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Nice Girls Finish Last: The Power of Authenticity
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Jun 5, 2025
Ever felt like your niceness is holding you back? This video dives deep into why “nice girls” often finish last and how embracing your true self can open doors to success and happiness. #SelfImprovement #Nature #MentalHealth #Mindset #Youtuber #Wellbeing #Vlog #women #feminism
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hi my beautiful sisters welcome to my
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YouTube channel without wasting any time
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let's get right deep into it so today we
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are tackling a topic that so many of us
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can relate to but a few of us can
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discuss and that is the nice girl trap
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you know what I'm talking about I'm
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talking about the pressure to always be
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agreeable you know the pressure to
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always be likable to put everyone else's
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need before your own isn't that a jail
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isn't that a jail it's like wearing a
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mask that hides your true self while
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trying to fit into a box that the
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society has just created for us but
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here's a Kika being a nice girl being a
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nice girl doesn't mean you have to
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sacrifice your own happiness you know
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being a nice girl doesn't mean you have
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to sacrifice your own happiness or
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authenticity it's time to challenge that
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not ation it's time to challenge that
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and just break free from those
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constraints and reclaim your power
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you've got no one else to do this for
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you to to reclaim your power you can't
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expect someone else to do that for you
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so do it yourself reclaim your power and
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know your worth and how are you going to
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know your worth by knowing who you are
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and how do you know who you are by
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staying true to who you are that's the
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only way you're going to know who you
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are so let's unpack this phenomenon
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together and explore how we can navigate
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through it but first first things first
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let's dig deep into what's the meaning
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of the nice girl phenomenon you know
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this isn't just about being kind or
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polite it's about the societal
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expectations to always put others first
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even when it means compromising
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compromising your own well-being
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that's not good from a very young age
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many of us have been conditioned have
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been conditioned to be accommodating to
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please everyone around us and to wear
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that Badge of kniv with
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pride imagine from a very young age
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imagine how many young girls already are
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out there under
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the the supervision of Guardians and
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parents who are conditioning them to to
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to to to to be a people's pleaser so
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this has got to stop we need to we need
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to grow this community of knowing who
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you are authenticity and that's that's
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how the world will get better when it
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comes to this thing of women always
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finding themselves in position s in
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these constraints where they are
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expected to act a certain way to be a
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certain way so from from that I hope you
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take something I hope you take
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something I hope you truly take
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something for yourself this conditioning
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often leads to internalizing the belief
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that our value comes from our ability to
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serve others you know as a result we may
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feel guilt or um or anxiety you know we
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may feel this guilt or anxiety when we
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think about prioritizing ourselves but
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what if I told you what if I told you
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that true empowerment start with being
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authentic and apologetically yourself
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what if I told you that by recognizing
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these patterns and learning to break
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free from them we can embrace our our
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true selves we can embrace our true
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selves and set healthy boundaries so how
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about we just do that how about we just
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do that now now that we have
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identified the nice girl trap let's
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shift our Focus to embracing
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authenticity this means acknowledging
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your worth and confidently expressing
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your needs and desires it's about
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shedding layers of conditioning that
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have been taught to us to be agreeable
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and instead of Leaning into who we
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genuinely are by setting boundaries
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you're not being selfish setting
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boundaries is not being selfish it's a
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crucial aspect of self-care and mental
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health when you establish clear
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boundaries you are essentially
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communicating what is acceptable in your
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life and what is not now when you have
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this ability we talking about people who
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KN who know who they are so you know
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what you want you know what you don't
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want and you know how to be direct about
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this so this allows you to protect your
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time your energy and your emotional
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wellbe here are some strategies
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to to embrace your authenticity I hope
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this works out for you guys I truly hope
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that this works out for
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you spend time reflecting on what truly
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matters to you what are you what are you
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all about what are your core values
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knowing your values will guide your
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decisions will guide you and to help you
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live in an in an total alignment with
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your true self so know your values know
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your core
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values practice assertiveness this means
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Express ing your thoughts and feelings
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openly and respectfully so don't be Hur
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on yourself start small practice voicing
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your opinions in conversations or
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speaking up during
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meetings just keep it in your mind to
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always remember that your voice matters
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keep it in your mind to always remember
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that your voice
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matters saying no can be one of the
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hardest thing to do especially if you
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are used to being the nice girl Begin by
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saying no no to the smallest commitments
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that you
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don't really care about that don't even
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excite you that's how you starts small
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that's how you you you start saying to
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yourself okay now I'm direct about what
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I want and when I say I do not want this
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when I say I do not want to do this I am
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right about it and I'm not going back on
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my word your time and your energy are so
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valuable so don't be afraid do not be
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afraid to prioritize your own needs
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don't don't be afraid to prioritize your
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own
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needs I'm going to repeat this surround
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yourself with supportive people no
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matter how introverted you are at please
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build yourself a circle of people who
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are going to be supportive of you
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supportive of you and your journey of
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authenticity you know seek Out friends
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and mentors who encourage you to be a
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true authentic self having a strong
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support system will reinforce your
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boundaries will create a safe space for
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you to express your true self will help
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you express your emotions will help you
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Explore More of who you are and that's
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how people grow by being in surroundings
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where they are not going to
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be conditioned into being something else
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they not if you are conditioned to be
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something that's something else that
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you're not you're going
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to never have that time to learn about
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who you are and actually be yourself
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because you are just so busy being
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someone
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else so yeah
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just surround yourself with people who
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truly do got your back who truly truly
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truly do got your back so guys I don't
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want to waste time talking a lot about
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this it it kind of makes me
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so emotional a little bit because there
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are people who are such nice girls out
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there and it's weighing them down it's
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weighing them down because in this world
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people will always take take take take
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take but never give but never give so
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imagine in a world like that being a
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nice girl what's going to happen to you
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the world is going to finish you so
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you've got to set out boundaries so I'm
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being emotional now because I know
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there's always that girl whose energy is
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being dried out because she's too nice
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she's too nice she she she likes serving
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people she's too polite and it's not
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serving her anything there's no reward
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for for being a nice girl there's no
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reward for for for being a nice girl
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you're just going to get used you are
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just going to get used yes be decent be
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kind but don't be something else that
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you're not don't be something else that
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you're not in places where you are not
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appreciated in places where
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your
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your your efforts are not seen But you
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just you are just seen as this machine
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that is made
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to to produce politeness to produce a
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nice environment that's filled with
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peace when you are getting absolutely
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nothing so guys I don't want to I don't
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want to talk too much about that but
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I'll share some practical tips for
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reclaiming your power and stepping out
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of of the nice girl mentality from
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effective communicating techniques to
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building Network and um and and and a
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whole lot
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of um strong
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bound with empowered women you know
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these strategies will help you take
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control of your narrative and live your
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life live your life without apologizing
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live your life to the foolest and just
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be who you are who you are be be
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authentic to yourself and the first one
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is I know you've heard this before but
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I'm going to repeat it again to you
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journaling your
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thoughts I'm never going to stop talking
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about journaling your thoughts cuz it
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works for me I know what journaling your
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thoughts can do I know what it can do
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and it helps you so much in learning
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about yourself in tracking your moods in
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tracking your success in tracking your
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growth as a human being you know so
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journaling is a fantastic way to explore
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your feelings and experiences write
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about the moments when you feel
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pressured to conform or when you when
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you have successfully asserted your
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boundaries this practice will will gain
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you Clarity and recognize patterns in
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your behavior so when you when you're
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someone that journals a lot you'll know
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why you feel the way you feel today and
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why you felt the way you felt yesterday
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because you are up to date with yourself
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you know you know what's going on in
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your life so Jour yourself the way a
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business would Jour the their their
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finances talk about how much they did
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this year how much they did last year
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what caused this to happen General
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yourself like you are in business do
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that do that and the second one is
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setting achievable
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goals setting achievable goals do not be
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hurting yourself do not be in a hurry do
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not be in a hurry start small start with
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small achievable goals that align with
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your authentic self whether it's picking
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up in a group discussion or trying out a
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new hobby you know celebrating these
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little wings can build confidence over
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time
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so achievable goals I'm not
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saying you
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you you have
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to do so much you know do so much that
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you you are now unable to to reach your
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goals because you you have so much
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deadlines you have this big thing that
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you've got to do be realistic when you
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set your goals be realistic when you set
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your goals that's how you're going to
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achieve your
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goals I'm glad you're watching this
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video so understanding the principles of
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feminism can Empower you to challenge
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societal structures that perpetuate the
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nice go mentality so how do you do this
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you dive into books you
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look you look around around you you
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watch documentaries you watch podcasts
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there are so many podcast that you watch
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that you can watch in YouTube those
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discussions everything that's going to
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expand your perspective on gender Norms
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you know so educate yourself do that for
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yourself fill your mind with positivity
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fill your mind
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with um everything that has got to do
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with teaching you about authenticity
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just learn learn learn
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and I promise you as time goes on you'll
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get to see you'll get to see that the
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benefits you'll get to see what you've
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been planting inside of you and my last
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word which is one of the most important
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ones prioritizing self-care self-care is
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very essential it's very essential in
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reclaiming your power make time for
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activities that bring you you join
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whether that's pampering yourself at the
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spa or focusing on your hobby or
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indulging on a book but remember taking
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care of yourself is not just okay it's
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necessary you have to take care of
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yourself you have to do that for
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yourself without feeling guilty without
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feeling like you are being selfish I
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understand if you've been a nice girl
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for too long when you comes to self-
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prioritizing
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you you tend to feel like there's
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something wrong with you there's
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something wrong that you're doing even
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though there's nothing wrong the fact is
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you are so used to serving others you
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don't even know how to serve
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yourself so practice
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self-care prioritize self-care
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prioritize yourself prioritize yourself
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I'm being so emotional right now
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because I've been a nice girl before and
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breaking out of that mentality it's it's
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not it's not so easy it is not so easy
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when you are so used to being the girl
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that serves people the girl that has to
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create the environment that's going to
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make people feel comfortable that's
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going to make people feel pleased with
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you so Break Free Break Free from that
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and embrace yourself Embrace who you are
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embrace your authentic self and surround
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yourself with loving people surround
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yourself with loving people surround
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yourself with people who genuinely do
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care about you who are not going to be
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intimidated by your authentic self who
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are not going to make you end up diming
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your own light who are not going to try
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to change
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you so just be true to yourself so guys
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thank you so much thank you so much for
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watching my video um I'll be creating
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more videos like this I know they are so
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helpful to so many women out there of
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all age groups so I'm so excited I'm so
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excited that I've started this YouTube
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channel and I would really appreciate
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your your support just share this video
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with ladies whom you think will really
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like to to to learn this knowledge you
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know to learn this and see what they can
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do with it so guys thank you once again
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and I'll see you next time bye
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