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have prepared you for. As always, I'm AJ, sitting across from me, Jason. Jason, how are you doing today

Hanging in there, AJ. It's another great day, right, in paradise. You know, we recorded 36 of these, which includes the two bonus episodes that we've been doing already

And the more I hear our intro, the more I wish that was me playing that guitar riff

Yeah, well, you should throw down on it. Right. Maybe get a ukulele and do it

You can learn that riff. It's not a tough one. I wish I could say that was me doing this

I wish I could say all that music was us just getting it done. And no, it was definitely not

Well, we should do it. You can play a guitar. I got some drums over here, so we'll lay down those tracks

I'd more likely play the drums than that, and you more likely would probably play the guitar. Well, whatever

As we progress a little bit, we might get confident and say, you know what? We're going to create our own intro music

Maybe that's one thing we can do is like one day in the future when we have more than, you know, a couple listeners

we can have live shows and at the intro, it's just us playing it

Oh yeah, we can jam into it. That'd be awesome. I would lose my mind

Well, today we are talking about going out on college nights. And this is a tips and tricks episode

So this is us giving you tips on how to more or less make the most of your college nights

how to go through and, you know, as we talk about college nights, and we just had a previous episode not too long ago where we talked about parties

and hookups and dating, this kind of is an extension of this or of that topic where we're

talking about how to make the most out of your college nights, but also how to keep yourself

safe too. So that sound good to you? Absolutely. I like the same vein thing where we're going down the road of, you know, this is supposed

to be the fun side of college, right? Or the, you know, the personal development side of college socially anyway

So yeah, giving tips and tricks on how to make the most of it. I think that'll be helpful to some folks

That is probably the best way I've ever heard partying is the social development side of it

Oh, it matters. All of this stuff matters. I could see you going into an interview and going, yes, I'm a professional at social development

And all that just means you went to a lot of parties. Well, you know, I talked to my wife and I this morning

We're talking about on the way to school, you know, the status of higher education and stuff

And, you know, I have some negative opinions and some positive opinions there

And we were talking about, you know, the difference as to how you come into higher education and what you look at it as being for you and the starting point versus, you know, that type of thing

You know, the quality of the education that you're receiving versus the expected output and things like that, how that's changing society and stuff

We kind of, you know, we went down that road of talking about that stuff. So anyway, I'm of the right mindset right now to get into this

Man, you all have some interesting conversations. My conversation this morning with my family was, girls, you need to hurry up

It's almost time to leave. You need to hurry up and eat before we go. That's always part of the conversation, too

Get your shoes on. Get your water bottle for your book bag

Get, you know, this, right? Checklist of things to get them out the door. Well, let's get into it then

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Check out our YouTube channel. We've got some good, fun, fast tips that will be helpful to you, right

It's more straight to the point. You know, we don't talk on it as much as we do during the episode type scenario, but I think you'll get something out of that too

So are you trying to be like hip and I guess they say lit when you say if you dig what we do

Yeah, man. I got to use the lingo. Get that lingo in, huh? Right? I'm cool

I'm hip. I'm with it. Uh-huh. I'm lit. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. Keep it 100

Yeah. I would try to back that up by shortening the word, like by, you know, just putting D-Y on the end of it like everybody does now, right

But I don't even know how to do that yet. It's like learning to speak pig Latin

Yeah. I do know how to speak pig Latin, though. That's funny. Oh, yeah. So you get

Yeah, see, that was never a cool thing to do, though. It was not a cool thing when I learned it either

Let's get into the quick question. And today's quick question, because we are dealing with going out with college nights, is what's your best memory of your college nights when you were in college

Give me one best memory. One best memory? Yeah, let's just put one. You know, it's pretty innocuous, but that first year in college, I lived in a suite full of guys

There's about 10 of us to a suite, you know, and it's basically a pod type scenario where the individual rooms are kind of broken off, you know

So anyway, we were a group, right? So I didn't connect with some of them, but a few of us, right, we got pretty tight in terms of friendship and stuff like that

And honestly, the one thing we did as a group that was really, I don't know, that really was just meaningful was, you know, we spent a night just hanging out, talking, you know, order pizza

They were playing video games and mess like that. And we just decided to pile in and ride out to the beach, right

We were only 15 minutes from the beach because, you know, we just not to name my college, but I went to the College of Charleston

Right. So anyway, we middle of the night went out to the beach. Right. And just all just hung out, blast the music

You know, luckily we didn't get arrested and stuff. And we all went swimming in the ocean at night

Didn't get eaten by a shark, luckily, type scenario. But that was just a real bonding experience very early on in college

and because it was one of the first times I'd ever done something like that coming out of high school

type scenario it was just meaningful and it kind of set the stage for everything that would

that would come and right there was a lot of interesting evenings and nights and everything

else from then on uh that we all did together but that was one of the first things and so anyway that

one's that one's meaningful right probably my most meaningful and I'm going to go a different

direction but I remember so we were I was in undergrad and I was playing soccer and a bunch

of the soccer guys that I played on the team we were really good friends with the volleyball girls

and so we hung out a lot with them and we were having

it was a Halloween party and so we were all hanging out

and you know how every town has that ghost story about you go to the bridge or you go here you turn your car off you say the person name blah blah blah and something will happen the little folk story for the small town that you in So we had one of those in my old town and we were talking about it at the party

And the volleyball girls were all like, that's so cool, we should go do this

It's Halloween night. And I was like, oh, yeah, we should definitely go do this

And so ours was, you go to this bridge, you turn your car off, put the keys on your hood

you say the girl's name who was murdered at that place or whatever, and you would, under the bridge

see, I can't remember what it was, but we told him that you would hear how she was murdered and

you could possibly see her ghost. And I was like, Oh, we should definitely do this, but you're going

to have to give me like an hour. And they're like, all right, cool. And so we stayed around the party

Well, I'd called my friend. I had a good friend of mine who's about six, three, six, four, kind of

big guy. And I said, Hey, I need you to do me a favor. I need you to get your, your buddies and

get to this bridge before we get there set up and so he said no problem and he got so it's him and a

girl and another guy went to the bridge before us and they had the girl dressed by the way the girl

dressed in all white that went with them and completely whited out her face to make it look

like a ghost because this is pitch black you couldn't see anything and uh he got him and him

his buddy both got chainsaws took the chains off of them so it was just the engine revving now you

There was nothing dangerous about it. It was just the engine running. And they both got at the ends of the bridge or the other end of the bridge

And so we went to – we took the volleyball girls there. We put the keys on the car

We said the girl's name, and nothing happened. And it didn't make – it didn't dawn on me that the bridge we went to was probably a good half a mile long or a quarter mile long

And so it was going to take a minute for my buddies to get there. But they were like, oh, this is so stupid

and we started messing around and everything. And all of a sudden, out of the corner of their eyes is the girl

You see the girl who's dressed in all white coming out. And they go, oh, what is that? And as soon as one of them said that, he kicked on that chainsaw and started running

And I have never seen people run so fast screaming in my life

And it was the funniest thing I have ever witnessed. Oh, my God. That is the most traumatic thing I've ever heard

It was awesome. Oh, and they laughed. Man, they had a ball doing it

We all kind of, he ended up coming back to the party with us. But I will never, as long as I live, never forget that moment because it was hilarious

You couldn't do that in my hometown, man. Too many rednecks. Somebody had a shotgun behind their seat

Like, that, I mean, they never would have made it out of that alive

It was funny because even some of the soccer guys that was with us was not in on it

It was me and another guy were in on it. I told him, hey, so you're going to have to help me with this. And so he knew it, but nobody else knew it

And it was funny because apparently one of the girls on the volleyball team was, we were out in the middle of nowhere

And they had to pop a squat. They had to use restroom

And it just so happened to be the exact time he kicked on that chainsaw

Oh, that poor girl. I was crying. I was laughing so hard

It was the absolute funniest time I have ever witnessed when it comes to pulling a prank on somebody

Oh, man, we got to get into this episode, man. That is – everybody who's listening to this be like, these dudes are crazy

Yeah, exactly. Well, let's get into the main topic then. The first question, and this is our tips and tricks

So we're going to end with our tips and tricks to kind of help you through. But just to kind of set the stage, let's go ahead and just define what we mean when we say college nights, going out on college nights

What do you say about that? So, you know, the idea is we've taught before there's going to be parties

There's going to be that type of thing. And, you know, what all goes into the parties, the size of the party, alcohol is there, you know, that type of thing

So in college, yeah, there's going to be a lot of nights where you do nothing but hang around your dorm room, hang out with friends, do things like go scare people on the bridge or go to the beach and, you know, just hang out and swim at night type scenario

Right. A lot of bonding activity and stuff like that to create lifelong friendships

But there's also going to be the partying type nights where you go out, right, where you are going to some sort of house party, fraternity, sorority party, something like that

So one of the things we want to focus on is how you get the most out of that, how you protect yourself, how you plan for it, that type of thing

So that's kind of what we're focusing on right now, right? We'll probably have another episode later on where we talk about cementing friendships and how meaningful experiences come in

But right now, I think we're on that whole party fun train. You're going out

And I will say, let's add one more kind of piece to that, which we didn't really talk about in the previous episode when we talked about parties and hookups and dating

And I would include going to bars in the college nights. Yeah, that's valid because college nights at in a college town type scenario, you don't have to be 21 or right yet. So, you know, 18, 19 years old, you can go to these places type scenario and not not be depending on your fake ID to do it

Yeah. So we're talking when we talk about our tips, we're talking about any of those. We're talking about whether you're going to a house party, fraternity, sorority party, going to bars or just kind of having, like you said, a chill night where you go, maybe you go to the beach or whatnot. So let's get into our tips. I'm going to let you start, Jason. Give me your first one

Start with you got to prepare ahead of time. Now, we're going to break down and say, how do you prepare ahead of time and stuff like that

But you got to think through some really important stuff about the night

So the first one in preparing is don't go solo on this one if you can

Yeah. Find a friend, find multiple friends and y'all plan on doing this together

Right. And so the whole planning process of what you're going to do, what your expectations for the night, you can express those to others so they understand where you are

Girls, you know, y'all do that all the time in terms of, all right, I got my friends there. They're going to protect me about this, you know, creepy dude that won't leave you alone type scenario

Here's your signal. I'm going to, you know, flick my hair or do whatever that's going to come save me or whatever type scenario

So start with, get your friend, get your posse together, and y'all plan what you're going to do together, right

Yeah, your friends can come in to a very, they can be very helpful when it comes to parties

One, because they give you that person to rely on. They can also get you out of some crappy situations

um you know they can say you know hey we got to go and it kind of ends it right there for the

other person that you're trying to get away from like you said you have the code um so having a

friend and it's not simply just girls guys as well i always went to parties with guys

with friends of mine because if nothing more one of us was the dd one of us we didn't want to we

didn want to drive drunk if somebody was drinking so one of us was the dd same thing for the girls we didn get of course we didn have Uber back then or Lyft but but that also helped us as well So it always just good to have a friend because they will get you out of trouble

and they could possibly get you into trouble. But they will also get you into, like maybe you've never met someone

and they can also introduce you because they've met that person. So there's a lot of good things that come from having a friend at the party

or at the bar or whatnot. Right. And, you know, one thing about that, I'm going to break down the maybe sexist stereotype here, but girls, there's going to be dudes that hit on you, period

It's just going to happen. And having someone there to be the one to come get you and pull you away from it, right, to save you from the scenario

that's going to be your primary right there guys you know if you're as in a different episode AJ

and I talked about you know it's difficult going out there solo on your own unless you're extremely

confident extremely you've just you know you know what you're doing when it comes to

relating to other people in a social environment so having a wingman right you know hadn't used

that term before but just having somebody there with you that you can banner back and forth with

that gives you a way to look cool or seem like you have something doing or going on

Because sometimes, especially you show up at a bar by yourself, a little creepy

Not going to lie. People kind of label you as that if you're the one just looking around to have a conversation

type scenario or you're trying to edge into other people's conversations type scenario

So going to the bar with somebody that you can hang out with type scenario, like I said

Again, they're your wingman makes it easier to, you know, as a group, as a couple of people, you know, maybe start a conversation with other groups of people type scenario

And it gives you some somebody to break away from. Again, they go over there and say, hey, you know, now you start a conversation with somebody

So if nothing else, part of your plan for having fun. Right. Go with a friend

They can be very useful. Side note, just from personal experience, the best wingman I've ever had was with a girl

Really? Having a wingwoman. Oh, man. Yeah. Oh, good Lord. Yes. That was, that was the best assistance I've ever had when it came to being somewhere with a friend and them being able to introduce me into a way, into a group or into two different people in a way that they were comfortable with me

And I was comfortable with them enough to be able to start up a conversation and just talk

There was never a concern on their side that there was an ulterior motive on my behalf because this other girl came up and introduced me to this person

That's pretty good advice. I wish I had known that when I was coming along

Sad, my mom was the one that told me that when I was going through school. I was like, you need a wing woman

No, my mom was not the one. My mom was your wing woman. No, no, no. be like, AJ, you should have left that one out

No, I know. My mom was the one that told me that trick. And I was like, that's an awesome trick

I had a really good relationship with my mom and my dad when I was going through. And so they

Sounds like it. Yeah. All right. My tip, and this is coming from my accounting background

Okay. So this is just me. But when you go to a bar, if at all possible, it's best to use cash and not your card

so my advice would be use cash when you can because when you're using a card

you go up to the bar and say hey put it on my tab you don't have a clue

how much you've racked up you might be $300 down by the end of the night

because at some point you've probably had enough and then you start buying everybody else shots

whereas if you have the cash you really start to see how much you have left

and you can limit it so you're almost budgeting yourself from a visual sense because at a certain point

in the night you're not going to be able to do math anyway So mine would say stick to cash

That is very good advice. I've been on the negative side of that before where all of a sudden you get a little bit happy and then you buy a round of drinks and then you didn't realize a round of drinks cost 60 bucks

Exactly. That is a heart attack when you wake up the next morning and you see

And I wasn't using a credit card. I was using a debit card, which is an even worse idea

Right. So that brings me to my next point. So I teach negotiations, right? And part of what I teach in negotiations is people don't always do things logically when you're negotiating. People make decisions based upon affect or emotion. All right. So what the scenario can hit you in a certain way. You can become emotional about it. You can become overly excited about the scenario or the fear of missing out on a deal or something like that

And it will cause you to make decisions to pay more than you would have otherwise or to jump on something that you think is fleeting, even though it may not be that type of scenario

Right. It's tons of things you see in sales tactics. Right. Order now versus, you know, or, you know, having an emotional experience as part of the advertisement, that type of thing

All that comes into play. Now, the way you combat that is to go into a negotiation with what we call your resistance or your reservation point

saying in no way, shape or form under any scenario, no matter what I learn during this negotiation

am I going to pay more than this or am I going to give more ground than this or am I going to do this

Right. Type scenario. So I prescribe that same approach to going out in college

That is you stayed ahead of time that there is no way I'm going to do this while I'm with it

While I have my logic, while emotion is beyond me, I am not going to do this

I am not going to spend more money than this under any scenario, way, shape or form

You can use that first tip of having a friend to reinforce that. I was going to ask that

Is that something that you would talk about with your friend? Absolutely

That's part of that whole planning thing we were talking about. Right. And this is the first point of it. Right

You got your friend there. Y'all plan it together. I cannot spend more money than this

I cannot stay out later than this. I cannot drink any more than this. If I start to drink

I cannot go home with my ex-boyfriend. That's a big one, right? Do not let me

you know, go along with him or her. Right. Do not let me do that type scenario. Do not let me

hook up with somebody tonight. Do not let me that type of thing. And if you set that in your mind

a hard stop ahead of time. One, you won't wake up the next morning with regret. You won't have

all the negative repercussions that we talk about from that going too far, drinking too much

doing things you otherwise wouldn't have. Because we know, especially when you start to drink or

you get emotional in the situation or as the night rolls on and you get more tired, your inhibitions

go down and you start doing things otherwise you would not do or have done. Right now, sometimes

part of going out is the purpose of doing that, right? You want to do those things ultimately

and you want to have some reason to say, oh, that wasn't really me. It was the alcohol. It was the whatever

Okay, if that's the case, fine, but plan for it, right? Plan your limits

And if you do, right, then you will avoid some of those negative consequences that you do not want afterwards right You do not want that reputation right You do not want that I mean it happens to girls I think a lot

Guys do stupid things when they get drunk, making a** of themselves. Girls end up doing things that stick to their reputation that they're not looking for, right

Because there's still that, there's still, whether it's fair or not, whether it's sexist or not

It's still there that there's this negative stereotype or association when girls do some of the things, same things that guys do

And like I say, not prescribing that it's fair, but if that is something that, hey, you know, you do not want to have that, have a certain label attached to you or something like that, that, that comes from situations where you let your inhibitions down and do things you otherwise would not have done

Well, protect yourself against it. Right. Plan ahead of time because everybody knows that does happen when your inhibitions drop due to alcohol, scenario, late night, whatever

Yeah, I always said, and a bunch of my friends knew this too, that when I would go out after a couple times of realizing what drinking too much, how I felt and how crappy I felt, I always said that if I turned real quick and then everything slowly came into focus after I turned, that was too much

I'm done. I'm cutting myself off there. That's smart. Yeah. I mean, you were smart enough to do it ahead of time

I, you know, again, I'm not sure I followed my own advice and set my reservation points

ahead of time. It was just, you know, I avoided the scenario up front because usually by just not even

going, right? You didn't have the beauty of this podcast to help you out

There you go. Right. You know, I didn't have AJ Couty giving me the tips of life

I don't know if you want to take mine. My next one, and it kind of goes still with the same point about the, I'll still stick with the kind of the cash part and still stick with the financial side of it too

And my tip is actually twofold. So there's two parts to this. But I want to say, know what you're getting from the drinks that you ordered

And the reason I say there's two parts is, one, you need to know, obviously, what drink you're getting if you're going to order a drink

because some of them are going to hit you harder than others

But at the same time, from a bar's perspective, there's ways that they could increase profits by lowering the costs

by possibly diluting a drink. Or, heaven forbid, if they have Jell-O shots on the menu

I mean, Jell-O shots are, you're just paying for Jell-O with the smell of alcohol in it

So I would say really look at the drinks that you're going to get

because sometimes even if you say top shelf, it may not be top shelf

It could be well drinks that are poured in the top shelf bottle

A lot of times, and I won't say a lot of times because I don't want to stereotype all bartenders

but sometimes if you order a drink and they pull a straw out of a glass

that has what you think is maybe water in it, potentially could be like vodka and they put their their their finger over the top of it to

take a little bit of vodka in there put it into the drink that you ordered and so that way the

first sip you have out of that out of that glass is just nothing but liquor so you think it's

very very strong and you're more likely to tip them uh there's a lot of things that they can do

that will give you the illusion that it is better but may not and also to how you order

I mean, if you say, make it strong, then that just to them implies, hey, give me extra liquor without me having to pay for it

I mean, this is a business. These are people that are trying to make money as a bartender

So you do have to understand what they're going through. So when you're trying to sneak past and trying to get more liquor without having to pay for it, you're probably not going to do anything

It's probably going to have the adverse effect. They're probably going to laugh at you and probably give you less liquor. So know what you're getting from the drinks

and then also to make sure that you, I would say make sure that you're the one that's ordering your drinks

Don't let somebody else order it for you. I was about to say that cuts both ways, right

Yep. You know, you get what you want out of the drink, but don't get things you don't want out of the drink

Exactly. Right. Somebody doubling a shot on you to try to get you drunk. Somebody, everybody's heard of roofing or whatever

or putting some date rape drug in a drink and, you know, that type of thing

So that kind of stuff does happen, right? I've actually seen a case myself where GHB was put into somebody's drink and they didn't drink enough of the drink for it to fully knock them out, but it had a ton of the effect, right

It basically, it made them disoriented. It made them sick. And, you know, GHB, right, is a traditional gamma hydroxybutyrate

It is the traditional date rape drug, but it will kill you, right

It is a very, very dangerous thing, a situation, you know, it's used recreationally as well

as for those nefarious purposes, right? But anyway, point being is protect yourself

Don't let other people do things to your drink that could, again, hurt you

Yeah, I guess that would be a good kind of sub tip for the one that I was just talking about

It's not only do you want to know what you're getting from your drink, but you also want to make sure you know what's in your drink

So protect your drink. Keep it with you at all times. Don't just sit it around and not look at it

And obviously, we say these things because in an ideal world, we would never have to worry about that

And I think that's the part that the hardest part is, is some of you may when we when we say that about holding your drink and not taking your eyes off of it

Some of you may go, I shouldn't have to do that. And you're 100 percent correct. You should not have to do that

But the reality is, is there are awful people out there and you have to protect yourself from them

So I would say that would be a good tip to go along with mine would be to protect your drinks

Yeah. Just because you shouldn't, something shouldn't be that way. There shouldn't be stereotypes

There shouldn't be judgment. There shouldn't be people out there to try to take advantage of you

but in reality it's there. Right. And, you know, we are social creatures that react to other people and their perceptions and stuff

So we have to account for it. If it matters to us, love to say it shouldn't matter

So don't worry about it. But honestly, it's not that easy. So prepare

you know, protect yourself. That's primary things there. All right. Give us another one

All right. Here's another one that will protect you. Make sure that everything you do

meets your standard of if it were recorded, you would not feel ashamed or embarrassed or regret it

So assume that everything you do, and this could be true, will be recorded

Because God knows everybody has a camera in their pocket now, right? Every smartphone out there has pretty high quality recording

So assume that what you do is going to be recorded. If you do, even in a drunken state or even in a drunken stupor

If you haven't planned things out well enough and can't avoid that or you don't have a friend there to cut you off or whatever

If you keep it in your mind that I'm never going to live this down, right, is always going to be there

People are going to bring it up. If it's pretty innocuous, it might show up at my wedding. If it's not, it might show up on a nefarious website, right

Yeah. Type scenario, which honestly, I have seen that too, which is a sad, sad state of affair where somebody was recorded surreptitiously

Surreptitiously? I can't even spell that. Yeah. And then it was put on pornographic channels

Oh my goodness. Right? Because it was one of these guys who was exploiting his conquests, right

And so anyway, that being said, yeah, believe that everything you do is or could be recorded

Yep. My next tip, this is more kind of on brand with me, and this is just something, I mean

it is something can, can be difficult to overcome if you have that kind of, um, shy personality

if you will. Um, but I'm always a big fan of, have fun at these parties. I mean, that's why

you go to these things is to have fun at them. But when I say have fun, it's not just in the

sense of drinking or like to me, a lot of the fun of parties was just to be, to participate in the

party so for instance if there was a costume party dress up as a costume like I didn't have

a problem dressing up in costumes and I didn't care how stupid it made me look I didn't care

how many people laughed at me I kind of was actually probably going for that more times than

none but it was just a lot of fun because you you you became part of the crowd that was the

party was created by you you took you took part in it and that was something that was just a ton

of fun have you ever heard of an abc party abc no no so abc parties are abc stands for anything

but clothes oh so you go to the party wearing anything but clothes and granted you wear

undergarments and stuff but all of the outer is you've got to make it out of something whether

it's made out of you can make it out essentially you could if you wanted to make a toga because

that you're making it out of a sheet. Or you can use really anything

You can use boxes as clothes. But man, that was probably one of the funnest parties I've ever been to

That sounds like a lot of fun. Because it's just creativity. Yeah, that sounds like a time, right

I mean, you're spreading Halloween through every part of the year. Yeah, man, it was so much fun

And I love, I mean, themed parties are fun because, again, you have that extra element

Naturally, the party in itself is fun. But the theme side of it, you get to see kind of how creative other people are, how far out there they go

You know, of course, I did that in high school. Do you remember having like homecoming week where you had different themes

Uh-huh. I love doing those. Those are fun to me. Yeah, those are great

I mean, ability to just kind of, I don't know, get outside of yourself and do something fun

I will say I got kicked out. Well, I got sent home from high school because of my costume

Really? One year. Yes, because because I didn't I mean, I was just that carefree. I didn't care. And the the theme for that day was I think it was like cartoons. I want to say it was like cartoons or something like that. So you had to dress up like a cartoon character. And I love the Rugrats. Rugrats was one of my favorite shows when I was growing up. And I dressed like Tommy Pickles. And it was Tommy Pickles had a diaper on and a shirt that just came up a little too high

and so I made a bed sheet into a diaper so it's this big big blousy kind of uh diaper looking

thing but it was kind of high up on my legs and I remember getting called into my principal's

office and like what you got on under that diaper and I was like I got some underwear on that's

about it you need to go home and change I'm like oh okay found me you took it a little too far I

took it a little too far but I'm I'm gonna have fun with those kind of things and I think it just

adds to the value of your experience. Even if you're that shy person, it brings you out of

that comfort zone and you could probably get a lot more out of it. Yeah. I mean, that sounds

like I said, it spreads that fun of Halloween throughout the year. But you know what they say

about Halloween though? It's an opportunity for girls to dress sexy and boys to dress like girls

That's true. Yes. That is pretty much what Halloween is. I've dressed like a French

made a couple of times. That a good one man So on top of having fun right you know we went from protecting yourself and doing all that kind of stuff So you know you can have fun because that the important part right You doing this to have fun do it in a responsible way just like drinking right

You prepare for it, do it in a responsible way, no harm in it usually unless there's some negative health thing with you or whatever

But that being said, but then also the aspect that you are still in college, right

The objective of college other than developing as a person is to learn things

Okay. So study ahead of time. Yeah. Don't paint yourself in a corner that says, you know, you choose between studying and going out

I saw that all the time. Right. I did that all the time

Well, yeah. So you were that guy. See, I was the guy who studied ahead of time. I could have gone out anytime I wanted to because I was already I'd already studied for everything. Right. I barely had to study for exams because I studied for classes. Right. So make sure I knew it going forward and stuff like that

I'm not saying being that about it because, you know, my personality calls me to not enjoy a lot of things

But that being said, if you prepare ahead of time, you study for your classes, you get ahead of things, then the decision to go out on a college night is just that

Do I want to go out and have fun or do I not? it's not a trade-off between am I doing my primary responsibility of preparing for my classes so that

I do well there, or do I go out and do the social aspect, which is the primary secondary developmental

element of college. Yeah, I wish I had learned that back in college, where if you just studied

early, you wouldn't have to worry about it later on. Because I was the one that was like, I can't

go to the party because I got to study. And then I would go, you know what, I'll be fine. I'll pull

the all-nighter. Yeah. That was bad. And well, you were lucky you didn't drink because I can tell

you studying while you have drank or, uh, while you are intoxicated does not work

No, I can imagine that. Yeah, it does not work. That is, that is not a fruitful experience

Well, my last tip is an extension of that. And that is make sure you have nothing major planned

the following morning. If you are going to drink. Oh, particularly if you're going to drink

you're going to sleep in that you're and when you wake up you are not going to feel your ready best

yeah i would say too you know even in the planning side this goes way back before even the week that

you're going to go out but even to the beginning of the summer make sure you know when college

night is most campuses college nights are thursday night and if that's the case try not to have any

classes planned on friday i mean that would save you a lot of grief because if you can get all your

classes in on Monday through Thursday, then you have Thursday night to go out and then you have Friday to recover

Yeah. And then you got the weekend, you know, like I say, do it again, detox and do some exercise

and, you know, drink plenty of liquids, right? Rehydrate and be ready for the next week

Yeah. I had a buddy of mine tell me most maybe prophetic thing about drinking I've ever heard

He said, you can't have a hangover if you never stop drinking. yeah but you can you can die you can die there's a blood alcohol content where you will not recover

from that yeah yeah absolutely on that one so and unless and unless you're planning on going to the

hospital and hooking up an iv and sleeping through it honestly you don't want to have a hangover

drink too much go to the hospital get an iv and breathe in pure oxygen so you're over oxygenate

when you wake up, you'll feel like a hundred million bucks again. Well, maybe that's, maybe that'd be the last tip we bring out is if you are going to go

drink, make sure you drink water at the end of the night. No, yeah. I thought you were going to say have a hyperbaric chamber and a nurse ready to hook you up to

an IV. I have seen that before, but the nursing students love that

They get to practice the IV on you. But yeah, drink some water right before you go

I've always said drink a glass of water before you go to sleep. At least get that water back into you so you're not as dehydrated in the morning because that's typically where your hangover comes from

Oh, yeah. And, you know, I always had the routine of taking a cup of ibuprofen and a big cup of water and pounding it

But I will tell you this. If you don want to wake up in the middle of the night where you have to go to the bathroom go and try to drain your bladder ahead of time Yeah buddy Because otherwise you pound that whole big glass of water And I talking about a whole bubble mug full of water right

You are going to have to wake up in the middle of the night, go to the bathroom and it is not going to be great

You are not going to feel awesome rolling out of that bed. And if you're unlucky enough to be too intoxicated to wake up, then you got something to clean up in the morning

Have you ever heard that thing about if the room is spinning, take one leg and put it off the bed and put it on the floor

No. Somebody told me it does not work. I can tell you it does not work at all

Oh, yeah. Go ahead. And do your roommate a favor. I remember in college I woke up one night and my roommate had stumbled in drunk

We had bunk beds at that time. I'm on top bunk. I'm like, God, there he is

He's drunk, making all that racket. Middle of the night, he stumbles out of bed and I wake up

I'm like, what's going on here? He can't figure out where the door is in the room

We had these metal cabinets, right? So he's like trying to push on the metal cabinet to move it

And I'm like, hey, his name was Steve. I'm like, hey, Steve, what are you doing

He was too drunk to wake up. He about faces and proceeds to urinate in his laundry basket

Yeah, right. Did you let him do it though? Oh, yeah. I'm just sitting up like starting to giggle because he is peeling up his laundry basket

And then he just kind of plops back in bed. I'm like, all right, well, that's interesting

You're going to feel that one in the morning. Yeah, so I go back to sleep. Nothing I can do in that scenario. Yeah

Except for in the morning, when I wake up, I'm making sure there's no, uh, no P trail

you know, in front of the door or whatever. So I can get out of there. But the next morning I'm like, you know, he gets up and he says, he's like, God, this

room sounds like this. I'm like, yeah, it does. Yeah. I wonder why

I'm like, yeah, you know what you did last night? Sure enough

Awesome. Yeah. So he filled up his laundry basket. That was awesome. I don't feel so bad about us scaring the volleyball girls no more

No, no, no. You just let yours pee in the laundry basket. I know

And if I had a cell phone, that would still be out there because I would have recorded

every minute of it. Oh, great. Yeah, I would have forwarded that one to everybody too

Well, before we end today, so I was kind of tossing up between two questions for the quick

question, and I think we were going to have more fun with the best memory. But I do have almost a secondary quick question

I want to kind of get your idea on. This is kind of the graded question. I've said this before in a previous podcast of this thought of I'd much rather regret what I did than regret what I didn't do

And I've heard that a lot on college nights as a way to justify them doing a stupid decision or making a stupid decision to do something so that way that they don't regret or always wonder in the back of their mind, what if I would have done that because I chose not to

So with that in mind, how would you grade the truth behind that statement

Like how much do you agree with her? How much do you not grade it for us? To a certain extent, it's completely true

I would say, you know, it's 90% true. But the thing is, it's one of degree, right

So there are things you can regret that you will never live down that will have lasting

repercussions, mentally, legally, right? That type of thing. So, you know, that anyone, I think most

people would spend the rest of their life saying, I hate that I missed the most single, most fun

night I could have ever had because it's one night rather than hurt somebody, right? Rather than

getting a car wreck and hurt somebody or rather than something, you know, less serious, but still

very bad, you know, getting a DUI and what that means and what it costs, whether it's losing your

scholarships, getting kicked out of college, you know, losing your license that, you know

putting your family in financial strain or something like that. So there are, there is

potential that, okay, you do something, right. You didn't want to miss out on the opportunity

me how fun that could have been. But the repercussions can be

On on tenable right it just there is no balancing that So but do you want to spend all your life regretting things that you didn do And as long as it things that aren going to have that

lasting repercussion, then sure. Right. Maybe going on that trip, maybe hanging out just a

little bit longer, maybe spending the time talking with someone that you otherwise wouldn't have

talk to them, maybe, uh, whatever it is, right. Whatever it is that you say, I don't want to miss

this opportunity, right. Cause it'll be something I look back on and remember and nobody got hurt

Uh, yeah. So you would say probably want to be, yeah, I'd say, yeah, I would say that too. And

we're going to have, we're going to have a future episode coming up. I know we've got on the docs already, but, um, dealing with opportunity costs. And I think that really boils down to when you

make these decisions because if the opportunity cost, like you said, if it's not, doesn't have

a long-term lasting effect on if you were to do it, it could have a very short-term impact that you

may regret if you did do it. But, you know, some of these decisions that you make, you may think

always think, well, what if I would have done that? Like it could have, where would I be or

what would I have experienced or something like that had I done that, assuming that the long-term

effect of you not doing it is greater. So you're really looking at the opportunity cost. Like you

said, you don't want to drink and drive. But if it's talking about doing something that you

maybe it's something as stupid or as immature as playing a game at one of these, there's lots of

drinking games out there. But like playing one of these games, you're like, I'm not going to do that

I'm kind of, I'm too mature for that. I've never once in my life said I'm too mature for something

because I'm going to, that's kind of what leads to a lot of times they have fun. So

just look at the repercussions of it. But I do, I kind of feel like that, that statement is fairly

true. If you take out all of the ones that have the legal repercussions or the physical repercussions

potentially. So. Yeah. If you take out the, all of that, right. The idea that I could get arrested

I could really hurt somebody else. I could, you know, that type or be hurting myself. Yeah. You take away that. It's 100 percent true. I mean, it is worth sacrificing like crazy to have some of the things that that or to do some of the things that you otherwise would regret

But as long as, like I say, there's no that lasting repercussion

Well, very cool. This is I love this. I love these fun loving kind of topics that we talk about

The ability to laugh at some of these is just I know we get deep in some of our topics sometimes

But when we have these ones that we can just joke and have fun and talk about our experience of the stupidities that we've gone through when we're in college

I love these episodes. Yeah, these are the best. Yeah, a little bit of nostalgia, right

Looking back. That, and it just, I mean, because these past weeks of me being in as a student going back to school and everything has been super stressful

So be able to, it really does brighten up your day to be able to kind of, like you said

reminisce about these old times and things that we've done and everything and be able to laugh and have fun

I know, it inspires me too. It's like a country song, man

Oh, I could tell you all this stuff that we're saying about having fun college nights and doing

when you're in your mid to late 30s and you go back to school, does not happen anymore

Oh, no. And then you just got the memories, right? Exactly. Looking back on the memories of..

That's a good song. Oh, yeah, that's a great one. I've drawn back on that as motivation for writing songs so many times

Well, that's been a good show. Jason, do you have anything to say before we leave

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