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Unlearning Internalized Misogyny: How Society Shapes Us (And How to Break Free)
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Jun 5, 2025
Unlearning Internalized Misogyny: How Society Shapes Us (And How to Break Free) In this video, we dive into the complex issue of internalized misogyny—how society teaches women to doubt themselves and judge each other. We’ll explore real-life examples from Serena Williams, showing how these subtle forms of sexism manifest in everyday life. Most importantly, we’ll talk about how to break the cycle, reclaim confidence, and lift other women up. #feminism #SelfImprovement #MentalHealth #Mindset #Youtuber #Wellbeing
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W misogyny misogyny misogyny you must be
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asking yourself what type of misogyny am
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I going to be talking about I'm going to
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talk about
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internalized misogyny M I'm coming for
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you ladies I'm coming for you please
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don't hate on
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me um so let's start by clearing up what
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internalized misogyny really
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means it's when
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is when women often unknowingly adopt
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sexist ideas and beliefs from a society
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that undervalues
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them it's
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like it's like trying to water a plant
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with poison you not intentionally
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harming it but those subtle actions or
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thoughts sheap away from your confidence
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think of how many times you've said I'm
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not like other girls or judged women
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based on their
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appearance think of that for example
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have you ever noticed how we sometimes
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criticize women in power oh she's too
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bossy oh she's too stiff oh she's a wish
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she's trying to she's trying too hard to
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get man to like her she she's trying to
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get men's attention honey why do we do
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this why do we do this
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because because we've been trying to see
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assertive woman as threats while
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praising the quiet agreeable ones we are
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intimidated by woman in power so what do
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we do we we project our insecurities
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onto them the truth is we live in a
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world where misogyny has been the
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wallpaper it's always been there so
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subtle you hardly notice it but it's but
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it's there it's there internalized
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misogyny is what happens when that
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wallpaper now becomes part of us shaping
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how we see ourselves and other women
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it's Sneaky and it's
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everywhere take Serena Williams for an
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example she's arguably the greatest
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athlete of our time but how many times
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have people tried to reduce her
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achievements they criticize her for
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being too aggressive too
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muscular while while male athletes
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display the same characteristics appr
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praised for their strength even when she
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has won you know even in her moments of
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Victory Serena faces the same sexist
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undertones that all women in these
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fields
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endure for many women this manifests in
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thoughts like am I being too loud you
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know am I am I too ambitious am I too
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emotional we've been conditioned to sve
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edit before even stepping into a room
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internalized misogyny guys it's
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dangerous it's dangerous and it's just
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it's it's not just hating other women
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it's the self-doubt that Whispers to you
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you're not good enough for this table so
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what do you do because you don't feel
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good enough you go out there and you try
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to project your insecurities onto other
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women who are living their lives without
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apologizing to
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anyone without apologizing to
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anyone internalized misogyny it's it it
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isn't
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something isn't some some big obvious
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thing it's
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Sneaky it's Sneaky it's subtle and can
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look like small everyday judgments you
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know picture this you are scrolling
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through Instagram and you see a woman in
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a super bold sexy outfit you feel tiny
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tange of G of jealousy and judgment and
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think oh she's just looking for
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attention that's it that's internalized
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misogyny now do you see how common this
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is do you see how common this is and
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it's not good this is the same the the
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the same hate that men talk about when
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they say women hate each other it's
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because of these things it's because of
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these these tiny little things
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it's in these moments when you find
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yourself questioning another woman's
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choices or assuming the worst about her
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motivations or it's when you
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automatically downplay your own
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achievements you are killing it at work
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but instead of owning that you say oh I
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just got lucky don't do that to yourself
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you worked hard for that you deserve
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that that's that that little voice in
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your in your head that says I just got
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lucky or what whatever you say that's
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just that internalized voice saying
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you're not enough and that you should
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shrink back because you don't deserve to
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sit in this table of people who are
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succeeding in life that's that's that
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that's too Dee rooted that's too deep
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rooted now now this is now this is where
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we start doing the real work and
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learning in alized
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misogyny this means getting real with
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yourself like I'm doing right now I'm
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being real with you ladies you know I
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love you you know I've dedicated this
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YouTube channel to empowering women but
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truth be told we need to also look deep
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into ourselves if there are things we
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want to change about ourselves to
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improve
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ourselves that's it it's uncomfortable
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because it requires us to face our our
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own
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biases but here's the truth here's the
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truth we we all have them and it's okay
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to admit that it's it's it's it's okay
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you don't even have to condemn yourself
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it's
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okay it's it's okay you just need to
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start by paying attention to your
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thoughts the next time you feel the urge
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to judge another woman pause and ask
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yourself what I think this way if this
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was a
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man or better yet why am I thinking this
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way at all a friend of mine recently
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told me how she caught herself feeling
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jealous when another woman got promoted
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at her
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job guys this is the instead of stewing
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in those feelings she congratulated her
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colleague and even as her for advice on
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how she she got there now that's
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breaking the
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cycle she didn't just sit there become a
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hater she noticed that oh there's
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something wrong that I'm doing and she
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she chose not to dwell on that
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negativity and actually went up to the
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woman and congratulated her and asked
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her some for some advice on how she can
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improve
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herself we need to learn from each other
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we need to learn from each other and
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stop hating each other
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we need to we need to do that we need to
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learn if
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there's a a woman who's excelling in a
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department which you're not excelling in
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instead of hating her learn from
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her learn from her cuz why are you
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hating her why doesn't make sense why
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are you hating her for absolutely no
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reason so let's just be honest we've all
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been raised in a society that pits women
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against each other but girl that
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narrative ends
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today it ends
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today instead of competing with another
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with one another let's start
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collaborating let's work together that
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that's that's something that that's
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a that's the best thing we can do for
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ourselves we can do for ourselves as a
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female gender this this amazing quote by
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medeline Albright um that says there's a
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special place in hell for women who
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don't help other
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women there's a special place in hell
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for women who don't help other women and
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honestly that's the vibe we are living
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by now that's the vibe we are living by
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now we we just have to be honest about
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that a personal
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story I was part of a group where the
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women constantly gossiped about one
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another it was exhausting it was
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exhausting and it felt like a contest
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you know to see who could tear others
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down first but one woman changed
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everything she started giving shout outs
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to the rest of us hyping up our
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successes and it spread suddenly
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suddenly suddenly we weren tearing each
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other down anymore we were building each
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other up that's power right there girls
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that's power that's
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that's that's beautiful and so many
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friendships were made from that group
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were made we started being comfortable
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with each other talking about what we
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facing giving a other advisors it just
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took one woman to change the whole the
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whole atmosphere of this group to change
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the
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whole
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vibe it's it it's beautiful to watch
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it's beautiful to notice these things
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that are happening so this is where we
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we we we get um the fun partner once you
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start un learning internalized misogyny
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you can and start reclaiming your
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confidence and I mean that
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unapologetically had on confidence that
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says yeah I deserve to take up space
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start by celebrating your wings no
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matter how small no matter how small the
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next time you nail that
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presentation that you just went through
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just give yourself a pet on the back hey
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I did good I did good celebrate
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your WIS you don't have to wait for
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anyone to celebrate your WIS do it
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yourself do it yourself and let yourself
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know that you've got your own back yeah
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you did that so stop apologizing for
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everything women are notorious for
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saying sorry when it's not
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necessary sorry for speaking up no sis
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Speak Your
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Truth speak your truth
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let's
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let's I have this this this friend of
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mine from high
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school she she finally stopped saying
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sorry for everything at her
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job she she just finally stopped saying
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sorry instead of saying sorry for for
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the delay she started saying thank you
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for your patience oo
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girl I like that I like that idea why
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you why why are you always feeling sorry
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you don't have to thank them for their
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patience thank them for their
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patience it it shifted the power in a
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conversation and made her feel more
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confident that's what reclaiming your
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voice looks like because the more you
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keep um apologizing for things that you
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didn't even intentionally do you you you
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develop a victim mindset and you don't
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want that you do not want that so
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unlearning internalized misogyny isn't
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something that happens
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overnight we I guess you know that by
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now it's a journey guys it's a journey
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and this is why I'm here and this is why
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I'm here on this YouTube channel talking
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to women empowering women and also in
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the process being empowered myself it's
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a journey and it's one we have to
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comfort each other every
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day but once you start there's no
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turning back you you'll feel lighter
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you'll feel stronger you'll feel more
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connected to the woman around you
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because at the end of the day we are all
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in this together and it's all time we
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start acting like it so why are we
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hating each other we don't need to hate
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each other we can always just learn from
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each other as
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women we can always just learn from each
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other we don't have to be hating on each
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other so he has reclaiming yes has to
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reclaiming our voices and celebrating
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each other's WIS and dismantling all
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those old narratives that no longer
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serve us They don't serve us anymore
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we've
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evolved we've evolved so ladies let's
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celebrate each other let's be close to
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one another let's stop hating each other
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let's let's stop that and I do
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understand that for for most of you
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you're not doing it
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intentionally you're not doing it
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intentionally but it's something that
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you need to work on within yourself it's
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something that you need to work on
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within yourself and just eradicate that
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internalized misogyny that lays inside
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of you and how do you do that I've
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mentioned
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it look into yourself be honest with
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yourself
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and I I'm always going to talk about
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self-compassion don't fall into the Trap
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of criticizing yourself when you are
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working on yourself and being honest
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with yourself so for you to to be able
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to to do that not falling into the Trap
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of criticizing yourself you need to be
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compassionate with yourself on my
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previous video I was talking about how
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self-compassion is is important and why
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we should practice is it on our daily
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daily daily
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basis we need to we need to be more
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compassionate with ourselves so as much
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as I'm encouraging women and even myself
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to look into ourselves and fix ourselves
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and stop judging other women because we
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we feel they are less failable because
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what what what what I'm
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saying be compassionate with
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yourself be compass
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with
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yourself and you'll get there you'll get
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there so hi guys I don't even know why
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I'm greeting again but I just want to
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say thank you so much for watching this
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video and share this video with other
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women share this video with women who
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who want to be empowered as well who
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want to grow in this who want to grow in
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their woman would you know so yeah guys
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uh thank you so much thank you this is
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my YouTube channel and I'll be posting
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more of such empowering messages for
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women and hopefully this community grows
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hopefully we grow not only the channel
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but even as the
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community as individuals we grow we grow
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we grow become decent become even Kinder
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become even even more compassionate with
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ourselves and with one another that's
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what women are all about we don't have
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to be fighting every day we don't we
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were not made for that we are greater
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than
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that guys I could talk forever when it
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comes to woman and power and
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how oh my God I could speak the whole
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day I don't want to waste time bye
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guys thank you I enjoyed speaking I
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enjoyed speaking and I'm hoping that you
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enjoyed watching
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so bye once again
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