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So we get a lot of looks
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One of us is trans, but who? Today, we are going to see whether the public knows which one of us is trans
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Very interesting. I think I've seen this picture. Looking at this picture, I would no way assume one of these people were transgender
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Does this gent on the left have a beard, is he bearded
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Yeah. Maybe that would get a few looks. This comment says, they are trying to cancel real women
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When he told me that he was trans, Hello! Hi! I was kind of shocked
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You know, I was like, oh my gosh. I'm Christopher, and this is Trey
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People assume we're in a straight relationship. There is about a six year difference in our age. Yes. Yes
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And we've been together six years now. We've been married a year
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A few days after we got married, got married, we started posting wedding photos
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Either on one side said that Chris looked really beautiful or on the other side told Chris that
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you'll never be a woman. Trey and I actually first met on Facebook datings
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and Trey just kinda popped up. I was very specific. I said, I am a black man of trans experience
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So I thought it meant he was looking for trans people trans people
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And I always get men that approach me assuming that I'm trans
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Instantly, I think I was attracted to Chris. He did not have all of this when we met
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so it was fresh. It was there. I think I've seen this picture
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Does this gent on the left have a beard? Is he bearded? Yeah
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Maybe that would get a few looks. Not from me necessarily, but I'm just trying to be realistic, you know
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So I wouldn't have thought either of them were trans. You'd probably naturally assume the person
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in the dress, maybe the trans person just because maybe, I would've gone confused
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Would you? There we go. If these two people were walking down the street
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you wouldn't know. I understand the confusion, do you know what I mean
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But there's obviously quite like a, I'm in a presenting person. So you would assume that the trans person If you told me one of these people were trans would I have made an assumption I mean honestly I don think so They not hurting anyone at the end of the day so whatever floats their boat
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I don't really have a lot to say except they look happy and nice, but it must be very difficult
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to kind of date as trans people. Before our first date, I did tell Christopher that I was trans
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I'm a trans man and people often don't notice. So I started my medical transition November 23rd of 2016
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Nowadays I would define my sexuality as pretty fluid. Before dating Christopher I was not dating men only
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I had actually previously been in relationships with cisgender women and then I had dated
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a few cis men as well. I am not a woman, I am a man
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I am male. Some people assume that I want to be a woman
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That is the social media assumption. I make it very clear online, I am not a trans woman
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If you need to title it, these days people say, I guess non-binary would be the term
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I'm definitely assumed to be trans in our relationship because nobody knows that trans is trans
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I am a trans man. As soon as people find out, I get judgment
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for dating someone who is a feminine presenting man. Oh boy. We have not posted in a while
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We get a lot of judgment online. Now, don't cover your face. Anything that was you
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There would be a lot of people who would just attack the relationship
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That's cute. You know, you give them the cheekbones. Just saying, like, really hurtful things
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Somebody said, the beard, though? I said, yes, I'm a man. Men have beards
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Your wife is ugly. She looks like a man. Well, at least you're acknowledging you're a man
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Well, I've always been pretty open about me being trans. I definitely got a lot of messages about me being trans and, like, what parts I had
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That came up a lot. Whether it's happening in this world, I don't know what the next 20 years will look like
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They are trying to cancel real women Chris is a responder to comments When I get comments I will not respond I will probably just delete it and move on I tired I done
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Lord, please forgive them and help them turn away from Satan. I just don't even want that on my page
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I will go in and delete it. So today my mom is coming over to, I guess
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share her opinions on how she feels about our relationship. and initially my mom and nobody knew that Trey was trans
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So technically he didn't really tell me he was dating someone trans
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We went on a Santa Barbara trip with our family and I wanted Trey to be comfortable in case we went swimming
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You know, he had his top surgery prior to meeting me so he has the scars
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I remember walking out of my mom's house leaving before we go and I said, and by the way, Trey is trans
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I don't want to hear no about it from nobody. And she got up and ran to the door and was like
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wait wait wait are you being serious right now and I was like yes and she was like you are lying
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when he told me that he was trans then I said prove it to me I was kind of shocked you know
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I was like oh my gosh she was completely in disbelief it was years later and she was like
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so I'm gonna get a grandchild knock knock Hello. Hi. Hello, hello, hello
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Hi, y'all. How are you going in? I just want to know where the future is going, you know
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I don't have a grandbaby. What's next for us, you know? Is it possible
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So when I found out Trey was trans, I did feel like, you know, maybe I was hopeful that
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I could get a grandchild. And I was like, I don't know that Trey wants to do that
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Is this going out? That's fine. That's fine. I thought that was hilarious because I had never really talked about carrying children
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So I thought it was funny. You poured me a drink? Thank you
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Of course. Cover my knees. Thank you, babe. So I know there was a conversation we've been kind of holding on to for a while
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You know where we discussed if there was a chance of us having a grandchild Yeah I think it was possible I mean now it not necessarily possible considering
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But we can always adopt. But I know when you were younger, you always talked about you wanted to have a kid
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You always wanted to have a kid. So that was kind of a thought like, you know, me thinking that you were giving up that option
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We would have figured it out. I know, but you know, I was still wondering, like, how was you going to figure it out
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I mean, because, you know, it was nice to have a little you with me
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You know, a little touch of us and a little touch of you. At some point, we would love to have children
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That is a part of our future. What did you think, or I guess, how did you feel when Chris told you that I was trans
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In the very beginning, I didn't believe it. I was like, y'all lying. You lying. He showed me some things, and I was really shocked
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I think you toyed with me to see what my thoughts were going to be
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because you said one day you just threw it at me. What do you think if I dated somebody that was trans
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You just threw it at me one day. And I remember that. And I was like, it's not my job to decide what you do
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My job is to love you, and that's it. I think our relationship works because we were very honest with each other
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from the very beginning. has definitely added a lot of light, a lot of love, a lot of support
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and definitely made me feel a lot more confident in myself. We just work
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We're good opposites. It just kind of, it just fit. To the people that judge us, you don't know us
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So, I mean, you're judging based off of things that you see on social media. You don't know
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What I would say to people who judge our relationship is, I hope a love like ours finds you
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You deserve it. when you're typing that comment sometimes just press delete just delete it put your phone down
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go outside touch the grass Thank you
