Up next in 10
WHEN Natalie and Muhammet locked eyes in a bar, the attraction was instant. "When I first saw him, I thought he was very handsome," Natalie told Love Don't Judge. Muhammet slid into Natalie's DMs the next day and they hit it off. They met in person, but with Natalie unable to speak Turkish and Muhammet possessing very little English, communicating wasn't the easiest. Natalie explained, "We literally had to just use Google Translate and pass the phone back and forth to speak." Agreeing, Muhammet added, "The first time my English was so bad." The pair shared their relationship online and were hit with a tonne of abuse, especially when they got married just four months after meeting. "People say he just wants a green card, he's with you for your money," Natalie said. In this episode of Love Don't Judge, the pair will be meeting with Natalie's friend Yeva to find out what she thought about the couple. She admitted, "I was shocked when they got married!"
Show More Show Less View Video Transcript
0:00
My name is Natalie and I married my husband, Muhammad, four weeks after we met
0:05
He didn't speak any English when we first met, so we just used Google Translate
0:11
People saying, how can you stay with someone who doesn't understand you
0:16
Sorry, but communication is the key for any relationship. He just wants a green card. He's with you for your money
0:23
I was shocked, very shocked. She said to me that your English is very bad
0:30
My name is Natalie and this is my husband, Mohamed. And we needed Google Translate to speak, but we got married anyways
0:40
We met in Bodrum. I came here on vacation and I met him at his job
0:45
He was the security guard at the cocktail bar that I went to. When I first saw him, I thought he was very handsome, but he was very serious
0:54
So I was like, okay, I want to try to see if I can make him smile
0:58
He slid into my DMs and sent me a message. And that's when we started talking
1:03
He actually didn't speak any English when we first met. So people were shocked because they're saying
1:10
how can you be with someone that doesn't speak English? So we literally had to just use Google Translate
1:16
and pass the phone back and forth to be able to speak. I'm not actively learning Turkish
1:23
but our main focus is him to learn English so then he can help me learn Turkish
1:28
The first time my English is so bad because I didn't speak English, but now I think I'm
1:35
feeling better. All day I'm learning. My process is now is so nice, but I'm talking English
1:48
Sometimes I'm talking perfect, but sometimes I'm not talking perfect. what you are talking about tell us we're talking about clothes and then i said that he needs to
2:02
get some new clothes he said you are dirty i'm not dirty i am messy i teach you this word messy
2:09
yeah so now my friend yeva is going to come over and join us for a coffee and she will I think she will give her opinion on what she thought about our relationship I think she will be honest and say that she wasn fully convinced in the beginning
2:28
I shocked when they made it because I didn't meet yet Mohamed
2:34
Hello! Hello! How are you? Good for you. Welcome. Welcome. So what did you think when I first told you about Mohamed
2:45
Oh my god, I was shocked, very shocked. Because of age, I'm sorry, and because of language
2:53
she said to me that your English is very bad. You meet and begin with Google Translate
3:01
that's why I'm shocked and I say no. It's maybe flirting one week, two weeks
3:07
and you will say, and you will say enough, because it's really hard
3:11
But you know my English now is so much better, right? Very good, very good
3:16
I know. We get a lot of negative comments about our relationship
3:21
Sorry, but communication is key for any relationship, so this one won't work
3:27
If your communication is difficult, the relationship will be shattered sooner or later
3:32
Language barriers are the biggest obstacle for international relationships. People saying, how can you stay with someone who doesn't understand you
3:41
What did you think when I told you that we got married
3:46
Yes, this was double talk. I shocked about relationship. It's different. But marriage after one month and I say
3:54
OK, they have something like maybe crazy, you know, pink glasses. We had only been together four weeks and then we got married
4:04
So I came to Turkey and you can only stay as an American citizen for three months
4:11
So after about two weeks, we were with each other every single day and already in love with each other
4:18
We looked at all the other options and the best option was for us to get married
4:24
I always say, babe, I want to marry, please, because time is not much
4:28
This is a photo of when we got married. We got married in the courthouse and it was on January 14th Our friends and family were very shocked Some people were concerned And there was also people that were completely supportive So this photo is after we got married and we wanted to remember the moment
4:52
So we took it in front of the table that we sat at
4:56
feeling relief after everything was done. I want to ask, what are worries or marriage
5:03
Because, you know. You know, you are very unique. She knew in Turkey
5:10
You knew with American English language, American culture. That's why I shocked how you will understand each other and meet more and more
5:22
It's very difficult. When you have, yes, trust, respect and love, you will try and to understand, to meet each other
5:31
and in the beginning you will hug and kiss to each other
5:35
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. We have a TikTok where I started posting videos of us
5:44
There's a small detail that we have not shared, that we are deciding to let you guys know today
5:54
Yeah. What is this? Drum roll. What is this? We are actually married. Yes
6:05
That ended up getting put out into the news here in Turkey
6:09
That's when his family saw us in the news and found out that he was actually married
6:15
He told them that he was in a relationship with an American
6:19
but he never mentioned to some that he got married. My family, they, my dad knew not new generation
6:30
and they don't understand. If they understand first time, I'm saying no problem. But
6:38
and then I'm thinking they not understand because their reaction so fast, so angry
6:43
He was really afraid of their reaction because they are more traditional, they're older generation
6:49
and this is something that they wouldn't understand. It's not the norm for them
6:54
We definitely had family and friends be unsure of our relationship because it was so fast and also because of the language barrier and the culture Some people had a lot of doubts and thinking like oh it not going to
7:13
last long or, oh, you don't know him. He's a complete stranger. You don't know if he's like
7:18
you know, a serial killer, these type of things. People say he just wants a green card. He's with
7:27
you for your money also because we have an age gap of eight years a lot of people say oh he's with
7:36
her for passport and she's with him for a good time or they say is this your son bro trying to
7:45
get a passport you look like his mom or relationships fake yeah relationship is just for
7:52
Social media only. Social media that we're pretending. Also that I'm his sugar mommy
7:58
It doesn't really faze us. We more laugh about the comments people say
8:03
Of course, like we're more aware of what people think, but like we know our relationship
8:11
so it's not going to make me sad or mad. So many bad, negative comments
8:19
but I'm business-based because I love she. I know who I am, who are she
8:26
I don't want to go to America. I want living together here because I love Bodrum
8:32
Our relationship works because we're very similar. We have a lot of common goals in life
8:38
We know how to pick up where if one is struggling and always support each other
8:43
We are the same. We are thinking all the same. This is the most I love
8:48
what I'd like to say to the people that judge is that even though our situation is different
8:56
doesn't mean that it's wrong and I think that people should start to focus more on their own
9:03
lives than trying to talk bad about other people so judge all you want
9:18
Thank you