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My disability is a C1C2 spinal cord injury incomplete
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Incomplete means that I gained some movement back. A doctor that used forceps when he was delivering me
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that's what broke my spine. My right side is a lot stronger than my left side
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but I'm able to just do as much as I can. Now she's about to be mother
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Some of the comments, I find them nasty. Pretty irresponsible to have a baby when you're crippled
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She needs help, but we're gonna do whatever it takes. I'm just excited just in general just to have a baby
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I just can't wait to keep growing as a family. Jim, can you come help me? Sure
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Open it and then we can put them in. Thank you. My disability is a C1C2 spinal cord injury incomplete
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So that means the very top of the spine that kind of connects to the neck
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Incomplete means that like I gained some movement back, feeling some of my diaphragm back My right side is a lot stronger than my left side but I able to just do as much as I can It occurred because of a doctor that used forceps when he was delivering
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me. That's what broke my spine, unfortunately. Jimmy helps me a lot mentally, physically
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The great thing about Alyssa is she's very independent. She's able to use the restroom
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on her own. I work full-time, and so she's home on her own when I'm at work
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So I just have to help her in the morning with getting ready, getting out of bed, help her get dressed really fast
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Especially right now. Yeah. She was an amazing girlfriend, a fiance, a new wife, and now she's about to be a mother
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I'm just excited just in general just to have a baby. My Instagram has helped me meet other people that have similar disabilities, other disabilities, just anyone
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Also, mom's now following me because they want to see my journey of what's going to happen
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how the baby is going Some of the comments that I have I read them and I find them nasty There was one recently that said
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pretty irresponsible to have a baby when you're crippled. First, I don't even like the word crippled
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Second of all, it's not even irresponsible. It's just me being a parent soon
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And I mean, it's irresponsible to have a baby when you're doing other things you shouldn't be doing
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That's what gets me just because I'm in a chair. I just laugh it off and then I block it
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I don't let it affect me. Just the fact that we'll be two parents
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attentive parents, good parents, like you can't judge based off her physical limitations
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No matter what, we're going to love the child, so we're going to do whatever it takes to care for it
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Like obviously if she needs help, we're going to find a way to do it. You can't. It's just
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You're not just going to be like, oh, she can't get him out of the crib or whatever. I guess we'll just leave him in the crib
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and let him keep crying. Yeah, it's just. Like, what do they think we're gonna do? Like just ignore the child Like oh I forgot the baby needs to be fed There a lot of assumptions that I think I get Not even me just people in general with disabilities They either not capable of doing anything
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They sit at home and mope and just, like, feel sorry for themselves
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They're not able to fall in love. They can't find someone. What I say to people who are judging are just, like, shove it
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I don't take judgment to heart. Like, I just laugh sometimes because it's like, you're just going to sit there and judge
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But why does that make you feel any better? I'm very grateful for Alyssa, just the fact that I met her and got to experience like these things I would never would have experienced
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And I just can't wait to keep growing as a family together. Thank you
