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This Is How You Heal flow states, self love
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Sep 6, 2025
This Is How You Heal flow states, self love
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Hi guys, welcome back to my channel for
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another video if you are returning.
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Today we're going to be talking about
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how to heal. You guys hear me talking
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about it all the time. I get a lot of
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questions from you guys about what has
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helped me most throughout my own
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personal journey and that's what we're
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going to be talking about today. I just
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wanted to dive deeper and yeah, let's
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get into the video. The first thing that
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I'm going to say is that you have to be
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willing to go through the pain. You just
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have to accept the fact that you're
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going to be in the gutter for a while,
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which is a completely natural part of
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the process. I think there's a huge
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misconception about what healing really
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is and attaining that dream life. It's
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not pretty. Like admittedly, it takes a
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lot of work. It takes a lot of patience.
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And a lot of people sometimes say, "Oh,
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but it it can come quickly. It can come
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quickly." But like I said before, really
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good things in life take a lot of time
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for a reason because you're building a
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certain foundation. Now, I talked about
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this before, so I'm not going to go into
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it too deeply, but let's start with that
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acceptance factor, which is that you
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have to accept that you're just not
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going to feel entirely okay. At least
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not in the beginning. You're not going
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to feel the greatest. You're not going
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to be all li You're going to have to go
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through the pain. You're going to have
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to experience being in the mud for a
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while, being dragged through mud by life
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itself. And that is a completely natural
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part of the journey. So, I want you to
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stop feeling like if you're experiencing
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sadness or anger that that is a signal
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or that is an indication that you are
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failing because a lot of the times when
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we do feel those emotions that operate
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on a little bit of a lower frequency, we
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assume that we're failing in some way
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because we're not supposed to be feeling
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those emotions or those emotions are
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supposedly unnatural somehow, which they
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are completely not. I'm here to tell you
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that they are normal. Which basically
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leads me to my next point about pain
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coming first and then the wisdom. This
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is something that I had to learn on my
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personal journey many many times over
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and over again because for me since I
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always had something in my pocket,
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something that was like I was ready to
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do anything to make myself feel better.
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I was ready to dive deeper into the
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books that I was reading and all these
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things. But the problem is, I literally
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live by this and I feel like I preach
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this so much because I feel like it's
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very important, which is that there has
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to be a period in your life that is
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purely to just sit in the discomfort of
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the pain, even if it hurts and even if
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it it feels really really terrible and
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it feels awful, but you have to sit in
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the dark for a while. Uh, and a side
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note, I want to say that I'm not here to
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be a false positivity person or fake
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positivity person. I'm here to tell you
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guys the truth about what I went through
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on my journey and what you're probably
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going to have to experience as well.
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It's not smooth and it's especially not
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linear. So, you just have to kind of
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gradually start to accept that. But then
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one thing I will say is that if you
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stick to it, you'll be greatly rewarded.
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It's pain first and then it's wisdom. Of
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course, both things can coexist. You can
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move through your pain with wisdom,
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which I think is a beautiful way to do
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it, but it doesn't change the fact that
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you have to feel it. I also want to note
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that although you are in a very
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confusing maybe a confusing and very
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lost period of your life where you don't
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feel like many things make sense. I do
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want to make note of the fact that you
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should be careful with the way that you
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speak to yourself. Now let's discuss
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this further. I used to laugh at this
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idea. I never used to believe it until
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it became apparent in my own life which
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is the way that you speak to yourself.
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You're literally casting a spell on
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yourself and you cast spells on other
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people too by the way that you speak to
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them. I think it's very important to be
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gentle with other people and I
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understand that in a state of anger in a
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state of deep sadness you can't conjure
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that those emotions those emotions of
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love even that if that's what you really
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feel but at the same time especially
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when you're speaking to yourself
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especially with the way that you speak
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to yourself you need to acknowledge that
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you might be casting spells on yourself
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that is taking you further into the
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gutter than what you actually where you
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actually need to go like you don't need
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to go that deep but you're going deeper
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than that because you are not
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acknowledging the way that you're
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speaking to yourself and I think it can
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be very harmful. Um it takes us so far
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away from our manifestations. It takes
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us so far away from who we actually want
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to be because we have no faith in
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ourselves. Uh so I think that's my
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biggest thing with this is like you
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cannot put that doubt onto yourself and
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expect to get the most amazing results.
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I was speaking about this with my cousin
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the other day actually and she's
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currently reading the power of your
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subconscious mind and she was mentioning
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that there was a part in the book where
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he was describing that your subconscious
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mind doesn't know the difference between
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what's real and what's not real. What
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you say to it it will believe. Uh so you
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have to be very very careful especially
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during this period of healing because
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you need to be hyping yourself up to the
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max. You need to be telling yourself it
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is going to get better because it will.
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It will. That's the thing I need to tell
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you and that's the thing you need to
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understand is like it's not going to be
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like this forever. It's not going to
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feel so difficult. And I'm speaking from
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experience because it had been so
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difficult for me for such a long time
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that now the dust has really settled for
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me. I can see things with so much
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clarity, but it took me so long to get
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here because I had to understand certain
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things and I'm trying to help you guys
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fast track, you know, but I don't think
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there's a fasttracking. Like
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realistically, I don't think there's any
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way you can really fast track this
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journey. Let me just say that like you
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have to kind of go through it at your
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own pace. But I think the best piece of
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advice that someone had ever given me
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when it comes when it pertains to this
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is to take it day by day. Uh taking it
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day by day means being very patient with
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yourself and obviously not putting so
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much pressure on yourself to get things
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done right away or immediately feel
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something different because it's not
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true to you. So on the note of you know
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speaking to yourself more kindly I think
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that's where silence is so beautiful
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which is my next point about you know
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being in a state where you feel that you
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don't have much to say is the best state
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to be in. I think when I'm when I don't
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feel obligated to say so many things, I
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think that's when I'm my most happiest
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if I'm being completely honest. And I
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think a lot of my really close friends
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know this about me too is just like when
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I don't feel like I constantly am over
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stimulated and you know when I'm over
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stimulated it's a different story. I
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have a lot to say, right? But when I'm
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in a state of complete peace and
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groundedness, there's not like you'll
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find that there's not much to say
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because you're just observing. you're
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witnessing rather than constantly trying
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to interpret things and just you know
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what the mind does just going off on a
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whole chatter and then taking you so far
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away from the present moment that you
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never realize
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you never realize what's happening now
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and I and I kind of touched on this
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before in the past as well is like you
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know keeping a private life and all
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these things and I think all of this
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kind of has to do with that um which is
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like there's not much to be said when
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you live out your life eventually you
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realize there's There's actually not
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much to be said. Uh you don't need to
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tell everybody everything. You don't
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need to go over so many things with
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yourself. You know what to do. You know
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what direction you're headed in. You
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know, right? You're not saying it, but
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you know, uh it's unnecessary for you to
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constantly run things through even with
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other people. A little bit of me right
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now, if I'm being completely
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transparent, like I feel like I haven't
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fully figured out certain things in my
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life, but I'm on my way. I'm well on my
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way. Believe me. Believe me. Now, let's
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talk about reparing your inner child. I
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feel like when it comes to healing,
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inevitably, you're always going to have
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to trace everything back to your past,
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cuz that's I think where everything
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started to begin with. Obviously, the
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way that you were raised, the way that
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you were treated, the things that the
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way you interpreted the world. Um, all
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comes down to the experiences that you
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had as a child. I know it might be
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annoying thing to hear, but it is true.
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It is accurate. And so one of the ways
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I've learned to get more in touch with
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my inner child for me personally was
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doing shadow work. So if you're not
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familiar with what this is, it's
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essentially just asking yourself the
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kind of more difficult and uncomfortable
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questions that you wouldn't normally
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think about because it's constantly
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usually being repressed. You know, like
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reading books and listening to podcasts
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that kind of resonate with your traumas
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really allows you to see them in a new
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light or to understand them in a new
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light. I understand why people wouldn't
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want to open certain wounds. Of course,
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it's a dreadful thing to do. The only
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way out is through, my love. The only
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way out is through. And that's what I
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always tried to keep in mind on my own
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journey. I was like, "Okay, this sucks.
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This feels uncomfortable, but the only
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way out is through." Um, the only way
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that I'm going to ever be able to
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understand
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myself fully is if I do the things that
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I don't want to do, the most
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uncomfortable things. And best believe
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it's worked. So, that's my piece of
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advice for you guys. I want you guys to
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ask yourself during this period of your
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life, do I need more self-compassion or
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do I need more tough love from myself?
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Obviously, I think both are very
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important, but I think that when it
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pertains to a certain situation, usually
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one dominates the other. You kind of
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just like need to ask yourself, do I
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need more of like, okay, stop making
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excuses, don't be lazy, like you know,
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you have to do this, get it done. Like
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do you need that type of you know
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dialogue or do you need more of like a
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okay slow down like you're putting too
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much pressure on yourself you're doing
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this and you're doing that and you're
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juggling all these things at once so you
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need to really really slow down and I
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think for different aspects of your life
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you'll use both of these things
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differently but identifying which one of
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these you need most of in the situation
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that you're in currently is going to
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give you a huge sense of direction. Are
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you going to continue to put things off
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or do you need to put things off? You
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know, so for instance, for me right now,
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honestly, I need to take a lot of
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pressure off myself. I feel like I've
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been putting so much pressure on myself
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to try and get A, B, and C done when in
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reality, I have to deal with a lot of
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things at once and I feel like I need
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more of a break. I need more rest. And
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so that's what I'm trying to practice in
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my life right now. But I would not have
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been able to acknowledge that without
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asking myself like, am I being too hard
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on myself or do I need to be harder on
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myself? Last thing I want to say for
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today before I let you guys go, which is
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that you will get blessed. Oh my
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goodness, you will get blessed. I think
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there's so much doubt that goes into
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this journey. There's so much doubt you
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have in yourself. There's so much like,
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is it going to happen for me? Is it not?
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But what you have to realize, whenever
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I've ever stayed true to myself in a
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situation when that wasn't the most
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convenient option, it was more
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convenient for me to go in a in a
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direction that everybody else thought I
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should go into or that, you know, was
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deemed right at the time. If you stay
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true to your word, you stay true to who
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you are, like you will get blessed. I
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promise you that. Honestly, I think in
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my personal life,
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everything's been coming to me a lot
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more easily now because I have so much
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more mental clarity on where I need to
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be and I'm prioritizing things that I
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was putting off for a long time. That's
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it for today's video. I'm sending you
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guys so much love and light. Thank you
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guys so much for 1K. That is crazy to
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me. It blows my mind that it's only been
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like two two or 3 months since I've been
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on YouTube and I feel so eternally
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grateful. So, thank you so much for
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supporting my channel and I will see you
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guys in the next one.
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