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the decision to stay in or leave a
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relationship is one of the most
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consequential and painful choices we may
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face every day countless people silently
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wrestle with this question turning it
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over in their minds as they go about
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their daily lives their Partners often
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unaware remain oblivious to the weight
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of the decision being considered this
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dilemma is perhaps more common now than
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ever before modern expectations of love
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demand deep happiness leading many to
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wonder are there frustrations simply
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normal or do they point to something
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fundamentally flawed that warrants an
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exit surprisingly external factors like
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the stories we consume in films the
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state of our friends relationships the
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Allure of dating apps or even a bad
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night's sleep can heavily influence this
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decision what makes it harder is the
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realization that ultimately no one else
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truly Minds what we choose this
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existential loneliness makes the
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decision feel even heavier historically
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the choice to leave was simpler because
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external pressures discouraged it
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religious doctrines warned of divine
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wrath for ending unions Society shamed
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and ostracized those who separated
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psychologists argued that divorce would
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irreparably damage children but over
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time these barriers have faded religion
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no longer terrifies us into staying
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Society remains indifferent
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psychologists now often suggest that
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children farare better in broken but
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happier families than in intact yet
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miserable ones the responsibility for
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the decision now rests squarely on us
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whether to Stay or Leave depends solely
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on how we feel a tricky matter given how
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feelings can shift and evade rational
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analysis in this context a set of
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reflective questions might help clarify
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the situation a mental checklist for
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those Quiet Moments of contemplation
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perhaps from the Solitude of a couch in
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room one is your unhappiness truly about
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this partner how much of your discontent
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stems directly from them and how much
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might simply be part of the inevitable
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challenges of living close ly with
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another human being after all the
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struggles of cohabitation May persist
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even with someone new two what role do
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you play in the difficulties though it's
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tempting to attribute all problems to
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your partner consider the small ways you
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might contribute to the Discord are
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there traits in yourself that might be
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challenging for someone else three what
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does your partner do well reflect on the
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qualities of previous Partners notice
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the flaws your current partner doesn't
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have what aspects of your relationship
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work well what conflicts do you manage
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to avoid four examine new infatuations
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if you're drawn to someone else probe
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deeper get to know them better and
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observe are they truly different or
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would they bring their own set of
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challenges five consider the dating
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landscape take a close look at how many
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people on dating apps or in your Social
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Circles are actually encountering
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meaningful connections does the grass
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truly look Greener six communicate
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honestly try having a calm conversation
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with your partner instead of accusing
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them share your feelings explain what
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saddens you about your current situation
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seven think about the impact on children
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if you have kids reflect on how they
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would feel navigating between two homes
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adjusting to stepparents possibly
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welcoming half siblings compare that
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potential reality with your current
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setup eight question long-term
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expectations how normal is it for
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couples to maintain passion after the
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early stages of a relationship are your
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expectations realistic or might they
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need adjustment nine weigh the risk of
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regret consider whether leaving might
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simply trade one form of familiar
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unhappiness for a newer more complicated
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variety are you ready to choose hope
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over the hard-earned lessons of
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experience if after reflecting on these
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questions you still feel a strong
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impulse to leave your chances of regret
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will likely be reduced with a heavy
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heart but a clearer mind you can move
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forward and if leaving still feels right
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then go with caution and conviction are
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you wrestling with the decision to Stay
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or Leave a relationship which of these
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questions resonates with you the most
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