COMMUNICATION FOR COUPLES
Jul 27, 2025
COMMUNICATION FOR COUPLES
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[Music] Please give that a song. Hear the song
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[Music] Jesus.
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[Music] to my
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sesus. [Music]
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Oh [Music]
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my s I
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never my Jesus
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[Music] my Jesus over
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you. [Music] I
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was forever [Music]
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Jesus.
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Now I
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God bless you. God bless you. Thank you so much. Lift up one hand. Let us pray.
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Father, as your word is spoken, let all things align with your divine purpose.
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Bless us and increase us. Make us ready for marriage and enrich our lives and
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our marriages with peace, love, joy and divine blessings in Jesus' name. Amen.
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Today I want to speak on communication for couples. So even if you are not married, please learn. This will affect
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your life so much, bring you so much peace and happiness in your union.
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It is the recipe for living the promised happy marriage that God that is in
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Christ Jesus. Amen. Tell somebody communicate. Tell that person communication.
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So to communicate is to share or exchange information ideas or feelings with someone it means
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to connect to talk to join or to converse
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there are do you understand what I'm trying to say please whenever you want to communicate with your spouse and you
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are not attempting to connect to talk to join or to converse you are not
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communicating don't give your spouse riddles assumptions.
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You don't expect him to understand everything that you are not trying to tell him or her.
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The cause of all troubles in marriages is the lack of or bad communication
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among couples. Either they don't communicate or they communicate badly.
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Communication is crucial in fellowship and companionship. Even if you want to walk with God, walk with your friend.
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Until you are skilled in communication, your union, your friendship, your
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marriage, your relationship will be poor and will suffer.
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All of life's trouble, pain, feuds, and bitterness is caused by failed or bad
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communication. Before you marry, tell somebody. Before you marry, if you're not yet married, tell somebody.
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If you are not yet married, please learn to communicate. Oh, tell the person
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learn to communicate. Learn to communicate. Hallelujah. If you are married, still
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learn to communicate. Else you will not be a blessing to your spouse.
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You know, you expect that you are supposed to be a blessing. You're supposed to be her happiness, his happiness. But he's miserable since he
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married you. He regrets the decision, but he cannot say it. Some people can say, some can't say it. They they see
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you and they see a mistake they've made. They see you and it hurts them that they feel they've wasted their time and
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energy. So communication is very important. If
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you learn how to communicate as a spouse, your spouse will love God the more and be grateful to God every day
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for you. Hebrews 13:16 says, "But to do good to
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good do good and to communicate just to to do good
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and to communicate forget not for with such sacrifices God is well
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pleased.
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Amen. God has set communication as the fundamentals for doing all things in
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this life. You ought to go to your bank and withdraw money. You can't take a gun to go and withdraw your money. You have
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to communicate in the standard and the type which the bank understands. Is your money all right in the bank, but you
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cannot go with a cutlass to go and take your money. Am I lying, Mr. Banker? You have to go
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with your checkbook or the prescribed way to go. So you cannot be communicating on your
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own level and tone and expect your partner to always understand. Communication is a skill you build. You
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learn, you adapt. Because if you don't communicate well, the devil will accuse you and frustrate
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you. Remember the devil is a prosecutor. He's blended. He's a skilled communicator. He
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could convince two of the angels in heaven. He is skilled communicator. So if anybody wants to live this life
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and succeed as a believer, as a Christian, don't joke with your skill of communication. Build it. Learn from
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every mistake. Build it. Don't don't be saying that. Communicate.
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Learn. Learn from your mistake. Learn from other people's mistakes. Move on.
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Improve yourself with communication all the time. Else you not win the battle. you will
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lose it. There are principles of communicating with your spouse that I need us to
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understand. First of all, communication is a vehicle through which all important
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components of the marriage are performed. If you want to have sex, you have to communicate. You want food, you have to communicate. You want to bath,
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you want if your husband's mouth is smelling, you have to communicate. If you can't kiss him because his mouth
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smells like Money and Kobe, you have to communicate.
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Everything about marriage is communication. If if you want to be able to um sleep
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and he's worrying you, you have to communicate. If he insults you, you are not happy about, you have to communicate. Every component of marriage
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requires communication. It is not one or the other. It requires it. We communicate by imploring the use of
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our body language, our emotions, and our tongue. When you're communicating, know
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this that body language
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These are all communication and they all interplay
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into something good for the marriage. The quality of our marriage is
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determined by the richness of our communication. If your marriage will be excellent, it has to be through
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communication. Now listen to me. If you must communicate with your
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spouse, remember it is not a battle of wits or words.
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Now the two of you are one. You are not two enemies coming together to fight. It's not a debate. Remember this.
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end and suspect say he has an alternative motivity to workers.
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Even if you have already suspected then please women when you start suspecting your husband of something bad or evil please it's not it's not your special
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intuition it's the devil so cannot tell the difference
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he's an accuser
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it's the devil who's at work he's accuser of the brethren
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God knows what you can handle at what time and what is necessary at what time. God knows which one requires your prayer
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and your fasting. It's not every fight you call yourself to fight. Some things
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you must overlook. Some things now some things now they have started but they end up in trouble
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so much that the person will never take that path again. Do not interfere the plan of God.
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But if you must have a communication with your wife or your husband is not a
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banter of words.
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[Music] You don't go into a banter of words.
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Number two, if you must communicate with your spouse, it is not a prosecutional stand.
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Some of you, you are worse than FBI. You are you people, you are worse than police officer. On the night of this
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day, I saw you going this place doing this. What were you doing?
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Some of you, your husbands can't talk when they come into the house. If they start the conversation, all their sense
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will come out. years ago
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and you think you're doing a good thing, but you forget that the more you are putting your man down, accusing him, the
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more he's getting distant away from you physically and spiritually. And that is
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the devil who is doing that in your heart.
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place. You know sometimes women think marriage
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need to look the good person. They need to be the good person. It is a
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necessary evil.
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That's not how marriage works. You are not two different things. You are not light and darkness. You are one. God,
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your husband is a bad man. God doesn't see your husband. He sees you. Your wife is a bad woman. God doesn't
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see your wife as a bad woman. He sees you because before him you are one. Before God there is no husband and wife.
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There is one. That person you are busy accusing. God seeing you accusing yourself. He doesn't understand why you are having a mental issue accusing
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yourself. So when you have an argument or a discussion with your spouse, it is not
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the place to accuse them. and send it to her.
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You behave like the devil.
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Papa,
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stop doing those things. That's not how marriage we communicate. If you notice this as a young man
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marrying a girl, point it out today to her.
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Listen,
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men, when your wife is calling you too much, it's never because she loves or know. She wants to know where you are. She's just being suspicious.
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Great one.
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Women
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side of her brain at the same time.
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You can't help yourself. That's how God made you. But you need to make sure when you are
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communicating with your spouse, you're not accusing them. Don't turn every every discussion with
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your husband is an accusation. It will come to
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you right. But that is a very sad position where your husband is miserable.
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He's extremely miserable.
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This is a man you claim that you love. This is a man you claim sir you want to spend the rest of your life with. Why
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does it matter so much that you must always accuse him? Why must it matter that you must point out his wrongs to
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him? Even God when he deals with us does not point out our wrongs to us. What what
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energizes us as couples to point out the wrong of our wives and the wrongs of our
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you because they want to praise you.
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Oh, both ways. Not your girlfriend.
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a fine boy, a nice man.
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You don't intend to edify each other. You intend to condemn each other.
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That is not communication. And I don't blame some people. You learned it from your parents.
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We keep sewing these seeds of distrust and we think it's good but it's opening up to a distance. It's allowing devil to
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cement his purpose in that marriage.
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Don't accuse him.
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good. Why must you dwell on the bad all the time? Why why must you find the faults, the wrongdoings all the time?
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Communication is not meant for recalling your spouse mistakes or past wrongdoings.
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Some of you you call your boyfriend.
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So, praise a lot and tone down on the accusations.
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Communication is meant to be between two people, not three. Some of you,
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so the reason why your husband cannot be happy is because
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you see you are you are sowing seeds of discord constantly without knowing that you are creating hell for your own home.
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But normal
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Because communication between two people.
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Communication is meant between two people. Whatever is going on between you and
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your sweetheart, another third party must not hear unless you need counseling
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or support. Are you understanding me? It should be a practable
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also brother sister. Be approachable. Number four.
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Five, restraint. Exercise restraint.
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We know you are emotional beings. The first bomb always comes from you people. The second bomb that comes you
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cry. Second bomb retaliation bomb, it will make you cry and accuse the person
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forever. Semi cry. They be crying. And your mind will keep on telling you.
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Christopher
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exercise restraint.
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emotional blackmail.
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Do you know some men don't come home because they are afraid that when they come home it will turn into a war. So many men close from work and they are
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sitting somewhere. Not because they have a beautiful wife in the house. You don't know how to communicate. That's your problem.
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She's coming home to Buffalo Soldier. She's coming he's coming home to FBI.
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Some women they go to work and they want excuse. They are going to church before they come home because when they come home that few hours before they sleep
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will be the most miserable time of.
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So we must learn to understand that
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and to make sure that the communication goes well and the relationship is good. Restrain yourself
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how would other people don't speak to you understand what I'm saying? Listen listen
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exercise restraint and respect when you speak to your spouse. Irrespect of how angry you are, you can
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be angry as Mount Everest. It does enco because your anger will not solve the problem. Until you restrain yourself and
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speak respectfully, your communication won't arrive. It will bounce back on the wall of defense.
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If you rely so much on your emotions to communicate, it lacks the ability to be
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interpreted well. And so, do not rely so much on your emotion to communicate. Do
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you know as a pastor when I'm teaching I'm tempted to insult you don't know sometimes
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Because to communicate with people require respect. If you give respect, respect reciprocated. If you restrain
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yourself, the person will have no room to overreact.
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Why are you so quiet? Are you learning something at all? Okay. Quite like that. I don't know whether I've I've insulted
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somebody or I've done something wrong. Okay. Number six, emotional blackmail.
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Hey girlfriend.
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Hey stop stop that. Stop that. Stop that. Stop that. Tell them stop that. Women to
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stop the crying. So when you become emotionally hurt you exaggerate. Do you know you exaggerate
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sometimes a strategy? It's it's only a strategy to control
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control the damage being done at the circumstance. But listen to me. Never feel shamed to be naked in front of your
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husband. Never feel ashamed to be naked in front of your wife. I don't mean naked as in
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body naked. Never feel that your you are exposed and your things are found out. Never allow yourself to work so hard to
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cover yourself not to be discovered. If you love somebody, your vulnerability must be exposed. If it cannot be
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exposed, you are pretending and you a dangerous person for them to rely on.
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So all those hookup girls, side chicks who your husband or say side guys, sorry
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your hookup boys and side boys. that your wives and your girlfriends are
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patronizing when they go and sit down with them. They don't do that kind of accusation.
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Socks
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All those people communicate better. That's why they have a better relationship with your spouse. You're a young girl, you have
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relationships and they turn bad. And when you have broken up with your guy, it turns into a war. Mad people
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you go on social media or me s it be stupid for me to come back to my s I'll do this to show my hey you people need
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you need psychiatry help you show on social media what went wrong the trophy
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wanted to marry or get how do you become enemies to where comes the enity
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Sometimes people make mistakes and they make mistakes because they true intentions to you and they realize and
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they want to come back and the devil wants to make sure you stay apart. They create this mentality that
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several years later. Stop believing in foolish trends that is
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going on. Be able to descend to know this is nonsense. This is not worth it for me to participate in on social media. Be able to descend these things
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as a human being. Don't join the train. Yes,
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no problem. No problem making sure. But accusing the person again.
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Do not go there. The accusation is the reason why they left in the first place.
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You see, when you are accused, you are actually doing the work of the devil for him. Cuz the Bible say he's the accuser.
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He is the accuser. You are the help.
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Stop that.
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Don't point any fingers. They are lying. You a good woman. Don't mind them. I endorse you 100%.
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But but don't focus on if sometimes we we we focus on the
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tiniest problems that don't matter and we we add them to the big problem.
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Because to know what really is your problem, you
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can do something you can overlook.
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You understand me? You must be able to see your husband's vulnerability.
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something.
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All things are possible. The all things are possible also include you being a devil.
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If all things are possible, then know that you too are a devil. It's possible you're also a devil.
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But you see instead of and find out what is causing the harm in your relationship
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you just begin to cry. What
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are you husband is a mental cycle that mental
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and something is attracting them to them that you are not doing. Let's let's tell
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the truth to ourselves. Let's not lie to ourselves. To lie to yourself is to be stupid. Tell the truth to yourself. There's
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something I'm doing that's not nice. I can't change, but I need to be able to address it to him that that's my
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weakness. He should either accept me as I am, but I don't pretend that that's not happening. And when the person
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speaks about it, I become defensive of it. Are you understanding what I'm trying to say?
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Five times a year, four times in a year. And it seems as if you are always right on accusing him.
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He's miserable. If out of those five times, four times
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of it, you people are not accusing each other but you are accepting each other, strengthening each other, helping each
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other, edifying each other, then you are a happy cop. Remember this.
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Be truthful and honest. Be what?
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Truth is never easy. Tell the truth. Be truthful and honest. Honest means
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your six is not n your n is not six. You intended to say but you want to say this because you are afraid of this if the person will interpret it this way. No,
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be honest with each other. Only hide the truth when you know beyond
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every doubt the person cannot handle it. Please advice coming from the pulpit. I
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know what I'm saying. Some truth will cost you. Huh?
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Somebody told you pastor says be honest with your husband. tell every truth then you know that for some reason
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you like this person that he's working with
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sister brother go and run your mouth in any case to the person
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use wisdom
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when you talk about attractive things describe what is attractive to them without referring to somebody. Stop
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comparisons. Are you with me?
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So truthfulness and honesty does not mean go and say things that the person
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will become further bitter and worried. Number eight, do not antagonize your
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spouse. Your spouse is not your enemy. They are your sworn partner for life. They have sworn an oath to God to be by
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your side to stand with you in good or bad till you die. So stop seeing him as
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stop pretending that stop pretending that way. Stop creating
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antagonic atmosphere in your home.
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Build partnership and acceptance in your home.
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Number nine, tell someone number nine is the best advice you ever hear.
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Don't win an argument. Do not win an argument. Tell someone do
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not win an argument. You see, if you win an argument and your
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partner is miserable and they are not able to communicate with you, what have you won? You've won nothing.
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You satisfy your ego at the at the expense of your spouse.
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Do you when do you think the enemy will attack you? The Bible says that if one can put him to flight, two shall if one
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can resist him, two shall put him to flight. Right? If the enemy wants to attack you, when when shall he attack you? It's not when you are divided.
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When your strength, your helper is you are a wife. When your husband and you are far away,
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that is the time. And so anytime you you create this problem of winning an argument and letting them feel left out,
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you separate yourself and make yourself vulnerable to the forces of darkness.
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I'm not going to marry again. But if you give me advice that if I have a chance to marry again, there's one thing I'll
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look at a woman. You keep scores.
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Auto repeat.
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Please, please, I beg you, stop keeping scores.
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Let it go. Marriage is about forgiveness. If you can't forgive, you can't marry.
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If you are somebody who find it difficult to marry, to forgive, please don't marry. An avenue where the devil
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will use you to destroy children's lives and people's life. Please stay your way your single way and enjoy your life. Sickness is not a crime
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in this church. Sickness is a crime. You want to be a single mother, it's not a crime. If it's a crime at our churches, they can prove with God's word, fine.
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Me, I can prove with God. It's not a crime against God. Be your place. If you're going to marry somebody and make their life miserable, don't marry. But
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if you're going to marry, be committed to make yourself a blessing to that person's life.
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When you speak to your spouse, speak peaceably.
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In the book of Genesis 37:4, the Bible says, "When his brethren saw that their
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father loved him, Joseph, than all his brethren, they hated him and could not
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speak peaceably unto him.
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You don't speak peaceably to your spouse. You are harsh. You are strongwed.
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You are you are harsh tonged. You can't speak peaceibly. It is a sign of hatred,
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not a sign of firmness. If you do that to your spouse, you hate
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them. Hey,
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hey, boom. You see, you see, you may think that is playful, but the way you are playing, hey sister, when the person
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is alone, the devil remember him what you said.
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But for the rest of your life, the devil will use that as accusation against you.
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Serious God, God is laughing in heaven. So, brother, sister, you are the you are the
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cause. You are just the cause. If you learn how to communicate well with your spouse, it
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will be better. from today
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consider it a blessing. Consider it a blessing.
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Consider it a blessing that somebody's telling you, giving you ammunition and correction so you can improve upon
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yourself.
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You can't be harsh to your husband, harsh to your spouse and claim you love them. You swore an oath to love them.
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Show before sending here. You claim an oath to love them.
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I do not remember the day I ever insulted my wife. Not I'm saying I'm perfect anybody. I don't remember. I think my children are in the house. It's
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not as if my wife is an angel. We are human beings. We both offend each other. Me offend more than her. Yes, of course.
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Ak but I can't help myself. Hallelujah.
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But I don't remember when I insult her. It's not as if I don't I don't feel like but I am I am afraid that
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because
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Let me tell you a joke. So this guy called his friend to give a report said
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that his wife has crashed his new Bentley and the wife is crying and the
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mother is there. Oh, what happened to our daughter?
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So is she hurt? He said not at the moment. The mother is still around.
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Some people they waiting for that final stroke, that final word, then they will
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let all hell break loose.
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Demonstrate love and honor.
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Some of you, you hated some of your parents because they loved your father or your mother too much. Your father was
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irresponsible.
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But to raise a family that can become successful, one has to make sure he's
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keeping the atmosphere of the marriage in good shape. So anytime you have a spouse, you have a
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partner or boyfriend you are dealing with, please honor and demonstrate
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respect and love. Because they will they will never leave
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you life to make you happy.
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If you keep comparing them just for the cause
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that's why boy will never like you. Trust me if you could never like coa
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because he's not despise son. That's my son will never like you because he's not
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looking for you. His criteria is probably different from you.
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But you are blinded thinking that because Musa likes you and glorifies you, you think you are the best hot
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person in the whole world. That's not how it works.
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Which one would you prefer?
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Breathe that love. Breathe that understanding. Breathe that honor and respect.
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Colosians 4:6 says, "Let your speech always be with grace."
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Let it carry grace, not condemnation. Let it carry blessings, undeserved praises,
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grace.
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Are you with me? Let your communication be with grace.
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Seasoned with salt. I like the way the writer chose the words. Was it that your
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communication be with grace? Grace means that the thing you are saying is not true, but you are saying
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[Music] to the chest.
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Some of you, you never condescend to that level.
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Please season your speech with grace and add salt. You know salt preserves.
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Remain that way. Don't do it one in a thousand years. Remain that way. Let your words carry grace.
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Season your words with salt.
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Ah, brother.
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Nice.
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You are causing the trouble
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that you may know how you ought to answer every man.
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Every man includes your husband. Every man includes your wife. Proverbs 18:21. Death and life
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are in the power of the And they that love it shall eat the
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fruit thereof.
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You see because we keep thinking that we can pray to force things on God. We are
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we are happily sharing share the link share this praying for a husband to come. We are not been busy being ready
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to be a blessing to a man's life. Because although we nice and everything,
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but high blood pressure cost 5,000
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Spiritualize.
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We Christ. Amen.
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If you love life, speak good into your marriage. You don't need a prophet. You
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don't need somebody who can pray out 30 hours. It's all a It's all a lie.
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Eh, if you're not careful, one of these days that prophet giving you oil and
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things to cook troubles
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because nobody's telling you the truth in the beginning. So you think people like us who tell you these things we are not spiritual
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spirituality has nothing to do with
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30 30 days fast.
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Tell the truth yourself. God cannot help the person that wants to
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be saved. That's the problem you don't know. And you admit you're a sinner. God cannot come in and help.
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So being truthful and honest to yourself is the first step to any spiritual deliverance.
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But blaming others for your your mistakes and praying against them is just wasting your time in the spirit.
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And the devil likes them because he has many pastors doing that for you like a dog chasing his tail.
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marrying a ghost. You're marrying a human being that you must relate with. You must see their anger, their vulnerability. You must learn how to
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embrace and deal this way with them.
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Finally, how to improve your communication.
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I'm going to teach you how to improve your communication.
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We we confessed over our talk. That's the first one. Number two, practice active listening.
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You don't listen to answer.
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answer. That is poor communication because
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one of the many way
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you didn't really listen to he's saying
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what's he saying then you're now pointing words rather than understanding the true delivery the part of the story
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he's making. Fully engage with your spouse words.
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Show understanding. Respond in a caring way.
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My wife has a certain sister,
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but she's pretending playfully to bring down anger.
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[Music] She's playfully playing down the
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tension. That's another strategy. Another strategy is to listen.
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because you must win this argument. You don't win an argument in a marriage. You never must win an argument.
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Put that in your head. Number two, pay attention to nonverbal
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communication.
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body
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when I'm talking with mommy.
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But I'm communicating wrongly with my body language
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because how to react.
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I'm showing the wrong thing which is very bad. But I am doing that as
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deflective motive.
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Good character.
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because I'm trying to control myself.
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My my brain works a lot.
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I do something within the proximity.
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I am not paying attention to it. I said important something is more important than listening. So pay attention to body
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language. Your spouse may not like that. Pay attention and answer to that.
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Notice your facial expression, body language and tone of voice.
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You see the Bible says we must be we must be as cunning as the devil is. See
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the Bible describe as a wise
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when you are doing things in the you must push yourself the extra mile with discipline other
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difference. Just it's just a wrong pictorial. If you
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see the devil today, you can't even tell he's the devil. He's more than the perfect imagination
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you have in your head.
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That one nuclear bomb.
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as a fine case. Wow. Wow.
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Just one word. You will sow a doubt that can never be broken.
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Practice empathy. Put yourself in the shoes of
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practice empathy. Try to understand your partner's perspective and the reason
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they feel the way they feel.
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Finally, kill your arrogance. So what if you're a dish? So what if you is your
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grandfather? So what if you are more learned a doctorate?
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Stop those nonsense and concentrate on the matter at hand.
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So what if you're the woman who is a bread winner who said you are the only one doing that and the scripture
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describes you as an equal bread winner to the man not one who should bring and say
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you've been stereotyped not to see that you are equally responsible for your own children. Equally responsible
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Value your partner. See your partner as a gift from God irrespective of their
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status in life. Do not condescend. Don't look down on them. Don't place yourself high above your spouse either.
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Finally, Matthew 12:35 37. A good man out of the good treasure of the heart
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bring forth good things. And an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth
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evil things. But I say unto you that every idle word men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of
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judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt
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be condemned. So if you're a good man, the way you
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speak to your wife and deal with your relationships, it will show. If you're an evil person, the way you treat your
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spouse, the way you communicate to your girlfriend, it will show.
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So communication isn't something you do in absentia is an identity. It is
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something that is an expression of who you are. And every word you want to say
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You shall stand in judgment for it. Bow down your head and let us pray. Hey,
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before we go, sorry. 2 Corinthians 2:11. Lest Satan, lest what? Satan
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should get an advantage of us, for we are not ignorant of his devices.
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is against it and is looking for the door where you will open through your speech to harm your own home.
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First Peter 3 1-2 says likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands
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that if any obey not the word they also may without the word be warned by the conversation of the wife.
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Paul says, "Good communicator.
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God will not do without a woman
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that they be warned by the conversation of the wives while they behold your chest conversation coupled with fear.
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the wrong thing. Ladies and gentlemen, there's no contradiction. Conversation is critical
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for success in every marriage. B your head and let us pray.
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I know a short sermon, but I believe it has blessed you. I know it has challenged some of the
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things you are used to. Please don't take offense. I don't hate anybody. Nobody's the target of my preaching.
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I keep telling people some of the things I preach against.
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Hallelujah. Because the gospel has no issue about me teaching what I think is right. It's
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about what God has committed us to teach to his people.
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I want you to speak to your spirit. The Bible says, "He that has control over his spirit is stronger than a man who is
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able to take a whole city." And so today, bring spirit under your
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control. Command your emotions to be under your control.
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and so speak to your spirit. Say spirit, I place you under the obedience of Christ
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and I place you under my spirit guided self
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that by the leading of the spirit you shall not work against my purpose on the
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face of this earth. You shall work in my favor and in my marriage in Jesus name.
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Amen. [Music]
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I am blessed to be able to teach
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at to have a to hold 2025.
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It's been an honor. I have tackled very crucial matters, things people don't normally say. and I've not been stoned
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or beaten here. So, thank you. I I am glad to have a church that loves
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God's word and don't take offense in me. God richly bless you.
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Give a clap offering for yourselves. Amen.
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Please take out an offering for God. If you're not a member of this church yet, I want to encourage you to be a
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member of this church, an active member. Not those who come once in a while and they don't come for a very long time, but an active member. This church will
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love you. Even if you don't have the money to come, somebody in this church will help you come. So don't be afraid.
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Just decide that I'll come every week. Even if it's hard for me, I'll come. I just want to build a habit of every Sunday I'm in church. Huh? When I'm
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tired, when I'm hungry, I will still come and I will trust God to do the rest for me in the day. So speak over your
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offering. speak over your offering.
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I encourage you to become a member. I assure you that you will grow spiritually here
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and you would learn to serve God in excellence.
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We are a church raising generations full of the Holy Spirit and people that are obedient to God and having passion to do
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good works on the face of this earth. Make a commitment today
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to God by becoming a member and grow with us.
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Book of 2 Samuel 24:24 says, "I will not offer to the Lord that which cost me nothing." As you lift your offering that
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could cost you your tri, but that could cost you something. May it become lifegiving seed that brings in a
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thousand more, a million times more, 100 times more what you have in Jesus name.
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Amen. Let's invite Auntie [Music]
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Abigail to to take the offering for us.
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[Music]
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to me. Yes. [Music]
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is here to be.
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Yes. Why was
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your singing? Yes.
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My [Music] Yes, you are.
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why you
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[Music]
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are here.
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Yes. [Music]
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Heat. Heat. Heat.
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[Music] Yes.
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Yes. Yes. I was
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I
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any of you. [Music]
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Yes. I
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see.
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May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the sweet
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fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us now and forever more. Amen. Amen.
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The Lord bless you and keep you.
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Make his face shine upon you. be precious to you.
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All her knees face the wall
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and peace you [Music]
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and keep you make his face shine upon Heat. Heat.
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[Music]
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Heat. Heat. [Music]
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[Laughter]
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Yeah.
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Heat.
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Heat. Heat.
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Heat. Heat.
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Heat. Heat.
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Heat. Heat.
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Lord take you and bring you today blessings
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in Jesus name. Amen. Amen.