5 Ways To Deal With A Breakup With No Guilt

The end of a relationship is a challenging experience and it's one many will go through

at least once in their lives. Coping with the loss of companionship and romantic affection

can be painful, especially if it was a long relationship or one where you shared many

things. If you cope with a breakup unhealthily, that can make things worse, leaving you stuck

in the past. So, how can you handle these painful circumstances? Here are 5 positive

ways to deal with a breakup so you can move on guilt-free

1. Express your feelings The first step to anyone's recovery is the

point where they begin to express and state clearly how they feel. Many people are inclined

to repress or suppress their emotions when it comes to breakups as there's a lot of pressure

to be okay and to be better off than your ex-partner. But repression of your feelings

can heighten them and make them worse, ruining your positive thinking. There are many different feelings that you might experience in a breakup. You may be in shock or

denial or cry and grieve. Perhaps you may feel betrayal, pain, and humiliation. You might become

frightened, angry, or indifferent. You may even experience acceptance, relief, and hope. Whatever

you feel, acknowledge it, state it, and express it. Grief and loss are complex things with many

stages and it's not unusual to experience them in stages that may seem confusing to you

It's natural to want to suppress the worst of your emotions but confronting them will allow

you to better manage and deal with the breakup. Don't judge yourself for how you feel. Observe

your feelings, acknowledge them, accept them, and work on yourself as you move on. It's okay

to feel bad, it's okay to grieve, and it's okay to be very much not okay for a while. Let it happen

2. Disengage from reminders of them. When a breakup is fresh, everything around you will

remind you of the person you left behind. That's why you need to disengage from those memories as

well as you can to move on. Here's how. Get rid of things that trigger memories

If you were dating your ex for a long time, you likely own many items that could trigger

memories of them. Some of them may even be positive memories. But when you are recovering

from the pain and emotions of a breakup, all of those memories can cause heartache. If some of

these items make you want to contact your ex or cause emotional distress, remove them from your

home. You can package items they left behind to send to them later and put away or throw out old

gifts they gave you that tug at your heartstrings. You don't have to get rid of these items permanently

if you don't want to, just put them out of sight, out of mind. 3. Stay off social media

Don't stalk your ex or look at posts of people in love. Do not re-read your old messages. Don't

scroll through the pages of people your ex interacts with. It's not healthy and nets you

nothing. You'll need a few days of social media distance, at least before it's safe-free to ease

back into an online presence. If all else fails, block or mute your ex on social media. Go no

Go no contact. Even the most amicable breakups require a little alone time. You need to collect

your thoughts, recover, and let the stronger emotions lose some intensity before you are

ready to reach out again. If you're still on good terms with them, set boundaries and communicate

your need for space to your ex. If the breakup was nasty, you can also block them and cut them off

Stop talking about them. It's okay and even healthy to rant about the breakup and process

it by talking to supportive friends and family, but what's not okay is continually inserting your

ex's name or any inkling of your previous relationship into everyday discussion

It can be tempting to bring them up when it's not relevant. Don't. 3. Make things about you

Relationships are about doing things together, and now that you're on your own

your life can return to being focused on you. The world is your oyster. Making things all about you

can remind you of the wonders of independence, allowing you to embrace singlehood with positive

thinking as you move on. Here are some ways to do this. Do things that you love. Even healthy relationships take up time and energy. As such, it's likely that

while you were with your ex, there were some things you weren't able to do. You may not have

had enough time for your hobbies. Maybe you dropped book club meetings for date nights

You might have stopped watching horror flicks because they hated them. Perhaps you avoided

eating a type of food because your partner is allergic. Regardless, now you're not dating them

anymore. You can do whatever you want. So go ahead and busy yourself with all those things you love

that you may not have been able to do while in a relationship

Do things you've wanted to do. There may be things you've always wanted to do that you

haven't been able to yet. What better time than now? Trying new things, having new experiences

and filling out your bucket list is a great way to distract yourself while enriching your mind

and body. It's a healthy outlet and helps your self-improvement, which is always a positive way

to deal with breakups. Take care of yourself. People often think of going on a diet or hitting

the gym extra hard after a breakup, but that's not truly taking care of yourself. The goal of

taking care of yourself after a split isn't to look hot for the sake of your ex. It's to feel

good about yourself and nourish your body so you can feel better and more confident. So do things

that make your body feel good. A little bit of exercise, healthier food choices, and better

self-care are all ways to do this. Build your self-esteem. If you were the person who got broken

up with, you might feel bad about yourself. Your self-esteem may have taken a hit from the breakup

So focus on rebuilding it. Find the things about yourself that you love. Consider your strengths

and lift them for yourself. Being broken up with has nothing to do with your self-worth and

everything to do with the overall health of the relationship and the other individuals changing

So hype yourself up! 4. Seek support during the breakup. Social support is crucial in the improvement of positive thinking, especially during times of

stress. Isolating yourself and trying to go it alone after a breakup will only harm you. Plus

external perspectives can grant you crucial insights and perspectives you've missed. Here

are some ways to seek support. Talk to loved ones. Ask to vent to family and friends and request

advice if desired. Seek out people you love who have been through breakups and recovered wonderfully

Have regular face-to-face contact with your trusted support system and have fun with the

people who care about you most. Make new friends. It's tempting to hop onto the next rebound

relationship after a breakup. Instead of seeking new intimate partners, seek new friends. Take

yourself off the relationship market and find clubs, groups, and even online communities to

make new friends in. Join groups for people with your hobbies and interests. Take a new class and

even volunteer at organizations to meet new people. Get professional help if necessary

If your breakup affects you significantly, there is no shame in getting outside support from a

therapist, counselor, or similar professional in this field. Opening up to someone who won't

judge you and is trained to help you can give you the necessary tools to overcome your breakup

5. Remind yourself of why the breakup happened. At some point, you'll find yourself wishing the

breakup never occurred. When this inevitably happens to you, remind yourself of why it was

necessary. Change is part of life and is crucial for growth, so if your relationship wasn't meant

to be, that was for a reason. Here are some ways to remind yourself of the reason for the breakup

Remember the relationship's struggles. Relationships don't end because they're too good. They end because there were troubles and difficulties that ultimately one or both

parties decided were too much to continue with. The struggles that you faced are ones you do not

want to go back to, so you can help yourself move on by remembering how they made you feel and how

good it is to be free of those struggles. If you specifically were wronged in the relationship

such as if your ex cheated on you, abused you, or lied to you repeatedly, then remind yourself of

all those toxic traits and behaviors you are now free from. Revisit memories realistically. Studies have found that positive feelings regarding experiences

typically remain for longer than negative ones. This means a lot of your memories with your ex

may have a rose-tinted hue over them. Think back on your memories and be realistic about them

Was that summer vacation you spent with them perfect, or did you realize that traveling

together was more stressful than it should have been? Were they always super helpful when you

were going through a tough time, or did you have to fight for their support and struggle to make

them understand why you needed it? Don't color your memories with falsehood. Remember reality

and see your past with clear eyes. Stand by the choice. If you decide to break up with your ex

then stand by the decision. You made it for a reason, and right now, emotions may be clouding

your judgment and making you forget those reasons. And if you were broken up with

stand by that too, even if they come running back to you eventually. You have the right to

move on in peace, and you can't do that if your ex plays with your emotions. Stop second-guessing

and start working on recovery. Breakups are a universal experience, and yet they're painful

to overcome. Learning to deal with the end of a relationship positively can help you move on

without regrets or guilt