self-affirmation.
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You've earned that. So, listen to your
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Let go of outdated habits and
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expectations and give yourself
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permission to slow down, to feel more,
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and to protect your health along the
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way. Because intimacy doesn't fade with
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age, it becomes richer, deeper, and more
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meaningful when guided by awareness and
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self-compassion. And remember, if no one
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else is talking about this, we will.
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Because your health matters, your
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pleasure matters, and you still deserve
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connection in every sense of the word.
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If this message resonated with you, if
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it sparked a new thought or provided
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some comfort, please don't forget to
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like this video, subscribe to the
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channel, and share it with another man
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who needs to hear this. Because it's
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never too late to take control of your
24:45
health, your happiness, and your peace
24:47
of mind. Thank you for watching.