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I am my dream person living in my dream reality
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Sep 6, 2025
I am my dream person living in my dream reality
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Hi guys, welcome back to my channel. My
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name is Rashani and if you are returning
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here, I see you and I appreciate you.
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So, thank you so much. Today, we're
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going to be talking about probably by
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far one of my favorite topics, which is
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about how to create your dream life and
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how to become your dream person. Going
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to be providing for you guys some tips
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and tricks that help me on my personal
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journey. And uh let's just get right
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into it. So first things first, you need
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to stop self- sabotaging. You need to
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recontextualize your behavior because
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obviously you're having a thought which
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is triggering an emotion and then that
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emotion is driving a behavior. This
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pattern is actually ruining your
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relationships. And you might be asking
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me, what does my any of my relationships
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have to do with my dream life? But how
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do you think you're going to be able to
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sustain the connections you have in your
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supposed dream life or um the
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relationships you have in your dream
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life if you're not able to take a step
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back and see that you're the one who's
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the problem can also be described
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sometimes as emotional volatility. So if
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you know you're somebody who's really
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emotionally volatile and in that sense I
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mean someone who you know you might feel
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one way one second and then it can
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switch like super quickly and all of a
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sudden you're in a completely different
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state of mind and completely different
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emotions and it's almost as if you were
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like a new person. And the reason that I
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know this so well is because I used to
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do this myself. It was really hard for
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me to step outside of the situation that
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I was in and kind of look at it from a
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third party perspective. But that's why
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awareness is so important. But this I
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can see I I could see in my life that if
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I were to continue doing this over and
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over where I had a thought and then it
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would trigger an emotion in me even
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though the thought is nothing. It's just
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a thought. It has it's not true. If it
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says something about me, it's not true.
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If it says something about someone else,
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it's not true. It's literally just a
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thought. It's the way that my mind is
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interpreting the world around me. Right?
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So there's no reason to believe it. But
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most of all, there's no reason to get so
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involved in it emotionally. In my
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personal experience, emotional
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volatility really did not help me
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because I was like, why am I constantly
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thinking all of these different things
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and then I'm letting it get to me and
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I'm taking my own thoughts personally
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and then AB and C would happen and then
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it was just too much for me. So I would
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say work on that as a foundational skill
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because it builds a very strong
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foundation for you to be able to then
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execute your goals and you're not
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constantly just thinking about is this
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going to happen in this way or is this
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does this person think this of me? The
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first step is awareness. Right? realize
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if you're the type of person who does
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this to yourself, and believe me, it's a
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normal thing to do, but it's worth
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is going to pay off big time when you
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start to be able to put yourself in
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situations that are a little bit more
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uncomfortable because you know that you
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won't be as emotionally volatile
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anymore. You know how to set the record
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straight with yourself. You're no
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longer, you know, overthinking every
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single thought that you have and then
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letting it drive your behavior, but
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instead you're first taking a step back
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and you're looking at it and you're
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like, "Okay, is this a productive
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thought that I'm having? Is it going to
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serve me for the better? And is it going
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to give me the life that I want?" If
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yes, then you can make note of it and
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see what more you can make of that
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thought. Maybe it was something that was
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a really good idea. And if it was not a
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productive thought and it's just making
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you feel worse, then just let it go.
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Leela or Mosie said this one thing and
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she said you have to take you have to
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find the fish that's poisoning the pond.
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So sometimes maybe you have a really
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good idea about something but because
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you have this one really unproductive
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thought that you're not aware of and you
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cannot get to the bottom of you let it
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run the course for actually a lot a long
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time and more than is necessary. It
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doesn't need to be there for that long.
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So find the fish that's poisoning the
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pond and stop self- sabotaging and
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recognize why you do that to begin with.
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A lot of the times it actually comes
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from trauma cuz realistically the road
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to your dream reality might potentially
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be very lonely and you need to be able
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to learn how to cope with certain
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thoughts and certain emotions. Believe
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me, I'm still learning this one myself,
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but I've been doing it super often
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because I do not want it to be the
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hurdle that I have to face when it comes
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down to being able to execute my dream
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life or even just become my dream woman.
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That's honestly my personal goals is I
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want to become my dream woman. I have an
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idea of how she is. And I'm going to get
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more into that with my next point, which
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is to invest in yourself. I know this
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one sounds like a little bit of a basic
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one, but what exactly do I mean by
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investing in yourself?
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Often what we do for others, we would
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never do for ourselves. And it's because
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we don't show up for ourselves enough.
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If somebody asked us to be there
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tomorrow, we would be there. Um, but if
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we plan to go to the to the gym this
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week, we can put it off because it's not
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that important. In order to build your
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dream reality, you have to start
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thinking more about how you're going to
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romanticize it. I do this so much. I
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still do this to this day because it
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helps me stay motivated. But the only
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way to really romanticize it is to
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change things up pretty often and also
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pretend like as if I'm in a movie. Make
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it look like a movie. Make it feel like
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a movie. Even pay attention to little
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scents. In my room, I always have
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aromatherapy candles. It reminds me that
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I want a stress-free life where I'm able
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to wake up every morning and stick to
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doing my meditations every day. That is
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just a part of my dream routine, my
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dream lifestyle, and I want to make sure
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it sticks. So, it's all down to the
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details, right? What exactly is the
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lifestyle that I want to live? Or who is
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it exactly that I want to be? What would
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this person have? What kind of clothes
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would they wear? Um, what what's their
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morning routine like? How do they talk?
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How do they walk? How do they, you know,
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carry themselves? What do people say
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about them? Number three is build a
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self-concept. So this is really similar
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to the second one, but more so this is
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kind of the fun part. This means is you
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don't yet have to be your dream person.
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You just have to believe that you can
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get there, that you can be that person,
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that you can live that life and etc,
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etc. I wrote it down in my journal. I
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was like, "Okay, this is her hair
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length. This is how she does her makeup.
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This is her nail shape. This is the way
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she thinks, the way she talks, the way
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she walks. As I as I mentioned before,
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this is what people feel around her.
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This is how she makes other people feel.
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Matter of being delusional. I understand
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that not a lot of people side with this
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way of living, but it worked for me
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because I really believe that I could
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get there. I just had to take a few
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steps. I had to do the inner work and I
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had to slowly make my way there. Since a
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huge part of my self-concept a few years
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back was being someone who is really
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tapped into my feminine energy. I don't
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feel like that was me before. I was
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quite masculine actually, which I don't
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think there's anything wrong with, but I
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think that if you don't like that,
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obviously it's worth finding out how to
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change it. So, for me, I kept my hair
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short for a very long time because I
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felt like my long hair feminized my
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face. And then this is the first year
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that I'm actually properly growing out
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my hair because I want to be tapped into
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my feminine my feminine energy, which I
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understand not everybody's going to
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agree with that, but for me, that was a
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big goal of mine because it also came
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out in my personality, right? I wanted
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to be able to gracefully handle
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situations like how a woman would and um
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just be so tapped into my feminine
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nature and that was a big goal of mine
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for a long time. But I wasn't able to do
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that without first recognizing that
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that's what I lacked for a very long
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time. So, my dream woman had huge
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qualities of um feminine energy and uh
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radiating that and having that be an
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apparent thing that when you meet me or
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when you meet her, my dream woman,
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that's kind of the energy that she gives
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off and you can feel that when you speak
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to her. Number four is starting to walk
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your talk to basically become this
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person. Pretty much linked into all the
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other ones, but this time what you're
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going to be doing is when you make a
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decision. When you are about to do
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something, you think to yourself, is
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this going to serve the highest version
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of me? Is this something the highest
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version of me would do? Is this a
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decision that they would make? And if I
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say yes, is this going to benefit me in
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the future? And will this affect my
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highest self in a positive way? So
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everything you do essentially you direct
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it toward the person that you're
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becoming. Number five is to practice an
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abundance mindset. Make sure you are in
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a mindset of like I can receive
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everything. There is not like there's a
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limited source of something that I
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cannot have access to. Everything comes
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to me effortlessly. Say your
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affirmations. Make that a normal thing
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for you to have an abundance mindset. So
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like for example, I'll give you guys an
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example. For me, like when my sister and
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I were younger, a little bit younger,
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maybe in like middle school or
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something, we used to really often like
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hide our stuff from each other or we'd
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hide our stuff from other family members
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because we had a finite sense of
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thinking, right? We thought like if this
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person uses it, it's going to waste and
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we don't have money to pay for it. And
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we were sending out into the universe
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that we don't believe that we are
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capable of eventually making more than
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enough money to buy a hundred of
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whatever it is that we were trying to
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trying to hide.
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That was a finite way of thinking and
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sending that out into the universe of
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like no this is mine and I don't want
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anybody else to use it. Then that's
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going to create a really bad loophole
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for you because you're in this state of
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thinking that there's a finite amount of
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something. I explained this in my last
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video as well, so I'm not going to go
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into it too deeply, but an abundance
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mindset is really, really, really
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beneficial when you are building your
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dream life because how else are you
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supposed to believe that you can get
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anything if you don't already open your
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mind up to the idea that that's possible
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for you? So, I really hope this video
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helped you guys a little bit. Definitely
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not there yet. There's a lot of things I
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want to work on, but so far, I'm doing
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all of the things that I would have
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really, really wanted to do at the time
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that I was planning for this type of
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lifestyle. So, thank you guys so much
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for watching and staying tuned and I
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will see you guys in the next
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