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How can someone be attracted to someone that looks like a prepubescent kid
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This is weird as F. People think she's my child, but she's actually my girlfriend
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We get hate from so many different directions. Comment after comment after comment
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Where is your girlfriend? All I can see is your kid. Calling your 12-year-old son your girlfriend is disturbing
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Oh, you need your hard drive jacked. That's a teenage Asian nerd. Tiffany's high school friend Rob is coming over today
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to discuss how he really feels about our relationship. I'm a little nervous
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I love to ask uncomfortable questions. I'm kind of skeptical. Maybe she's just looking for Asian girls
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My height is five foot seven. My height is five foot. Exactly
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In heels, I can be anywhere from five nine to six one
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So I am thinking this for outfit of the day video. I'm thinking skirt, but I don't know which top
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I posted an outfit of the day video in my 30th birthday dress
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What I always write on our videos is teaching my masked girlfriend how to outfit of the day
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as like a joke. And that video blew up so fast. I think we got a few hundred thousand views
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in the first few hours. How do we look? The comments kept coming
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Like I couldn't put my phone down for five minutes. I was getting comment after comment after comment
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It was just a lot of, That's a child. Oh, you need your hard drive jacked
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A lot of racism and a lot of height discrimination. People can't fathom how a mask presenting lesbian could be shorter than her partner
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Where is your girlfriend? All I can see is your kid. You're the boy mom final boss
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Calling your 12 year old son your girlfriend is disturbing. How can someone be attracted to someone that looks like a prepubescent kid even if she's 40
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This is weird as F. That's a teenage Asian nerd. Every time these comments do come through, I'm like
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do I look like a pubescent kid? You won't see it, but I would argue
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I a little more curvaceous in the chest area than Caitlyn You are which is the crazy part It been four years into a relationship I look completely different from how we first met
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I was much more feminine then, and I am older than Caitlyn
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So to see all these comments talking about I am a little boy
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none of that resonates with us. Like, people sometimes will come up to me and not even speak to her
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and they'll be like, how old is she? And I'll be like, ask her yourself. She's actually older than me
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If you get close enough, you can obviously see she is not a child. Please return the Asian lady to the nail salon you stole her from
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I do go through and remove some that are more harmful or some of the threats that we've gotten
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And then there's also really funny commentary. Someone commented that Tiffany was five apples tall
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Like, Hello Kitty. Why doesn't the big girlfriend just eat the little girlfriend
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These comments suck. You two are adorable, the way she looks at you
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We've had queer and straight couples reach out to us saying, hey, I'm taller than my boyfriend, actually
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and this makes us feel so good. We have a seven-inch height difference when I'm not wearing shoes
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and when I'm wearing shoes. The difference would be, like, about a foot. On those nights, I tell her sometimes, oh, like, my neck hurts tonight
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Like, because I'll be looking up. Well, my neck hurts looking down. I know
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I understand. It's so hard. We met on a dating app. I was polyamorous at the time, and when I met her, she was very monogamous
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When I was polyamorous, I was still dating a man, and the only need that I felt to be polyamorous was to see women
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And then when I was actually in a relationship fully with a woman, I realized I didn't need men anymore
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Some of our biggest critics are also within the community. Some of the commentary we'll receive will be from other masculine presenting lesbians saying that Tiffany isn't mask enough or that she doesn't deserve me because she's not tall enough
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And that has been super weird. I think sometimes there like a misconception that pulls people brains back to heteronormativity For me I feel like a woman I know I am a woman I just more comfortable dressing the way I dress It happens to be more masculine Hey Boba Rob is on his way
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You want to start getting ready? Let's do it. My friend Robert is coming over today
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and I'm interested to hear what he has to say about our relationship, maybe even our height difference
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He's made a lot of different commentary throughout the extent of our relationship
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When Tiffany first told me about Kaitlyn, and then I just thought, who is this girl
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and where did she come from? Before I even met her, I was kind of picturing
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like another Asian girl, but she wasn't. Not every day you see a short Asian girl
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and a really tall white girl together, and I love to ask uncomfortable questions
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I was worried, especially when it's somebody you care about and they're looking for love on a dating app
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so I was skeptical about Caitlyn a bit, if she was looking for just a good time
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Rob, when I was first dating Caitlyn, Do you remember what you said? I remember I think I said, like
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you bagged the muscle mommy. Did you think that I looked kind of funny next to her
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like, when I'm like, wearing heels or platforms? What'd you think? That you were a giant
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Yeah, so I thought you looked like a giant, but I didn't think it looked funny
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You're always shorter than everyone you date. So to me, I'm just like, there's nothing new, you know
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Did you have any general concerns around us when we first started dating
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So I had two concerns. One was more of a joke. Like, I was like, maybe she's just Asian girls
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Oh my god. And the second one was, you know, the online dating
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Because I heard more cons about that dating than, you know, good stuff coming from dating apps
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Especially in a city like this, I'm kind of skeptical of like, oh, who'd you meet online
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Are they a killer? Like, you know, are they gonna rob you when you're sleeping
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I think Tiffany could take me. I might be tall, but I'm not that strong
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I'm like, make her go home, don't let her sleep over, you're gonna wake up and have nothing there
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How does it make you feel when you see like the kind of hate comments I mean because I feel like I look at you like a little sister it me want to like argue with these people online but at the same time it just like there no point do you think
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if i was masked and tiffany was femme we would get as much hate as we do i think you guys would
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gate would get hate regardless like they'll find something to hate if it's not the height they'll
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find something else to hate on i haven't seen a social media account where couples are happy and
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The comments aren't negative. It's toxic people just want to hate Like that's a good way to say it up
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I mean at the end of the day like we know you all our friends really know you and we see you guys behind the social media
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I always support Tiffany and I told her I was like, you know, Caitlyn's good Like I told her that you're good for her. So it's like to me, Caitlyn is family
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Yeah, oh You colonizer I think our relationship works because we balance each other in all the right ways
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Like she is. Oh my God, why would you cry
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I love you so much. That's so rude. Tiffany has changed my life for the better in every good way that a person can be changed
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She makes me a better person every day, and she challenges me to always do the right thing and do what's best for me
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What I love most about Caitlin is that she has a very big heart, almost to a fault, but it's a very beautiful one
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I feel sorry to the people who judge us. I wish you more peace in your life, that you may come offline and go touch some grass somewhere
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and learn to love and be more understanding. I hope that you experience a love like this
