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give me just three minutes and I'll help
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you stop the cycle so you can focus on
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what truly matters one not every thought
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is truth first let's clear something up
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not every thought you have is true when
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you're overthinking your brain tries to
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solve things that might not even be a
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problem for example they didn't text
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back right away does that mean they're
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upset they were quiet at dinner are they
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losing interest pause for a moment and
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is there real evidence for this most of
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the time the answer is no two focus on
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the present moment overthinking lives in
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two places the past and the future
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you're either replaying what happened
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why did I say that or imagining worst
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case scenarios what if they leave me
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here's the trick shift your focus to
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right now ask yourself how does my
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partner Treat Me In This Moment do they
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make me feel loved and valued today
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stay present the now is where your
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relationship happens not in your head
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three communication beats assumption
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overthinking often comes from unanswered
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questions instead of assuming why not
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just ask for example instead of thinking
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why were they quiet last night you can
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say hey I noticed you were a little
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quiet yesterday is everything okay clear
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communication stops overthinking in its
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plus it builds trust in your
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relationship four don't create problems
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exist sometimes we overthink because
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we're scared of what could go wrong but
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here's the thing borrowing problems from
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the future only steals peace from today
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ask yourself has my partner done
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anything to break my trust do I have
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real reasons to worry or am I imagining
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scenarios if the problem isn't real Let
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trust yourself and your partner a
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healthy relationship is built on trust
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not just in your partner but also in
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yourself trust that you'll handle
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challenges together if they come trust
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that your partner cares about you and
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trust that you're enough just as you are
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overthinking can't Thrive when you're
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secure in yourself and your
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relationship overthinking doesn't mean
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you're a bad partner it just means you
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care but caring doesn't have to come
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with anxiety when you find yourself self
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spiraling remember these steps question
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your thoughts focus on the present
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communicate instead of assuming trust in
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the love you've built does this sound
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like something you've struggled with
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