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the idea that you might be difficult to
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love can sound improbable or even
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offensive but fully understanding and
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gracefully admitting to this possibility
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might be the most effective way to
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ensure you become a tolerable and
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long-term partner few people are more
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insufferable than those who fail to
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regularly consider that they might be
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the truth is all of us are in various
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ways complicated and challenging to be
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around this isn't a reflection of
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individual failure it's simply The Human
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Condition we've all been shaped by
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imperfect parents par Ing we carry a
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collection of unfortunate psychological
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traits and we're plagued by Habits Like
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jealousy anxiety ill temper or vanity by
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agreeing to be someone's partner we
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inevitably bring a lot of trouble into
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their life before we enter serious
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relationships we're often shielded from
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these harsh truths our parents may have
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loved us too much to point out our flaws
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friends tend to avoid getting bogged
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down in critiques of our personality
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preferring light-hearted interactions
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and ex Partners eager to escape rarely
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take the time to provide helpful
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feedback they might simply say they need
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more space or decide to travel far away
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when we're single our flaws are less
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noticeable if we sulk through an entire
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Sunday there's no one around to be
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driven mad by our self-pity we might use
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work to avoid intimacy or indulge in
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Peculiar habits but these quirks don't
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become an issue until someone else is
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close enough to witness them a partner
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however will eventually call us out this
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can feel like a cruel personal attack
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but it's not it's simply the natural
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consequence qu of being seen up close
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our partner isn't behaving oddly they're
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holding up a mirror to our Behavior
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everyone when observed closely has
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significant flaws the specifics may vary
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from one person to another but the basic
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truth is universal we all have habits
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and traits that can be difficult for
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others to live with being asked to
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acknowledge our imperfections isn't a
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request to admit something unusual
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rather it would be strange to think we
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didn't have major defects of course we
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all have delightful qualities as well
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but true maturity requires us to reflect
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candidly on the question how am I
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with self-righteousness and cruelty
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often stem from the presumption of one's
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innocence to avoid this we can use
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prompts to explore our flaws honestly
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when I'm annoyed I tend to when I feel
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hurt I often around money I can be
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difficult because I worry quite a lot
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about I might be a handful when it comes
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to sex because the goal of this
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self-awareness isn't to feel guilt or
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shame it's to understand how our
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behaviors might confuse disturb or annoy
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others before committing to a
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relationship it's crucial to get
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acquainted with the ways you might be
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challenging to live with by embracing
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this honest self-examination you can
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approach relationships with greater
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humility and self-awareness this in turn
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Fosters healthier and more enduring
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connections have you ever thought about
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how you might be challenging to live
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with what traits or habits have you
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discovered about yourself share your
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