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so just wanted to share something that I
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uh just really maybe think um a friend
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of mine my predecessor at my current job
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uh he retired he was back for another
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employees retirement party and he was
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talking and I asked him you know how's
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retirement going and um he said it's
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good you know he was golfing a lot and
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so he's worried in the winter he
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golf well the one thing he said that uh
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I really took away and wanted to share
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was he was so much less stressful like
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his um his blood pressure dropped
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something like eight points since he
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retired which was in the middle of the
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July and so this was only six months
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later but he was like the biggest part
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of that was there was so much less
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said it wasn't it wasn't because of like
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expectations that he thought others were
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him but he realized like it it wasn't
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those expectations they were
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expectations he was putting on himself
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that other people didn't have for him
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that were causing him stress so these
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make believe expectations were causing
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him stress and raising his blood
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pressure like like physically causing
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him stress and I I was just uh
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so I just saw that in my own life and um
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I I I realized you know thinking back
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like I've struggled with that for a long
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time I I tell myself these things these
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levels of performance I need to have
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these things I need to be
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doing and I stress out when I don't
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achieve those things because I think
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other people are going to be judging me
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but they're not cuz those aren't their
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expectations you're telling yourself
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they are but they're not really there um
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so just something to sh share and and
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think about everybody don't don't put
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fake expectations on yourself don't
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stress yourself out because then when
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you're stressed out you're going to have
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less tolerance for other people uh less
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threshold to be able to deal with things
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less uh ability to serve your family to
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serve your wife to serve your friends to
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serve your community all because you're
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telling yourself stories so don't do
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that to yourself love yourself I love
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you guys see you later
