Let’s talk Confidence

Hi guys, welcome back to my channel for

another video if you are returning.

Today we're going to be talking about

confidence, a topic that I honestly was

putting off for so long, but it is very

highly requested. And the reason is

because I never felt like I was eligible

to talk about this just cuz I didn't

feel confident in myself. And now I

finally feel like I'm at a place with

myself where I'm actually very

comfortable in my skin. And yeah, let's

get into the video. When it comes to

confidence, it has everything to do with

the way that you view yourself. So, if

you don't like yourself, you will never

be really and truly confident or at

least it won't come from a genuine

place. It will always be an act in a

way. Everything starts with having a

self-concept because when you have a

positive self-concept, you are far more

likely to be authentically confident.

So, let's start with discipline. The

most confident and humble people that I

know are the most disciplined. I talked

about this in my last video about

learning to trust yourself and this is

where I think the two go hand in hand

because discipline is an act of

self-love. When you show up for yourself

in the moments that you said you were

going to show up, you send a signal to

the emotional body. You send a signal to

the inner child that you can trust

yourself. And when you trust yourself,

there's no reason for you to not be

confident. I will not lie and tell you

that trust comes easily because it's the

same as building trust with somebody

else. It takes a while, right? So it's

the same thing with yourself. If you've

betrayed yourself long enough, it's

going to take you a while to begin to

trust yourself again. The more that you

show up for yourself, the easier it'll

be, though. When I look into the mirror

and I see something that I don't like, I

always ask myself, "Whose eyes am I

wearing?" Because I guarantee you didn't

always feel the way that you did about

yourself or about your features or

whatever it is you're insecure about

until somebody else pointed it out. I

think people will make you feel very

vain for wanting to look nice or to like

what you see. I think that's a

completely natural thing. Why? Why

shouldn't you like what you see when you

look into the mirror? Why shouldn't you

feel comfortable in your skin? Part of

exuding that energy comes with having a

great sense of style. For me personally,

putting myself together or accessorizing

myself in ways that I think are very fit

to the way that I want to show up in the

world and what I want to emulate. And

so, I want to thank Teddy Blake because

they were kind enough to send me this

beautiful, beautiful bag. I picked the

color, I picked the style, and

everything, but it is gorgeous. I just

love accessories to add a little bit of

touch, you know? I'm somebody who goes

for more like classy pieces and more

like they look like they're from another

time type of thing. I don't know. I just

fell in love with it. I'm definitely in

my more dark color era right now. I

selected the Kim Crocco in this deep

wine color and I will leave a link in

the description if you guys are

interested. Honestly, there was so many

options to choose from. It was so hard

to narrow it down to just this one. But

the reason I chose this one is because

it just feels and looks more elegant to

me. To my surprise, it's actually quite

spacious. Like I wore this already with

an outfit of mine. And I was able to fit

everything, my phone, my makeup purse,

like any little knick-knacks I had to

carry. Maybe you'll see one that you

like. I don't know if you guys are

interested if you are a bag girly. As

I've reached my 20s, I've just been

getting into bags so much more. So, I

just feel like this just came at the

perfect timing. They do make their bags

with premium Italian leather. So, it is

made in Italy if anybody's wondering.

And I feel like I could tell that the

leather was a little bit different

because it just feels a little bit more

thicker and more sturdy. They do ship

internationally as far as I know. So if

you guys are interested, I will leave

the link in the description again. Now,

let's get back to the video. I think one

of the biggest mistakes that people make

is thinking to themselves, I have to be

like this person in order to be

confident. They derive value from the

validation that somebody else gets and

thinks if I do everything exactly the

same way as this person did, that I'm

going to get the same validation. If I

act like her, I'll receive the right

treatment. If I do this like her, might

I do my makeup like her, whatever it is,

I'm going to get the right treatment.

And I'm telling you, you won't, my love.

You will not. Real confidence is built

within yourself, but it's also built

within not wanting to be anybody else,

but improving the you that you already

are. When you try to be like anybody

else, you've already lost. If you look

at the features on your own face and

think about how can I maximize what I

was born with, or how can I maximize my

own aesthetic, my own style, the music

that I listen to, how can I showcase

that? that would make a lot more sense

than doing things only because they're

trendy. You waste so much money when you

try and keep up with every single trend.

And some of those trends, most of those

trends don't even suit you. This is

where embracing what's most natural to

you matters the most. When I was a lot

younger, I was like quite introverted

and very chill. But it made me really

envious at a certain point in my life.

It made me kind of envious of people who

were very outgoing and expressive and

just always had so many friends because

they would get invited to like these

really cool things. like they would

naturally attract people because of

their demeanor. It's only as an adult

that I've come to really appreciate that

side of me and realize like if I'm an

introvert, let me embrace being an

introvert. Like I accepted the fact that

it just takes me a little bit longer to

get comfortable with people and to like

open up. And I actually don't mind

leaving the party a little bit early to

go home and sleep or meditate or read or

just like spend time by myself. I

actually don't mind that anymore. I

don't shame myself for that anymore

because that's what's always been the

most natural to me. Can that change? Of

course. I've acknowledged that too. But

for now, I'm satisfied because I'm

always trying to turn my weaknesses into

an asset. Let's talk about learning.

Confident people never stop learning

because they know that knowledge is only

going to add to their pre-existing

abilities. You have to have passions and

hobbies because it makes you attractive.

You guys, I said this before and I'm

going to say it again. It makes you

attractive when you don't make

everything about everybody else and you

actually focus on what it is that you

love. To see someone so passionate and

devoted to something is the most

admirable thing you can witness. I don't

think people prioritize branching out

enough. The time and effort that you put

into these things will make you

confident, but it's not something that's

built from just doing nothing. People

work out. People find new ways to make

money. People network all the time. They

listen to different music genres. They

break out of what they're used to. All

of these may sound like small things,

like very insignificant things, but

trust me, it makes all the difference.

So the way to truly be confident is to

enjoy life because that is literally

your sole purpose here. To enjoy your

body, to enjoy food, to enjoy music, to

enjoy the smaller things in life, but

also the finer things in life. The way

that I've learned to be confident is by

improving myself constantly. And I think

everything that happens in my life is

revol like it's always centered around

this one thing, which is that I want to

grow. And whatever I'm going through, I

know I can learn. Let me constantly be a

student and let that be the purpose of

my life. And trust me, that's an amazing

way to live. So, I thank you guys so

much for watching today's video. I hope

you guys took something from it or it

helped you in some way. And if it did,

let me know. And I will see you guys in

the next one. Bless you.