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She Said I Was Just ‘Good Enough’... Until I Found Out the Truth | True Story
Aug 10, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories She Said I Was Just ‘Good Enough’... Until I Found Out the Truth | True Story She stood in the bedroom we built together and told me I was just someone she “settled for” — until she found someone better. But when that ‘better’ turned out to be worse, she came back… expecting everything to be the same. This is the story of betrayal, heartbreak, growth — and the moment I finally chose me. If you've ever been treated like an option, you'll relate. If you've ever made the hard decision to walk away, this one's for you. 🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more raw, real-life stories that hit deep.
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The words were spoken with a chilling
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finality that felt like a door slamming
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shut.
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"You're just someone I settled for until
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I could find better," she said, her
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voice devoid of any warmth.
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She was standing in the middle of our
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bedroom, the room we had painted
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together, the room where we had spent
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countless hours planning a future that
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now seemed to exist only in my memory. A
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half-packed suitcase lay at her feet, a
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stark symbol of her intention. I let her
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go, not with a fight or a plea, but with
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a silent understanding that our shared
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world had been an illusion for some
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time. It was 8 months prior that the
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first cracks began to appear in the
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foundation of our life together.
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Sarah, my girlfriend of 3 years, landed
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a new role in marketing at a prestigious
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tech company. At first, I was happy for
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her, celebrating every small victory.
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But her new career was a chasm that
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slowly opened between us.
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Late nights at the office became the
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norm. Our comfortable routine of cooking
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dinner together, of sharing the quiet of
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the evening evaporated.
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She started coming home at all hours,
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smelling of expensive perfume and the
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faint scent of foreign cologne.
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The clothes she wore were no longer the
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simple, comfortable attire we used to
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pick out together, but sharp,
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sophisticated outfits that looked out of
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place in our modest apartment. "I need
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to look professional, Mark," she would
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say, her tone clipped and distant. You
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wouldn't understand. You don't work in a
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corporate environment. The implication
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was clear. My work as an electrician,
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with its calloused hands and lingering
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scent of sawdust and wire, was a world
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she had outgrown. Her phone, once a
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source of shared memes and spontaneous
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photos, became a fortress. It was always
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face down on a table, a silent barrier
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between us. She would take calls in the
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bathroom. her voice a low murmur I
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couldn't decipher or step outside onto
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the balcony the glass door a further
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partition.
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When I finally found the courage to ask
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about it, she turned on me with a
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ferocity I hadn't seen before.
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God, Mark, you're so paranoid. I'm
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allowed to have privacy, aren't I? She
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snapped. The worst part, though, was the
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way her respect for me had curdled into
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a quiet disdain.
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The little comments started suddenly, a
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flick of the wrist as she dismissed
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something I said. A sigh when I spoke of
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my plans for a new job. Then they became
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more direct, more hurtful. "Maybe you
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should aim higher than just being an
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electrician forever," she said one
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night, her eyes scanning our living room
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as if seeing its limitations for the
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first time. "Some people have actual
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careers." A few months ago, in a
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desperate attempt to bridge the growing
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divide, I planned a surprise.
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I bought takeout from her favorite Thai
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restaurant, the one we used to order
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from every Friday night, and drove to
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her office.
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I texted her on my way there, but got no
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reply.
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After waiting in the lobby for 20
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minutes, I called her. The phone went
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straight to voicemail. Just as I was
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about to give up and head home, I saw
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them. The elevator doors opened and
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there she was laughing at something a
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tall man in a perfectly tailored suit
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had said. It was Derek, the vice
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president of sales she had mentioned in
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passing. A man who seemed to embody
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everything she was now striving to be. I
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watched as she touched his arm. Her head
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tilted back in a familiar, joyful way
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that used to be reserved for me. They
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walked right past me, their conversation
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a private bubble I couldn't enter. I
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stood there, a cold container of pad tie
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in my hands, feeling like an invisible
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idiot. I drove home and waited. She came
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back at 1:30 a.m. Her story was
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predictable. A late presentation, a long
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night at work, but I was tired of the
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lies, tired of the excuses.
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Sarah, I started, my voice soft. I feel
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like we're drifting apart. We barely
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talk anymore. I feel like I'm living
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with a roommate, not a girlfriend. She
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was silent for a long moment, the quiet
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stretching between us like a vast empty
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space. "Maybe that's because you're not
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the person I thought you were when we
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started dating," she said at last. "I
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thought you had ambition. I thought you
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wanted more than just this." She
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gestured around dismissively at our
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home, the space we had built together.
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"But you're content being ordinary.
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You're content with your little job and
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your little life, and I'm not. Are you
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seeing someone else?" I asked, the words
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a raw wound in the air. For a fleeting
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second, I saw a flicker of guilt in her
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eyes, a brief moment of the old Sarah
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before it was replaced by cold
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defensiveness. "That's a horrible thing
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to ask," she said, but she never
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answered the question.
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Over the next few weeks, things only got
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worse. She became colder, more distant,
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her contempt for me no longer a whisper,
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but an open declaration.
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Then came the night that shattered
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everything.
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I came home from a late job, my hands
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still smelling of metal, to find her
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packing a suitcase.
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What's going on? I'm leaving. We're
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done.
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Just like that. I couldn't hide the hurt
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in my voice.
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I thought we were trying to work on
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things.
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She looked at me with a coldness that
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froze my blood. I was trying to let you
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down easy. I thought maybe you'd figure
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it out on your own.
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Figure what out? That I'm not enough for
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you? That you're never going to be
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enough for me? The words were like a
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physical blow.
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Look, Mark, you're a good guy. You're
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dependable and kind, but that's not what
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I need. I need someone who can match my
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energy, someone who understands my
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ambitions.
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I support your career, I said, my voice
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barely a whisper. You support my career
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by staying out of the way. That's not
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the same thing.
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She went back to packing. Her movements
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sharp and deliberate. I'm going to stay
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with Derek until I find my own place.
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The confession was a stake through my
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heart. How long? 2 months. We've been
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together for 2 months. While you were
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living here, while you were sleeping in
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my bed, I wasn't cheating. I was
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figuring out what I wanted. And what I
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want isn't this. This is you working
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your little job, coming home dirty, and
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thinking that's enough. This is you
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being satisfied with being ordinary.
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Derek owns his own company. He's
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successful, sophisticated. He can offer
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me a future that actually goes
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somewhere. And I can't? I asked, the
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last shred of my hope clinging to the
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sound of my voice.
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No, Mark, you can't. And the worst part
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is that you don't even want to. She
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grabbed her suitcase and headed for the
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door. I'll be back for the rest of my
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stuff.
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Sarah, is this really what you want? For
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a moment, she looked uncertain, a
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flicker of doubt in her eyes. Then her
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face hardened, the mask of indifference
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settling back into place. Yes, you're a
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good guy, Mark, but you're just someone
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I settled for until I could find better.
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And now I have. She walked out the door
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and a few seconds later, I heard the
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engine of her car turning over, the
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sound of her driving away. I didn't
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scream or cry. I didn't punch the walls
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or throw her things. I just sat there in
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the quiet of our apartment, the silence
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heavier than any sound I had ever heard.
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Then I got up. I systematically changed
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all the locks, transferred everything to
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my name, and packed her remaining things
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into boxes.
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I erased her from my life quietly and
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completely without a single call or
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text.
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She came back that weekend with Derek
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waiting in his shiny black BMW.
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She looked at the boxes and a hint of
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surprise crossed her face. You boxed
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everything up. I figured it would be
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easier. Mark, I hope you know this isn't
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personal.
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It's not personal that you called me
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ordinary and said you settled for me. I
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understand perfectly. She hesitated at
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the door, her eyes a little softer this
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time. Are you going to be okay? I'm
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going to be fine, I replied. And I meant
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it. And I was. I poured myself into my
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work, taking on extra jobs, and saving
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money. I started working out. The
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physical exhaustion, a welcome
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distraction from the emotional pain. I
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reconnected with friends I had
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neglected. My life became my own again.
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I still checked her social media,
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watching from a distance as she and
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Dererick's life unfolded in a series of
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curated posts. Expensive dinners,
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weekend trips, a life that looked
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perfect but felt performative.
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Then the posts became less frequent and
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a subtle annoyance began to creep into
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Dererick's face in the photos.
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6 weeks after she left, she called me at
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2 in the morning.
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Mark, can you talk? Her voice was a
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fragile whisper, a ghost of the
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confident woman who had walked out on
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me. "It's 2:00 a.m., Sarah." "I know. I
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just I need someone to talk to." Derek
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and I broke up. "I'm sorry to hear
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that," I said, a hollow politeness in my
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voice. "Are you?" "I'm sorry you're
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hurting. I made a mistake, Mark. A huge
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mistake. I was wrong about everything.
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Derek's company is going under. He's
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been stealing money and he's he's mean.
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Really mean. He says things you would
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never say.
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Why are you calling me? I asked already
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knowing the answer. Because I realized I
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gave up the best thing in my life for
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someone who doesn't even like me. I want
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to come home.
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This isn't your home anymore.
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Mark, please. I know I hurt you, but we
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can make it right.
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You told me I was someone you settled
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for. I was wrong. I was stupid and
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scared and wrong.
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And now you want to come back because
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Derek turned out to be a disappointment
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because you realized what you had with
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me. "What did I have with you, Sarah?" I
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asked, my voice calm, but with an
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undercurrent of steel, someone who loved
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me, someone who was kind, someone who
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would have done anything for me.
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Would have past tense.
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Mark, please, I'm begging you. Then
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respect my decision when I tell you no.
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I said, my voice firm and unwavering.
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Mark, no.
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Sarah, you don't get to come back. You
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don't get to decide I'm good enough now
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that your upgrade didn't work out. I
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love you. No, you don't. You love having
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a safety net, but you don't love me. I
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do, Mark. I really do. If you love me,
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you wouldn't have done what you did.
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Some mistakes are too big to fix. I'm
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homeless, Mark. Dererick kicked me out.
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I have nowhere to go. That's not my
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problem. How can you be so cold? I
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learned from the best. And with that, I
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hung up and blocked her number. For the
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next month, she tried everything.
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Different numbers, desperate emails,
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even showing up at my building. I
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blocked it all. The final attempt came
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two weeks ago. I found her sitting on
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the steps of my building looking small
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and defeated. Her hair was messy, her
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clothes disheveled, a stark contrast to
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the perfectly quafted woman who had
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walked out on me. I've been waiting for
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3 hours, she said, her voice thin. I
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told you I don't want to see you. I got
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evicted. I lost my job. Derek spread
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rumors about me. I have nothing, Mark.
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No home, no job, no money. Derek didn't
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destroy everything. You made a choice.
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You chose to leave me for him. You chose
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to call me ordinary. Derek didn't make
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you do that. I was wrong about
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everything. Yes, you were. I threw away
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the best thing in my life. Yes, you did.
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So, why won't you let me fix it? She
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asked, tears welling in her eyes. I
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looked at her and for the first time, I
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felt nothing. Not anger, not sadness,
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not even a flicker of pity, just a
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profound sense of closure.
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because I don't want to fix it. I don't
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want to be with someone who thinks so
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little of me that they can throw me away
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the moment they think they've found an
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upgrade.
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I would never do that again. You're
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right, I said, because I'm not giving
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you the chance. What am I supposed to
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do? Figure it out. Call your family,
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find a job, do whatever you need to do,
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but do it without me. I can't do it
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without you. Sure you can. You're the
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same person who left me because you were
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too good for me. Go be extraordinary.
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That was all a lie. I was scared. No,
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that was the truest thing you ever said
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to me. The only thing that's changed is
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that you found out you were wrong about
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Derek. So that's it. You're just going
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to let me suffer? I'm not letting you do
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anything. I'm just not preventing it.
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That's cruel. Is it? Or is it just what
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you taught me?
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I saw the exact moment she realized I
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was serious. She had lost the game she
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had been playing, and there were no more
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moves to be made. "I loved you," she
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said, her voice quiet and broken. "No,
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you didn't," I said, the words coming
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from a place of deep, hard one
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conviction.
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"When someone loves you, they don't call
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you ordinary.
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They don't tell you you're not enough.
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They don't leave you for someone else."
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You're right. There's nothing ordinary
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about being loved by someone who would
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do anything for you. But you gave that
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up. And now you want it back. But you
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can't have it because I'm not that
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person anymore. The person who would do
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anything for you doesn't exist anymore.
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You killed them when you walked out. I
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never threw you away. She whispered. You
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literally told me I was someone you
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settled for until you could find better.
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That's the definition of throwing
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someone away. I'm not a secondhand prize
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to be won back after your first choice
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didn't work out. I'm a person. I'm not
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your backup plan. I walked toward the
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door to my building, leaving her on the
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steps. "This is really it," she called
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after me, her voice trembling. "This is
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really goodbye. This is really it," I
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replied. And I didn't look back. She
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hasn't contacted me since. I heard she
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moved back with her parents in another
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state. I don't feel joy at her
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misfortune, but I'm not losing sleep
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over it either. The lesson I learned was
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simple. Love isn't about being someone's
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safety net. It's about being someone's
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first choice. It's about finding someone
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who thinks you're extraordinary exactly
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as you are and who doesn't need to lose
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you to appreciate you. She saw me as
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replaceable and tried to replace me. But
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I've rebuilt my life and whatever comes
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next, it will be with someone who knows
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my worth, not someone who had to learn
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it the hard
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