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Something I wanted to talk about was
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maybe something that would be a little
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bit more attainable for those of you who
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have busy busy big lives and you really
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want to see change and and have
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expectations for change, but have put a
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lot of pressure on yourself in the past
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and then found yourself coming up on
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February or March failing the initial
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goals that you set. And so I want to
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kind of call this maybe gentle goals so
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that you can get real change out of the
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commitment that you make to yourself to
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continue being your best self and
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becoming more of who you really want to
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be. For years, I've set really ambitious
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goals believing that bigger means better
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and more means more. But what I'm really
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learning now as I approach 50 is life,
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trauma, stress, caregiving. It's taught
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me that real change starts with safety,
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not pressure and presence and patience,
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not necessarily big lavish. Again, lead
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with curiosity when you run into issues
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about why you weren't successful. And
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then maybe readjust or pivot. What's the
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smallest step that you can take today
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toward that thing? And keep the welcome
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mat out for yourself. Like you belong
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even when you miss a step. I get hard on
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myself a little bit when it comes to
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like my house getting too messy when I'm
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going in too many directions and I've
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thrown things everywhere and I have
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dishes building up in my sink or things
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like that. And an example might even be
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like today I saw my sink and I was so
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frustrated and I didn't think I had time
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to empty the whole dishwasher and put
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dishes in, but I thought I could start
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and then I ended up having enough time.
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So, even though I didn't get to do my
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counters and put everything away, I was
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able to do the dishwasher and put dirty
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dishes in. And it felt like some
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accomplishment. And I looked at the
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kitchen and I intentionally said, "That
