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i'm older but I'm not old Gosh you think
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about the power of language and how much
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difference a word can make And I read
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something the other day that said I'm 75
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and it said the elderly man who was 61
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years old uh got hit in the crosswalk or
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something like that Oh now it's how the
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language we use It's elderly So I was
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thinking about how my parents did or did
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not prepare me for growing old or going
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along in life One of some of the things
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that they could have said one of the
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things that would have been nice is if
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they'd said how fast life goes by and
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please understand that you know try to
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be so present And later on in life I
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found out a lot more about meditation
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and things that keep you really present
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to today and not worrying about uh
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tomorrow and just focusing on today the
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blessing it is for you and so forth But
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I think another thing I think back on
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some of the bad decisions I made and I
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think I would have liked it if somebody
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said "Look you're going to make a lot of
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bad decisions in your life bounce back
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from him It's not the end of the world
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You will make it back through this as
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well Because I look back and oh my lord
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I've made some horrid decisions In fact
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I used to think if I ever wrote an
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autobiography the title would be "What
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were you thinking?" Because clearly you
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weren't But it's so important because
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life is this big roller coaster And
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that's what I've learned at 75 years old
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versus looking back at 35 or 15 or some
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of those other ages It's an entirely
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huge big up and down up and down left
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and right and so forth And gosh when
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you're up everything's great People
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return your phone calls You got lots of
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friends But when you're down gosh nobody
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gets back to you You feel like the
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loneliest person on the earth But know
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that you will get back again And maybe
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the most important thing of all is most
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of the lessons you learn in your life is
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when you're on the down stuff A lot of
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this stuff that happened to me my
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parents died when I was pretty young in
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my 20s My mom uh died of cancer She used
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to be threatened suicide sometimes Had
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some mental health issues My dad took
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his own life when before I was 30 My
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wife passed away when my sons were four
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and 14 And as horrific and as tough as
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those things were they taught me some of
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the best lessons in life that you can
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bounce back from anything if you just
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put one foot in front of the other So so
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important And they say that youth is
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wasted on the young But gosh we learn
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these lessons And it's if you just
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remember that every day will get better
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it just don't focus on just this hour
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Just think about it'll get better
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tomorrow and the next day and so forth
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And when I was about 25 years old I
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asked this question That was 50 years
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ago And it's the same question I've had
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for 50 years Why don't people take
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better care of themselves i've never got
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it You got one body one heart two lungs
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two kidneys one brain and yet we abuse
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the heck out of them And sometimes I
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thought to myself just imagine if you
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could interview the organs He
2:44
interviewed the organs of a smoker and
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they put the microphone up to the lungs
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They go "Look we're choking down here
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We're doing the best we can but you're
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putting all this smoke in here and I'm
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trying to get the blood back into the o
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the oxygen back into the blood You're
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putting all this smoke in here you know
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or the kidneys or the liver of a drinker
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Why are you putting all this booze in
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here i'm trying to process the blood
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here." So makes me wonder but what are
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some of the keys to staying young and at
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75 the energy I feel like I'm have the
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energy of a 45 or 50year-old One of them
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you hear a lot about is exercise I read
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something the other day that exercise is
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the closest thing to the fountain of
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youth that we have I walk seven to eight
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miles every single day and it's so
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important I listen to podcasts and
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audible books and things like this But
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it really really makes a difference And
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but I think maybe something that's is as
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important as anything that I could tell
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you about getting older but not old is
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you decide You choose your attitude
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Nobody rewires your brain and takes the
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red wire and puts it where the blue wire
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is Every day you get out of bed out of
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the bed on the left side or the right
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side positive or negative up or down
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grateful or ungrateful whatever it might
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be But you get to decide It's so
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important And you make that choice every
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single day So and watch your language
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too You got two ears and one mouth So
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your mouth talks and your ears hear it
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And that's why when people say "Well
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you're you're old." I go "No I'm not old
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I'm older." There's a huge difference
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and and watch this selft talk about I'm
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terrible with this I haven't I don't
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have a good memory and you say that your
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ears here your brain processes it and
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sure enough you will not have a good
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memory so very very important to but I
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think also is again I look back on the
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75 years I don't really think about it
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too much until I walk by something
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called a mirror because when your eyes
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are looking out and you don't see
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yourself you just see the world you
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forget sometimes you're that age and I
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notic especially with the opposite sex I
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saw somebody say say a sign something
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like when did I become invisible i used
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to get people checking me out once in a
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while Not anymore Not very often And so
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you remember that when you see that
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mirror oh that's right I am that age So
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anyway but let me wrap up with this
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question I'd like you to think about and
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that is is what do you know now you
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would have liked to known at 18 that
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would have helped you because it can
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give you the direction on things You've
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got all this wisdom now So whatever age
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you are and everything you've learned
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think about what are some of those
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things and then work towards that I
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think one of the biggest things for me
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is that I didn't realize how tough life
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was going to be But it also made me
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learn how to process problems and issues
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and challenges and hurdles I had to
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overcome and thinking about more than
5:18
anything as I look back on my life There
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was just many things I got through going
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through them at the time Brutal and but
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man if you just process it and just one
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day at a time one you hear that many
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many times How do you eat an elephant
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one bite at a time and so forth But just
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one step after as you know I'm a big
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proponent of the gratitude journal That
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makes a big difference But you can learn
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from those mistakes You can learn from
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those boneheaded moves And then you'll
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apply that to the future And I still
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make mistakes I don't make nearly as
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many mistakes as I did when I was
5:48
younger So that's something to think
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about So think about that What do you
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know today you would have liked to know
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at 18 that would have helped you think
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about that I'm that gratitude guy
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Remember be grateful and never quit
