Stereotypical Post Breakup behavior

When someone that you love unexpectedly, or even expectedly breaks up and ends a relationship, then you may find yourself losing control of rational thought and entering ‘survival mode’. This can manifest itself in numerous ways, but the most common appears to be losing their inhibitions and saying *anything* in order to reverse the dumper’s decision. After breakup, begging, pleading and promises of change are high on the dumpee’s behavioral agenda. These behaviors do not work, and on the rare occasions they do, the second chance is generally short lived. Why? Because a dumper may return to the dumpee out of pity – and pity has no business in an equal, loving relationship. Another reason for failure is because the dumper may feel as though they are doing the dumpee a favor by returning, and thus it makes the responsibility they hold in making the relationship work significantly less – it is easier for them to walk away (again). It would be completely unreasonable to expect anyone, especially yourself, to be able to control the initial impulse to beg your ex for another chance. So, if you have done so, forgive yourself – but vow that you won’t do it again. Today is the day that you take your first step forward in moving on.