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all right welcome to your personalized
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deep dive it sounds intense it is today
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we're going to uh explore a classic
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Stephen Cy's Seven Habits of Highly
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Effective People a classic I love it but
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before you think oh no not another
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business book right been there done that
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hold on okay we're going we're going
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beyond the typical summary here okay
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cool you you've shared a summary of this
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iconic work with us and um our mission
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is to uncover the real gems hidden
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within it those practical nuggets of
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wisdom that can make a real difference
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in your your life absolutely love it so
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the summary kicks off by talking about
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paradigms and Paradigm shifts and it
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even uses that that Vivid story right
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about a guy on a subway who completely
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misjudges a situation oh I remember that
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one have you have you ever had an
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experience where your initial perception
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was totally flipped when you understood
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the context oh all the time like what
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did that teach you about your own
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paradigms yeah well I think that story
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perfectly highlights how our paradigms
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you know those those deeply ingrained
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assumptions and perceptions can actually
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Cloud our judgment right yeah it's like
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we're wearing those invisible glasses
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that distort our view without us even
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realizing it you don't even know and
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what's what's fascinating is that as the
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summary points out yeah is that real
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real lasting change has to start with
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with recognizing those Paradigm
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absolutely it's like we have to be
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willing to question our assumptions
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right and see things from different
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perspective for sure 100% yeah yeah K
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yeah and cvy doesn't just drop this like
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theoretical concept on us he gives us a
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practical framework for understanding
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how habits are formed oh nice right and
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he breaks it down into three elements
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knowledge skill and desire I like it
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think about a habit you've successfully
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built in your own life okay chances are
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you had all three of these elements in
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place yeah that makes yeah that makes
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sense and that's actually that's
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actually incredibly empowering
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absolutely because it means you you have
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the power to start building these habits
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right now now like today right now right
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now yeah that's amazing now cvy
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introduces these Concepts as part of
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what he calls the private Victory think
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of it as the foundation for personal
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Effectiveness okay yeah right those
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those habits that help us Master
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ourselves before we can effectively
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interact with others gotcha and it all
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begins with habit one being proactive
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okay I'm intrigued how how does Cy
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Define proactive and how does it how
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does it tie back to those paradigms we
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were just talking about he contrasts
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being proactive with being reactive
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reactive people are driven by external
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circumstances while proactive
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individuals focus on what they can
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control their own choices and actions I
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see right it's about taking
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responsibility for your life life rather
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than blaming external factors yeah so
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it's about shifting from a mindset of
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things happen to me exactly to a mindset
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of I can make things happen 100% yeah
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that's huge and that shift in mindset
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can be incredibly powerful now to really
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drive this point home cvy introduces a
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powerful visualization exercise in Habit
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to begin with the end in mind okay
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imagine attending your own funeral whoa
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what do you want people to say about you
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what kind of Legacy do you want to leave
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behind wow that's that's intense it is
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right but I I can see how that would
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force you to think deeply about your
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values and what truly matters most to
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you it's about recognizing that we
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create things twice uhuh first mentally
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and then physically by visualizing our
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desired outcomes okay we can start
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making choices that align with those
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goals oh okay and he even challenges you
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with the question what one thing could
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you change right now mhm that would have
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a significant impact on your life what
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comes to mind for you that's a that's a
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great question to ponder I'm definitely
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going to be thinking about that one
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absolutely it seems like this
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visualization exercise is really laying
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the groundwork for habit three put first
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things first it is yep tell me more
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about that habit 3 is all about
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prioritizing based on your values okay
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it's not just about managing time it's
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about managing yourself in relation to
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time okay cvy emphasizes that we should
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SK schedule priorities okay not just
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prioritize a schedule in our busy lives
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it's so easy to get caught up in the
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Urgent and lose sight of what's truly
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important yeah so true we we often find
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ourselves reacting to whatever is thrown
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our way exactly instead of proactively
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Designing Our Lives based on what what
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truly matters yes it it seems like these
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first three habits really are
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foundational they're all about
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self-mastery and getting ourselves in
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order yes before we can effectively
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interact with the world around us
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exactly and that sets the stage for the
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next set of habits those focused on
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building effective relationships which
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is what we'll dive into next awesome
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can't wait now that we've explored those
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those crucial first three Habits Like
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the foundation of personal Effectiveness
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Let's uh move on to what cvy calls
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public Victory okay this is all about
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mastering our interactions with others
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and building strong effective
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relationships okay sounds good I'm ready
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it seems like these next few habits are
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building on that solid foundation yes
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we've established with those first three
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exactly so where where do we start habit
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4 is all about creating mutually
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beneficial outcomes in our interactions
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it's called think winwin winwin okay and
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to illustrate this principle the summary
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shares a story about a company president
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oh okay struggling with a lack of
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cooperation among his employees I
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remember that story yeah the president
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was so focused on getting his employees
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to cooperate so they could increase
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profits exactly but he wasn't
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considering their needs or perspectives
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it's it's a great example of how our
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paradigms can shape our interactions
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with others 100% And cvy emphasizes that
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win-win is not just a technique it's a
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philosophy a way of approaching all of
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our interactions interesting he even
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breaks down six different paradigms of
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human interaction oh wow ranging from
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win-win to loose loose okay think about
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your own interactions do you tend to
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approach situations with a win-win
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mindset or do you sometimes slip into
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other paradigms like win lose or lose
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win that's that's a great question to
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consider yeah I think I think we all
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probably shift between these paradigms
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depending on the situation and the
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people involved right but becoming more
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aware of these paradigms can help us
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navigate our interactions more
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consciously and effectively absolutely
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now to truly achieve win-win outcomes
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yeah we need effective communication
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makes sense and that brings us to Habit
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five seek first to understand then to be
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understood this habit is all about
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listening with empathy truly trying to
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see things from the other person's
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perspective before trying to make them
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understand our point of view I I think
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we're all guilty of this sometimes oh
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yeah listening with the intent to reply
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rather than to truly understand all the
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time it's so easy to get caught up in
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our own thoughts and jump in with our
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own perspectives before we fully grasp
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what the other person is trying to
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communicate yeah the summary really
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drives home the importance of empathic
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listening right it's about going Beyond
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just hearing the words yeah it's about
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listening with your heart and trying to
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understand the emotions and underlying
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needs driving the other person's
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communication it's it's a powerful skill
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to develop I I can imagine how truly
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listening to someone can build trust and
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connection for sure which can make it
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much easier to find solutions that work
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for everyone involved precisely and that
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understanding and connection can lead to
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something truly remarkable Synergy which
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is the focus of habit six okay tell me
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more about Synergy yeah what is it and
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how does it relate to the other habits
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we've discussed Synergy is about
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recognizing that the whole is greater
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than the sum of its parts okay it's it's
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the magic that happens when different
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perspectives and strengths come together
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right to create something new and
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Innovative yeah the summary uses some
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great examples from nature of course
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illust this concept okay think about two
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plants growing Better Together than
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alone or two pieces of wood holding more
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weight when combined those are those are
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great examples it it makes me think
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about how diverse teams can be so
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effective yes when everyone is able to
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contribute their unique skills and
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perspectives exactly and cvy emphasizes
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that Synergy doesn't just happen
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magically right it requires those
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foundations of Independence win-win
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thinking and empathic communication that
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we've been talking about yeah it's it's
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the culmination of all those principles
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in action Okay so we've covered a lot of
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ground here from paradigms and
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proactivity to win-win thinking and the
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power of synergy it's it's been quite a
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journey it has what's what's the final
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piece of the puzzle that brings it all
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together that brings us to Habit seven
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okay and it's it's a crucial one sharpen
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the saw okay it's all about continuous
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Improvement and taking the time to renew
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yourself in all aspects of life I love
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that analogy that's a good one the
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summary uses the image of a saw becoming
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dull right if you keep using it without
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sharpening it yeah it's it's such a
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powerful visual for how we need to
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invest in ourselves yes to stay sharp
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and effective in all areas of Our Lives
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exactly and cvy breaks down this this
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renewal into four dimensions oh okay
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physical spiritual mental and emotional
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I like it think about it this way yeah
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you wouldn't expect a car to run
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smoothly without regular maintenance
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right of course not well the same goes
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for us yeah that makes sense we need to
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take care of our physical health through
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exercise nutrition and rest we need to
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nurture our spiritual selves through
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meditation nature or whatever practices
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connect us to something bigger than
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ourselves yeah and we need to challenge
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our minds through learning reading and
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new experiences it's about creating a
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holistic approach to personal growth yes
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it's it's not just about one area of Our
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Lives it's about nurturing all aspects
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of ourselves to become become the best
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versions We Can Be You got it and what's
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really interesting is how habit 7
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connects back to all the previous habits
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oh for example taking care of your
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physical health gives you the energy to
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be proactive right engaging in spiritual
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practices can help you clarify your
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values and live with purpose and
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continuing to learn and grow mentally
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allows you to better understand and
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connect with others so like a continuous
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cycle of improvement it is each habit
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feeds into the others creating a
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powerful upward spiral of growth and
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Effectiveness precisely and that's why
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habit 7 is so crucial it's it's the key
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to ensuring that journey of personal and
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interpersonal Effectiveness is
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sustainable and fulfilling in the long
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run we've really explored the depths of
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CV's seven habits from shifting our
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paradigms to embracing Synergy and
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sharpening our saws we have it's it's
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been an incredible Deep dive it has what
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you you say absolutely and as with any
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Deep dive we've only scratched the
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surface right CV's work is so rich with
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insights and practical strategies that
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you can continue to explore and apply to
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your own life that's right but before we
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wrap up yeah I want to leave you with a
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final thought okay which of these seven
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habits resonated most strongly with you
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and what's one small step you can take
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today yeah to put it into practice good
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question remember even the smallest
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actions right consistently applied yes
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can lead to significant transformation
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so take a moment to reflect on what
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you've learned today and choose one
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habit to focus on mhm start small be
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consistent and watch as the positive
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Ripple effects spread throughout your
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life that's it for our Deep dive into
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the seven habits all right we encourage
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you to continue exploring CV's work and
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see how these principles can make a
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difference in your life great stuff