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Self Care Is Surprisingly What To Do When Craving And Even Before You Crave
Feb 20, 2023
Summary: 1. Self care is what to do when craving 2. Self care is also a major way on how to prevent cravings Please note there is more to preventing cravings than just understanding and practicing self-care. You must also have some understanding as to why diets fail. It's not enough to know that diets fail. You must know why. It's because of deprivation and scarcity. For another video on deprivation and scarcity, you can watch me here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCsbIvfhMjE Commentary: For starters, just being able to practice mindfulness in the midst of a craving or binge eating attack can transform your relationship with food. Numerous times I've asked people to simply remove the guilt around eating and to pay attention how the food tasted in their mouth. Many times, not all the time, but frequently ... People report that they didn't like the food. That the food was disappointing. That the food didn't taste as good as they thought. That they didn't want to finish their meals. And for many people, this is an eye-opening experience. Just by being mindful during a cravings attack, they naturally didn't want food.
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Today is about what to do when you crave, and I'm just going to tell you a quick ogy that relates to my struggles overcoming marijuana
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So marijuana and food addiction and food cravings are very similar, they are different, but how you deal with cravings just in general, it goes the same
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It goes, it's basically the same, whether it's shopping, marijuana, food, alcohol, gambling, whatever
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and the beautiful thing about the answer, the answer is self-care, is that this is also how
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you prevent it or at least it's a huge part in how you prevent it. So let's get into today's
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content. If you do like this video, go ahead and leave it a thumbs up or this podcast episode
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All right, let's get into it. So I said self-care is both the cure and part of the reason how you prevent it
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Let's go into the cure first. What do I mean by this practically, self-care
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When we think about taking care of yourself, what comes to mind for you
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And what associations do you have with it? Most people poo-poo self-care
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They say, I don't have time. It's not effective enough. It doesn't give me good enough results
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They dismiss it. Now, if we really want to understand food cravings and the cure to food cravings
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self-care is one of the most important tips. And here's all you have to do. When you get a food craving, you have to sit with it for 10 minutes, five minutes even
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You have to bring mindfulness. This way of taking care of yourself needs to be a lifestyle
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I know that's a popular word these days, but if you look at all your role models in life
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people, they take care of themselves. Self-care is not something you dismiss. So it's about
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mindfulness and self-care. And when you have a craving, you need to pause and get your
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mindfulness back And what happen is maybe half the time maybe in the beginning it is unbearable actually to not go into a craving You have a craving and it really really tough to not get that food
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to not reach out. And for me with weed, I would have a craving with weed and what I learned
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and this helped me ultimately let go of the habit or at least make peace with it is, um
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when that craving comes up, you gotta, first, you gotta, you gotta get, you gotta get honest with
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yourself. Like for me, I would have a craving for marijuana. I'd have to get honest with myself
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Am I lonely? Am I stressed? Am I bored? Am I, what am I feeling? And 10 minutes, give it 10 minutes
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If you still want it after 10 minutes, give yourself permission to mindfully enjoy that
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thing you want. And the key thing is mindfully, because if you judge yourself or shame yourself
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or think that you shouldn't be having this food craving, you're going to disconnect from your
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experience. And I just made a video recently about how disconnection actually fuels cravings
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So when you're binge eating or whatever you're doing and you're disconnecting, you're not even
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paying attention to it. You're just on automatic pilot. That's actually fueling more cravings
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If you're mindful, you're going to notice a couple things. One, after 20 or so bites, maybe, if you're actually tasting the food
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because oftentimes you might only taste the first bite, the first two bites. I remember back when I was a wrestler, I would eat, like, so rapidly
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But it wasn't like I was tasting the food. It was like I'd be starving from weight loss from a tournament
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and I'd just gobble down everything. and this gobbling down, I wasn't tasting anything
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So if you actually are mindful and taste the food and give yourself permission to have as much as you want
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but taste it, don't disconnect. I know that's tough, but we're talking about the cure to food cravings
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And what's gonna happen as you do this is that you'll realize some of the time
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some of the time you're gonna realize, damn, I don't even want this food. Damn this isn satisfying me Like you gonna be like ah I don even want this food Or it not as good as I thought That very common Now I not going to say that going
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to be all the time that that's going to happen. Another time, you know, it's not like I just
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started practicing mindfulness with weed and my weed addiction went away overnight
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No, it took a long time. And I had to learn other aspects of self-care, like sleep
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getting better relationships drawing boundaries um those are big ones for me um and and also
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giving myself permission to smoke weed when i wanted to and not guilt tripping myself and doing
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it mindfully and when you do that i'm telling you it it makes weed no longer craving it's kind
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of boring actually because because you know you smoke weed mindfully and you're like ah
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like yeah that was that was all right you know whatever but you're mindful during the whole
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experience when I wasn't mindful with it I would zone out and my zoning out would then allow my
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once I was done being high I my mind could then fantasize what it was like to be high
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because the mind didn't really know what it was like to be high it was zoned out so then when the
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the weed went down when I, when I, when the weed went off, the mind would fantasize about it again
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But if I actually stayed mindful through the whole experience and, and didn't judge myself and then I
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then it'd be like, ah, this is lame. Ah, like this is lame. And you get enough of those experiences
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those with weed or, or with food. And eventually the, the, the, it's like a, it's like a scale
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right? We have, it's like a mindful experience on one side versus a disconnected experience on the
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other side. And we're rewiring our brain to experience food and whatever you're addicted
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to differently. And it takes, it takes like you're putting a rock on a scale and it takes like a
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bunch of rocks to kind of tilt the scales more permanently. But this, this is the practice
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practice self in the moment This is how you do it Paradoxically or not even paradoxically This is how you avoid it as well Like I said earlier sleep you know I no longer in the throes of a weed addiction or even food for that matter too It been so
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long since I've struggled with food. But back then with weed, I remember I got over food before I got
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over weed. So I actually, with food, I didn't really work on my sleep. For me, weed was harder
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to get over than food. And I did have to work on my sleep. And I would notice if I didn't sleep well
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damn, my cravings for weed were off the charts. If I slept well, it, I, I, the cravings were way
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lower. And, you know, I know oftentimes we say we don't have sleep or we don't have time for
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self-care and, and, and that's bullcrap. That's bullcrap. I got to say that there's probably a
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better way of saying that without, because maybe you really are busy, but, but I guarantee you
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there's someone out there, like, let's say, I'm just going to use a stereotypical example, but like
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Barack Obama, Michelle Obama, I bet they're busy as heck, and I bet they take time to care for
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themselves. We need to internalize that we're going to get more time. We're going to be more
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productive. We're going to be, our relationships and our life is going to go better if we take time
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to care for ourselves. The question is, what are you doing that's not self-care? Like, if we're
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honest about how much time we spend on TV, if we're honest, you know, about how much time we
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spend on social media, for me, it's YouTube and news. And I've had to get a lot more clear on that
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you know, admitting to myself, wow, I could be doing time for self-care, but I'm not. I'm wasting time. I'm doing something that's just zoning out
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and so you know you do have time to self-care you have to love yourself this is what this is about
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you know we aren't going to be able to really see the true motivation of this
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unless we frame it in terms of loving ourselves self-care is loving yourself
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you want to love yourself trust me you do and you know you want to love yourself
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so love yourself with self-care during a binge and before a binge leave me a comment
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have a great day peace
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