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You never appreciate what you have until it is gone sometimes. Some people never appreciate you even when you are gone.
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You never appreciate what you have until it is gone sometimes
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Some people never appreciate you even when you are gone. They are so self-serving and self-centered that anything that isn't of direct and immediate
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benefit to them does not even appear on their radar. Indeed, they are so in love with themselves that there is none left over for you
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No matter how hard you try, no matter how flexible or understanding you are, and no
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matter how much you love them, they will never ever change who they are
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They will not magically wake up someday and fully appreciate what a wonderful person they
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are with. They will never embrace your love and reciprocate it because after their enormous love of self
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they have nothing left over for you. All of their time, interest, love, and affections are turned inward on themselves
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Like a black hole, they suck you in and devour the emotions of everyone around them
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Here are five signs that they don't deserve you. 1. They lie to you and cheat on you
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They break your trust and they lie to you, never revealing where they are going or who
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they are seeing. Undoubtedly, they lead a double life and using you to support the other
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They lie to you because you are not important to them. Only they are important to themselves
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Everyone else is to be used and discarded in order to further their pleasure
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They don't love you enough to be honest with you and they are not considerate enough to
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end one relationship before starting another. 2. They are takers and not givers
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People in a mutually loving relationship to some extent are givers. They give their time, resources, love, and space to their partners
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With a giver, everyone is taken care of and happy. With a taker, only one half of the relationship is giving everything while the other partner
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mooches off them. Like a black hole, they suck in resources and give nothing back in return
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It is a one-way street with them. It is either their way or the highway
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You need someone who can accept that you are your own person with your own desires
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emotions, and needs. You need someone who gives back to the relationship more than they take away from it. 3
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They belittle you. They are so wrapped up in their own life and desires that you are unimportant in their
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internal world. Most of the time, that is kept inside their own heads
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When they are emotionally unstable or upset, that lack of respect leaks through in belittling comments
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It is one thing to tease your partner a bit and be teased in return, but when they are
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mean-spirited comments solely intended to hurt you, it is time to go
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Someone who loves and respects you isn't going to tear you down, and they certainly would
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never think of doing it in front of other people. A black hole, however, will tear you apart and break you down because that is in their nature. 4
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They cannot be counted on. They cannot be counted on to support you or to be where they are supposed to be when they
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are supposed to be. These black holes live in their own world and cannot see past their own massive ego
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They will forget important dates. They will miss special activities like your children's sporting events or plays because
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they are wrapped up in their world. If you need them, they will not be there for you because it is an inconvenience to them
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You need someone you can count on to be there when it matters. You are there for them, so why can't they be there for you? 5
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They are selfish rather than team-oriented. You are a team. You will succeed or fail together
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If one person on the team wins, then the team as a whole wins
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We perform as individuals but win as a team, or at least that is the way it should be
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A black hole is called a singularity for a reason. Nothing can get close to them without being destroyed in the process
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These people are so self-oriented that they need to win in order to puff up their own
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ego, an ego that is so fragile that it cannot stand seeing someone else do well even if
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it's their significant other. You need someone who is pulling in the same direction as you and is willing to put in
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the effort to see the team succeed even when they will get no glory from it
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