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in our society anyone who lives alone
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without expressing a desire to be in a
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relationship is often viewed whether
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openly or secretly as pitiable or deeply
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troubled it's assumed that being alone
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and being normal cannot coexist this
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attitude creates widespread unhappiness
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pressuring many people who may have no
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natural inclination or suitability for
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living with someone else into
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relationships these unions often result
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in misery for everyone involved only
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when singlehood is seen as equally
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prestigious as being in a relationship
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can people make truly free choices they
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will then join relationships for the
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right reasons because they genuinely
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love someone not because they are afraid
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of remaining single here are several
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good reasons why choosing to remain
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single can be a wise and fulfilling
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decision reason one romantic love is a
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dangerous illusion romantic love the
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idea of being deeply infatuated with one
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special partner for a lifetime is a
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relatively New Concept it's near 250
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years old while a successful romantic
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marriage is theoretically possible it is
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also exceedingly rare over time most
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people inevitably reveal themselves to
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be difficult and disappointing when
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viewed up close this reality should make
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the failure of relationships feel far
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less shameful reason two disillusionment
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is inevitable no one thinks their
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partner is extraordinary forever even
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the most compelling individuals
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eventually seem ordinary or even
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exasperating those who remain single
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should not be considered UNR romantic in
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fact they may be the most romantic of
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all as they avoid settling for
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mediocrity relationships are better
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suited for people with modest
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expectations who don't demand too much
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from them reason three we may not be
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emotionally equipped for relationships
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loving and living with someone requires
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a certain level of emotional maturity
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but an even greater maturity comes from
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recognizing when this isn't something
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you're capable of for many relationships
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are simply incompatible with their
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psychological State choosing to remain
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single and sparing oneself and others
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from emotional turmoil can be a sign of
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profound self-awareness and kindness
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reason four Solitude prevents burdening
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others living alone spares you from the
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constant reminders of how difficult or
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peculiar you may be without a partner to
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reflect your every Behavior you can
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avoid feeling judged or held accountable
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for your quirks if you're fortunate you
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might even grow to like yourself when
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you're alone reason five relationships
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paradoxically love can often be spoiled
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by relationships it may be preferable to
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feel the pangs of loneliness and lack of
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intimacy as a single person than to
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experience those same feelings while in
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a relationship single people are never
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deprived of one vital thing hope
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acknowledging the drawbacks this isn't
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to say that single life is without
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challenges loneliness can be a heavy
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burden just as relationships come with
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their own difficulties Suffocation
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frustration and conflict the key
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takeaway the truth is that happiness and
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love whether single or coupled is
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complex and Elusive this understanding
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is a reminder not to rush into
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relationships or out of them too quickly
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instead we should approach our choices
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thoughtfully recognizing that
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contentment lies not in a particular
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relationship status but in how we live
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with ourselves and others do you believe
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that being single can be as fulfilling
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as being in a relationship share your
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