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Have you ever had that one family
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member, the golden child, the one who
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floats through life, leaving a trail of
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chaos in their wake, yet always landing
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on their feet because everyone else
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rushes in to clean up their mess? Yeah,
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that's my younger brother, Jake. And for
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my entire life, I've been the one
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holding the mop. But the day he stole my
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soul, my prized possession, and nearly
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ended his own life, was the day I
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finally said, "No more." This isn't just
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a story about a car. This is about a
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lifelong battle against favoritism, the
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crippling weight of misplaced
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responsibility, and the painful
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necessary act of cutting ties to save
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yourself. Get ready, because my family
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saga is about to take a turn you won't
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believe. I was spending the night at my
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best friend's house, a rare moment of
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peace, when my phone rang. It was my
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parents. Their voices were laced with
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panic, telling me my younger brother
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Jake was in the hospital with
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life-threatening injuries.
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After some back and forth, piecing
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together their frantic whispers, the
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horrifying truth clicked into place. He
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was in the hospital because he had
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stolen my restored 1970 Chevy Impala
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while drunk and crashed it. My blood ran
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cold. I was beyond mad, furious, both at
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Jake for doing something so incredibly
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stupid, and at my parents for yet again
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failing to put any boundaries on him.
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This was the inevitable conclusion of
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years of unchecked behavior. I hung up,
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told my best friend what had happened,
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and took off for the hospital. Upon
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arrival, I saw a sight more grim than I
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could have imagined. I hurried to the
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desk, my voice tight with urgency.
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Where's Jake? The nurse directed me to
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the waiting room, a sterile,
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anxiety-ridden space where I found all
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of our family. My mom rushed to me,
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pulling me into a desperate hug. "Mom,
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what exactly happened?" I asked, my mind
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still struggling to process the enormity
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of it all. She took a deep, shuddering
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breath covering her mouth, her eyes red-
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rimmed. It looked like she had been
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crying for hours before I even arrived.
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"He was speeding," she whispered. and he
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hit a tree. How is he doing? The
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question felt insignificant against the
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backdrop of her visible grief, but I had
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to ask. She took another shaky breath.
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He has spinal injuries. If he makes it
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out of the emergency surgery alive,
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they're not sure if he'll be able to
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walk or move anything below his
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shoulders. He would he would literally
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be paralyzed. I sat there, the news
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washing over me, a chilling wave of
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I couldn't even wrap my head around what
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I had just heard. I was trying to
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balance a chaotic mix of emotions, my
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anger at Jake, the crushing frustration,
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profound sadness, utter despair, and a
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heartbreaking sense of loss. If only he
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listened to me, I murmured to myself.
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And I spent thousands upon thousands of
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dollars on that car just for it to be
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flushed down the drain.
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Then a more empathetic thought surfaced,
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trying to assert itself.
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No, I can't think like that. He's my
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brother. The car means nothing against
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his life. But my mom, in her tunnel
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vision, heard only the part about the
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car. She looked at me, her eyes
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hardening. That car doesn't matter, she
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snapped, her voice sharp with
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accusation. You should be praying that
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your brother makes it out of surgery
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alive and well. I understood that truly.
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I wished the best for him.
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But on the other hand, I had poured all
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of my savings, every spare dime, every
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ounce of passion into that car. We could
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have had both the car and my brother if
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he weren't so incredibly irresponsible.
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If he hadn't made such a reckless,
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selfish choice. My parents always had a
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way of focusing solely on my brother,
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completely ignoring how things affected
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me. It was a pattern that stretched back
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to childhood. When I was seven, I had a
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favorite teddy bear. My sole cherished
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possession named Bear Bear. I loved him,
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slept with him every night, played with
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him all the time. He was one of the only
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gifts I ever got as a kid. One day, the
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dog my little brother begged for, Coco,
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decided Bear Bear looked like a fun toy.
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When I came home from school, Bear
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Bear's stuffing was strewn all
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throughout the house, in the living
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room, our bedrooms, even the kitchen. To
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this day, I don't know where some of
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Bear Bear's limbs went. And my parents,
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they blamed me for keeping my bear in a
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place where Jake's dog could chew on it.
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Then they told me that I would be
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responsible for cleaning up his dog's
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mess. This was their playbook, always.
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We sat at the hospital until the sun
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rose, the pale light filtering through
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the waiting room windows. Finally, a man
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in a white coat holding a clipboard
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walked in, asking to speak with our
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family. My heart dropped. I prayed that
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Jake wasn't dead. My mother looked even
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more nervous, and we followed the doctor
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to a private room. He told us that Jake
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was stable, but would need a few more
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surgeries. Seeing him lifeless on the
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hospital bed, hooked up to tubes and
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machines felt surreal.
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The doctor said he would be there for a
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while and that we were free to leave. My
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parents insisted they stay in the room
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with Jake, but I knew I couldn't stand
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seeing him like this much longer. I said
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my goodbyes and told them to keep me
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They agreed, their faces still etched
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with worry. And I went on my way,
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stepping back into a world that felt
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utterly changed. The next few days
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blurred into a miserable haze. Jake was
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still recovering from the multiple
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surgeries, and I was drowning in debt.
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The insurance company called me stating
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how much I owed for the vehicle and the
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damages from the accident. Jake wasn't
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on my insurance, so they flat out
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refused to cover the costs. I was
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hundreds of thousands in the hole, a
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staggering amount that I knew would take
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the rest of my life to pay off. I worked
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as an electrical engineer for an
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architecture and engineering firm,
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earning a decent salary, but nowhere
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near enough to cover that kind of debt.
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Every day at work, my mind would be
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filled with rage. While I was supposed
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to be submitting drawings to my manager,
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all I could think about was the
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beautiful car I loved, now a mangled
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wreck, and the crushing reality that my
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brother might be paralyzed due to his
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own stupid decision. To make matters
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worse, I was now completely bankrupt. I
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had painstakingly saved a bit of money
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because I planned to move out of my
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house, which was an hour and a half
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away, and into a home closer to my job.
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Now that dream was gone, evaporated in a
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cloud of smoke and twisted metal. My
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brain fog got worse over the next few
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weeks and my work suffered drastically.
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My supervisor would often come to my
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desk and ask if I was okay because I
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would sit in front of my computer screen
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without moving my mouse, staring
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blankly, not blinking. I started
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submitting work late when usually I
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considered submitting it on time to be
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late. The work I did submit was usually
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wrong or needed major improvements.
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I would stay long hours at the job
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without accomplishing anything on the
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agenda for the week. I could tell the
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people around me were noticing it, too.
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During lunch one day, I overheard my
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coworker, Catherine, talking to my boss.
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She was complaining, her voice hushed,
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but clear about having to do extra work
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without extra pay since I couldn't
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complete my tasks on time. She said it
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wasn't fair that she had to check over
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my work every time because it took her
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longer to correct it than to just do it
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I felt my heart drop. A fresh wave of
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shame washed over me. I knew I had to do
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something, but I felt utterly hopeless.
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I tried to be on my agame at work the
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following weeks, but the stress of the
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insurance company became an everyday
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battle. They would call constantly
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demanding their money, offering payment
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plans that I couldn't afford any of.
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I then started to seriously consider
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selling my current house and moving into
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a tiny apartment just to pay off the
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I felt like this incident kept putting
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me further and further behind the goals
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I had set for myself. Goals that felt
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increasingly unattainable. One day, I
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got a call from my brother after he was
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recovering in rehab. I braced myself. He
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asked for money to help cover his
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medical bills. I told him about my
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situation, the crushing debt, the loss
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of my car and my savings, the threat of
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losing my home. He scoffed. "You
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normally help me when I need you," he
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whined, his voice laced with
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indignation. "Why can't you do it this
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time? I have to sell my house just to
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make ends meet. All because of you," I
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exploded, the years of suppressed anger
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finally breaking through. "Fox off!" he
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screamed and then hung up the phone. The
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next few days, his friends were calling
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me, harassing me for being unsupportive.
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Every time I tried to explain how much
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debt and turmoil Jake had put me
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through, I was met with criticism, with
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accusations of being heartless. They
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took it a step further and started
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posting things about me on social media.
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They talked about my looks, how I was
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nothing without my car. And at that
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point, that's exactly how I felt. That
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car was the thing I loved the most in
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a tangible link to my cherished past.
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When I was a kid, me and my granddad
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We would do everything together. I'd
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help him mow the lawn, join him on the
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porch while he talked to his buddies,
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listening to their stories.
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One day, we looked through a magazine
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together, and my Impala was featured. He
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said that he wished he could test drive
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it before he died. He got cancer shortly
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after and was never able to drive the
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Since that day, I've wanted that car,
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pursued it, and finally got it. I wished
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I could have gotten it while he was
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alive, but I knew he was looking down on
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me, proud of me for living his dream.
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And now it was gone. When I tried to
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talk to me and Jake's mutual friends,
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they would always take Jake's side,
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saying he was four years younger than
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me, so I should understand and help
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support him financially. I wanted this
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nightmare to end. I called my parents
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and asked to meet up with them. They
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were always at the hospital with Jake,
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so I knew I would find them there.
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Before I walked into the room, I
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overheard them talking, their voices
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low. My mom was saying they couldn't up
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the allowance they were giving Jake
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because they had to help pay his medical
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bills. I walked in and they looked like
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they'd seen a ghost, their faces
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"What were you talking about?" I asked,
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my voice dangerously calm.
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They tried to change the subject, asking
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how I was doing, how my day at work was.
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"How much money have you been giving
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Jake?" I pressed, ignoring their feeble
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attempts to deflect.
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They never gave me an allowance growing
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up, especially not when I became an
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adult. They looked guilty, exchanging
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nervous glances, and then confessed.
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They'd been giving Jake a $500 allowance
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every week since he was 13. It all came
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This was why he was so irresponsible,
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why he had no care for other people's
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belongings, why he lacked any sense of
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Mom and dad had been enabling him since
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we were kids. I didn't know what to say.
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They were always stingy when I asked for
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anything, always scrutinizing my
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expenses, and finding out that Jake had
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been getting a substantial, consistent
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allowance from them for years felt like
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a stab in the back and a punch to the
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gut. This sad feeling then turned into
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pure burning anger when I began to think
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about how much I was in debt, how much I
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had sacrificed. Here my parents were
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bailing out Jake like they did every
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other time and I was receiving backlash
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from my family and friends demonized for
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simply wanting accountability.
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My parents tried to explain the reason
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why they supported him as much as they
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did. A pathetic attempt to justify their
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favoritism, but I didn't care to hear
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them out. I just turned and left the
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hospital, needing to cool down before I
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said something I'd truly regret.
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The next few months, I bit the bullet
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and sold my house. I got less than I
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wanted because I needed the money as
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soon as possible, which disappointed me,
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but at least my debt was cleared. It was
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a trade-off, a painful necessity. I
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moved into a nice apartment only 20
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minutes from my job, which surprisingly
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was a huge plus in the long run. Every
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time I visited Jake in the hospital, his
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condition seemed to improve.
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However, my relationship with my parents
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would not. Every single visit would
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inevitably turn into an argument. They
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would tell me how ungrateful I was and
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how I should just be happy that Jake was
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alive after the accident.
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Then Jake would often join in on the
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ridicule, blaming me for his condition,
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for his paralysis, as if I had somehow
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willed him to steal my car and crash it.
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My parents never said anything about how
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disrespectful Jake was to me. They would
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only say that he was talking that way
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because of his medication or how much
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pain he was in. Or sometimes they'd say
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he was stressed. He didn't know what
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stress looked like. I was growing tired
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of the whole family, the constant blame,
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the endless enabling, the sheer
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emotional drain. A few months later,
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Jake left the hospital and went to live
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My parents were preparing for
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Thanksgiving dinner and wanted me to
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I knew deep down that I shouldn't, not
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after our rough interactions over the
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past couple of months.
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But I went against my better judgment,
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hoping foolishly for a flicker of
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normaly, a moment of family peace.
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At dinner, my mom, ever focused on Jake,
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mentioned how good he looked and how
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well he walked. Jake, not missing a
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beat, piped up. I'd be walking much
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better if I wasn't bedridden for almost
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a year. I couldn't help myself. You
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wouldn't have been in the hospital at
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all if you had listened to me and never
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stole my car. He slammed his hand on the
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table. his face contorted in anger. I
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wasn't a thief and I'm not talking to
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you. My mom, as she'd done for 19 years,
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immediately jumped in, trying to mediate
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the situation, and just as she always
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did, she took his side. You shouldn't be
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so rough on him on Thanksgiving. She
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said, her voice laced with disapproval.
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There she went again. After all these
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years of taking his side, I was being
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blamed for my car being wrecked, for his
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reckless actions. That was the last
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straw. I looked at her, my voice
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trembling with suppressed rage. "You are
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the reason that he is the way he is," I
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yelled. "You and dad always enabled his
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behavior, and you're the reason he had
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to recover for so long."
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Just as they tried to argue more, I
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threw my fork on the table, the metallic
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clang echoing through the tense silence,
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and I left. I hadn't spoken to them
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since that day. The last point of
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contact that I had with them was a
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letter I wrote. In it, I explained how
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the family dynamic was overwhelming,
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I told them that while I loved them,
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they were causing more harm than good at
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that stage of my life. I told them that
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I would be moving to a new city and to
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please not try to find me there.
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3 months later, I did it. I moved to a
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new city, got a new apartment, and
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secured a new job making more money.
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I finally left everything behind and I
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felt a monumental weight lifted off my
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I joined a classic car club that
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traveled the country, a true passion and
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found another impala like mine to buy.
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It definitely needed some work, but I
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was willing to put in the time to
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restore it, to build something beautiful
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with my own hands again.
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Soon after, I started going to therapy
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to help heal the childhood trauma that
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my family had put me through. Life was
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finally starting to fall into place.
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That was until I got a call from the
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authorities telling me that my brother
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had gotten himself in trouble again.
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This time it was serious. He was
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involved with a shady group that flipped
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cars for quick money. He would buy
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stolen cars at dirt cheap prices, fix
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them up so they would be unrecognizable,
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and sell them significantly higher to
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unsuspecting buyers. And the kicker, he
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had been using one of my old credit
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cards somehow. I called the credit card
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company and told them that the charges
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on my account for the cars were not from
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me. So, I closed the account.
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I had finally gotten rid of the last way
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he could contact me. The last thread
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connecting me to that endless cycle of
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drama and disappointment.
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I felt relieved, truly relieved, knowing
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that I didn't have to worry about any
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But it felt bittersweet knowing the
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stress and heartache my brother would
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continue putting my parents through.