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ERS welcome back to another video thank
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you all so much for the love and support
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we all have attractive qualities within
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us maybe you're the comedic type or the
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kind soul or the sweet friend perhaps
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you're gifted in the Arts or at chess or
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maybe you're a math whiz whatever it is
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that makes you stand out odds are you
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hope your crush notices these great
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qualities but what if we have a hard
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time showing them to others right away
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what if the person we admire can't quite
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notice the great things that make you
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you well you could hope they will
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eventually notice or you can use a few
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psychology tricks to point them in the
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right direction today I'm going to let
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you in on a little secret well multiple
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Secrets psychological secrets number one
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buy a gift for your crush and yourself
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who doesn't love gifts you may have
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considered gifting your special someone
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something they'd like but if you want
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them to bond with you more give yourself
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the same present as well according to
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several studies someone is likely to
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feel closer to you if you give them
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something you own as well researchers
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call this Behavior companionizing think
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of it this way you slide over a neatly
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wrapped present towards your date they
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open it and to their surprise it's a
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lovely handmade bracelet they appreciate
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it but then you roll up your sleeve and
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show that you too have a matching
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bracelet a paired gift not only will
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they enjoy their gift more knowing
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someone out there has another part of it
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but they'll feel closer to you as well
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number two ask them for a favor
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a favor wouldn't asking someone for
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something cause them to not like you
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well according to the Benjamin Franklin
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effect not exactly when we do nice
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things for someone our brain will assume
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we like them why else would we do such a
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kind favor we wouldn't do a favor for
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someone we don't like this is called the
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Benjamin Franklin effect and it was used
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by Franklin to turn his haters into his
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best friends when Franklin ran for his
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second term as Clerk of the general
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assembly one of his colleagues delivered
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a lengthy speech to the legislature
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Franklin had judged this man might
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become an influence in Government so he
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devised a plan to make his enemy his
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friend without according to Franklin
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paying any servile respect to him as a
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book collector and Library founder
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Franklin was known for having Stellar
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taste in literature among many Franklin
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wrote a letter to his rival asking to
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borrow a book from his Library one which
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was a very scarce and curious book
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flattered the haters sent the book
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immediately and received a thank you
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note from Franklin when returned
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the next time he saw Benjamin Franklin
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he not only talked to him in person with
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a new outlook but became good friends
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with him wow Plenty Of Studies have
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further proved the Benjamin Franklin
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effect to be well effective so go ahead
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and ask your crush for a favor they may
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just find themselves liking you back
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number three use the triangle technique
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for engaging eye contact
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so you can't stop looking at your
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crush's dreamy eyes can you well you may
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have heard that good eye contact can
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make you appear more confident and
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likable but you might want to take it
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easy the staring is kind of creeping
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them out I mean where's the line between
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confident eye contact and creepy staring
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well to help you out you can try using
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the triangle technique simply imagine an
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upside down triangle on your crush's
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face imagine two corners over your
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crush's eyes and the third over their
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mouth when you begin your conversation
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with them shift your gaze to each point
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for about 5 to 10 seconds this will help
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you appear confident and interested but
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you do need to actually listen to the
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conversation for this to work number
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four show your positive side people
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enjoy being around others who are happy
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if someone's encounters with you are
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mostly positive they'll start to
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associate positive emotions with you
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this is good because if they're going to
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fall for you they have to be happy
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around you thing is if someone is happy
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and sticks to that emotion others around
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them will start feeling better as well a
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research paper from the University of
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Hawaii and Ohio State University
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suggests that many individuals can
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unconsciously tell what mujiran just by
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being around you seems fair right so if
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you're in a good mood emit that energy
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bring out your positive G whoever you're
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around will likely send your mood and
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give in and feel happier around you and
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number five make a good first impression
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it's no secret that first impressions
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leave a lasting Mark according to a
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study published in the Journal of Social
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psychological and personality science
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First Impressions from a photograph of
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someone can influence another's Judgment
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of them even after they've met in this
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people would evaluate others based on
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their photographs and then meet them the
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first impression through the photograph
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influenced the individual's Judgment of
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the person even after they met them
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formally when you do decide to muster up
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the courage to ask your crush out leave
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a lasting impression a good one it's a
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good start for one thing and sooner or
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later they may be falling for you before
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you know it so don't be late for the
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first meetings and emit that positive G
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do you plan to use any of these secrets
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on your crush what do you like about
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your crush let us know in the comments
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