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Why Do We Obsess Over Female Celebrities’ dating history but not men's?
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Jun 5, 2025
The Double Standard: Why We Scrutinize Female Celebs More Than Men Why are we so fixated on female celebrities’ private lives? In this video, we dive into the double standard that allows male stars to live without scrutiny while women are judged for their bodies, relationships, and parenting. Let’s talk about why we’re so obsessed with women’s personal choices—and what needs to change. #CelebrityCulture #DoubleStandards #WomenEmpowerment #PopCulture #Celebrities Keyword tags: Self Improvement podcast Feminism & Empowerment Self-Improvement & Personal Growth Mindset mental wellness @Sanitylicious
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hi everyone welcome to Sun delicious you
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know I don't want to waste your time
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let's just dive into one of the most
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frustrating double standards out day why
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are we so obsessed with female
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celebrities private lives while men's
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lives barely get a Second Glance like
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seriously think of about it every little
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detail about a woman's life who she's
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dating what she's wearing how she's
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raising her kids and what she's even
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eating is always being dissected
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discussed and judged but when it comes
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to male celebrities oh my God it's all
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crickets baby nothing is happening there
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so in this day and age and yet we are
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still here still stuck in this
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ridiculous pattern female celebrities
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can't even breathe without the world
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trying to to pick apart their choices
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but why are we still so fixated on
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women's personal lives why why like I I
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I I don't understand let's start with
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relationships the second a female
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celebrity is spotted with someone it's a
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fullon media friend who is she dating is
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it serious are they getting married is
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she pregnant does she want kids does he
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love her is he using her is it just sex
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is casual these are the kinds of
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questions that swarm the this teroid and
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Twitter fits the moment a woman steps
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out with someone
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new it's it's as if like her entire
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worth is wrapped up in her relationship
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status take for example someone like um
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Taylor Swift every relationship she's
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ever been in has been put under a
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microscope her dating history is it's
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practically a full-time job for gossip
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for gossip people for gossip bloggers
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everyone and when she thinks about her
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experiences in love oh suddenly she's
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too emotional too dramatic and can't
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keep a man the scrutiny is insane guys
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it's so insane but flip the script and
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look at male celebrities look at um
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Leonardo decaprio look at
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him has been dating women 20 years
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younger than him for dir Kad and no one
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better than I no one is oh my God I just
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recently saw a post like now and I'm
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like but this is not the first time why
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are people just picking up on this like
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now any and in fact it's a joke you know
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um
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something I don't know man it's a joke
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something people laugh about he's he's
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he's seen as a Bachelor living his past
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life but imagine if Taylor S did the
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same thing she'd be roasted and for what
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for doing the same exact thing that
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Leonard would be
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doing the same thing that men are doing
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without facing the question consequences
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this obsession with women's private
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lives doesn't stop at relationships
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either it doesn't stop there let's talk
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about bodies the way that the media uh
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fixate on women's bodies it's it's
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nothing short of disturbing every time a
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female celebrity gains or loses weight
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it's a headline news they'll ask is she
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pregnant is she getting a divorce is she
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is she okay all of these assumptions
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based on Purely the size of her body and
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nothing else just because she lost
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weight or she gained weight people are
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trying to analyze what could be
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happening what could be happening but
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hey no nothing's happening people want
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to gain weight people want to lose
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weight for so many different reasons
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look at adal Adele was treated look at
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how she was treated after her weight
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loss when she stepped out looking
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Slimmer people were suddenly obsessed
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with her body and not her voice not her
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music anymore the same thing happened
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with um what what what is the Wilson
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reel Wilson these women have always been
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immensely taled so talented guys but the
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moment they lost weight The Narrative
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just shifted silently their bodies with
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the topic of conversation as if their
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weight somehow defined their Worth or
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talent and what I about Adele oo she
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kept making those bomb tracks she she
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she she kept making those bomb tracks
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showing people that hey my voice was
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not installed into the weight of my body
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I am talented I can sing I'm gifted
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whether I'm slim or thick or however
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meanwhile um male celebrities can go
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from shredded to de bought and back
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again and there's no big deal there's no
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big deal Jonah Hill has gained weight
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lost weight gain it back again and
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nobody's obsessing over it the same way
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nobody sure there might be a comment
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here and there but it's not merely the
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same level of scrutiny men are allowed
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to exist without um their bodies being
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tied to their value but when it comes to
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women oh no not so much not so so much
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and without me
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forgetting the situation about
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motherhood oh oh oh this one really hits
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the
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nerve the way Society scrutinizes female
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uh female celebrities choices around
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motherhood is so mindblowing whether a
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woman chooses to have children or not
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there's a judgment if she has kissed
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she's picked apart oh my God for how
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she's raising them if she doesn't kids
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she's labeled as a selfish and
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incomplete oh she's going to grow up
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she's going to be old and no one is
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going to want to all of those things all
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of those things all of those things
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Jennifer andon for years the media
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obsessed over whether or not she she's
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going to have
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children just like that every single
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interview she did every article written
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about her had some they they somewhere
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had to mention this thing of a
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biological clar or speculated on why she
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wasn't a mother yet and I I don't get
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this Obsession I don't get it there are
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so many male celebrities who don't even
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have children who don't want children
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but you won't you won't see them being
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scrutinized like that why can't women
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just live their lives peacefully
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why why people I don't understand like
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people couldn't just accept that maybe
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that Jennifer and she didn't want kids
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or maybe she wasn't she wasn't okay at
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that time you know stuff like that and
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when she finally spoke out saying that
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her her worth as a woman was en tied to
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having children people still wouldn't
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let go compare this to someone like um
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George um George cloney for the for the
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longest time he didn't have kids and no
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one cared no one cared he was the cool
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Bachelor living his best life no
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pleasure
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just like no pressure like it was just
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fine it was just fine and the pressure
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just wasn't there for him in the same
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way let me just put it that way it was
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he was this best cool guy and here's
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where it even gets worse if if a female
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celebrity does become a mother oh the
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judgment does not stop it does not stop
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then she scrutinized for every single
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thing that she does as a parent is she
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best uh is she breastfeeding does she
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have Nanny how many nannies does she
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have how how much does she even pay the
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nny how fast did she bounce back after
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giving birth is she oh my if she seen
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with without her baby people are
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starting to talk oh she's not a good
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mother where's the kid they'll be mom
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shaming they'll be mom shaming her it's
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so relentless guys it's so relentless
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there's so many celebrities I could talk
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about there's so many celebrities I
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could mention beona is another perfect
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example after she had her twins the
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media was so obsessed with how quickly
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she would get back in shape like give
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the girl a break give a girl a break no
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one was talking about how she created
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life or how she was managing one of the
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most high pressure careers in the world
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while being a mom nope it was all about
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her body all about her face meanwhile
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Jay-Z um becomes the father and the
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media barely mentions how he juggling
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fatherhood and his
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career there's just no
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comparison guys it's not easy being a
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woman it it's really not easy being a
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woman but the question is why does this
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happen why does this happen why do we
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treat female celebrities private lives
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like it's just some public property
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while male celebrities get to live their
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lives without nearly the same level of
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intrusion that's the question well okay
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part of it comes down to traditional
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gender roles and the expectations we
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place on women women are still seen as
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caretakers nurturers um moral Beacon so
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when they step out into the public eye
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those expectations follow them they
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follow them everywhere they go that's
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why they are always under this
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microscope Society expects wom to be
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perfect it expects women to to to be
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perfect to be the perfect partner the
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perfect mother the perf to have the
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perfect body the perfect everything
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there's a podcast of mine where I was
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talking about why women should not Chase
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Perfection I I talk about this a lot I
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talk about this a lot you cannot do it
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all you you can't do it all don't even
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try to do it all and when and when the
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celebrities they they fall short uh oh
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my God people feel entitled to to to
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criticize them and I don't get it
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why why there's also the uncomfortable
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truth that um we are conditioned to
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believe that women's value is tied to
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their personal lives women are often
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valued for their relationships their
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beauty or their family status while men
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are more likely to be valued for their
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achievements careers or contributions to
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the society it's a sexist double
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standard but it's one it's one that has
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been ingrained in us for a very very
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long time and let's not forget about the
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media uh let's not forget that the media
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actually profits of from this Obsession
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drama cells guys drama cells and that's
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and what's more dramatic than raying
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into a few celebrities personal life and
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spining it into a
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scandal tell me tell me I mean people
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have so much time with their hands
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people like gossip people people
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people have so much time on their hands
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magazines it's not even magazines
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anymore those days are gone you're
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talking about social media now we're
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talking about social media we talking
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about these um gossip news you know they
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know you know all all those things the
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stories about female celebrities
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relationships spotties curent decisions
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they will they know that these type of
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um topics they get clicks they get
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clicks you want to know what's what's
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going on with Bianca how she got back um
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her her
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body did she give birth to the twins
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natural or is it a C-section stuff like
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that people are going to click so much
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people are going to click so they they
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keep um making them out they keep making
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these these most most of the stories
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they make them up you know to spice
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things a little bit because they are
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fighting for views they're fighting for
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views they they created this toxic cycle
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where they know that the the more likely
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they focus on women's prison lives the
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more people will engage and when you see
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that something is working for you that's
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when you you start to spice things up
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and start kind of telling lies and now
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that's what makes the media today to be
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to be so bad I remember and I I
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I did my research I was studying and I
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came across a long time ago the news was
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expensive because it was truthful it was
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expensive not only the news but
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information was expensive information
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was expensive but now it's everywhere
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anyone can say anything about anyone
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anytime any day but here's the thing
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this Obsession isn't just damaging to
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celebrities themselves it's damaging to
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all of us when we constantly judge
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female celebrities for their personal
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choices we reinforce harmful stereotypes
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and expectations for women in general
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you know so do you see it's not only
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about female celebrities no it's now for
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all females we are sending the message
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that A Woman's Worth is tied to her
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relationship status her body and her
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ability to be um a good mother and and
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that's that's that's not true guys
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that's not true this is not true this
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obsession with perfection and scrutiny
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affects how we view ourselves as women
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we see these celebrities being torn
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apart for not living up to the um
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impossible standards and in and we
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internalize that we internalize that so
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much we start believing that if we don't
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have the per body the perfect
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relationships or the perfect family then
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we've somehow failed then we somehow
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failed it's toxic and it's so
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unnecessary it's not good people are not
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being in relationships and they compare
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what they see on the feeds with what's
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happening in real life and that's so
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unfair it's all unfair I think it's time
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to stop it's time to stop stop expecting
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female celebrities to be perfect stop
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obsessing over their personal lives as
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if they owe us an explanation for every
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decision they make they don't we need to
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stop feeding into the narrative that A
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Woman's Worth is tied to her body her
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relationship or her role as a mother
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because it's not it's not it's not guys
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women celebrity or not are more than
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their personal choices and let's start
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calling out the double standards the
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next time the media fixates on a female
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celebrity relationship or body ask
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yourself would they be doing this if it
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was a man ask yourself that question and
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if the answer is no then it's time to
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push back we don't need to engage with
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this type of content anymore we can't
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keep um feeding this because the more we
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we we give it attention the more it
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grows the more it grows the more it
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becomes toxic not only for The Watcher
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but also for the person who's actually
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experiencing their real life
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situation we don't need to contribute to
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the endless cycle of judgment scrutiny
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and even cyber bullying we don't need to
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do all that and at the end of the day um
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female celebrities are just people they
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are just people people who are allowed
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to make mistakes have messy personal
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lives and not live up to society's
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ridiculous standards of perfection they
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are not here to play um I don't know Mis
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Perfection they are not here to to be
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role models and they are certainly not
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here to be scrutinized for every choice
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they make I'm going to keep repeating
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that we need to we need to let them live
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their lives we need to let them live
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their lives just like we let male
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celebrities live their lives I mean
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there's so many male celebrities I could
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mention um who've dated with so many
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women in the industry but you won't know
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but you'll know how many girlfriends um
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how many boyfriends in the music
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industry Taylor Swift has dated Rihanna
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has dated all of these things all of
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these things but with when when it comes
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to a man when it comes to a man you even
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be shocked to know that um Jay-Z has
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some access here the music industry you
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are still still famous today but you
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won't know that because people are not
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so obsessed with male males uh personal
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lives here in the celebrity
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industry so yeah man um we need to
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learn to to push back we need to let
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them live their lives just like the
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males do without the
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Conant the constant pleasure and
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judgment scrutiny criticism all of these
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things so why are we so obsessed with
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female celebrities lives but not men's
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maybe it's time we we ask ourselves why
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are we so comfortable with this double
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standage and more importantly why do we
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continue to let it
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slide and that's it for today my
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beautiful people I am so happy I just
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said everything that I want to say it I
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just I just wanted to clear you know I
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just wanted to clear my head I just
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wanted to to to ask this question and
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please if you have the answer say
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something there on the comment section
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talk to us um what do you think what
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could be done how are you contributing
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to the society when it comes to this
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matter are you one of the people who are
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obsessing or are you one of the people
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who are like no man just leave them
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women they also need to rest stuff like
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that just tell me everything on the
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comment section and once again thank you
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so much people for watching and
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listening to me speak and until next
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time bye and toodles
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