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My Wife Betrayed Me… Then Died Holding My Hand | A True Story of Love, Loss, and Forgiveness
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Jun 1, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories My Wife Betrayed Me… Then Died Holding My Hand | A True Story of Love, Loss, and Forgiveness Hi everyone, welcome back to Wistloom. Today, I’m sharing the most personal and heartbreaking story I’ve ever told — the story of my 22-year marriage, a devastating betrayal, and the emotional journey that followed. It’s a story of pain, but also of healing, forgiveness, and rediscovering love in the most unexpected way. From the moment I met Brenda, to the darkest night of our marriage, and finally to the day I held her hand as she took her last breath — this is a tribute to a life shared, and a love tested by unimaginable trials. 💬 If this story touched your heart, please like, comment, and share your own experiences below. 🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell so you never miss another real-life story from Wistloom. Tags: #TrueStory #Heartbreak #Betrayal #LoveAndLoss #MarriageStruggles #Forgiveness #EmotionalStory #Wistloom #Infidelity #RealLifeDrama #Storytime People Also Search For: true story, emotional story, storytime, betrayal and forgiveness, marriage story, infidelity story, relationship drama, love and loss, sad story, wistloom, wife cheated, heartbreak story, grieving spouse, youtube storytime, family betrayal, sister betrayal, real life story, story of forgiveness, emotional healing, coping with loss, surviving infidelity, marriage recovery
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hi everyone and welcome back to my
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channel Wistloom today I'm sharing a
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story that's deeply personal a story of
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love heartbreak betrayal and the fight
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to hold on to what matters most it's not
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an easy one to tell but I believe it's a
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story worth hearing so grab a tissue
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settle in and let's walk through this
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together the sound of dirt hitting my
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wife's coffin was muffled matching the
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gray gloomy sky above
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i stood there gripping my daughter's
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hand her husband's hand resting gently
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on my shoulder my son standing beside me
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with his girlfriend close by i was only
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49 but in that moment I felt ancient
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like time had carved decades into my
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soul i never imagined I'd be burying
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Brenda my wife of over 20 years i always
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thought I'd go first my risky job the
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way I lived my life always pushing the
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limits i figured I'd be an old man when
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my time came not standing at a graveside
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watching the earth swallow the woman I
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loved after the funeral there was a
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reception at our house well my house now
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that word mine felt so wrong for two
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decades everything was ours about 40
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people filled the living room their
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voices a low hum of condolences and
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praise for Brenda her kindness our
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beautiful relationship her youthful
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spirit they meant well but none of them
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said what I needed to hear something to
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fill the void in my chest i was
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suffocating under their sympathy so I
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slipped out to the backyard craving
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solitude planning a quiet walk to clear
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my head as I closed the back gate a car
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rolled up the alley and parked right
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beside me it was Murray Brenda's younger
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sister the last person I wanted to see
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you see I partly blamed Murray for
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Brenda's death it's not entirely fair I
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know but in my heart I believed if
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Murray hadn't meddled in Brenda's life
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she'd still be here with me i told her I
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was going for a walk that everyone was
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inside and she'd come up in conversation
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my voice was flat no warmth no
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invitation i just wanted to be away
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certain she'd try to tag along but
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Murray true to form brushed past me
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without a word and headed into the house
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that was her always about Murray
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relieved to be free of her I let out a
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heavy sigh there was a cloud between us
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a divide I couldn't imagine crossing
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family or not Murray was unwelcome in my
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world to understand why I need to take
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you back to the beginning to how this
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all started brenda and I met after
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college at her insurance office i was
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there to renew my home and car policies
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and she was the agent assigned to me
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something about her smile her quick wit
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sparked something in me i kept finding
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excuses to visit asking pointless
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questions about coverage just to see her
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again after months of this I finally
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worked up the courage to ask her out we
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fell hard for each other within a year
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we were married building a life together
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we had two incredible kids a daughter
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now married and expecting my first
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grandchild and a son thriving in New
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York's financial district for 20 years
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Brenda and I were like two peas in a pod
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perfectly matched our marriage wasn't
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flawless but it was happy grounded in
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love and trust until 2 years ago when
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everything began to unravel that's when
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Murray started taking an interest in
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Brenda's life it began innocently enough
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wednesday night girls nights out a
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chance for Brenda to unwind with her
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sister i didn't mind at first i wanted
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her to have fun but soon it wasn't just
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Wednesday nights it was Wednesdays
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Fridays sometimes more murray was
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everywhere spending more time with
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Brenda than I was it felt like my wife
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was slipping away and every time I tried
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to pull her back planning a dinner a
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weekend away Murray's plans took
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priority brenda would get defensive
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accusing me of being unfair to her
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sister i couldn't express my frustration
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without upsetting her and I started to
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wonder why I bothered trying i pulled
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back if Brenda didn't want to fight for
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us why should I i threw myself into
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projects in the garage eating dinner
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alone blasting classic rock on my old
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boom box to drown out the silence it was
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simpler that way but it was lonely then
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one night everything fell apart it was a
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Friday and Brenda and Murray had gone
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out for their usual girls night they
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left around 6:30 and I stayed home
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tinkering in the garage i made myself
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dinner ate in the dim light and worked
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until 11 p.m when I went inside I
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expected Brenda to be in bed maybe
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asleep she wasn't instead the answering
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machine light was blinking her voice
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slightly slurred came through the
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speaker she said she was staying at
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Murray's because it was too late to
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drive home safely she ended with "What's
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the point of
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bothering?" Those words hit like a punch
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what did she mean was she giving up on
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us
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i called her cell desperate to hear her
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voice to understand but a man answered
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he said she was occupied and hung up
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when I told him I was her husband in the
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background I heard men's voices laughter
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like a party my mind
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spiraled where was she who was she with
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i called again but no answer furious
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jealous and scared I drove to Murray's
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house it was empty i went home poured a
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drink and let my thoughts run wild was
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Brenda choosing this was she with
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another man the alcohol didn't help only
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fueling my paranoia i even wondered if
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she'd invited those men
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herself the next morning I woke up with
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a pounding headache and a dry mouth i
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took a shower swallowed some aspirin and
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stared at myself in the mirror a man
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with a lost distressed
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expression around 2 p.m Brenda walked in
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looking refreshed wearing one of my
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favorite dresses one she saved for
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special occasions i asked where she'd
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been who answered her phone she tried to
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sit but missed the chair collapsing in
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tears on the floor i couldn't handle it
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i stormed to the garage cranked the
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music and tried to make sense of the
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chaos in my mind Murray was the root of
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it all before her influence Brenda and I
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were happy now I feared she was seeking
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happiness elsewhere maybe with another
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man or men i checked our bank accounts
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worried about our financial security
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i called a friend who'd been through a
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divorce making plans to discuss what
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might come next i told our kids our
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marriage was in trouble that Brenda
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might have left me i was convinced she
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was gone for good a week later I called
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Murray assuming Brenda was with her to
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my shock she said Brenda wasn't there
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she'd come home that Saturday looking
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distraught packed her things and left
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murray sounded worried but I was too
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angry to care i blamed her told her
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she'd cost me my wife and warned her
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never to come near me again i was so
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furious I slammed the phone down
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breaking the handset just another thing
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to replace in a life that felt like it
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was crumbling the next morning was
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dreary matching my mood around noon my
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son Mark pulled into the driveway he'd
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driven from New York because Brenda had
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shown up at his place crying saying I
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was going to leave her i explained my
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side her nights out the man on her phone
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my anger and
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confusion mark was concerned but
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convinced me to go to his place to talk
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to Brenda i didn't know if I was ready
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but I agreed hoping for answers when we
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got to Mark's apartment Brenda was there
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looking nervous she said "Hi Jeff how
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have you been?" Her question ignited my
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anger how did she think I'd been i
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thought she'd cheated but I caught
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myself took a breath and said "I've been
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drinking too much
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confused." She looked pale almost afraid
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of me and it broke my heart i still
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loved her despite everything mark's
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girlfriend Jill was there kind and
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composed she introduced herself wishing
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we'd met under better circumstances she
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and Mark offered to give us space
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leaving us to talk brenda apologized
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immediately but when I asked if she'd
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been with another man she said "Not
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exactly." I pressed her and she dropped
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a bombshell it wasn't just one guy there
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were multiple men and Murray was
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involved too i felt the room spin my
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wife with multiple men her sister there
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i was stunned nauseated brenda explained
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it was a one-time thing they'd gone to a
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new club got drunk and ended up at the
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men's place she said she was lonely that
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Murray had been pushing her to get out
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she admitted to losing herself begging
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for more in a moment of weakness
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forgetting her vows she called herself a
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terrible person saying she didn't
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deserve me didn't deserve to live her
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sobs filled the room but I was too
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shocked to move to comfort her i asked
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if her nights out were about finding men
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she swore it was a one-off that the
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drinks compliments and dancing made her
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feel alive
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she hinted it was partly my fault that I
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hadn't paid attention to her that stung
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i tried to reconnect but she'd pushed me
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away from Murray we argued but then she
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admitted her fault realizing how much
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she'd hurt me she said she'd been too
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caught up with Murray to see how it
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affected me she didn't enjoy this mess
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but something had snapped that night and
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she'd found herself drawn to the thrill
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the new experiences she confessed she'd
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wanted to explore some of those things
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with me but couldn't communicate it now
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she wanted to make amends to stay
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married to stop going out to be a
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devoted wife i was torn could I trust
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her her betrayal cut deep especially
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with multiple people involved including
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her sister i admitted I'd tried to fix
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things but she'd resisted she
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acknowledged her mistake begging for
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forgiveness promising it would never
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happen again i suggested a trial
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separation but Jill who'd rejoined us
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warned against it she shared that her
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parents had faced a similar betrayal and
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a separation led to divorce she
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suggested we stay in the same house in
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separate rooms to work through it her
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words carried weight and I appreciated
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her perspective but I needed time to
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think i asked Mark to take Brenda to a
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motel for the night promising a decision
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by morning when I returned they all
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looked exhausted somber i told Brenda
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she could come home but we'd sleep in
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separate rooms her in our bedroom me in
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the guest room she suggested counseling
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and I agreed though I jokingly said Mark
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and Jill were already our counselors she
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meant professional help and we started
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individual and couples counseling the
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next day the drive home was silent heavy
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with tension the next week was anxious
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but counseling gave us a lifeline
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for 8 months we worked through the pain
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the betrayal the nightmares slowly we
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rebuilt trust i started to see the
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Brenda I fell in love with again we were
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finding our way back rediscovering the
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love that had carried us for so long
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then one day Brenda came home from the
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doctor with devastating news she had
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cancer and it had spread to multiple
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parts of her body i tried to reassure
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her to stay strong but her fear was
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palpable we faced this new battle
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together holding on to the fragile hope
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we'd
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rebuilt despite our efforts Brenda's
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health declined when she passed she was
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surrounded by our children and me i held
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her hand just as I had at the start of
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our journey whispering that I loved her
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standing at her grave i couldn't shake
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my resentment toward Murray not just for
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her role in Brenda's mistake but for the
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time we lost fighting when we could have
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been together maybe we'd have caught her
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cancer sooner
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i'll never know this story isn't just
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about loss it's about fighting for love
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forgiving when it feels impossible and
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facing life's curveballs with courage if
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you've been through something like this
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know you're not alone share your story
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in the comments and let's support each
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until next time take care in memory of
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Brenda
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