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CAIT is a model, fashion blogger and student who lives in the UK. She was born with achondroplasia, a rare form of dwarfism, and is just 3ft 8" tall. She has been with Guy, a Marine engineer and a motorbike racer, for just over a year. Guy initially approached her last year after coming across her modelling profile. He instantly thought she was "beautiful" and "wanted to try to date her". He sent her a friend request on Facebook, and she eventually saw it nine weeks later and messaged him. They went on a first date, and their romance blossomed from there. However, some of Cait's friends and family questioned Guy's intentions. "There is this narrative that people like me could not get a guy like Guy," Cait explained. Cait's parents even researched his Facebook ahead of meeting him for the first time. "My parents were very unsure," Cait said. "It's easy to pretend to be something that you are not [online]," However, after meeting Guy for the first time their minds were changed: "We had a very good, positive feeling after you walked into our house," Jacqueline said.
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I have a contraplasia, which is a form of dwarfism
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Any time I'm out, I will be looking at people's phones to see if they're pointing towards me
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I come across her modelling profile. I'm like, wow, she's beautiful. I like the look of that
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I want to try and date her. There you are, beautiful. OK, just throw yourself around a little bit
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Thank you. Sometimes it's the first time I've ever seen a little person, especially a beautiful little person
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And people will follow you, and they will stalk you, and they will try and touch you. It's almost, like, quite suffocating and horrendous, really
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When you first like said I met somebody online on Facebook what did you really really think
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Worried. I think it's easy to pretend you're something you're not. I've been a content creator for about four or five years now and we thought moving over to like
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would help bring in an income and it's not like I do the typical nudity or anything like that
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at it's just what i do on instagram but people pay for it hi i'm kate i'm 22 and i'm a model
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fashion blogger and shouldn't i have a contraplasia which is a form of dwarfism
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there is a lot of people who f***ing hate dwarfism obviously as it's quite different and
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the two percent of my following that will comment and i've got to be so careful to
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not interact with it but at the same time if i do not i'll lose a following on
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Guy is actually the one who suggested it You ready Kate? Yeah just come in
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I'm Guy I'm 32 I'm a marine engineer but I'm also a motorcycle racer
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Let me know if it shows too much You are a beautiful small girl
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and it was like you are quite different and you've got a unique selling point there There's potential there Ready
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We looked at and we saw how much people were earning and we thought why not
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Right, there you are, beautiful. Okay, just throw yourself around a little bit. That was it. Yeah
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Oh, they're good. Yeah? Yeah, I like those. I think that one of my favourite shoots we done so far actually Like the confidence is there Yeah you look a beautiful lady there Thank you I like it that you see yourself as a proper lady You know you like dressing up
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Everyone has all their likes. I do prefer like smaller women. I don't think I'd get one as small as Kate
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You know, maybe four foot six or something. But yeah, I like to do things by extremes
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So this was Kate's first which is not as easy to do as it sounds
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Trying to find a basketball course that fits her is very difficult. But I worked out that you could get old lady pop socks
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which just happened to be the right size for Kate's feet. So that is, when I found that, I was like, yes, we've got something here
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There's always sort of a way through everything as a little person
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Guys, how did you first meet Kate? So I was working in the south of France in a shipyard for a yacht
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And I was in my bunk just scrolling through social media. And I came across her modelling profile
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I was like, wow, she's beautiful. I like the look of that. I want to try and date her
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And I sent you a friend request and you accept the request eventually after like nine weeks
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I thought it would be silly not to message him. He's very attractive
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His profile picture at the time was him on a yacht, no top on
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I looked at his profile four times to know he had a good history. So I was like, yeah, why not
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We went on a date in Bristol and I stayed over overnight
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So then it sort of just spiraled out of control from there. Some of my friends were worried a guy was like exploiting me
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in some way or another. No way, he seems too good to be true. This photo on this yacht
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they didn't believe me at all. They were quite concerned that he was like a Tinder Swindler
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on Facebook. And because you're disabled, I think that some of them
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thought that they were better than you. Yeah. And it's not, you are a beautiful young woman. It's quite an obvious reason
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why I was messing with you. Yeah, there was definitely a lot of judgment on that end
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Out of protectiveness, of course, but it's still a form of judgment. Yeah
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There is this narrative that people like me he could not get a guy like Guy
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So it was bizarre for everybody. You got me pretty quickly. Yeah, over nine months I'd given you everything I offered. Yeah
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The cottage the dog the limobee Over nine months I think Guy is probably my first love She taken me seriously You done everything It ticked all my boxes
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Whereas previously, my first long-term relationship didn't end that well. You're okay for going
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Come on, boy. Get on. Good. We're on display, and sometimes I'll have to stand up for you
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and you get unusual people staring or taking pictures or following and if you're going to date someone
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you've got to be, okay, that's going to happen and sometimes you're going to have to tell someone to step back a bit
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So any time I'm out I will be looking at people's phones
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to see if they're pointing towards me. It makes you really paranoid
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It's horrible and it makes you feel like an animal. Yeah, it's almost like quite suffocating and horrendous really
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when I'm just trying to do something normal. But I have told people off before
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have you been stalked and followed? Yeah, like he's very protective and he will just go up
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No sort of qualms about it. It's, yeah, it's quite nice to have somebody be that protective
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I've always tried to give Kate the confidence to dress nicely and sexy in nice tight dresses and to dress up properly like you want to dress up
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which can attract people who are just blown away when they see her
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And people will follow you and they will stalk you and they will try and touch you. Oh, thank you
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Sometimes it's the first time I've ever seen a little person, especially a beautiful little person. It's not just that you're small, you're small and you're beautiful
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I think that's why the **** is so successful. My mum, bless her, she hasn't treated me any differently to my brother
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But I know there is that extra layer of wanting to protect me
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Hello. Hello, good afternoon. How are you? Well. Yeah, mum, how are you
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Good darling. My parents were very unsure. So when you first heard I met somebody online on Facebook
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What did you really, really think? Be honest. Worried. Yeah? Why so
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We were concerned about his online relationship meetings or not being able to judge a person via text or you know Profile picture I think it easy to pretend you something you not Obviously before they met him they had the doubts They were very wary
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They had, like, researched his Facebook. They wanted to know. They researched my Facebook
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Yeah, you knew they did. It wasn't about ten years ago, so we'd drink. They probably did
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My mum loves a good Facebook sort. Yeah, some interesting stuff there
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Hello, family. Hello, guys. Hello, guys. So what were your main concerns when you found out that a random seafarer had contacted her out the blue on Facebook
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That she was going to disappear out to sea somewhere. I've got a little bit of trust in you and what you do, but it might have been an okay thing
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Which, luckily enough, it turned out to be an okay thing. You just seemed like the boy next door
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Yes, we had a good positive feeling very soon after you walked into our house
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All right, thank you so much for your input. We love you. Love you very much
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Love you too. Bye. Thank you. Yeah. So how do you feel that went
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Considering it was your father, pretty well. Yeah. Yeah, it was more important than with an average height person for them to know I was OK
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and I was quite keen to come down and meet them as soon as possible so they knew I was genuine. You've changed my life because you made me realise
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that I could have a romantic relationship and be in love with somebody. I did not expect the fall in love at all
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And it just happened. It was like a fairytale story, wasn't it, really? I think you've helped me, sort of, life-wise
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I feel like I could be a woman. You've really built my confidence
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Good. Thank you. Life's chaotic, but I wouldn't have it any other way
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And please don't change. I'm a bit emotional that was true you say that
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you're lucky I mean no no no I can't believe I'm lucky I am that I've met you