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Sway Calloway recounts the moment "I Cursed Live On Air With Beyoncé" during a tense MTV VMA broadcast in this revealing segment. In this insightful clip from Sway In The Morning, the team is joined by resident therapist David Weber to address the psychological toll of stumbling on the "big stage." Sway opens up about his personal experience with imposter syndrome after a hot mic mishap involving the global superstar, questioning if he was truly built for the pressure of live television.
The conversation expands to include Heather B’s perspective on handling rejection in the acting world and deep discussions with citizens facing their own hurdles, from academic setbacks to traumatic sports injuries. David Weber offers expert clinical advice on developing a "short memory" like professional athletes, using affirmations to combat negative self-talk, and accepting that what is meant for you will not pass you by. This video goes beyond entertainment, providing actionable steps to encourage yourself when plans fall apart.
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Introduction: Overcoming Career Loss
00:48 - Recovering from Major Loss
05:20 - Career Recovery Strategies
10:27 - Managing High-Level Success
13:40 - Handling Unexpected Outcomes
17:04 - Career Resilience Success Story
21:30 - Professional Growth Case Study
22:41 - Q&A: Overcoming Obstacles
26:13 - Building Emotional Resilience
27:38 - Contact David Webb Coaching
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David Weber is here. In case you didn't
0:01
know, he's our resident therapist. This
0:03
man
0:05
uh this man is also a producer. He
0:07
produced uh some Grammy award-winning
0:09
artist at the same time, but we got him
0:11
here for his master's degree in clinical
0:13
mental health counseling from
0:15
Northwestern University. Okay. And
0:18
David, welcome back to the show.
0:20
>> We got to turn your mic on, man. Go
0:22
ahead. You've been doing this a while.
0:23
I'm not going to keep doing it for you.
0:25
>> Y'all hear me now?
0:26
>> Okay. Yeah, we can hear you now. David
0:27
Weber, welcome to the show.
0:28
>> All right. Thank you. Thank [screaming]
0:28
you.
0:30
Free clinical advice. Wow.
0:33
>> From David Weber. If you need a
0:34
therapist, you've always been
0:36
apprehensive about therapy. I get it. We
0:39
all go through that. Yeah.
0:40
>> But this man is someone you could call
0:42
right now just to get your feel.
0:44
8887423345.
0:47
We're coming off the Super Bowl and I
0:49
asked you a question about Drake May,
0:51
right? The the quarterback for
0:53
>> the New England Patriots.
0:55
>> Didn't have the game he hoped for. And
0:57
leading up to that game in the playoffs,
0:59
I don't think that man threw one
1:00
interception in the playoffs postseason.
1:04
And in this game, he threw
1:07
multiple once right to two or three.
1:11
>> Couldn't figure out the defense of the
1:13
Seattle Seahawks um in that first half.
1:16
Eventually, they start finding some
1:18
rhythm, but by that time, they were
1:20
completely dominated. Uh, and even at
1:22
times when the momentum was going his
1:24
way, it'll end with a turnover. I can
1:27
only imagine what's that like? You know,
1:30
it's almost like a boxer making it to
1:31
the championship fight and getting
1:34
knocked out in the first round.
1:35
>> Yeah.
1:36
>> Off of a punch he couldn't see. How do
1:39
you recover from that is the question,
1:41
Citizens? And we could all relate to
1:43
what he went through. I mean, granted,
1:45
they made it to the Super Bowl and it's
1:47
only one other team that could beat you
1:48
out of that,
1:49
>> right? So salute to him for that. But I
1:52
don't care who you are, you're a human
1:54
being. When you reach that pinnacle
1:56
point and you do not perform like you
1:58
hope to, like you train to
2:00
>> from the time you were a kid from little
2:02
league football to now, you make it to
2:04
the big game and you don't do as well as
2:07
you hope to.
2:08
>> You don't do well at all.
2:09
>> Yeah.
2:10
>> How do you recover? You know, I've had
2:12
that experience working at MTV
2:15
>> and I recall wanting to, you know, being
2:17
excited that they put a lot of they put
2:21
a lot of trust in me handling
2:23
spearheading opening the Video Music
2:26
Awards with the pre-shows
2:28
>> and they made me an anchor, you know,
2:30
which meant you was going to carry the
2:32
ball. Every big artist that came to you,
2:35
that came on that carpet, you probably
2:37
were going to have first dibs at.
2:38
>> Yeah. That meant you were at the home
2:41
base station, the big platform, not down
2:44
the carpet. Let me throw it to Heather
2:45
down the carpet in the closet.
2:47
>> You You're in the front and center. This
2:48
is where all the jib, all the big
2:51
cameras are focused on you. And I recall
2:54
a time having that experience being
2:57
prepared, have worked my way up to that
3:00
point, and every time a different artist
3:03
comes on, it's a different challenge.
3:05
Yeah. Yeah.
3:06
>> So, it's like you're playing 10 Super
3:08
Bowls if you interview 10 different
3:09
artists at that time.
3:11
>> And at the end of the night, the biggest
3:13
artist of the night came to me and that
3:16
was Beyonce.
3:17
>> When you say her name, you give a round
3:19
of applause. That was Beyonce.
3:22
And Bee was like, "Oh, there's Sway.
3:24
There he is over there." And I'm nervous
3:27
like she's coming. I'm talking in the
3:28
headphones and I'm talking to the
3:30
studio, the people who's in the u in the
3:32
the head truck.
3:34
um the guy who's directing the show and
3:36
he's like, "Can you get her?" Yeah, I
3:37
can get her. She's coming right now. Um
3:40
she's going to be here in 5 seconds.
3:41
We're not ready, Sway. We're not ready.
3:42
I'm not going to be able to hold her.
3:44
We're not ready, Sway. We're not ready
3:45
yet. I'm not going to be able to hold
3:47
her. And u by the time they got ready,
3:50
I'm talking to I'm not going to be able
3:51
to hold her. [ __ ] Y'all need to hurry
3:53
up. Come on. And that [ __ ] y'all need
3:56
to hurry up. Come on. Was live on air.
4:00
[laughter]
4:00
>> Oh.
4:03
Oops.
4:06
>> AND THEY WAS SWEAR ON AIR,
4:07
>> RIGHT? [laughter]
4:09
>> And in my ear,
4:10
>> hot mic.
4:11
>> And I had to smooth it out.
4:13
>> Yeah.
4:13
>> You know, because back then when you
4:14
cursed on air, the FCC would find you a
4:17
quarter of a million dollars
4:18
>> and threaten your license, you know, and
4:21
you know, MTV being a large you
4:24
>> and I felt bad afterwards.
4:26
>> Yeah. Like I remember once I did the
4:28
interview, even though I recovered, the
4:30
interview was over, the show was over
4:31
and I fel myself by myself in the
4:35
moment. I was like, yo,
4:37
>> am I built for this?
4:39
>> You know what I mean? Like, am I really
4:42
built for this?
4:43
>> Is this really what I want to do?
4:45
>> Yeah.
4:45
>> I thought it was exciting to be there.
4:47
Who would have thought that a person
4:48
like me coming from hip hop would be
4:50
hosting the biggest youth network with
4:52
the biggest crossover stars be
4:55
interviewing them?
4:56
>> And I fumbled and it wrecked me.
5:00
>> You know, for a second it wrecked me and
5:02
it made me question myself.
5:05
>> You know, I recovered.
5:07
>> But I want to talk to people who had
5:10
situations in their respective field
5:12
where you reached to the pinnacle. You
5:14
got to that stage, the big stage. and
5:17
the result wasn't the same that you
5:19
dreamt about. Heather, you never had
5:21
that happen.
5:22
>> Oh, absolutely. I think um it happens a
5:25
lot in our field just in terms of
5:26
auditioning, right? Um I audition a lot,
5:29
you know, whether it's for commercial or
5:31
television, for film, you have to go in
5:33
that room and you have to nail it. Uh
5:36
very few times will a casting director
5:38
say to you, "Okay, let's try it again
5:40
this way." Maybe if they're interested,
5:43
you know, they'll give you another shot,
5:44
but you This is a one of one. you got to
5:47
go. And yeah, you walk out the room
5:48
sometimes feeling like I could have done
5:50
better. I should have done this. I
5:52
should have made that choice. But I've
5:54
learned I let things go very quickly.
5:56
>> I don't I don't stay in it long and I've
5:58
learned what's for me is for me. You
6:01
know, my job is to be prepared and that
6:03
that's what I have to do. Um so I I kind
6:06
of let it go. Early on in my career, it
6:09
bothered me. Um bothered me to the point
6:11
where I would sulk, you know. um every
6:13
no would be like a two week or sometimes
6:15
a twomonth setback for me you know and
6:18
it's hard to get out of that but I I get
6:20
out of the way of those things now
6:22
especially if I know I prepared for it
6:24
then that means it just wasn't for me
6:25
another opportunity to come I'm also
6:27
sway interested in some of our citizens
6:29
who may not be in the industry who feel
6:32
like um I I spoke to a friend recently
6:34
who didn't do well at a job interview
6:36
>> and you know that they didn't even get
6:39
to the big stage so to speak but that
6:41
was the big stage for them that job
6:43
interview that bombed and basically said
6:45
because it was on Zoom. I don't know
6:47
what that process is like, but said it's
6:49
a whole different process now
6:51
interviewing on Zoom. They felt like
6:52
they didn't get the opportunity and
6:54
she's been kind of down now since.
6:57
>> Did she get the job?
6:58
>> No.
6:58
>> Oh, they told her no.
7:00
>> She She kind of knew. She knew she
7:02
didn't get it. She knew. Yeah. When it
7:03
was over and her whole confidence is is
7:06
is shaken now because of that. You make
7:08
a big point like for Drake May the big
7:10
stage was the Super Bowl. But for
7:12
someone else who who's not
7:14
entertainment, they're not in sports.
7:16
Yeah.
7:16
>> Their big stage might be an interview or
7:18
a presentation, a PowerPoint
7:20
presentation, you might have to give
7:22
information about a project you're
7:24
working on or you might have to pitch a
7:26
project that you want to the company
7:28
that you work with, right? Um there's
7:30
many ways that we all have to answer the
7:33
bell on the big stage and that's
7:35
relative to your life. 8887423345
7:40
if you could relate to this. David
7:42
Weber, what are your thoughts?
7:42
>> Yeah, this and even a relationship.
7:44
There are people who've been you've been
7:46
with someone for four or five, six
7:47
years.
7:48
>> You're hoping this is the year he's
7:50
going to propose to you and and it
7:52
doesn't happen, right? And then you
7:54
begin doing what? Questioning yourself.
7:56
>> Questioning your own selfworth. Question
7:57
is anyone love me? Will any will when
7:59
anybody choose me? That's a big I
8:01
actually been dealing with that too.
8:02
>> You've been dealing with that?
8:03
>> I have. Will anyone choose me? like
8:06
right like David for David, right? Not
8:08
>> you never had that. You've always
8:10
>> years ago and I messed stuff up. I was I
8:12
was stupid and young. Okay.
8:13
>> Um but like so we all have those Super
8:16
Bowl moments where you begin to question
8:18
your own self and sometimes it's not
8:20
even your own failing,
8:22
>> right? You can be doing everything right
8:23
and it still not work out for you. And
8:25
that's why I love what you said about if
8:27
it's not for me, it's not for me. and
8:29
being able to get to that place where
8:30
you're like,
8:32
>> if it's not for me, then this thing was
8:34
not for me.
8:36
>> Um, the two best people I've seen at
8:38
being able having short memories, that's
8:41
basically what you were saying. Being
8:42
able to move quickly is a guy by the
8:44
name of Martin K. Used to play for
8:46
Michigan State basketball. Used to play
8:48
in the NBA guy. Yeah.
8:50
>> And then um and and and my brother um
8:54
Chris Weber, right? Because you have to
8:56
have a short memory, especially in
8:58
sports. If you miss 12 shots in a row,
9:00
you better come back and shoot that 13th
9:02
shot, right? Like Steph Curry. Steph
9:04
Curry can't have a moment where he
9:06
misses 13 straight shots and says, "I'm
9:08
not shooting the next shot." You better
9:09
shoot the next shot,
9:10
>> right? Um and so it's it's the
9:12
confidence piece. It's it's knowing it's
9:13
it's knowing who you are and being
9:15
confident in that. Well, that's what
9:17
it's very interesting that David you say
9:19
this because initially I would not
9:22
audition because I was afraid of the no.
9:26
>> I I I didn't like the rejection portion
9:28
of it.
9:29
>> And then when you got you get the
9:33
rejection and you don't you don't even
9:35
realize how much rejection it is. Like
9:37
after then you start to tell yourself am
9:40
I ever going to get something? Is
9:42
somebody going to choose me?
9:44
>> Because this is going on for like three
9:46
years now or four years now for and I
9:48
haven't booked anything. Yeah. Then that
9:50
starts to get into your head and finally
9:52
I had to do the work. Yep.
9:53
>> To say again, all you can do is prepare
9:56
because if I'm going out for a role and
9:58
then I get on I watch it on television,
10:01
I'm like, "Oh, a Asian woman got it. I
10:03
had no shot." [laughter]
10:06
>> That wasn't for you.
10:07
>> Shut up, Sway.
10:09
Right.
10:10
>> So you you got to move. You got go
10:12
quick. Short memory.
10:14
>> Short. We got people on the lines. I'm
10:16
going to open up the phone lines.
10:17
8887423345.
10:19
Tell your story. We're going to come
10:20
back with David Weber and he's going to
10:22
give you some feedback. Yes.
10:24
>> Shade 45.
10:27
Right now we got David Weber, resident
10:29
therapist here with us. Interesting
10:31
topic. What happens when you make it to
10:32
the big stage
10:34
[applause] and the outcome isn't what
10:36
you planned on and you begin to question
10:39
yourself and was this even for me? Am I
10:43
built for this?
10:44
>> And it happens all the time and it can
10:46
happen every single day.
10:49
>> Yes.
10:49
>> Right. Heather has experiences
10:52
>> and came to the conclusion that was
10:54
meant for me is meant for me.
10:56
>> It is.
10:56
>> Amen. I've had experiences on big stages
11:00
too in front of the world.
11:02
>> Yeah.
11:02
>> You know, and had to recuperate, you
11:04
know, and remind myself, nah, you are
11:07
built for this.
11:08
>> Even Michael Jordan talked about the
11:10
amount of shots that he missed in order
11:13
to make the shots that he made. Yeah.
11:15
>> Right.
11:16
>> And your advice is
11:19
>> short memory. Short memory.
11:22
>> Short memory.
11:23
>> What's for you is for you. Short memory.
11:25
And you said something off the air,
11:27
Heather. If you don't prepare, that's
11:30
different.
11:30
>> Yeah.
11:31
>> We're not talking about the person who
11:32
doesn't prepare and shows up and expects
11:35
things to work out. I'm talking about
11:36
the people who you've done everything
11:38
that you know to do
11:40
>> and it still doesn't work out for you.
11:42
The quick story, Sway, I I I don't know
11:44
if you know this, but I played
11:45
basketball at Central Michigan
11:46
University.
11:47
>> Okay.
11:47
>> And um I got conference player of the
11:50
year. Um I was pretty good. I scored 51
11:52
points um my sophomore year. broke Larry
11:55
Bird's record at that time in my uh at
11:57
my university. What?
11:58
>> And I did. It was real talk. Um and we
12:01
got to the um conference tournament
12:05
>> and I choked.
12:08
>> I choked and the stage at that time was
12:10
a big stage for for the Mid American
12:12
Conference. It was huge. It was a big
12:14
stage and and I choked and I I
12:16
questioned my ability, right? Like
12:18
what's like what's wrong? I can't shoot
12:20
on the on the big stage. I I was killing
12:22
all year long,
12:24
right? And but when it come to big
12:26
states, I can't and you start to
12:27
question yourself.
12:28
>> I've questioned [snorts] myself so many
12:29
times walking into this building this
12:31
way.
12:32
>> I questioned myself so many times
12:35
walking into this building, sitting in
12:37
this chair. And one of the things that's
12:39
been helpful for me this morning, the
12:40
first thing I did, I woke up this
12:42
morning, the very first thing,
12:43
>> I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be.
12:45
I'm exactly where I'm Thank you, Lord.
12:47
I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be.
12:48
And when I came in here to have a
12:50
conversation with you this morning, I'm
12:51
like, "Just thank you." I'm like, "Swe
12:52
thank you. I appreciate you
12:54
>> and I'm exactly where I'm supposed to
12:56
be." And that's basically what you said
12:57
to me. That was basically your response.
12:58
Like you're supposed to be here. So
13:00
you're going to have moments where you
13:02
question yourself. You're going to have
13:03
moments where you question your ability.
13:05
>> You have to remind yourself. There's a
13:06
gospel song that says, "Encourage
13:08
yourself." You have to encourage
13:09
yourself. If you're not encouraging
13:11
yourself and let that negative talk get
13:13
inside your head, it's a wrap. You're
13:15
going you're going your day is going to
13:17
follow that, right? your day is not
13:18
going to be a very good day. But you if
13:19
you go, you know what? What's for me is
13:22
for me. I'm going to prepare today. Do
13:24
everything I'm supposed to do.
13:26
Everything I'm supposed to do, things
13:28
are going to work out for me in my
13:30
favor.
13:30
>> David Weber, man. Man, I'm glad you're
13:32
here today, brother. He was
13:34
>> offering to buy me [ __ ] Heather. I was
13:35
like, "No, man. You ain't got to do
13:37
that." [laughter]
13:40
>> But we got a lot of citizens who who's
13:42
been on that stage. And I'm going to
13:43
start with Imani cuz she's going to come
13:45
from a whole another perspective out of
13:48
Kentucky. We love it in Kentucky.
13:50
Immani, welcome to the show.
13:53
>> Yes. Thank you for having me. First time
13:55
as well.
13:56
>> First time top.
14:01
[music]
14:04
>> Welcome to therapy, Monty. Welcome to
14:07
therapy. All right. Uh so talk to that
14:09
talk to us about your big stage.
14:14
>> My big stage. I was just in community
14:17
college. I was about six months away at
14:21
my internship uh in data analysis. And
14:26
because I have children and I'm a single
14:29
mother and don't have the resources, I
14:31
had to go and tell my instructor that I
14:34
had to drop.
14:36
So now I'm sitting in um
14:39
>> I'm sorry. Go ahead.
14:41
>> No, you were saying with six months
14:42
remaining you had to drop.
14:44
>> Yes. Yeah. I had to drop.
14:47
>> Oh my gosh. Okay. Do speak.
14:53
>> Oh me. Yeah. I had six months to go and
14:55
I had to drop. So now I'm sitting here
14:56
in a rut about what I want to do. I'm
14:59
28. I'm young. I have no record. And I
15:01
really cannot maneuver how I want to
15:02
because I have three children under six
15:04
years old.
15:09
Have you have you been questioning
15:11
yourself, your ability at all or or or
15:14
are you pretty still are you still
15:16
confident in in what you're able to do
15:17
if you get the opportunity?
15:21
>> I question myself a lot now because I'm
15:24
like, "Oh, I have all this potential to
15:27
do a lot, but it's like I like, is it
15:30
the right path? Am I going the right
15:32
way?
15:35
Yeah, this this is this is this is my
15:37
advice to you and anyone else listening.
15:39
Um there may be circumstances out of
15:42
your control that stop your progress,
15:45
right? You have certain goals, things
15:46
you want to do, something out of your
15:48
control happens and you're unable to do
15:50
it at that time. What I would say to you
15:52
is keep doing what you're doing even
15:55
though it may not be counting for
15:57
credits. Right? So whatever you're
15:59
studying, I would keep studying it.
16:01
Right? If I'm, for example, let's say
16:02
you had an injury, right, and you're
16:04
trying to lose weight, I would still
16:05
keep working out at home. Yes, you can't
16:07
go to the gym. Maybe you had momentum,
16:09
you were doing well, you lost 40 pounds,
16:11
and then you hurt your knee. So, I would
16:13
work out at home. I would do arm
16:14
workouts at home. I I would keep the
16:16
momentum going just in a different way.
16:18
So, you may not be able to take the
16:20
classes right now because of the
16:21
children, but I would say I would say
16:24
keep studying, keep learning, keep doing
16:26
what you're doing, just doing it at
16:28
home.
16:30
>> Thank you.
16:32
There you go, Emani. And Imani, let me
16:34
say this. Let me suggest this to you,
16:35
too. David Weber can be reached off air.
16:39
Hit him up, David. Give your
16:41
information.
16:41
>> Absolutely. Hit me up on Instagram,
16:42
David Weber_LPC.
16:45
I'll try to help you find resources um
16:47
in your area, okay? But hit me up
16:50
directly and I'll hit you back today at
16:52
some point.
16:53
>> All right. Thank you.
16:54
>> Okay. You got it, Imani. You got it. And
16:57
All right. And you're a super citizen.
16:58
All right. See you in the morning. You
16:59
got yourself and that's all you need
17:01
sometimes, right?
17:02
>> That's it. Encourage yourself, y'all.
17:04
>> Aaron's on the line right now from
17:06
Michigan. We're talking about the big
17:07
stage, arriving on your big stage and
17:10
sometimes it doesn't turn out. You don't
17:12
have the result you hope for. How do you
17:14
continue on? Aaron is in Michigan.
17:16
Aaron, welcome to the show. What up,
17:18
Aaron? What up, though?
17:19
>> Hi. Okay. I was on the show, I don't
17:22
know, like a couple weeks ago,
17:24
>> and I said that I was a swim coach. Do
17:26
you remember that? Maybe not.
17:28
>> Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes, absolutely.
17:30
>> Because
17:31
>> all right, so I was not a swimmer ever.
17:36
I was a runner when I was younger and
17:39
the things I always wanted to do was be
17:41
a teacher, run and be a mom always.
17:44
Well, we had our first child. You know,
17:46
that's fine. We go to have our second
17:48
and I actually had a really bad back
17:51
injury. Like I was messed up. Like I
17:53
couldn't lift a pound. I couldn't even
17:55
like pick up my kid. Like I couldn't do
17:57
anything. like so my husband decided he
18:00
was going to leave teaching and go be an
18:01
optometrist. That's how he got to be an
18:04
optometrist today. Well, with me
18:07
um basically I couldn't I just I
18:10
couldn't do anything for like three
18:11
years. I just had to completely let
18:13
those things heal. Um but then running
18:16
was out of the picture. So I began
18:19
swimming and then one day I said I would
18:22
love to help out with like this swim
18:24
program and I knew nothing. I was
18:26
literally just like the first time I
18:27
called, I was dumb enough to just do
18:30
something stupid, you know, like you
18:32
just don't know enough the first time
18:33
you do something. Um, so I was just
18:35
like, I want to help with swim. My
18:36
husband's like, what? This is so random.
18:38
Do you swim? And I was like, well, I do
18:40
now. And I guess the point is now I'm a
18:43
varsity swim coach and I work with the
18:45
the Y team, so I coach all of the teams
18:49
in our town. And right [clears throat]
18:51
now we're getting kids ready. They're
18:52
tapering and they're getting ready to go
18:54
to like the state meet and every year
18:56
this is something I deal with. I think
18:58
to myself,
19:00
ah, do I have these kids fooled into
19:02
thinking I know something? You know what
19:04
I mean? Because I never swam in high
19:06
school. I did when I was younger. I
19:08
never swam in college. I do have
19:10
training and coaching softball and
19:12
running and all these things, but it's
19:14
different when I've never raced the race
19:16
that my swimmers are racing. And so,
19:18
that's a real thing. But I have to tell
19:20
myself that the preparation I did every
19:22
single day, like you're saying, short
19:24
memory. There was a day that I was like,
19:26
I I I can't stop missing run running. I
19:30
have to find something that's going to
19:31
replace it. You know what I mean? And
19:33
then eventually I started swimming and I
19:34
never even thought about running again.
19:37
So yeah, that's my story.
19:39
>> I love it.
19:40
>> That's amazing. You said you said dumb
19:42
enough to try. I'mma change that for
19:44
you. You you were audacious enough to go
19:47
for it,
19:48
>> right? you were audacious enough to go
19:50
for it. Many of us
19:51
>> and I said, "Well, not today." But if
19:53
you do it 200 days in a row, now you
19:55
are. You know what I mean?
19:56
>> There you are. There you are.
19:58
>> That's it. That's it. What you what you
20:00
just talked about was going for
20:01
something that you don't have much of
20:03
experience in. You're trying it for the
20:05
very first time. There are many of you
20:06
out there who who have been maybe trying
20:09
to get jobs. Maybe you've tried 200, 300
20:13
job applications. It's not working out
20:15
for you. Maybe try something else. maybe
20:17
put in an application for something that
20:19
maybe you wouldn't normally try, maybe
20:21
you wouldn't normally do. Um, being
20:23
audacious, trying different things. Um,
20:25
and again, again, I can't I can't stress
20:27
this enough. Your confidence has to come
20:30
from within because a lot of times
20:32
you're going to get haters. You're going
20:33
to get people who don't believe in you.
20:35
You're going to have family hating on
20:37
you, friends hating on you. You have to
20:39
believe in yourself. And one of the ways
20:41
you can believe in yourself, one of the
20:42
ways you can build those neuropathways
20:44
in your brain, getting very technical
20:46
now, is to is affirmations is speaking
20:50
life into yourself every single morning.
20:52
I tell my clients, I need you to do 30
20:54
seconds in the morning,
20:55
>> 30 seconds around lunchtime, and 30
20:57
seconds at night. You'd be surprised how
21:00
90 seconds a day will change your life.
21:02
>> Oh my gosh, Aaron. Thank you. Snoop's
21:05
affirmation song. Last thing, have you
21:08
ever heard Snoop's doggy land
21:11
affirmation song?
21:14
>> I have not. Ah, somebody pull that up.
21:17
>> I play it sometimes. It's hilarious.
21:19
>> Okay.
21:20
>> I play it for like
21:21
>> What's it What's it What's it called?
21:23
What's it called? What's it called?
21:24
>> It's called the affirmation song.
21:27
>> Somebody pull it up on Doggy Land. It's
21:30
on the Doggy Land album. [laughter]
21:32
Aaron. Erin, I love that you're
21:33
listening to Doggy Land. By the way, um,
21:36
thank you for your story. Thank you for
21:38
sharing. You are inspiring to people who
21:40
are tuned in right now, Erin. And you
21:42
you're a super citizen. She could swim
21:44
now.
21:45
>> There it is.
21:46
>> There it is. Let me hear a little bit of
21:47
that. We got that,
21:48
>> man. You learn something new every day.
21:51
>> Hey, we playing that a lot.
21:53
>> So, Doggy Lamb must be the kids division
21:55
of of Snoop.
21:56
>> Yeah. Hey, save that. You know, so when
21:59
those kids like Aiden and Bean and all
22:01
those folks call, we got something for.
22:03
I'm going to take one more call. We're
22:04
talking about arriving on the big stage
22:06
of your life
22:07
>> and unfortunately it may not turn out
22:09
how you planned it. You know, we saw
22:11
that happen with Drake May, the pre um
22:13
the quarterback for
22:14
>> New England Patriots,
22:15
>> and he has to recover. He he did a lot
22:17
to get to that point, and I know he
22:19
prepared. It just wasn't his day.
22:22
>> And the coach, too. I mean, the coach,
22:24
I'm sure he's experiencing cuz he sat
22:27
the plays, he sat with his staff, he sat
22:29
with his teams who who knows what he's
22:31
going through right now.
22:32
>> That that that offensive line.
22:35
>> Sheesh. [laughter]
22:36
>> They all [clears throat] stress.
22:37
>> Fumble.
22:40
Don on the line. Uh Don, talk about that
22:43
big stage that you arrived to and it
22:45
didn't turn out the way you hoped.
22:48
>> Morning guys. Morning. Morning.
22:50
>> Good morning today.
22:53
>> So my story um it's uh it's basically I
22:57
grew up uh racing uh motocross which is
23:00
basically dirt bikes. Like I um started
23:02
when I was pretty young. Um and I was um
23:06
racing all over the state of Georgia.
23:07
So, I was fast, you know, I was what
23:08
they call like a local, you know, and I
23:10
was good. And there's this um regional
23:13
race you have to go to. It's in
23:15
Hurricane Mills, Tennessee called
23:16
Loretta Lens, and they have it every
23:17
year in August. So, my parents, they
23:20
they they they invest in me, man, and
23:22
get me, you know, the bikes, and we go,
23:24
and I'm I'm just like I I I just knew I
23:27
was going to go and just kill it, man.
23:29
And I get there, and it's guys from all
23:31
over the world, and they're way faster
23:34
than I am. like I qualified to go there,
23:36
but when I got there, they I was almost
23:39
like I I got so nervous, man. And um I
23:43
was in the first what they call a moto.
23:44
It first race, and I crashed out and
23:47
broke my wrist and my pelvis. I crashed
23:49
pretty hard trying to keep up.
23:51
>> So needless to say, I I stopped racing
23:53
after that year. I mean, I still ride to
23:55
this day, you know, with my friends. We
23:56
go on the trails, you know, different
23:58
trail rides. But um yeah, I I just we
24:01
never raced after that. We hung it up.
24:02
It was a week long event and there was
24:04
no need for me to even be there anymore.
24:05
And to this day, because I knew I was
24:08
sad, so I didn't think that that could
24:09
ever happen. So to this day, every time,
24:11
>> right,
24:12
>> I think of doing something, I think like
24:14
what's the point cuz you you probably
24:17
just gonna, you know, just so I don't I
24:20
don't stick to stuff real long, man,
24:21
because I just think like, eh, you know,
24:24
something will eventually happen. And
24:25
it's and I try to wipe it, man. But it's
24:27
just like it just reoccurs every time.
24:30
Like I when I'm working I I'll just be
24:32
like, "All right, I'm do this." And it's
24:33
like, "Man, what if man, what if you
24:35
just
24:37
that that's the you bring up a great
24:40
point and I promise you, you're not the
24:41
only person listening to this show that
24:44
experienced exactly what you're
24:45
describing, trying something, it not
24:48
working, and being like, "Yo, I'm done
24:50
with that. I'm done. I'm done doing
24:51
that." Right? Um, we all experience.
24:54
Don't let nobody fool you. Don't let
24:56
nobody fool you. I don't care if you're
24:57
a billionaire. I don't care if you're
24:59
the most famous person in the world. We
25:00
all experience imposture syndrome at
25:02
some point. At some point, you're like,
25:05
"Ah, maybe this isn't for me, man. Maybe
25:07
I'm not a dope beat maker. Maybe I can't
25:09
rap. Maybe I can't sing." Right? No
25:11
matter who you are, and for you it was
25:13
the dirt bikes, right? It was, "Yo,
25:15
maybe I'm not built for this." But
25:17
here's the interesting thing
25:18
>> is you were. you just didn't know it at
25:21
the time because like they said, then
25:23
you would do it again the next day and
25:24
the next day and the next day and the
25:26
next day and then you look up and now
25:29
you just as good as those guys you were
25:30
talking about. Right? So no matter who
25:32
you are, if you listen to this show, if
25:34
there's a point in your life where
25:36
you're questioning something about
25:37
yourself, about your abilities, keep
25:40
going. Don't stop. Don't get to the
25:42
point where you stop and say, "Yeah,
25:43
maybe it's not for me." Now, obviously,
25:45
it's one thing if it's truly not for
25:46
you, if it's something you don't excel
25:48
at, but if you only tried it a few
25:50
times, if you're seven, if you're in a
25:51
seventh grade right now listening to
25:52
this show, or you're in the ninth grade
25:53
listening to this show, and you tried
25:54
off with the basketball team, you didn't
25:55
make it the first time, right? Try it
25:57
again next year. Keep working on your
25:59
game. If you're trying to get into an
26:00
industry that you don't have the skills
26:02
for yet, keep working on those skills.
26:04
Keep getting better and you'll have the
26:06
skills. But at the end of the day, it's
26:07
just the people who keep going as
26:09
opposed to the people who quit. If you
26:10
keep going, you're going to be right
26:11
there. How do he remove from his psyche
26:15
the the disappointment or the trauma he
26:17
experienced by not being fast enough and
26:19
and breaking down and ended up breaking
26:22
his wrist? And
26:23
>> how does he not apply that to everything
26:25
else he does?
26:26
>> I I please hit me up on Instagram, David
26:29
Weber_LPC.
26:31
I want to help you personally, but to
26:32
everyone else listening out there, okay?
26:35
>> You got to get out your head.
26:37
I tell my clients all the time,
26:39
overthinking kills more dreams than
26:41
almost anything. It's overthinking,
26:44
>> right? Having things you want to try in
26:47
your life and not trying because you're
26:49
overthinking the process. You're already
26:52
you're first critic. You're biggest
26:54
critic. Many of us, our biggest critic
26:56
is ourselves. So, the best way to stop
26:59
doing that is to get out of your head.
27:01
Stop analyzing every single thing you've
27:03
done wrong in your life. every single
27:05
thing that didn't that wasn't successful
27:07
in your life and start back to Snoop and
27:10
start doing affirmations that will
27:12
change those neural pathways in your
27:14
brain.
27:15
>> Don, you got to try that. And do me a
27:17
favor, Don. Really reach out to David
27:18
Weber. Yeah.
27:19
>> Okay. Because I don't want that one
27:21
chapter
27:22
>> to define your whole book
27:24
>> for real.
27:24
>> You know what I mean? Um Oh, that was
27:27
kind of somebody Tyler, write that down.
27:28
>> Oh boy. [laughter]
27:30
>> Yeah. You know, uh,
27:34
Don, you're a super citizen, brother.
27:36
Hit him up. Okay. Citizens.
27:38
>> All right. All right, man.
27:40
>> Thank you, brother. David Weber, give
27:42
out your information.
27:42
>> Listen, hit me up on Instagram. That's
27:44
David Weber_LPC.
27:46
If you don't have Instagram, you can
27:48
email me at [email protected].
27:51
>> Thank you for coming by. Give it up for
27:53
David Webb.
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