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my life used to be simple Night shift
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for me day shift for my wife We'd been
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together since we were teens raising our
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kids in a comfortable rhythm But
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recently things felt off My wife started
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a new job mostly male colleagues and
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suddenly she was spending more and more
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time after work with her female
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co-workers She'd be home hours late even
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staying overnight after drinking
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Something totally out of character for
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her responsible nature I tried to brush
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it off but a seed of doubt was planted
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Then came that morning I woke at 3:00
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a.m to her phone's glow She started
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getting ready for work hours early
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claiming she was going for a walk with
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colleagues but she was dressed up and it
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was dark drizzling and cold in Arizona
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not ideal walking weather My mind prone
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to overthinking started to connect the
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dots That nagging feeling wouldn't quit
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I confronted her asking to see her phone
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She immediately deflected demanding to
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see mine which I handed over freely I
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had nothing to hide But on her phone a
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specific conversation I'd seen earlier
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had vanished My suspicions searched I
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called the number I suspected When I
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handed her the phone insisting I see
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their texts she played innocent I
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pointed out she'd messaged him before
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leaving and after returning even when
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she claimed to be in Vegas Her excuse
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the phone operators stored them flimsy
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and unbelievable Defeated she went
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upstairs Hurt and betrayed I packed my
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bags and left Later a police
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investigator shared invaluable insights
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He explained that guilty parties rarely
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fully admit They withhold details
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especially in ongoing infidelity You're
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seeking information for later use He
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advised "Start by suggesting you know
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more than they think and don't reveal
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your full hand It's a highstakes poker
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game Don't expect to find direct
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evidence on their phone It's likely
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hidden or deleted Your job is to
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establish the absence of communication
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by getting records from your telecom
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provider Make them believe you have the
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information even if it's incomplete
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During a confrontation they'll likely
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resist giving up their phone and accuse
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you They fear what you'll find on their
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phone not yours My wife showed little
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interest in my phone Her focus was on
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mine as I scrolled through harmless
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texts When I confronted her about
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missing messages with the suspect's
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number she claimed they never
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communicated I countered revealing she'd
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exchanged over 900 messages with him in
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the past month The exact number was
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crucial solid proof I wasn't bluffing
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She reluctantly admitted deleting them
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but not the whole truth They were about
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her wanting a divorce Guilty individuals
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often dodge offering vague forced
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explanations Innocent spouses share
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details freely My wife's tattoo parlor
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alibi for example had holes no sketches
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minimal details and a timeline that left
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ours unaccounted for Simple alibis
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rarely explain every detail She's still
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with him and reconciliation seems
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impossible I acknowledged my anger
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issues played a part in her distancing
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and I'm actively working on myself
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Though she never admitted cheating I was
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ready to forgive But she saw no hope for
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us offering only cohabitation for the
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kids I offered divorce if that's what
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she truly wanted Her silence spoke
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volumes The pain of betrayal especially
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with children involved runs deep I woke
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one morning to find her gone knowing
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where she was I even photographed her
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truck at his house She texted oblivious
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asking about household supplies I played
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along then settly exposed her lie about
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being at Costco She sent a photo
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creating a story The constant lies were
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more painful than the truth I consulted
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an attorney taking my therapist's advice
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not to rush decisions We still live
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together for the kids but I feel
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burdened supporting the house while
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she's with another man She even uses a
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separate chat to feed our kids false
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information like going drinking at 4:00
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a.m which my autistic son who checks
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opening hours is starting to expose Her
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dishonesty is now affecting them But
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after a few quiet nights her actions no
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longer haunt me My lawyer says with
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shared custody alimony is only $142
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a month She can't afford to buy me out
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of the house so it will be sold I have
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more savings but my lawyer assures me
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investments and shares can be protected
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The house can be leveraged for future
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asset division It's become a real estate
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transaction In a moment of weakness
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fueled by sleep deprivation I tried
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begging her to reconcile a pitiful act I
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regret But then on Tinder I connected
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with someone We clicked instantly I
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shared my situation honestly She'd also
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been through a divorce Our first kiss
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brought a peace I hadn't felt in ages My
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wife has already initiated divorce so
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legally I'm free This new connection
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this spark of hope finally let me sleep
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Our marriage had been unstable for years
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The affair was the final push neither of
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us had the courage to make Today I made
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the advanced payment to officially start
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the divorce My son and I are moving into
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a new place nearby He's not speaking to
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his mom because of her infidelity I'm
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selling the house and claiming my share
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legal cost is worth it Day trading
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profits are growing and soon I'll
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finally buy my dream 1979 Fiat Spider
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convertible a dream I couldn't justify
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as a married man I can't wait to see her
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face when she gets the summons and
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realizes I'm serious about selling the
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house We'll both start fresh She's
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returning her truck to the bank texting
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me casually I maintain a neutral often
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silent response She mentioned
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evaporative coolers asked when I'd be
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home and wished me well for a water park
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trip with the kids Single dad gathering
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spot By the way my sister told me her
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new man has four failed marriages a
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pattern of depleting women's finances I
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told my sister I hoped he'd defeat my
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wife quickly so we can finalize the
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divorce My wife's returning the truck
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because she can't afford it and
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refinance the house This aligns with my
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plan to move out I wouldn't stay while
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she had an affair I offered to transfer
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the house to her for a buyout of my
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liquid assets which still falls short of
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my full share but a swift exit is worth
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the cost I'm cautious but watchful
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Tomorrow I'm buying a new home and
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finalizing divorce papers After 19 years
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her affair in March led to a desperate
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choose me dance but therapy showed me a
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better life without her My new rental is
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walking distance from our old home for
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the kids I've switched shifts for easy
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school pickups Financially I'm stable
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We've agreed on terms via email Divorce
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decree expected late June/ early July My
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mental well-being is worth every penny
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My restricted shares are safe She waved
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claims to them My company support makes
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staying worthwhile Her well-paying job
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means no spousal support for me With
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equal custody and my coverage of kids
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insurance alimony is only $142
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per month for less than 60 months We're
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even discussing waving that In 5 years
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at 47 I'll have enough savings to retire
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abroad escaping a marriage that felt
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like a trap where I squandered money on
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meaningless things My heart may be
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broken but it won't define me Love and
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hope persist even after betrayal We do
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not look back for a long time We
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continue to move forward opening new
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doors and embracing new experiences Our
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curiosity propels us onto uncharted
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paths July is for self-discovery in
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Thailand with a new girl Sleepless
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nights aren't from pain but a 14-hour
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time difference For those struggling
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don't give up Keep moving forward
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Finally my divorce is official The
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outcome wasn't ideal for custody or
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alimony but I was prepared I negotiated
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half the alimony for my teen boys
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college savings She handles school
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transport freeing me for overtime and
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travel at work My insurance adjustments
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saved me more She's also facing health
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issues including breast cysts a harsh
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poetic justice perhaps Radiator fam this
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journey has been tough but
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transformative It's proof that you can
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rebuild find joy and thrive
