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In this episode, I will give you 5 helpful reasons why you need couples therapy. However, if you are after something more substantial, the article below has 16 reasons why you need couples therapy and when going to couples therapy will pay off.
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There's no shame in asking for help, especially when your relationship is at stake
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It's true that we often say that if this or that does not help or work out, it may be time to move on
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We also stress that the primary effort in any relationship should be to ensure longevity and happiness
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Therefore, if a relationship has problems, don't look for a fast way out, a way to offload the problem
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Don't bury your head in the sand in the face of the issue, but resolve them and fight for your relationship
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fight for your partner and the love that you have or had. And I realised that if you clicked on this video, you may sometimes feel like a problem
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enough is enough or that it's not worth the fight in the effort or that you simply had enough
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Objectically though, are you able to say that with absolute certainty that things could change
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for the better if you tried a few more things? Well, unless you've absolutely decided or actually
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secretly replaced your partner or at least started looking elsewhere, stay with me and let's talk
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about couples therapy. So let's look at a few reasons why you need couples therapy and you should
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not go about it. By the way, if you want more than these five reasons, there is a whole article
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which I've linked in the description. That has 16 reasons why. So check it out
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Your communication is unhealthy or poor. Maybe you feel ignored by your partner
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They misinterpret everything you say or they don't talk about their feelings. Perhaps you've started to feel like strangers
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You rarely communicate about anything other than things you have no other choice but to talk about
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or you struggle to find common interest subjects and every time you talk, it relates to work, family, kids, jaws
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Whatever, it's no longer as engaging in full feelings you still remember it was when you started dating
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and seeing each other all that time ago. maybe you don't feel heard and understood by your partner
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You don't feel connected because of the way you communicate or don't communicate to be precise
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You need to communicate more, but it also needs to be of better quality. No matter how much you get into this situation, couples therapy is a way to improve your communication
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The way a couple communicate often determines how long the relationship is going to last
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After all, you can't talk to someone. How could you possibly spend your whole life next to them
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You and your partner need to talk about much more than what you're going to do and when you're going to go
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A skilled therapist can equip you with the tools that you need to feel connected again Look at the end of the day relationships can work to some degree and still not be as satisfying and as healthy as you like them to be Wherever there room to improve a relationship couples therapy could be the key to unlocking the improvement Even if you can do it on your own
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you don't have to. Don't sweep your problem under the rug and don't be afraid to ask for help when it
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comes to making your relationship stronger. You feel unable to open up to your partner. If you feel
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like you want to tell your partner something that they should know, but you can't bring yourself to do it
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it might be easier to do it in a safe space. Maybe you no longer want to tell them things that weigh on your mind because you're scared of their response
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Maybe they get defensive or it somehow leads to another flare-up and another argument
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Maybe it's something you are ashamed of. Part of the therapy's job is to create a safe supporter space
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One of the biggest benefits of going to couple therapy is exactly that. They should make you feel comfortable enough to share things with your partner
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things that you might not be able to share otherwise. A third person's perspective and their warm presence can reassure you that you're doing the right thing
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your partner's reactions to what you're telling them will be different to. A therapist can help the two of you open up to each other
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and respond to opening up in a way that best benefits your relationships. You'll be more willing to properly phrase what you want to say
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instead of hurting each other with the words or refusing to listen. When you agree to couple therapy, you agree to talk and listen to each other
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You stay calm and you'll be assertive when they're discussing their problems. Because of all of this, you're likely to feel safer opening up in front of the therapist
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instead of talking to your partner one-on-one. The relationship has become stale and boring
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Most long-term relationships run into the same problem, monotony, routine, repetitive day-in, day-out frequency
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Time passes and every time you look back, a month for a year went by and you feel like you're literally losing time
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What happened to the excitement of living? What happened to the moments when you cannot wait to experience something new
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Be in the company of your partner again when every enjoyable experience felt so fulfilling
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You could be stuck in a rut to the point that you're bored with your relationship. Your relationship lacks excitement and you may even be considered levering it
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I mean, it is natural to first start looking at faults with other people. before we peer in the mirror and face our own demon faults and issues
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Instead of feeling passionate to all your partner, you feel numb and you can't get yourself to engage with them
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It feels like you got all you can from the relationship and now it the same day over and over again This can be a terrible feeling but doesn have to mean that your relationship is over Partners can get too comfortable in a relationship and the spark can die out but you can still
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change this with some effort. Simply trying out new things could get your feelings moving in the
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right direction, but that alone might not be enough to get your relationship out of the rut
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That's when couple therapy steps in and helps you make your relationship exciting again
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When people get bored in a relationship, they're likely to seek excitements elsewhere, do the opposite
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You can still have passionate adventurous relationship that will keep you energized instead of drained
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You don't need a new partner for this. In fact, the same boarding would likely happen again in a new relationship
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You need to learn to keep the spark alive as a couple and grow in the relationship. Even after being together for a long time, relationships require effort to flourish
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And sometimes you need extra help to get to where you want to be. You have poor conflict resolution skills
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How you and your partner handle conflict often indicates whether your relationship will stand the test of time or it will perish prematurely
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If you're a partner get passive aggressive and bend-rule, you don't handle conflict the way you should
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Or maybe one of you shuts down while the other one lashes out. There are many more dysfunctional ways to handle conflict in a relationship
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As you know, fights are a part of every normal relationship. The way you handle conflict is crucial because one of those fights might end your relationship
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or at least lead to its slow death for a lot of resentment and hatred. You wouldn't believe how many relationships there are
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but partners no longer even want to be with each other, but don't have the guts to cut them loose
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or those that end even when they're in the late 70s or 80s. You don't need to stop fighting
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you just need to learn to communicate effectively during the fights. Keep in mind that you're a team
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even when you're in the middle of a heated argument, means that you're focus on finding the solution
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If you instead yell at each other and use name-calling, you're just making things worse
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Couples therapy could help you adopt a healthy and effective conflict resolution skills
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This will change the way you fight, and it will be easier to resolve problems when they arise
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As a result, your relationship will be more likely to succeed. You're fighting more frequently
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more frequently. If you've recently started fighting more frequently, it could be the start of the
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road that ends of you fighting all the time. When couples start having small arguments a lot more often
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than they used to the problem is usually underneath the surface Underlying issues can stay unaddressed for a long time and cause the relationship to slowly deteriorate Thankfully couples therapy is designed to address the kinds of issues that the couple might be subconsciously choosing to ignore
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Maybe your fights aren't even small. If you fight a lot, there might be a lot of drama and energy outbursts involved
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Talking to a therapist can help you stay calm during your arguments and allow you to identify the reasons they're starting to happen in the first place
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Perhaps your partner is going through something difficult to their personal life, or you are. This is just one more reason to talk to someone
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therapists can help you cope with what you're going through without negatively affecting your
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relationship. If you fight more often than you're used to, your relationship is getting worse
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instead of better. Couples therapy can help you get back to them track to maintain a healthy
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relationship where you'll move forward. People often consider couples therapy only when they're on
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the verge of breaking up. This is a mistake because therapy can help maintain, not just save a
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relationship. In addition, you don't need to be on the verge of a breakup for your relationship
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to be a risk of ending. If your fights are bad, just one of them might cause you to break up
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And that is obviously not something ideal. It's not something to strive for. Look, and this is where I'll end it today
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The way I sit, a couple therapy is like talking to a friend, but better. If you find a good therapist, yes, you pay for them their time
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but then you can be sure that they will not only give you the time and their full attention, but if you look it realistically, any advice they give you is impartial and pragmatic
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It will be compassionate and relevant, not just to you, but to your partner and thus to both of you as your couple
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This is the main reason why we partner with relationship hero. They offer a wide selection of freelance counselors who are not going to be
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bound by company politics or objectives. You choose the one that you like and you go with them
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Time is the only currency you can never get back and what's better than fixing your already
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existing relationship. Definitely don't just cut your looses and waste all the time you spent
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with them only to risk similar issues arising in the future. Find a way to resolve your problem
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and find common ground, excitement and love again. After all, there is a reason why you fell in
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love with them in the first place. So good luck and I'll see you in the next one. Bye
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