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LOLA and Henrik have a rather obscure relationship dynamic. Lola told Love Don't Judge: "I love being his [Henrik's] puppy." Discussing her love for puppy play, she added: "Ever since I was little, I've had a connection to the whole dog/wolf thing. Once I turned 18, I got to research different things. I was like 'oh, this puppy play thing, that is rad as hell', and ever since I've been super attached to it." Recalling when Lola first opened up to Henrik about her love for puppy play he added: "Honestly, I wasn't surprised, she kind of does act like a dog most of the time." The arrangement means Henrik will play fetch with Lola, as well as serving her food and water in dog bowls. Today, the couple will be revealing their passion for pup play to their friend, Riley. Takenback, he admitted: "I cannot fathom just the idea of it."
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I'm Henrik, this is my partner Lola, and she dresses up as a puppy
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Puppy play is really like an all-the-time thing for us. Some friends will be like, why would you do that
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That's really weird. I get creepy comments that disgust me, but I'm not disgusted with who I am
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Riley's both of our friends, and we thought it would just be about time to invite him over
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and show him the whole puppy play thing. Me and Henrik's relationship, obviously I know that I'm also a human
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but I'm also his dog. Like, woof woof take to the park dog
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I cannot fathom you, which is the idea of it. I'm Lola and this is my partner Henrik
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and I love being his puppy. We first met at a little cafe together
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that we both worked at. I was always kind of a puppy and he knew about that before we started dating
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but it did take me a while to kind of like properly open up to him with it
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So right now, Henrik's making me some food in my dog bowl
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and putting some water in there so that I can have a drink and have a little snack
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Ever since I was kind of little, I've had a connection to the whole dog or wolf thing
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When we'd play house as kids, someone would be the mum, someone would be the dad, and I'd be the dog
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But then once I turned 18 and I got to research into some different things
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I was like, oh, this puppy play thing, That kind of is rad as hell
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Maybe I'll try that. And then ever since I've been super attached to it
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First time Lola ever asked me about it, I was a bit like, oh yeah, sure, we can try that
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It was very nerve-wracking to ask him. Honestly, wasn't very surprised. She kind of just does act like a dog a lot of the time
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You're not wrong. Puppy play is really an all-the-time thing for us. It just kind of works into every single part of our relationship
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So sometimes he'll just be giving me head scratches and I'll like nuzzle into his chest or like he'll say that I did a really good job at something
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and it'll just make me like you know really happy. Sometimes he'll be like oh sit or do this or here's
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your bowl and eat out of that. This is my water bowl and this one's my food bowl and this is my
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cute little dog bed. I like to sit on it when he's cooking up there and doing stuff. It's just like a
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It's like a nice place to chill out, be on my phone or chewing on my toys
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But it's not really comfortable enough to sleep on at night time. I do sleep on a regular old human bed
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I always been an incredibly anxious person ever since I was a little kid To be able to dog out for a while and just relax while he takes care of other things means that it really like lets go of human worries
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Riley's both of our friends and we thought it would just be about time to invite him over and show him the whole puppy play thing
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Most of my other friends know about it so we thought he might as well know about it too
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I think he'd be like, oh yeah, that's interesting and then have like a confused look on his face
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I think it's a bit out of left field for him. My name is Riley. I'm friends with Henrik and Lola
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I think they're a really cute couple. Don't know why they want me here today, but I'm interested to find out
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Here we go. Hello. How it be? How it do? Pretty good, you? Yeah, not bad
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Why did you bring me here again? I know, I just had something to tell you
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Hey, Riley. What? How are you doing? As you can see, there is some dog things around
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and there's no dog around. So what we're here to tell you today is I'm the dog
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You're the dog? Yeah. Like, in me and Henry's relationship, obviously I know that I'm also a human, but I'm also his dog
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Like, woof, woof, take to the park dog. So we don't really go to the park per se, it's not really like a in public thing
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most of the time but like a kind of like a de-stressing in our own home thing
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That is very fair. The gist of it is just kind of like getting out of the
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stresses of human life and just being able to like kind of like escape it into
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like a world of being like, a dog. I'm very much struggling to comprehend
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So instead of sitting in my bed worrying about life, I go, hey Henrik, could I dog out for a while
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And then I don't have to do anything or think about anything for a while
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So do you want to maybe like sit down at the table and chat about it for a bit? Sure. See
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Have you eaten dog food? No, I don't eat dog food. I do eat from a dog bowl sometimes. Okay
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So imagine Henrik preparing regular food, like that's a spaghetti bolognese. Yup
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And then I eat it out of the dog bowl instead of from a regular bowl
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It's way too messy. Yeah! It is quite messy Yeah Who else knows about this So my family know Right That was a whole thing
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I've told my family about the puppy play. And it took them a bit to really get it
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because it doesn't make a lot of sense to a lot of people in their mind. Like, why would you want to just pretend to be this for a while for stress relief
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But eventually they came around to it, as they do with a lot of my stuff. Some friends will be like, yeah, that's the coolest thing ever
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I wish I had the guts to do that. And they'll have other friends like, why would you do that
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That's really weird. Why don't you just like be normal? My parents don't know about it because they just wouldn't be able to accept it
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So yeah, couldn't tell them. That would not end well. Given how long it took for you to tell your parents about the relationship in the first
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place, I assume they don't know about this. Not at all. They never will
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Right. that we're in end row. It does get like a little annoying sometimes
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trying to hide it from them. What does your doll think of it
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I think she thinks it's honey. She seems just like get a little confused sometimes
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Would you ever try something like this? Like let's say your partner came to you
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wanting to do this. I cannot fathom me. Which is the idea of it
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Like it's one of those things that I just can't even pitch up. Today's been weird
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I can imagine. I'm usually a very big talker, but I've got nothing
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I'm pretty glad this is done. Yeah. It's very scary, but I really appreciate you coming
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and, like, listening to it without freaking out. Thank you for coming. That's all right
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Thank you for understanding it all. Two minutes a day. Yeah. Yeah, but, you know, it's better than most people
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Yeah, and thanks for listening. That's right. Yeah, we appreciate it. See ya
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So here I have my tail. This is the one I use most of the time
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I just attach it on the back of shorts like that and then tuck my little shirt over it
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so you can't see the clip-on part of it. So this is the tail I use other times
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The thing that's great about this one is that when I put it on, it just has a lot of movement to it, which is kind of fun
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And then also especially when I'm using this one and going to puppy events, I'll use this hood
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because I don always want people to know my identity or who I am Then these are great because obviously dogs don have opposable thumbs So my stepmom actually made these for me which was really freaking sweet of her
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And then here's some of my leashes. I've been making content for eight months now
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The puppy plate community itself is pretty big. I don't have any problems with Lola making the content
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We both do it together. It's a thing we sort of bond over a bit. With the type of content that I make online, I do have a pretty respectful community
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but you always have the odd creep or two who kind of ruins it
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Sometimes I'll get stuff like, I love you, I love you so much, could you be mine
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I want you to be my dog or my lover forever. They're usually middle-aged men that are really disrespectful
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And I've already found my owner and someone who's perfect for me
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I get creepy comments that disgust me, but I'm not disgusted with who I am
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and I still want to be able to create the community that I do create
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At times it makes me feel a bit like... annoyed with them that they always harass her
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And like, why? But at the same time, we do talk through it a lot, and there's sometimes we just joke about it
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I don't personally always go out of my gear because it makes me nervous. But whenever I go to like, pup-themed events
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I definitely wear the full get-up. And I have gotten some weird looks
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There was one time we were just walking around the shopping centre, and some kids just walked past us
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and like 10 meters after they all passed us, they just turned around and barfed at us. It was pretty weird
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It definitely does make me a little bit more apprehensive, but it doesn't stop me
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I feel like Henrik's had a really big impact on my life. He's made me accept even more of myself
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than like all my different weirdness and intricacies. You've also just like brought a lot of just like joy into my life
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and like just someone I can always come to for like anything. At the same time as he is my partner
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and we are very much equals in the relationship, he's still my owner in a sense
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I'm a dog and he's that to me. And especially I'm going into full pup space
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it's a chance for him to take control of certain things. For people who judge our relationship
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I just want to tell them that I'm just being silly and having a fun time
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I'm just doing this to better my mental health and to live my life how I want
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It doesn't affect you that we are doing this. So just live your life and we'll live our life
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