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She Cheated After 28 Years Together.12 Years Later, I Finally Know the Truth |Reddit Unheard Stories
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Jun 18, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories She Cheated After 28 Years Together.12 Years Later, I Finally Know the Truth |Reddit Unheard Stories 12 years ago, my perfect life unraveled when my wife of 28 years asked for a divorce. What I didn’t know then was the devastating truth behind her decision. In this emotional Reddit-style story, I open up about the heartbreak, the betrayal, and the slow journey of healing after learning about her infidelity long after our separation. From the highs of raising a beautiful family to the lows of being blindsided by loss, this is a raw, personal, and redemptive look at life after divorce. I share how I rebuilt everything from the ground up—emotionally, physically, and spiritually—and found meaning in unexpected places. If you've ever experienced heartbreak, betrayal, or the struggle to move on, this story will speak to you. 📌 Like, Subscribe & Share if this story moved you. 📧 Comment your own story below or if you relate to this kind of emotional journey.
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hey everyone thanks for tuning in to
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Reddit Unheard Stories you know it's
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been over a decade 12 long years to be
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exact since my whole world got flipped
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upside down emotionally
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looking back now it's wild to see how
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much I've changed not just my life but
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even my outlook it's a story really and
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I want to share it with you my ex-wife
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Elellanar and I we had what felt like a
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storybook marriage we met in college
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fell head over heels and pretty much
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tied the knot right after graduating i
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was the jock played football and
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baseball she was stunningly beautiful
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and incredibly smart we did everything
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together socialized chased hobbies and
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just generally faced life as a team we
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were inseparable if I was at a game
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Elellanar was in the stands cheering
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louder than anyone if she had a big exam
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I was there helping her study making
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sure she had coffee
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it was just us life of course isn't a
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fairy tale without its twists we battled
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through family tragedies losing parents
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siblings things that would break most
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couples but we supported each other
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leaned on each other we had our health
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scares too elellanar even fought cancer
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and I had my own heart condition but
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through it all we were partners truly
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and our love it just kept growing we
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built our careers i went into
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engineering eleanor became a marketing
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executive as we advanced we upgraded our
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homes always staying within the same
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great school district for the kids we
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even splurged on a lakehouse where we
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made a ton of incredible memories with
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our children Alex and Chloe
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we spent summers out on the boat
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celebrated every holiday there had
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bonfires and toasted marshmallows even
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with all the daily chaos of work and
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raising a family we were always planning
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saving for their college and honestly we
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were debt-free in the final years of our
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marriage we had done everything right or
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so I thought our kids Alex and Kloe
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about 2 years apart were just the light
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of our lives their presence brought us
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so much happiness and love alex he was a
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natural athlete just like his old man he
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loved football and especially baseball
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his coaches and I helped him stay on
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track nurturing that talent and he ended
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up getting a baseball scholarship to a
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good university chloe though she was
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more artistic she was a choir star and a
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cheerleader with a beautiful voice even
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when she was really young she had this
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amazing maturity and composure that just
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filled us with pride she was thoughtful
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kind and always seemed to know the right
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thing to say as a dad Kloe had this
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incredibly special bond with me she was
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always daddy's girl we'd have our little
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inside jokes she'd climb into my lap
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even when she was getting too big for it
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but then when she hit her teenage years
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things got a little rocky between us
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she started pulling away spending more
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time with her friends getting moody
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typical teenage stuff no matter what I
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did I just couldn't seem to connect with
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her that was a tough period watching my
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little girl pull away but I knew deep
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down she still loved me
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thankfully that phase didn't last
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forever our relationship slowly mended
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and we got close again we started having
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our talks again those deep conversations
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i'll never forget the immense pride I
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felt watching her get ready to finish
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high school ready to go out and conquer
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the world so our union this fairy tale
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right i tried everything to keep it
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alive i showered Ellaner with affection
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brought her flowers every week planned
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surprise getaways
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i tried new things we could do together
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cooking classes dance lessons even
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pottery i even went to crazy lengths to
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improve my physical appearance hit the
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gym harder bought new clothes hoping it
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would reignite something in her but it
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felt like I was trying to grab smoke the
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harder I tried the more distant she
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became it was subtle at first just a
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little less touch a little less
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conversation but it steadily grew into a
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chasm then that sinking feeling hit me
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she became increasingly distant and
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honestly a sense of dread just washed
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over me
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when she finally said she wanted a
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divorce my world just crumbled
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how was this happening what went wrong
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the shock the confusion
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it was overwhelming not just for me but
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for Alex and Chloe too losing someone so
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vital to my life someone I'd built
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everything with it was a pain I wouldn't
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wish on anyone the fear of the unknown
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the uncertainty of what was happening to
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my marriage it was just palpable one
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night after weeks of feeling this
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growing dread I finally sat down with
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Eleanor and asked if everything was okay
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at first she brushed it off said she was
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just tired from work nothing to worry
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about but I knew her better than that i
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persisted gently patiently until she
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finally broke down and told me the truth
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she'd been feeling disconnected from me
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for some time and she wasn't sure if she
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was happy in our marriage anymore
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i was stunned i had no idea she was
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feeling like that my stomach dropped i
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asked what I could do to fix things to
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make things better but she just looked
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at me lost she didn't know she just knew
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something had to change over the next
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few weeks I worked my butt off to
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reignite that spark i planned romantic
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dates surprised her with small gestures
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of kindness leaving notes bringing her
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coffee in bed and made a real effort to
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listen to her truly listen when she
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spoke slowly she started responding
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we started laughing together again
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sharing our hopes and dreams and working
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through problems as a team just like we
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used to for a moment I thought we were
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going to make it but then it was like
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hitting a wall again
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all my efforts everything I tried
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nothing seemed to be working anymore the
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desperation in my voice my heart
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breaking with every passing moment was
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palpable
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i knew I had to do something but I felt
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powerless to stop the inevitable
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the inability to even bring myself to
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ask Elellanar if she still loved me
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highlighted the vast emotional distance
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between us the idea that someone else
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might be involved
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that only hit me during a coffee meeting
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with Eleanor's best friend Maria
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maria was trying to be supportive but
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she kept dropping these vague hints
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about Eleanor being distracted or
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finding new interests
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even then I clung to denial my mind just
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refused to go there my body however was
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screaming i lost my appetite couldn't
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sleep cried constantly i felt like I was
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drowning in a sea of despair unable to
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see a way out
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i'd just lie on the floor for hours
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staring at the ceiling my dog buddy his
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head on my chest that dog man he sensed
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my pain and gave me so much comfort and
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solace
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his steady breathing was sometimes the
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only thing that kept me anchored it was
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clear I loved Eleanor deeply would have
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done anything to save our marriage
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feeling so helpless and out of control
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just testified to how much I cared it
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was just a tragic story of lost love a
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broken marriage and a guy left to pick
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up the pieces recounting it now I still
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feel a deep empathy and compassion for
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that person I was for the pain and the
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loss I endured losing Elellanar felt
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like an unending wave of torment
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crashing over me every day was a battle
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to just get up without her rendering all
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the love time and effort we'd put in
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feel pointless
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despite my best efforts I couldn't
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reconnect with her or fix our bond
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divorce an inevitable bitter reality I
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just didn't want to confront the thought
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of losing her entirely even as a friend
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was devastating i felt inadequate as a
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husband unable to meet her needs and
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incapable of preserving our marriage
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the pain was constant a dull ache that
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never left but even through all that
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hurt we remained civil respectful
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we were resolved to avoid inflicting
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more hurt on each other dividing our
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possessions was bittersweet
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we'd worked so hard toiled diligently to
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create a life we were both proud of and
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now it was all being split up
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partitioned and sold the memories formed
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in those two homes they'll always be
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part of me but the thought of going back
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there without her was unbearable
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signing those divorce papers was
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gut-wrenching
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i could see the tears in her eyes i knew
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she was hurting just as much as I was it
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felt like a final goodbye as if a piece
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of my heart was being ripped out the
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pain of losing a long-term partner it's
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enduring it leaves a scar that time may
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soften but it never truly goes away
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still amidst the hurt and heartbreak I
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held on to the good times we shared and
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the love we once had for each other it
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gave me some comfort a tiny flicker of
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light in the darkness you know watching
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your daughter Khloe grow up and get
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married it's a feeling no parent can
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escape i was sitting there at her
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wedding surrounded by everyone I loved
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and this wave of melancholy just washed
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over me my little girl getting married
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starting her own chapter
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it was joyous of course but deep down
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there was a sense of sadness a quiet
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ache in my heart then something magical
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happened my daughter came and sat beside
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me rested her head on my shoulder we
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engaged in conversation laughter and
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reminisced about old times it was a
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beautiful moment I'll treasure forever
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later as we sat sipping scotch by the
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flickering flames of the fireplace in
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the reception hall a profound sense of
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gratitude came over me thankful for
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Chloe and her new husband Ethan for my
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family and friends for all the love
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surrounding me even though I was still
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healing from the divorce I knew I had to
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keep moving forward find happiness
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wherever I could
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in that moment by the warmth of the fire
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with my family's love I felt content
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i knew everything was going to be all
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right and that no matter what challenges
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lay ahead I would always have the
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support and love of those closest to me
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as our conversation wound down we
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started getting into more serious topics
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and that's when she brought up the
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divorce it was something we hadn't
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really discussed in depth before beyond
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the logistics of it all but this time we
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delved into the emotional aspects i
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asked my daughter now a grown woman what
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it was genuinely like to live with me
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admitting I knew I wasn't a perfect
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parent it was a risky question a
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vulnerable one but after the divorce I
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felt compelled to ask to my surprise
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Kloe opened up she shared that at times
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I could be intense and that I had high
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expectations she admitted they all
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worried about disappointing me but then
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she added with a loving smile that she
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knew I loved and protected them and that
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I'd always be there in fact she even
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giggled as she shared that they used to
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affectionately refer to me as sergeant
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dad or the sergeant i acknowledged that
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I wasn't always the most emotionally
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open person but reassured her that I
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cared deeply for them even if not always
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overtly expressed
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and then she said something that
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absolutely stunned me she hoped her new
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husband Ethan would be as good a husband
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and father as I am and then she said she
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wished I could find someone who made me
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happy and didn't cheat like mom that's
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when it hit me my daughter thought I
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knew about Elellanar's infidelity all
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along she disclosed knowing about my
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ex-wife's cheating before our divorce
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and just assumed I'd been aware all
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along i was in disbelief
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my mind reeled i asked her why she
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hadn't told me sooner she explained that
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she presumed I knew more than she did
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and that's why I had divorced mom she
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also shared that it was a really
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difficult time for her and she had
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purposely avoided the topic with me
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other than making sure I was okay i
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hugged her tight and thanked her for
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standing by me throughout everything she
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would always be my little girl i asked
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her when it had happened and how long it
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had been going on for she didn't know
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for sure but guessed that it started a
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month or so before mom first mentioned
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divorce
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i also asked if her brother Alex knew
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and she confirmed that he did in fact he
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was the one who did some social media
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research and suspected there might be
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someone else i was amazed at how
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perceptive my kids were it all started
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to make sense why Alex and Khloe were so
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cold to their mother and so sympathetic
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to me during all of this
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i hugged my daughter tight so grateful
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for her honesty and her love
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she was the only thing that made sense
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in my life right now as I held her close
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I knew that I needed to be strong for
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her and for Alex
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they were the only reasons I had left to
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keep going elellanar's betrayal when it
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was finally revealed to me wrought
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profound changes it altered how I
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perceived her myself and the world
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around me it felt as if a part of me had
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perished leaving me clueless about
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recovery
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all I knew was the necessity to persist
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to keep moving forward even if only one
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step at a time the night her affair was
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exposed to me marked a pivotal moment
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until then I had strived for civility
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during our divorce proceedings but now
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uncertainty clouded my actions
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racing thoughts deprived me of sleep
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that night reflecting I noticed her
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enhanced self-care more frequent hair
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and nail treatments purchasing nicer
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clothes and dedicating more time to her
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makeup initially I assumed it was an
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effort to keep pace with younger
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colleagues at work only now armed with
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the truth did I realize it likely
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signaled preparation for her affair the
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truth surfaced my ex-wife had already
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found someone else another man the
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rejection was already challenging but
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this betrayal cut much deeper shattering
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my world once again chloe my daughter
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showed me the other man's Facebook page
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and other sites i discovered he was an
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executive at one of Eleanor's larger
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accounts a guy named Victor
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though his posts didn't mention
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Elellanar by name they strongly
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suggested an infatuation with someone
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sounding exactly like her despite
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Khloe's comment about him not being as
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good-looking as me seeing my ex-wife
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with someone else with Victor was
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incredibly painful i immediately severed
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all communication with Elellanar i
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ignored her texts and calls even avoided
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contact with her friends the fact that
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her best friend Maria never followed up
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made me wonder if she had been aware of
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the affair all along but one night
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overwhelmed with anger and hurt I broke
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into Elellanar's house i was determined
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to destroy everything in sight i smashed
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her belongings poured bleach on her
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clothes and defaced her family photos
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i wanted her to feel the pain and
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betrayal I had experienced upon
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discovering her infidelity amid my
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destructive rampage Eleanor suddenly
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appeared i expected outrage and the
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authorities to be called i was surprised
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when she looked at me with a mix of
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sadness and pity her response shocked me
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anticipating anger and bitterness she
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instead showed compassion and
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understanding
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she asked for my forgiveness confessing
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that she had cheated on me and was too
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ashamed to tell me during the divorce
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at that moment my anger dissipated i
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realized my ex-wife had been suffering
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as well and my actions had only caused
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more pain for both of us a week later
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Khloe got married to Ethan and both
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Ellaner and I attended still feeling
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angry and hurt I tried to focus solely
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on my daughter's special day despite
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losing over 20 lbs due to stress and
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increased workouts I felt good in my
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tailored tux as I walked her down the
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aisle
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during the ceremony Eleanor looked
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stunning wearing everything she knew I
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liked despite this I didn't say a word
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to her still angry about her deception
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i pulled away when she tried to hold my
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hand during the vows i also ensured that
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our thighs and shoulders didn't touch
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during the picture session i didn't
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engage with Elellanar focusing on joking
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with Khloe and Ethan and everyone else
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when we got to the reception I was
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relieved to find pre-arranged seating so
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I sat next to Khloe and Ethan eleanor
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was seated a few chairs down which must
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have been difficult for her at that
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point I don't think she realized I knew
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about her affair with Victor i made no
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mention of Elellanar in my heartfelt
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father of the bride toast treating it as
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if she played no role in raising our
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daughter during the father-daughter
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dance despite her tears I intentionally
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avoided looking in her direction
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although we were supposed to dance with
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both sets of parents I chose to skip it
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entirely the rest of the evening was
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spent joyfully with Khloe Alex and Ethan
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successfully sideststepping Elellaner i
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didn't witness her departure so I'm
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uncertain how long she stayed but she
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appeared melancholy every time I saw her
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though a challenging experience it
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taught me much about myself and my
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ability to navigate tough situations
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while it might not have been my proudest
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moment I believe I did what was
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necessary to safeguard my emotional
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well-being it was a bitter pill to
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swallow when after over 28 years
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together she opted for someone else
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during a difficult period in my life
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however I've made significant strides
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since then as my counselor foresaw I had
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to adapt to living alone and rediscover
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my purpose
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despite the initial difficulty I can
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genuinely say the pain has dissipated
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instead I dedicated myself to crafting a
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space that truly reflects me i
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transformed my house into a dream haven
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i added a third bay in the garage for my
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Harley soft with a deuce seat and an ATV
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riding has always been a passion but my
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ex-wife prohibited me from having a
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motorcycle
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now I enjoy the freedom to ride whenever
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I please i upgraded my kitchen and
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living areas with the latest amenities
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yet my favorite part remains the man
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cave in the basement with a
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top-of-the-line sound system video
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facilities wet bar and quality gym it
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provides everything I need to unwind
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sitting in my recliner listening to
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classical or old rock music something my
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ex never allowed me to play loudly is a
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true pleasure my house has become the
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go-to spot for game days where friends
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and family gather to watch multiple
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games simultaneously akin to a sports
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bar
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i even set up a playroom for my
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grandkids furnished with a TV and toys i
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cherish the moments spent with my
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grandkids and their parents when they
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visit regularly
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just last week we had a delightful
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pumpkin carving party eleanor would have
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enjoyed it i think I'm contemplating
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getting another dog for companionship
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especially with the grandkids around
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additionally I installed a remote wood
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burning furnace with a heat exchanger
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efficiently heating my home mostly from
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my own timber it's not only cost
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effective but also keeps me active
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during colder months in conclusion
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despite the painful past I'm thankful
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for the chance to rebuild my life and
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create a home I adore i've discovered
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new passions enjoyed time with loved
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ones and forged memories that will
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endure it's been 12 years since my
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ex-wife Elellanar left me for another
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man Victor and I've accepted that she
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chose him over our 28 years together
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initially painful as my counselor
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predicted I learned to live alone and
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redefine my life's purpose i turned my
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house into a dream haven adding a third
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garage bay for my new Harley soft and
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ATV the kitchen and living areas
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received modern upgrades and the
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basement became my sanctuary a man cave
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with top-notch entertainment a wet bar
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and a gym i also created a special
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playroom for my grandkids furnished with
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a TV and toys hosting events like our
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recent pumpkin carving party has become
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a joy and I'm even considering getting
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another dog for companionship regarding
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my romantic life I've discovered the
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enjoyment of being single and
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re-entering the dating scene initially
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my friend's partners attempted to set me
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up with other women but I resisted
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however almost 2 years later I yielded
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to a double date urged by my kids it was
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initially awkward but now I have ongoing
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relationships with several remarkable
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women dating in my 50s and early 60s
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differs from my youth there are numerous
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smart attractive unattached women my age
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and younger seeking attention from a
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relatively healthy man
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you don't need to be a superstar being
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respectful attentive confident and most
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importantly fun is crucial
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i'm entirely honest about not wanting a
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wife or an exclusive relationship i
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exercise caution and am highly selective
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avoiding married women or seeking only
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one night stands i must genuinely like
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her have fun enjoy her company and sense
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the same reciprocation
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i take them to concerts ball games
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camping backyard cookouts dinner
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theaters and other activities before
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getting too close adjusting to the idea
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of non-exclusivity and not succumbing to
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jealousy or possessiveness took time
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i realized I can't control my partner
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and that's okay it's part of the
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arrangement i enjoy dating without the
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pressure of exclusivity refreshing for
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both me and my lady friends
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if something more closeness happens
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naturally that's great but I don't
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pressure or seduce them into it i have a
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couple of longtime lady friends with
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whom I've never been intimate and that's
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okay too
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overall I'm living my best life grateful
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for the experiences and people within it
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being a private pilot for many years I
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relish flying my own small experimental
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amateur-built plane unfortunately my
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wife Ellaner never shared my passion to
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address this I've invited each of my
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lady friends to flyins and short trips i
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even take them on breakfast or lunch
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trips on my Harley a popular outing
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known as the $100 hamburger
23:32
each of these special women has her own
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passions and I've tried to share in
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those as well i've climbed Mount Baker
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after months of training earned my Patty
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open water dive certificate and even
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gone skydiving in tandem with them
23:46
surprisingly I enjoyed attending the
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opera with one of them a lovely woman
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named Brenda
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however my most memorable experience
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involved crashing wedding parties at
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city parks mingling with guests enjoying
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their offerings contributing to
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collections and throwing a hundred bucks
24:04
in the collection jar or money tree the
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wedding crasher is a particularly feisty
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woman named Maria and she's just a blast
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although I spend a lot of time with
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these women more often than not I'm home
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alone or cuddling with one while
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watching Netflix or listening to her
24:20
favorite music the point is these women
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push me to do things I would never have
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done on my own i still struggle with
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wanting these women exclusively
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especially Maria who is the whole
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package but I know I cannot allow myself
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to think that way shortly before co I
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went on a 7-day cruise with three
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attractive women
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i had only dated and been intimate with
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one before the trip but all three were
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fun and flirty
24:49
we laughed and had the best time going
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on day excursions and dancing and
24:52
partying on the ship every night it was
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probably the best vacation of my life
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except for some memorable trips with our
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pre-teen kids at the end of the cruise a
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cruise line representative approached me
25:06
and asked if I would like to go on
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future cruises at unbelievable discounts
25:10
apparently they needed more older single
25:13
men to dance and interact with all the
25:15
single ladies and widows as flattering
25:17
as it was I couldn't help but feel like
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a jigalo though I'm living my best life
25:22
I acknowledge that my ex-wife Elellaner
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may not be as fortunate i've heard that
25:27
her relationship with Victor endured for
25:29
about 3 years
25:31
nevertheless I didn't delve into the
25:33
specifics or inquire if they lived
25:35
together it's no longer my concern
25:38
i started responding to her texts and
25:40
emails around 5 years ago to accommodate
25:42
Alex and Khloe but our communication
25:45
mostly revolves around sharing
25:46
information and pictures about the kids
25:48
and grandkids my ex-wife expresses a
25:52
desire to discuss the divorce and the
25:53
affair answering any questions I may
25:56
have
25:57
however I lack the inclination to delve
25:59
into those details i see no benefit so I
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simply disregard those particular emails
26:05
we've encountered each other at weddings
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and funerals exchanging polite greetings
26:11
the last in-person conversation occurred
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at our newest grandson's christening she
26:16
still looked attractive but older as we
26:18
all do we spent over 2 hours discussing
26:21
the grandkids and reminiscing about fond
26:24
memories
26:26
though I occasionally mourn the loss of
26:27
my marriage these are undeniably the
26:30
golden years the duration of this phase
26:33
remains uncertain but my ex-wife and I
26:36
have recently committed to supporting
26:37
each other as we age she is the mother
26:40
of my children and the grandmother of my
26:43
grandchildren and we were married for 28
26:45
years we've even signed HIPPA and
26:48
medical directive forms for each other
26:51
while we are no longer a couple my
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daughter Khloe has observed that I am
26:55
more content and easygoing than before a
26:57
change I attribute to my retirement last
26:59
year the liberation from job pressures
27:02
and office politics has significantly
27:05
impacted my daily attitude these are
27:07
genuinely the golden years and I'm
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grateful for this newfound freedom
27:12
occasionally I still lament the end of
27:14
my marriage especially when confronted
27:16
with old photos or places that evoke
27:18
memories of our shared past recently my
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ex-wife has invited me to dinner at her
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condo or on a date a topic Khloe has
27:25
brought up several times interestingly
27:28
Elellanar isn't involved with anyone and
27:30
hasn't been for years raising questions
27:32
about the purpose behind their sudden
27:34
interest in my social life while
27:37
intrigued I approach the situation
27:39
cautiously
27:40
i'm uncertain if there's a collective
27:42
effort against me but I trust my
27:45
daughter's intentions knowing she would
27:47
never allow me to be hurt again
27:50
in any case I am content with my current
27:52
life whether single or in a relationship
27:56
i cherished my married life with
27:57
Elellanar and now I appreciate the
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freedom of my single life whatever
28:02
unfolds life continues and I'm assured
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that I will not be alone in my old age
28:08
regardless of whether I reunite with
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Eleanor or