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My boyfriend kept cheating on me and I stayed with him
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I still love him. Did you get away with something? Yeah. I found out he started cheating when I first got his phone password
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All these girls started popping up. And I was like, well you can f*** off and you can get out of the club now
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People really want me to leave Dan. This guy needs therapy. Mentally destroyed that gorgeous girl
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I think it's actually really sad how little she respects herself. This guy is a minus one at best girl
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He's gaslighted you. My mum's coming over today and we're going to have a conversation
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about Dan's cheating. I don't know what she's going to say. I'm a bit scared
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I'd like to ask Dan what his feelings are in the future moving forward with my daughter
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I used to feel anxious going into town because there was a club called Vanilla
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I think when it's so late, you end up getting proper messy and that's when you used to go wrong
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So I was 15 and we met three friends. You were going out with my mate, weren't you, before
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who I knew. And I remember messaging him saying, you better keep her away from me
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A couple of weeks later when he broke up, I started dating her and then kind of got with you, you know
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Here we are. I think it was going wrong when I turned 80
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and I started going out properly, going out with my boys. And I wasn't old enough to go out
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And you wasn't old enough to go out. It used to be stay at home and wait for you to come home
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after you'd obviously done the doubt. I remember one time where you were at and I said to Dan I'll pick you up at like two o'clock
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and um he wasn't outside the nightclub I came in in my slippers and pyjamas and I was like
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some girl talking to me and I was like you can f*** off and you can get out of the club now
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I think it just like that's when the trust started to go I think
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I've probably found out he started cheating when I first got his phone password yeah all these girls
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and it was sort of popping up, and then I think that's when you found out I was actually cheating. Yeah
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At first I think it a shock because you think well like it meant to be your loved one and then they just doing you dirty behind your back I didn think it was hurting me In the end you do put your back up to it and you like
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I'm not going to show him any emotions. I know because I was getting away with it, being in the outland, you get away with something, you keep doing it
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But that's why I think I kept doing it. I think the turning point was going on Bad Boyfriends on that show. Yeah
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And Dan just like being told by every other person in that villa. Or even being told by that I was very close to somebody in the villa
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And he's a lad lad, but he said you're worse than me. We're going to read out some of the hate comments
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that people think on our relationship. People really want me to leave down
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So this one says, This lad is an absolute idiot. Mentally destroyed that gorgeous girl
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Our generation is gross. This guy needs therapy. There's clearly underlying issues that he just masks with all this
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Unfortunately, she's in love with him. He uses attention from other girls to make him feel good
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You need the actual help, which is true, because you have had therapy since
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Yeah, I've tried to talk about my emotions a lot more. Why the **** can't she see him for what he is and walk away
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That boy is never going to change. I think it's actually really sad how little she respects herself
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and seems like a very sweet girl with low self-esteem. He's gaslighted you
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At the start, it made me feel like absolute ****. All their opinions would get up on top of me, like
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oh, you shouldn't be with her. Or even walking through town, It'll be like, I don't like you, but I love you
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Comments like that will upset me and **** me off. There are some good ones
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Someone said people can change, he's changed for his girl. You're amazing, always remember
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We've all been that angel, you'll see the light because it's always shining on you. Give the boy a chance, you could work if he's changed
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You get negative comments, you get good comments. I said, you need to ignore the hate and just get on with the good
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My mum's coming over today and we're going to have a conversation about Downey's cheating
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and how much it really affected me. I don't know what she's going to say
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I'm a bit scared. I don know how she going to feel Do you think she believes you faithful now She find out Yeah Always going to have slight reservation naturally because leopards and spots
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I'd like to ask Dan what his feelings are in the future moving forward with my daughter
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Hi! Hey! How are you? Good, you? Yeah, good, thanks, baby girl
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How's it going? You OK, Dan? I'm good. Good. So what have you two been up to then
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Just on your socials, no doubt. Yeah. How's that all going? 23.5 minutes. 23
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That's amazing. God, how the dynamics of that have changed from Dan having all the followers
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So how do you feel you guys are getting on now then, strength-wise, your relationship and everything
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to where you were before? Yeah, better than before. It's what it needed, totally
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It's what Dan needed. He needed to kick it the backside. Yeah, right. And I've only been telling him that for the last four years
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Yeah. And saying, don't you ever jeopardise a relationship and stuff and it's had to take you watching yourself back on TV to be the wake-up call
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Yeah. And you could have lost that. I think that's the best thing that happened to our relationship. Well, the whole nation don't think you should be together
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No. Some of them do. I think the concern for, obviously, myself, naturally, but for the whole nation is how
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are you going to move forward with this? Obviously, together, if you're going to have a future together, what happens if you have children
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Our future. We want to be together, we want to get a happy family. Yeah. So..
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But then you've got to prove that as well, though, because trust takes a lot of building, doesn't it? Yeah
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How's your trust issues going to be? Because trust is obviously unbuilt
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Yeah, but it builds over time, doesn't it? I think it's already come a long way from what it was
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So, but... It's this one's choice at the end of the day? Yeah
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You know, you've been together for such a long time for a reason
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and obviously Ellie's still with you for a reason, so... Yeah if you see something obviously Yeah because it too easy just to chuck it away I don think anything else can break us As they say there no future in the past is there Definitely not So I just think you lucky to have another chance Dan
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and for Ellie to work at it and to appreciate what you've got
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and don't ever jeopardise it again. Last chance scenario. Literally last chance
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Last chance scenario. I will be hopping, running, legging down the road, mate. And then skipping and then jumping
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I think my ego took over my life. I was obsessed with going out and meeting other girls
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I think it's definitely I want this relationship because she helps me a lot
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She helps me keep grounded. She's always there for me and that's what you want in your partner
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I used to check Dan's phone all the time. I always used to check it
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So he used to be asleep and I used to crawl across him and then get his phone. I think Dan knows his boundaries now
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So not talking to girls, not messaging girls. He doesn't ever go out without me anymore
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We've been through some real tough times as a family and he's really, really helped through that
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He's a supportive partner. So what advice would you give to another woman's partner
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who might be cheating on them? I'd tell them to leave. If now Dan did that, I'd be like
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do not f*** off as far away as me as you can. So build yourself up strong enough and then leave
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If Dan cheated again, I'd honestly swear on my whole entire life
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on my mum's life, I'd be gone, that I don't deserve that level of disrespect again
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Our relationship works because the respect we have for each other now is totally different
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Coming out of that villa has actually changed my mind and actually showed me that I've actually got somebody in front of me who actually wants to put some effort into our relationship and me
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How has Ellie changed my life? I think, you know, seeing the good in me
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Don't judge a book by its cover. You don't know what's gone on behind the scenes of all these TV shows
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So yeah, to the haters, here we are. Who never thought that we weren't together, we are. Thank you