AVON and London met on Facebook a year ago. He told Love Don't Judge, "She popped up on my friend requests, and I was like, wait, this girl is pretty. I honestly thought she was too pretty for me." The pair began chatting and would FaceTime throughout the day. London said, "We'd eat on the phone, we would shower while we were on the phone. We talked so much on the phone to the point we had to start Googling questions to ask each other." They met a month later, when London travelled from Pittsburgh to New York to meet Avon. He asked her to be his girlfriend, and they were long-distance until they decided to live together in an apartment in New York. The couple have gone viral online, with many people not realising that they are both transgender. But once they opened up about their transitions, they were hit with a barrage of hate, with people questioning their sexualities. Avon explained, "People always say, why did you guys transition? Why didn't you just stay the way you were before and just start dating?" London said, "I didn't know him before. Nor did Avon know who I was. We just crossed paths, and everything just happened. [Transitioning] is a gender identity, not a sexuality. And that's what we're trying to get people to understand. People, when they see trans, they sexualise us."
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I'm London. This is my partner, Avon
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People judge us because we're both trans. People always say like, oh, why did you guys transition
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Why didn't you just stay the way you were before and just start dating
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Somebody said, wait, huh? He's a she and she's a he. So what's the point really
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They come in my DMs. You think the beard makes you more the man than me
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Those is a straight couple. We're laughing emoji. Lord, you have to act for birth certificates now
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why y'all didn't keep the same just to be together. So who's doing the bending
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I'm Avon, and this is my partner London, and we're both trans
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She popped up on my Facebook on friend requests, and I was like, wait, this girl's really pretty
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I honestly thought she was too pretty for me. And then she texted me, and then from there
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we started talking. Once I see him, I'm like, this man is handsome
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Ain't you trans and you look like that? You got a whole beard. and you had like a fresh haircut
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And I was just like, wow. Before we met, we would FaceTime every day
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We would sleep on the phone, we would eat on the phone, we would shower while we were on the phone. It was like, we talked so much on the phone
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to the point we literally had to start Googling questions to ask each other. We just like bonded over being long distance
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I just felt like my dating history was just like trash. I just knew my next person was not in Pittsburgh
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where I'm from. And the crazy thing is my first time coming to New York was last year in January
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And once I left New York, then I seen his post. We just tried to make it a thing where I came out here every month
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And then I would come out here for, what, four days every time? Like three, four days
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Every single time she would come to visit me, she'd miss her flight. When it was time to leave, I was just like, you know what, why not just move here
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And we just decided to move this to this apartment together. And we've been here ever since
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Nobody ever knows we're trans. Sometimes even trans people don't even know we're trans
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Like, you really only know we're trans because we posted on social media
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Our first official picture together was on my Instagram I became his girlfriend February 24th The first picture was posted February 25th Because I wanted everybody to know he was mine We went viral again We did like this video but nobody knew we were trans
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It has like 20 million views on TikTok. Our whole plan was to not even mention we were trans
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until we already gained like a bunch of following. But us saying we're trans, it'll make us go even more viral
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If it's going to grab your attention and make all eyes on us, why not? Hey, what's up
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What's up? We just get a bunch of positive stuff. We only get the negative when we go viral
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So like the comments that we usually get, like for example, like this one has 2,000 likes on this comment
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They'd be like, so is this a straight couple? We're laughing emojis. And then this other one is, I'm not even trying to be funny
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but why y'all didn't keep the same s*** just to be together? People just wonder why we didn't just stay the same gender
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And then this one would be like, Lord, you have to ask for birth certificates now
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And then I be having, like, a lot of men comment because they don't have a beard and I do
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And they come in my DM, like, do you think the beard makes you more than men than me
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The women, most of them is just like, wow, we got to be careful out here. You know, we can't tell nowadays
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This is enough internet for today. Who's doing the bending? So, yeah, straight, just backwards
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The **** my team. Somebody said, wait, huh? He's a she and she's a he
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So, what's the point, really? Oh, why did you turn into a woman to date a woman
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And why did you turn into a man to date a man? And it's just like, if you see a man and you see a woman
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then clearly we're not gay because we're not the same gender we used to be. People always say like, oh, why did you guys transition
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Why didn't you just stay the way you were before and just start dating
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I didn't know him before. Nor did Avon know who I was. Nor was Avon even thinking about me
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Because before, I was focused on dating heterosexual straight men. and he was focused on dating straight biologically born females
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So it was like we didn't know about each other, we just crossed paths and everything just happened
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It exhausting trying to explain because I just feel like people choose to be so ignorant People just like making it the strand They see it and then they want to add on to it As far as the judgment sometimes I just cry about stuff
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because, like, I mean, I'm human. But, like, for the most part, I don't care. I'm going to live in a moment and enjoy my life
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or I'm not going to give up. People defend us. There's a comment that says, I think it's where y'all in the comments
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asking about private parts and etc. Why is that anybody's business? Somebody said, I'm going to hold your hand when I say this
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Someone doesn't become trans because they want to date a gender. They're trans simply because they want to change their own gender
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Somebody was like, being trans and sexual orientation into different things, who they like has nothing to do with it
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Exactly. It's a gender identity, not a sexuality. And that's what we're trying to get people to understand
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Like, people, when they see trans, they just sexualize us. The crazy thing is, y'all be so worried about sexual stuff
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and me and him didn't even have a conversation about nothing sexual until we were already, like, in a relationship
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because we were focused on each other and getting to know each other. It's just weird, especially when we go viral
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most of the comments are really about our genitalia, and it's really annoying
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My style before I transitioned, I was, like, scared to wear skirts or scared to wear shorts
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For a long time, I would wear, like, shorts that were, like, almost to my knees
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But then, once I transitioned and got comfortable, I'm, like, girly. Like, I love girly things
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I love pink. We like to coordinate outfits because we like to take pictures
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I just like that she's fun with it. She's not basic like me. She makes me want to step out
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I like her fun style. Thanks. You like mine? Basic style. Yeah, I love my grandpa
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So, I'm actually thinking about showing you some pictures from before. I've been transitioning physically like 10 years
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I started hormones in 2019, but as far as like transitioning, I was already identifying as a female
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Like all my teachers in school and high school was calling me she and stuff
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I have this picture from, I want to say I was in like fifth grade
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I used to have piercings when I was young and I had piercings
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And I have a picture of me when I was I think I want to say a freshman in high school It like kind of proof that I always just been this way The proof is in the pudding that this is just my walk of life And then I have a picture of me when I got my breast augmentation
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Crazy how far you've come. Yeah, because I used to like dream of wearing weave and dream of being a girl and being able to like wear what I want
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I was always tomboyish my whole life, always. Nematically, I started in 2019
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I tried to be a little feminine for my mom. I would go to the salon and get all this stuff done
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One of the last pictures I took before I stopped, a dressing feminine
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As you can see, just by the pose, I tried to be girly, I couldn't
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It was horrible. And as you can see, this was after I started transitioning
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I started getting facial hair. And here, 2020, this was literally, maybe like seven months after I tried transitioning
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I cut all my hair off. and I got waves. I just wanted to feel more masculine
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I feel like he was always, like, masculine. So, like, when I see his old pictures
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he was always attractive. Either way, he looked good. I feel like before I transitioned, I was pretending
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and now I'm just, like, being myself. So, like, I don't really recall this person
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because I just feel like it was just, like, an act. The way London changed my life for the better
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is she has helped me find the confidence in me that I didn't see in me before
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And also, she makes me feel like there's low limits. I can do whatever I want in this world
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And I feel like he's made me see myself for who I am. I'm a lot happier with him and a lot more at peace with life
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He's in my life 100% peaceful. We're going to be ourselves whether people like it or not
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So it's just like, it don't matter what anybody says, we're still going to be together
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We're still going to be trans. It's just like, we're happy. And if us being happy bothers you so much
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then there's a lot of self-reflecting to do
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