6 Fathers Who Gave Birth To Their Own Children | MY EXTRAORDINARY FAMILY

I'm a seahorse dad, and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby

I was a baby in my daddy's tummy. I gave birth to both my daughters

I was a pregnant dad with twins at 19. What makes daddy special? Having a baby in your daddy

My husband gave birth to our children. My pregnancy experiences were perfect

It just didn't like being judged. I'm fulfilling my dreams in becoming a pregnant dad

My husband gave birth to our baby. I grow high. We're poly. I ended up pregnant with a partner

The reaction had got a lot of backlash. I'm depriving them of having a mother

My pregnant belly was AI and that my baby was a reborn doll. It's going to be trans or he's going to be gay

You're confusing your child. Our child should be taken away from us. Males cannot have children. I feel so sorry for this child

But we're fathers. The typical day for Z and I, he typically doesn't wake up to about 12 o'clock

So I usually just get up. I'll watch a couple shows or whatnot, and then I get them up

And then we'll do our content curating, making videos, going live. My name is Tanias Posey

I am 31. I am a full-time content creator. My son's name is Tanias, and he is currently 11 months to date

I'm a seahorse dad, and I get hate for breastfeeding my baby

A seahorse dad is, we utilize that within the trans community because the seahorse, the dad carries the baby

And within the trans community, the father carries the baby. So hence the reason as to why we utilize the seahorse dad hashtag, just because we're fathers

From a kid on up, it's always been something off. As to what it was, I never knew exactly what it was

I've been medically transitioning about six years. and I didn't really know anything about transitioning until I came across a co-worker

first trans individual. I always knew something was off, but I didn't know exactly what it was

until we were on break or whatnot, and just so much of him clicked

So, I mean, we had communicated for quite some time or whatnot

and then I looked into it myself, and it just went from there. I finally found myself

Once I began my transition, I felt a hole. Even though I went through the whole transition or whatnot

I honestly felt as if me having a child was out of the window because, I mean, a lot of doctors say that you can't carry

you've got to freeze your eggs. So me carrying a child, no, I did not see that coming at all

So when I found that I was pregnant, I was actually going in thinking I had COVID. And then we went to the hospital or whatever

because I was sick for, like, a couple days. Went in thinking I had COVID and then, hey, you're three months

I had gotten pregnant on testosterone. So mind you, I went three months of my pregnancy, found out I was pregnant

I had to cut off testosterone cold turkey, which was hell. It was cold turkey

I couldn't be on it. It was definitely one hell of a roller coaster. I did not want to breastfeed him at all

But when it came to me getting further along into the pregnancy or whatever

I was kind of against the whole formula. I mean, we know best. Fed is best

And I just wanted a good head start when it came to my son or whatever

So I'm like, screw it. I think what got me was I was worried about what society had to say about me feeding

The reason why I began to start sharing my chest feeding journey

because you don't see any trans men on there, even nursing or whatever

And there's a lot that want to. I was just scrolling on TikTok or whatever. And I didn't really see trans of color really just sharing being pregnant or whatnot

I started from filming the whole breastfeeding journey or whatever to normalize it

The reaction that I'd gotten behind the whole breastfeeding video, men don't nurse their babies, he's going to live a corrupt life because he's feeding off of a man

A lot of the comments came from trans individuals within their own community

a lot of them you are you're not trans enough because you carry your baby you're not trans

enough because now you're nursing your baby you're making the rest of us look bad another

comment that's always said on my video you do not belong on earth men don't carry babies

go ahead and go back to where you came from it's said all the time the worst thing said about me

breastfeeding my child is that one day he'll end up dying because i'm pumping too much testosterone

thrown into his body. It got a lot of backlash. It got the best of me real bad, but I'm like

maybe if I were to continue sharing it, it might be able to help the next individual

There's plenty of us that are out and proud about it and carrying kids, but

you've got to stop living under a rock and realize that it's okay

Why do you feel that you should be able to breastfeed your child as a man

I've got the parts to be able to. I mean, just because I transitioned does not mean

I stripped myself from wanting to give my child the nutrients and a good little head start or whatnot

I mean, I've got it. Why not utilize what I've got? Is it easy

No, not at all. All right, cool. I'll lose my hand for this new text

We are getting ready to go to the park to meet up with Felicia

Or it's right down the road, not too, too far. Hey, how goes it

Hey. How you guys doing today? Hi, pumpkin. What's to me other

He's hot. I know it is warm out. He's so hot. I feel like the hate that Tanias receives is ridiculous

I feel like people should mind their business when it comes to certain things

because at the end, the child's happiness and safety should be number one

Tonight should be able to breastfeed in public because the baby gets hungry in public

It's something that every other person needs to do. It's not like it's hurting anybody else

I feel like I should breastfeed, breastfeed, whatever, in public just because my child has to eat

I mean, I can't just sit there and starve him because then this child neglect if I were to go without feeding him

And then that's going to be the next issue is he's not being fed. So, I mean, he's got to eat. He doesn't take a bottle

So, I mean, I got to feed him. It's the dimples for me

A couple days ago, somebody had said he's going to resent me as he gets older

Once he finds out who and that I carried my baby and he's going to be so confused or whatnot

because he doesn't have a mom and a dad. That's weird to me because like half these kids don't grow up with both their parents anyway

And what makes a difference as long as you love your baby as much as you possibly can

My response to the haters is that we got to stop living under a rock We got to open up our eyes and realize that there way more than one way to live There are trans individuals

There are same-sex households. They are all different. And if they were to take that into consideration, there'd probably be a lot less bullying

And the suicide rate would go down because we're not living as just one way

my advice to any other trans individual that is carrying a child or wanting to carry a child

it is okay we've got the parts to be able to it does not make us any less of a man

we are still a man regardless of how society feels about us utilize parts you got to carry a child

You really want pancakes. I don't have any pancakes mixed. I have waffles

You want waffles? My name is Kaden Coleman. I'm a father of two

My daughters are Azealia, who's 10, and Journey, who is three, almost four

Take two out. These are cold. Yeah. Who is that behind you

I found out I was pregnant with Azalea in September of 2013 when I was five and a half

months pregnant. I was shocked. I was taken aback. I was unprepared, but I was also really

excited. I found out I was pregnant with Journey in January of 2020, and I was about seven weeks

pregnant at that point. And then can you put two more in there for a sister? Well, Azalea

who's a better cook, you or your dad? Dad? Yes. I can't cook

My pregnancy with Azalea was insane. I went from not knowing I was pregnant at all

to finding out I was pregnant and then being, like, super pregnant. But I was thrown into trying to, like, figure out pregnancy

My pregnancy journeys were similar in the sense that they were both surprises

and also in the aspect that I had to navigate medical spaces

and deal with a lot of, like, transphobia within maternal spaces. I'm going to show y'all my shoe collection and my closet, basically

And apparently my child. I love fashion and different styles of clothes

My personal style is very emotional. And what I mean by that is my style changes based on how I'm feeling

When did you know you were trans? I think I was around 19 when I knew that I was transgender

I found the verbiage for it in like 2006, 2007. Before I transitioned, I felt kind of out of alignment with myself

Has your style evolved throughout your transition journey? My style has absolutely evolved

I've gotten further in my transition and a lot more comfortable with myself

I find myself really being open to trying new like styles of clothes like you know very

risque things. I'm also very big into body positivity. I don't actually have anything from

when I was pregnant. Honestly during pregnancy being that there aren't maternity clothes for

trans men. I just wore my regular clothes bigger. Well, what are you painting? What are you drawing

I'm painting a slug. A slug? Yeah. What are you drawing, a flower

Azalea and Journey are characters. We have to face that the world kind of sucks, and especially

for black women, which they are. But they are outspoken, confident, intelligent beings

that I am super proud of. How would you describe your dad

My dad is bald, but he has style. He knows how to do my hair

He's fun. What does transgender mean? Like definition wise? Yeah, kind of like

How would you describe it? I would describe it as a person changing themselves the way they want

Or expressing how they feel. So how did your dad explain to you that he is transgender

I don't know how he did it. I can't remember. But he just started explaining it and then he never stopped

He never did. He's going to keep going. Yeah, I've been telling her that I was trans without necessarily using the word trans since she was able to understand words, which is probably why she doesn't remember like an exact moment

It was never like a sit down. I know a lot of people are like, oh, my God, that must be so confusing

But I'm also at the same time showing them pictures of myself when I was a kid

And I'd be like, Daddy used to be a girl like you. And as they get older, they start asking questions like Azalea started asking, you know, why didn't you want to be a girl

And I'd be like, well, did you want to be a boy? Do you want to be a boy? And she'd be like, no. And I'd be like, in that same aspect, I didn't feel comfortable being a girl

And it's just like, oh, OK, I get it. Hey, y'all, use this post

And in the comments, I will be answering a few questions. All right, let's go

Okay, the question is, would you have more children via surrogate, adoption, or fostering

No, I will not be having any more kids via surrogate, adoption, fostering

No. Do your kids have someone they call mom? This is a question I get often

They don't have anybody that they call mom, as in mother, but they definitely have motherly

figures in their life. I decided to share my story on social media when I was pregnant with Azalea

I took like five more pregnancy tests because I just didn't believe it

And I was five and a half months pregnant because I hadn't seen any representation of black trans men who gave birth

I decided to do a weekly pregnancy struggle segment. I'm literally attached to a thousand different things right now

It is mostly educational and a lot of storytelling. And I also educate via clapbacks, which people tend to love

I've experienced a ton of negativity since sharing my story. I've had someone tell me that they were literally going to call CPS on me

I'll get a lot of, oh, those poor kids. I feel so sorry for them

Them saying that my kids are going to grow up confused, that I'm depriving them of having a mother

Just yesterday somebody said they hoped that my plane crashes when I was getting on a flight And I also been told that I am an abomination a demon

The list goes on and on. I get negative comments literally daily

I take everything with a grain of salt until it comes to my kids. I think me being trans, people just think that I'm automatically bad for my kids

and that CPS will come and take them, which is false. I think there's a lack of education about being transgender because for so long, the entire LGBTQIA plus community had been suppressed

My online community, they have rallied behind me in ways that it still to this day shocks me how they've shown up for me

The message I would like to give to other transgender parents is that you're deserving. You're deserving of a family

I hope to teach my children that it's OK to be yourself

in the face of adversity and that the most important love that they will ever experience is their own

I just want my kids to be happy. Thank you for watching. Bye

Can I have a plate, ma'am? No. Okay, thanks. My name is Aiden

I was assigned female at birth. I was pregnant at 19 with twins

and I just gave birth to another baby. This is Quinn. This is Carter

We've got Claire, his mom, and we have baby Cove. She's having a good nap

I would describe my family as any typical family were just like everyone else

Who is this? She's your baby what? You're a great big sister, aren't you

Quinn's kind of shy. Carter is very outgoing. She's Miss Personality. And Cove is just the perfect balance

between the two of them. She's a very easy baby. Say good morning. Before my transition, I just felt very lost

Growing up, we didn't really talk about gender It wasn't something that we ever discussed in our family

But when I found out you could be transgender, I felt like I fit in that box

How old were you when you first came out to your parents? I was 16. The initial reaction was not good

Just wasn't having it. I was 18 when I first started hormone treatment. They were not on board with that at all

And I think that made it real for them. I think they were hoping it was a phase. I realized I wanted to have children early on

I knew that. I got pregnant with the twins doing IUI, which stands for interuterine insemination

I didn't know I was having two babies. It was very scary and overwhelming at first because I was young and I could barely keep myself alive

And then I was suddenly responsible for not one, but two babies. Do you like to go to Pride, girls

Yes, go again. Yes, go again. Pride is super important in our family

It's full of love and we want our kids to know that they're loved no matter what

What makes Daddy special? Yes, that's true. Were you in daddy's belly or were you in mommy's belly

We don't really believe in gender specific toys. We kind of just let them gravitate towards

whatever their interests are in. Did he get burned in battle? Yeah, we lost his sword. He lost his

Sword? Oh yeah. Even with clothes. Like Quinn. Quinn has boxers. Quinn literally has boxers

Oh, he's gonna have a big load. Uh-oh. It's too heavy. Oh

My turn! I met Claire. We were working at Starbucks together. We kind of just became friends at first

and our relationship just took off from there. Okay. Come on. We're gonna pick out Coven outfit

How did the twins react to her joining the family? The twins reacted really well to Claire

I was very open and honest from the beginning about wanting to have another baby. When we got closer to the two-year mark, we decided to discuss what it would take

and how adding another baby would fit into our family. The twins were about to turn four, and we decided, let's just go ahead and do it

You like that one? Okay, that's a good choice. What do you like, Quinny? This

I think it's a little bit too cold for that one, but it is very pretty

When you became pregnant with Code, how did you explain your pregnancy to the twins

They just reacted completely normal. They just think that daddy is daddy and daddy can have babies

Does it make you happy? Do you love baby Tizzy? Yeah. They were super excited. They were like screaming

you have a baby in your belly? Like it was great. It was awesome. Can you tell me some of your favorite things about being a big sister

I like to play with her and dress her up. I like changing your diaper

Seeing my body become more feminine during the pregnancy was really hard

This time when I had the baby, I had already had my, my breasts removed

So that in and of itself was easier, but I lost my whole beard

It still is not grown back. Even though I opted into having a pregnancy, you know, I still feel how I feel as a person

and watching that version of myself fade away was, was really hard. I originally started posting online about being trans and pregnant when I had the twins

I just woke up. I am five days post. C-section, the postpartum, like, hormone drop

It hit me pretty hard. The reactions, you know, there was a few good ones

We're going to the pool. But 90, 95% of them were bad. I mean, people were saying horrible, awful things

This is an adjustment period, okay? And I'm trying my best out here. At first, it was so upsetting

Now it's, like, funny to me that people go out of their way to be unkind and nasty to me

because I'm just a typical dad. Someone said, who's going to be your kid's dad

Obviously, we're in a typical situation. So, you know, he is the dad and I'm the mom

Someone said, confused generation. When I met Aiden, he was 100% sure this is what he wanted to do

He wanted to have a family. I'm anything but confused. The most commented thing on every single video was that poor baby or those poor kids

And it is the farthest thing from the truth. Our family is just a little different, but we still do all the normal things

Our kids are loved and great, and they have great lives. Positive feedback, people online commenting

this is all they needed to see to let them know that this was possible. I wish I had a dad like you

That's what I'm talking about. I mean, that's the ultimate goal. That's the highest compliment you can get as a parent

My mom's coming over to visit today, and we're going to discuss how my transition made her feel and our relationship today

Hi, baby. Hi. It was, I was very upset when you told me you wanted to transition

I was angry. I didn't understand it. I thought it was made up. And in my mind, I had a vision for your life

No way did you become a transgender. Did that ever fit into my vision It was challenging to me Yeah I was afraid for you It all makes sense Yeah Especially now that I a parent I understand When it comes down to like this is my child And then I realized oh you the same person you always been

Yeah. You know? And I could see that you were happy. And I never want anything more than for my child to be happy

I deeply regret the way I reacted. How did you feel when I told you I was a pregnant dad at 19

Honestly, I was pumped. I was so excited. Your life is beautiful

It's turned out better than I ever could have imagined. I think you are a wonderful father

And I also think that these girls have a really good life

And that's because of you, Ann Claire. But I'm so proud of you. I love you, mama

I love you, too, baby. I'm going to show her why

Is there anything that you'd like to say to other trans dads out there

To other trans dads, we are a team, and I feel like it's important for us to stick together

and be a united front and show people that we're going to continue to be ourselves no matter what

A message I have for people who still choose to judge me is

I feel sorry for you because our family is very happy and very content

and we all love each other very much, and anything you say or do couldn't take that away from us

I'm very excited to see what the future holds for our family. And we're always going to be proud of our kids no matter what

Yeah, they have the freedom to be who they want to be and will always be there for them. I knew I wanted to have kids when I just knew

I just knew. I always wanted to have kids. Do-do. Num-nums. Num-nums

Num-nums. Prophet is one years old. And winter is my problem. My husband gave birth to our children

My pregnancy experiences were perfect. I just didn't like being judged. I didn't think it was possible to conceive naturally

This is the seven-month belly update, seven months. Because I took testosterone for so long

and it took so long to conceive, I thought, I honestly thought, I was like, you know what

It ain't gonna happen. Okay, put it, eat that one in, huh

Eat that one. I was assigned female at birth. I started my transition at a very young age

I would say I knew what I was off back when I was very young, I would say about five, six

Where you going? All right. I was assigned male at birth, and I started my transition

I would say, when I was like 18-ish, 19. My transition journey was easy because I knew, I knew

Hard because the stuff that you have to deal with when you're going through your transition

So as me being born female, then I'm putting this testosterone within my body

but then you also have to deal with the realities of, you have people that judge you because you take them

Friends that leave you because you take them. Family that shun you because you take them

So you gotta deal with it all that. All that comes with the transition. My transition journey, it was good

I loved it, but it was also rocky. You know, when I was transitioning, I was still kind of in school

When I was in home, you know, I was comfortable and stuff. Then in school, it was overwhelming

But for the most part, it's good. He got his word for it

I like that one, too, with his finie pack. You see your little teddy bear on there

Look at that. You want to wear this one? What I love most about being a dad is I can dress him like me

and just teach him things, you know, protect them, teach them. He's like, OK, I'm ready

And a blue crop. OK, let's get dressed. What I love most about being a mom is, honey

well, we all know I do hair, nails, and makeup, so my daughter will stay laid and slayed, honey

Prophet's favorite toy is that stairwell, honey. He be acting like he love to drive

He love his stuffed animals, but for the most part, honey, he love putting stuff in his mouth

Yes, and it's always these. Like, when we come in, these is, like, all over the place

How did you feel when you found out that you were pregnant both times

I was happy, emotionally, but happy. First thing I did was called all of my family

I called everybody. I was ecstatic. Misconceptions they have is that because you're trans you can't have kids

The positive responses was like, congratulations, good job, you're going to be a great parent

The negatives was basically, why are you having a kid? If you're supposed to be the man, men don't have babies and stuff like that

Going to the OBG and you're a whole pregnant man, sitting around a whole bunch of females

looking at you like, no, it can't be, or why, or is it possible, you're faking

So it's like, it gets bad and very uncomfortable because it's like, you don't want to hide your pregnancy

Well, I'm not going to hide my kids. Definitely stare. People would stare

They would smirk and giggle, and you know, and point and things like that, but they never, you know, said anything

Can I get some shorts on? Yeah. Pregnancy with Profit was a great experience

Towards the end, I had severe preeclampsia. When I had him, it was dramatic

I hemorrhaged, like bad with Profit. I hemorrhaged bad. Here come the storm

I had him 36 weeks. It really scared me. Yeah. Yes, Winter was a surprise

When Prophet turned six months, winter came. We conceived the same time

Say I'm almost done. Say I'm almost done. I was sick with winter

I was hurting with winter. I did have still the pre of the severe preeclampsia

but it wasn't as bad as Prophet. When you have kids, it completely changes you

It matures you, you know, faster. Like you don't want nothing but your relationship

and your family to be healthy and at its best. Come on, Tay-Tay

I honestly think that my transition made my relationship with my parents closer

That moment when we found out that we're going to have a baby over here soon

Oh, I got goosebumps just talking about it. It was beautiful. I was there for Prophet's birth

That was one of the best experiences in my life, in our lives

I enjoy being my uncle. They're like my siblings, to be honest. Sort of kind of aware of some of the things recently

that was shared with me. You're gonna be faced with a lot of different opinions

and judgment and stuff like that in this walk of life. It makes me feel sad for them, you know

but in the same breath, I'm like their big cheerleader. So we find always gonna find a positive

as a family together. Nothing's gonna take away the joy that we have as a family

Would I say we're a close family? Yes, we have family time, we bond, we go through things, cry together, laugh together, argue with each other, very close

How our mama supported us, you know, she's a whole lot of motivation. We do a whole lot of family and bonding time, you know, so she's one of our biggest supporters. First

Things that people have said to me, why are you pregnant? I feel sorry for the baby

The baby needs a new family. I have comments of people saying that Prophet's going to be trans or he's going to be gay

and stuff like that. And I also get, you know, you would never be the mom or your kid is going to grow up

to be crazy. People who made negative comments that said I being parents and being pregnant and or trans

I think that they should keep their opinion to their self and mind their business because our kids is going to be successful because we are

It's all about how you raise your kids, what you show them, how you teach them, and it all starts from home

What I would like to say to other trans people that consider having kids, go for it

It's a beautiful thing. It's a blessing. You know, you're always going to have, you know, negative comments or, you know, hate or people judging you

You know, don't let that phase you. You know, don't take it to heart

You know, keep doing you. What changes would you like to see to support pregnant trans people and their families

Hospital-wise, using the correct pronouns. People to be more open-minded, to be more careful of, you know, the choice of words that they say

Understanding and acceptance, and to educate yourself. What I hope for my family for the future is what we have now

Just, you know, be successful. Definitely good health. Be motivated, strong. Grow up to be something and to keep going

Don't never stop. It's crazy because all my YouTube videos in the beginning of my transition literally happened in this room

I have a little bit of hair right here underneath my chin. And just the look on it now, it's just like, oh, you came so far

It's really a journey. You're learning yourself all over again. My name is Tali Jones, and I'm six months pregnant

Everybody's transition is their own transition. When did you realize that you were transgender

I think I told my grandma about ninth grade or tenth grade

and she just told me, like, hold out maybe to experience, like, relationships

friendships, learning more about the LGBT community, And then once I got old enough to make the decision, if that was what I wanted to do, then I could do it

So then 2020, then I started transitioning to where I'm becoming the person who I always thought I was

This is my voice, one day on T. Feeling her moving, kicking stuff

It keeps me at peace. How's your pregnancy going? I'm kind of over it

Like, not in a bad way, but I think I'm just more so ready for her to come see what she looks like, how she interacts with me

This is my vlog of me trying to conceive. I found a donor through one of my good close friends

We did two inseminations at home. And on the second try, I found out a week before my birthday I was pregnant

And how did you feel when you found out? It was just so emotional because, like, I felt my body changing

I was crying. Like, I think I cried myself to sleep because it's like something that I always wanted

These are so cute. And in the matching sweater. Tell me about finding out about the gender of your baby

I still don't believe she's a girl. I think it's so crazy. Gender-wise or her sexuality, whatever the case may be

like, let her be open to making her own decisions when she's old enough to make those proper decisions

Have you decided if you're nursing or not? Me having my top surgery and they redoing my nipple grafts

I actually can't breastfeed. What are your dreams for your daughter I just want her to grow up and just to be everything she going to be I the dad that says what the next step If she want to be an astronaut I will support it

But I'm not going to the moon with you, baby. I will see you when you get back. How would you describe your pregnancy journey so far

It's been good for the most part. In the beginning, I had a few complications

She's been growing, and she's healthy, and I haven't had any complications since then

It's been very good with the support of the doctors. I haven't had any bad experiences with me going to the doctor

Didn't know I'm transgender and carrying my own child. People stopped me in public, and I don't know them at all

They say congratulations. I really never had any bad scenarios of, like, people stopping me, and it caused a problem

So tell me about, like, your decision to start sharing on social media, on your YouTube channel

This is my belly. seven words. Sharing my transition of my pregnancy on social media, it always been a thing because

it's rare. When you look it up, it's like short videos on transitioning the LGBT community

or it's like the negative things. I want to put a positive view, a positive perspective

on like who we are as humans. What kind of responses have you been getting? The negative

responses is like, why would you wait to transition to have a baby or I'm going to make the baby hate

me and you will never be a dad and the child is going to resent you when they get older

You're confusing your child. You're not going to tell her the truth. I feel like I also document

these videos for me, but also for her to know where she came from or know me before my transition

I almost forgot to take my right amount. I really don't pay attention to the negativity because I

just feel like the opinions, they really don't matter to me. It's not their baby. They're not

raising her. And long as she's filled with the right amount of love, respect, I feel like the

negative would never outweigh the positive. I just wish the society do better with understanding

transgender people as humans. Telling my family it was exciting for me to actually see like

everybody's faces. It was more so shocking because it's really I really didn't tell nobody I was

trying to have a baby until after the fact. I think the first time I told you in January that

I thought I was pregnant. I wasn't pregnant. So then I didn't tell you I was trying again

So when I did. I was mad. Why? I was. Remember I told you I was just

Wrong timing? Yeah, wrong timing. And I just wanted you to be stable, like financially

Like I wanted you to have all your ducks in a row. Now she got everything that she needs

Like you planned it. And you planned on taking care of her as you doing right now

So, yeah. Just waiting on her, basically. Yeah, how did you respond

I was a little shocked. You switched to trans and then you come up and tell me you're pregnant

Later, what? I'm trying to make the connection. But I also know that from our conversations when you was young

I always wanted to carry. I always wanted to carry my baby, whether it was through me transitioning or not transitioning

What's it been like for y'all? See some of the comments on social media. I don't like the negative comments. It's in me to defend you. You strong, but I also know

the real you. And I also know certain some things be hurtful that people say, even though

it doesn't matter because you don't know them. I'm grateful for you don't mind talking about you

That has stopped me from having a lot of arguments with people. You don't mind explaining

and you don't mind educating your process. Your process really has been about education

This one. And then this her heartbeat. We waiting for you girl we waiting for you little girl What kind of a dad do you think he be I think he be a great dad He gonna be a wonder dad

I just know that this is gonna be a good thing for the family. You being good with everybody else's kid. We got to see what you do with your home

I want to give my child a great childhood. She will always have me. I will always be there

My responsibility will always to be take care of her. I want my daughter to experience

She is a person who is wanted, who is loved, and who's really the person who I needed to help me keep going in life

We done with nap time. Hi. My name's Tucker. My name's Dani

Our daughter's name is Maya, and she's four months old. I think we're pretty good parents

We have a lot of fun with her. We've been together for about three years

And married for eight months. We met at work. We were both nurses during COVID

And we met and became friends and got really close. I had really started to develop feelings for her, so I thought, let's give it a shot

Got some happy feet. We decided that we wanted to have kids early on

We originally expected me to carry the baby. I was actually doing fertility testing

I'm a trans man and we were trying to have her get pregnant and expand our family and

then I ended up pregnant with a partner and it was the best thing that ever happened. Yes

Were you polyamorous from the start of your relationship? It was my idea to do it

At the time I identified as asexual I didn't have much of a drive and she is completely

opposite to me. He wanted to make sure I had the freedom to explore all of my options, whether that be with men, women or otherwise

How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? We clearly weren't expecting pregnancy

So I thought I was having like gas issues and she went to go buy me medication

But because we were already trying to get her pregnant, we had a bunch of pregnancy tests

And like in the back of my mind, I was just like, just check, just check

And it came up positive. I walked around the living room for like 20 minutes going

oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. I was thrilled right away. We call her a little gay miracle

Sparkles and all. Sparkles and all. How many of these headbands does Maya have

Do you like coordinating her outfits? Maya has an unknown amount of headbands

but I'm guessing at least 50, would you say? If we hide, they can't see us

I love coordinating her headbands. How have you been able to breastfeed

I found out that there was an induction method that's used for adoptive moms and also can be used with transgender women

I take a medication. These are my portable breast pumps. So I have my pumps in now

They are suctioning. And I can wear them with a shirt on like this

Hi! Through breastfeeding her, lactating, I've been able to find my own role

And I absolutely love it. I like personally that she has a little bit of me in her

I'm able to give her antibodies. I'm able to give her those good, healthy nutrients that are in breast milk

When do you plan to tell Maya about how you gave birth to her? Anytime she asks, we're going to be honest with her in an age-appropriate level

I think that kids can understand any concept as long as you do it on the level educational-wise that they can understand

How will you explain that you're poly with Maya? I think when it's time to explain to Maya that we're poly, it's going to be pretty easy of a conversation

We don't hide our partners. So if those people are important enough to be around in our life, then they're going to know her and she's going to have questions about who they are pretty quickly

So I think just being able like, oh, that's Papa's boyfriend or that's Papa's girlfriend or that's Mama

Like, I think it's going to be an easy explanation. Since they're not living with us, they have their own personal private lives

We don't involve them in Maya's childcare. There you go. When did you decide to start sharing your story on social media We are at 38 weeks now I encouraged him sharing his story at the beginning

Miss Maya. Hey. I did receive judgment for being trans and pregnant

We didn't really have any face-to-face judgment. No. Online was a very different story, though

The worst comment that I think we've gotten would be the ones saying that they're going to come find us and that they're going to hurt Maya because of my status

We get a lot of judgmental comments saying this is wrong in every sense

I don't understand how it's wrong. We're creating a life and giving

It's a very loving and welcoming environment. We've had a bunch of comments saying that our child should be taken away from us, that we aren't fit parents

They know nothing about our home and... Who we are as parents

Who we are as parents, yeah. Why is he pregnant and not her? That's a big one for you

Males cannot have children. I feel so sorry for this child. The world has seriously gone mad

I'm sorry your child will need therapy for the rest of its life. There's a block button for a reason

We're used to the comments. I think people are very misinformed. people think that children can't adjust to a different kind of family unit but they can

I think people's general confusion whether they say it in a very mean judgmental way or a kind way

is why Tucker would want to give birth to a child which they commonly associate with a woman

when he identifies as a man. You know I had to transition for my life when I was younger and

that was for me to be able to live but then having been married and wanting to like grow my family

with you. It didn't matter what womb we used to do that for me. So it wasn't like a man or woman

kind of thing. Like it's really no comment on either gender. It's just the fact that I had the

system that worked and that we could use at the time. And we wanted a family. And we wanted a

family. Hello. Hi. How you doing? Good. My parents have supported me so much. They washed the baby

for us. They've helped Tucker and us during his pregnancy. Hi, Mama. How did you feel when you

found out Tucker was pregnant? Surprised to say the least. When I found out Tucker was pregnant

Danielle had called me and I was expecting to hear that she was pregnant. And then she told me

he was pregnant. And I know I was totally silent on the telephone for a while because I really

didn't know what to say. I was very happy, but I was very worried then. I knew we could handle it

It was not going to be a problem, but you always wonder how other people are going to act

and that was a big concern. It has made me very happy to see just how good they are at

what they're doing. When I had questions about things, like I just kind of go to, I just go to you, and I'm like, hey, should they be doing this yet? Please tell me

Yeah, I've gotten to hear you were right, mom, more than once, which has been really good

They're terrific. There's a lot of love in this family. Boo. Are you excited to have a second grandchild

I'd like to have a second grandchild. I'm really big on Dani getting the whole experience that she gave me

So, yes. We are still going to go back to having Dani try for our second one

We plan on having our next child be a sperm donor, which was our original plan before Tucker got pregnant

I think our family is abnormally normal. Abnormally normal is a great way to put it. I think we have a very unique family setup

But aside from that, we do all the normal things any other family would do. What do you hope for your family for the future

I want to be safe. I just want my daughter to be safe and the world to be a little accepting

less hateful. I can only ask for so much though