Why Do Relationships Fail? How to Improve Your Relationship?

One of the biggest causes of stress and unhappiness in life are failed relationships. Making a relationship work is one of the most important life skills a person can learn. If individuals cannot maintain lasting relationships, they, without any doubt, will always find it hard to be happy. So what are the common reasons why once harmonious and happy relationships break down? There are several clear cut ways to figure out if your relationship is thriving or headed for misery. The sooner partners realize them and work on them, the better are their chances to get their relationship back on track and recreate the love and devotion they had at some point. The vast majority of romantic relationships begin with positive, intriguing, and loving interactions. However, as the time goes by, every relationship will start facing unexpected complications that result in negative interactions. And if a couple does not try to talk out and solve the issues right at the start, they will eventually start silently suffering from those buried, unresolved problems and begin the process of withdrawing energy and hope from the relationship. At the very start of a relationship, most people will feel treasured by their partners, praised for their good qualities and readily forgiven for some of their faults. Even those areas that are not quite compatible can be almost ignored. Over the time, those not-given-so-much-attention negative interactions may have changed the percentages of good connections to bad ones. And as a result people start experiencing more difficulty both erasing them and also holding on to the positives they once took for granted. The positive parts of the relationship may still be present, but the damage is being gradually done and partners can feel each other's lowered frustration and tolerance and increased readiness to express anger and irritation. Emotional scars start building up and the ability of a relationship to create new options begins to decrease more and more. If you will not be able to work on your negative patterns and grow beyond your current limitations, your relationship will eventually show signs of decay, such as loss of hope, more conflict, and decreased intimacy. The imbalance of negative interactions to positive ones can be reversed if both partners are willing to do the following. First, both have to recognize the direction the relationship is heading to without blaming each other for their faults. At this time it is critical not to judge, but to talk out the problems with each without becoming defensive. Partners must stop their destructive behaviors before moving to the next step. Second, it is very important to start concentrating on behaviors and moments that still cause positive emotions between you, and share those moments. For example, it will be very good to remind each other of good old memories, to mention each other's good qualities and praise them, and do it all on a regular basis until your love feels stronger again. Third, try to find new ways that will go beyond your current relationship's limitations by creating more joyful times together, re-prioritizing your obligations and commitments, and try to avoid by all means any stress factors that have brought you both to this point. At the start of a romantic relationship many individuals do not discuss some delicate moments from their past and their non-negotiable bottom lines with each other. They either trust that their intimate partner has the same values and moral views, or believe that they would never hurt them by doing something inappropriate or unacceptable. Later, as a relationship develops, grows and matures, they could reveal some new things about each other that might have changed their initial perceptions. Some of those revelations can be quite a surprise that deepened one's trust and love, however others may have signaled a problem, like past behaviors that a current relationship could not sustain. #brekup #divorce #relationships Source: https://www.enotalone.com/article/26317.html