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There's a clear weakness in so many
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people about how to set boundaries. But
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setting clear boundaries is really
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necessary if you're in a relationship
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with someone who has a pattern of
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gaslighting. You have to let them know
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that their behavior is unacceptable. And
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you have to stand up for yourself in an
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assertive way. And there has to be a
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consequence to it if they continue the
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behavior. Hey, I want to be in
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relationship with you. But like I've
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talked about in other episodes,
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boundaries are a pathway to intimacy,
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connection, intimacy and connection. So
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you need to be able to say to the person
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that treatment toward me is
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unacceptable. I'm not okay with it. And
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if you want me to remain in relationship
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with you, you have to work on that.
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Obviously, this type of behavior is
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often practiced and it's often a habit
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and the dynamic of a of an interaction
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cycle in a relationship might be more
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susceptible to it depending on, you
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know, if you're the victim of it, your
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willingness to set uh assertive and a
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healthy boundaries for yourself. And so
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if you don't have a good practice of
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that, it's important that you seek
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support from friends or family or a
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therapist because having someone in your
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corner that can help you validate your
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experience can reinforce your sense of
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reality is necessary, especially if this
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is something that's happened to you over
