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okay so have you heard of essentialism
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yeah I've come across it we're going to
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do a deep dive into it today cool so
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it's all about you know figuring out
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like what really gathers and ditching
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everything else yeah and so we're going
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to use Greg mowen's book as our source
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okay we have a nice summary prepared and
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I think it's going to be really helpful
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sounds good for anyone who's feeling
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kind of overwhelmed or just yeah you
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know like they're not as effective as
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they could be for sure you know what I
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find interesting about mck's approach
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what's that he doesn't treat is some
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like time management hack it's more like
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a whole philosophy of life like it is
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it's about how you spend your energy EXA
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not just your time yeah and he starts
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out with this really interesting story
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about Sam Elliot you know this Silicon
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Valley executive I don't know him and um
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okay the guy was like classic
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overachiever said yes to everything oh
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yeah every committee volunteered for
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everything and um I've been there he
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just kind of wrs that burnout Point yeah
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you know totally and it's not even just
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overachievers though right it's anyone
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to please everybody you know be
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everything to everyone instead of
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focusing on what matters and his mentor
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really interestingly steps in and is
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just like what he say dude you need to
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learn to say no wow and that was like
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the turning point in his whole like you
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know trajectory yeah yeah and I think
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that's where that essentialist mindset
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comes in you know it's not just about
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adding more you know and I feel like we
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have this weird thing where we think
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multitasking is like a
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superpower it's not it's just spreading
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yourself thin so are you saying that
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focus is the real superpower I think so
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yeah I like that yeah but how do we even
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know what to focus on well so he talks
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about the success Paradox which is this
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idea that like the more successful you
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get Yeah the more demands on your time
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you get so it's like the reward for
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doing well is more work yeah pretty much
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that's kind of Bleak it is unless you
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choose to be an essentialist okay you
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know you have to make that decision that
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hey success is great but not if it costs
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me everything so how do we make those
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choices I mean there's always going to
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be pressure to say yes to stuff right
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how do we push back against that well so
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he gives this three-step process okay
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I'm ready the first step is check if
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it's even like aligned with your core
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purpose okay like what matters to you
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not what everyone else expects of you
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exactly exactly that's where I think a
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lot of people trip up I think so too you
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know they don't even know what they
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stand for so they just kind of go with
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the flow exactly which you know might be
2:40
taking them in the wrong direction
2:41
totally the wrong direction yeah okay
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what's step two step two is what are the
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tradeoff okay you know like Okay so this
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sounds cool yeah this new project but
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what am I giving up to do it exactly and
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I think that's where the non-
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essentialists kind of get lost they just
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see that shiny new thing they don't see
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the cost the cost exactly and then the
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third one is can you delegate it yeah or
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eliminate it okay yeah this is where I
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think a lot of people get stuck yeah
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delegating feels like you're giving up
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control and eliminating feels like
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you're admitting defeat or something oh
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for sure but it's actually the opposite
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right yeah it's like you're saying Tak
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can control I'm choosing to win yeah in
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the areas that really matter yeah and
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speaking of winning okay he throws out
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the concept called the 10x rule okay
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what's that basically he's saying set
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goals 10 times bigger wait 10 times
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bigger 10 times bigger good than you
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think is like okay reasonable isn't that
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setting yourself up for failure well it
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would be if you were sticking with your
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old way of thinking okay but the 10x
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rule is designed to like shatter those
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limits that we place on ourselves so
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like instead of going for a 5% raise
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right I should be going for a 50% raise
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well yeah I mean it's not about specific
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number it's about the mindset see you
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know he talks about how early on in his
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career he realized he was putting in the
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same amount of effort mhm but just
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getting way smaller results because his
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goals weren't ambitious enough that's
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interesting so it's not even about
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working harder it's about thinking
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bigger it's like that whole you miss
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100% of the shots you don't take exactly
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and of course there's always going to be
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that like fear of rejection you know
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like who do you think you are but
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essentialists choose to believe in
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themselves anyway I love that even when
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it's scary okay now this is where I'm
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getting a little tripped up what's that
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unavailable make you more valuable well
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it seems counterintuitive because we
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live in this like always on culture but
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if you're constantly available people
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will take you for granted yeah it's like
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familiarity breeds contempt right
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exactly you're always there if you're
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always there you're not special not
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valuable I'm valuable yeah so when
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you're selective with your time yes
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that's when it becomes like more
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valuable more precious like do you
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remember France Johansson I doubt he um
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fill me in implemented this thing called
5:14
no phone day at his company no phone day
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yeah a whole day where nobody could use
5:20
their phone what how did that work it
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forced people to talk to each other okay
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you know to brainstorm interesting
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without distractions so sometimes
5:29
disconnect conting leads to better
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connection right I like that and another
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example is Bill Gates okay he does this
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thing called uh think week think week
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okay yeah he goes off the grid for a
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week wow just to read and think that's
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amazing yeah but like most people can't
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do a think week right no not a whole
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week like what are some smaller scale
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ways that we can like well he talks
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about this idea of tapping into your uh
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inner journalist and your inner child
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okay those sound like completely
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different things they are but they work
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together explain so the inner journalist
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is about like okay seeing the bigger
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picture filtering out the noise and
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getting to the heart of the matter so
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you know being selective with your
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information less mindless scrolling less
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mindless scrolling more intentional like
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learning yeah okay I like that and what
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about the inner child well that's about
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remembering like the joy of play and
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explor ation mhm you know not just for
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like personal life but because that's
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where creativity comes from if you're
6:36
too serious your brain can't make those
6:38
Creative Connections totally yeah okay
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that makes sense and honestly who
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doesn't want more play in their life
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well speaking of things we often neglect
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what's that sleep yes I know I'm
6:50
definitely guilty of burning the
6:51
midnight oil oh yeah mun's big on sleep
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y he yeah he calls it uh non-negotiable
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okay and get this like companies like
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Google are embracing it too they're
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putting nap pods in their offices na
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Pods at work yeah that's amazing Isn't
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that cool so I think you know it goes
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back to that idea of um extreme
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selection extreme selection yeah you're
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choosing the vital few activities okay
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and ruthlessly cutting the rest and
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sleep is in the vital few sleep is vital
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yes okay so we got to sleep we got to
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play we got to say no right this is
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starting to sound like a pretty good
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life actually it is a good life okay so
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tell me about this 90% rule okay so it's
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about making decisions based on like how
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well it aligns with your priorities okay
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so imagine a scale of you know 0 to 100
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if something doesn't score at least a 90
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it's a no wow that's a high bar it is a
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high bar but I could see how that would
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make you really picky about what you
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commit to exactly and it's about saying
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Hell Yeah Yeah to the things that you're
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really excited about and just a polite
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no to everything else that makes a lot
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of sense yeah it's about respecting your
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own time and energy okay so we're
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getting good at saying no now yes but
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life doesn't always go according to plan
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right never so how do we handle those
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curveballs well that's where building
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buffers comes in buffers yeah think
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about it like um okay having
8:23
reserves time resources energy to handle
8:27
the unexpected Okay so instead of
8:30
scheduling every minute of every day I
8:32
should leave some wiggle room leave some
8:34
wiggle room yeah emergency life yeah
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like life happening life happening yeah
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exactly he uses this great analogy oo I
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love analogies remember the story of
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Bible uh vaguely he advised the pharaoh
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to like store grain okay during the good
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times to prepare for the famine that's a
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really good analogy it's about being
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proactive and building that resilience
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into our lives the essentialists know
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that life is full of surprises yeah so
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they plan for them okay so we're saying
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no yes we're building buffers MH and
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we're aiming 10 times higher than we
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thought was possible Right how do we
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even begin to make progress on these
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goals well he's big on celebrating small
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wins okay you know he Compares it to
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like running a marathon you don't focus
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on the whole 26.2 miles right at once
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you got to break it down yeah break it
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down into manageable chunks each mile is
9:32
a victory yeah and celebrate along the
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way exactly and that's where the concept
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of flow comes in okay it's that state of
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um like okay complete absorption when
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you're doing something you love yeah
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that's when time flies by that's it
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you're just like in the zone totally in
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the zone yeah and essentialists are good
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at creating the conditions for
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flow okay you know how do they do that
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well setting clear goals okay elating
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distractions designing your environment
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I see okay for Focus yeah and that leads
10:05
to another key aspect what's that
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systems oo systems think of it like um
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having a well organized kitchen okay
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everything has its place so the chef can
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focus on okay you know cooking not
10:19
finding the ingredients so it's about
10:21
streamlining creating routines that make
10:24
it like easy to make decisions easy to
10:26
make decisions yeah and He suggests you
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know using project management software
10:31
email filters just a solid morning
10:33
routine so you start your day with
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intention I like that yeah okay so last
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question for this section of the Deep
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dive what's that doesn't essentialism
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make you lose sight of the present
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moment oh actually it's the opposite
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yeah he says it's the non- essentialists
10:49
okay who are stuck in the past you know
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okay regretting things worrying about
10:54
the future they're so busy chasing the
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next thing yeah that they miss out on
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what's right in front of them totally
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okay that makes sense calist understand
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that the present moment is all we really
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have and that includes pausing pausing
11:08
yes and just being and just being yeah
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it's not about being a robot it's about
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being Mindful and intentional exactly
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okay my mind is officially blown that's
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a lot to think about we've covered so
11:21
much ground already yeah we have I've
11:23
talked about saying no M embracing Jomo
11:26
Jomo the power of nap pods nap
11:29
yeah where do we go from here well in
11:31
part two we're going to talk about how
11:33
to actually aply why these principles so
11:37
we got the theory down now it's time for
11:39
the Practical stuff exactly can't wait
11:41
should be good so we talked about all
11:43
the theory behind essentialism but how
11:45
do we actually apply this stuff to like
11:48
real life yeah that's the big question
11:50
right so I'm thinking specifically like
11:52
at work yeah when things get super busy
11:55
you know how do we actually Implement
11:56
these ideas well mck talks a lot about
11:58
the workplace it's all about figuring
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out which tasks actually like move the
12:03
needle okay so like that 8020 rule
12:06
exactly the 8020 20% of the effort gets
12:09
you 80% of the results yeah but how do
12:12
you even figure out what that 20% is
12:15
when you've got a million things on your
12:17
plate that's what I want to know well it
12:19
starts with having a clear understanding
12:21
of the big picture like what's the
12:23
overall mission well your team your
12:26
department okay the whole company right
12:28
yeah once you understand that yeah then
12:31
you can start to see which tasks
12:33
actually contribute to that makes sense
12:35
but okay let's be real yeah sometimes
12:37
you have to do things don't feel very
12:39
essential yeah to keep your boss happy
12:41
or whatever to keep the peace yeah yeah
12:44
so how do you well I think it comes back
12:46
to that boundary setting okay you know
12:49
what we talked about mone's big on
12:51
learning to say no even to your boss
12:54
even to your boss yeah okay how do you
12:55
do that tactfully but okay but firmly
12:59
cuz that can be tough it's really tough
13:02
especially in a work culture where like
13:05
busyness is a badge of honor we got it
13:07
yeah but I guess if you're always
13:09
putting out fires right you never have
13:11
time for like the important stuff the
13:14
Strategic stuff the Strategic proactive
13:16
stuff okay that makes a lot of sense
13:18
yeah and it's not just work though right
13:20
right what about our personal lives our
13:21
personal lives yeah it's easy to like
13:24
waste time on social media Netflix all
13:27
of that you know how do we be more
13:29
intentional about that well he's not
13:31
saying you have to give up all those
13:33
things okay it's more about choosing
13:35
activities that actually bring you
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Joy okay so there is room for Netflix
13:43
there's room for Netflix but choose it
13:45
consciously I like that not just
13:47
passively consume it oh you know what
13:50
I've had so many nights yeah where I'm
13:52
like what did I even do for the last 3
13:54
hours I know I know and it's just like
13:57
Instagram you know it just disappeared
13:59
it's scary yeah and it's not even just
14:01
about the time it's about what you're
14:03
taking in what you're taking in yeah
14:04
like if it's all negative or just fluffy
14:07
stuff right it's not that can't be good
14:09
for you it affects your mental state
14:11
it's like we're curating yeah our
14:14
experiences exact choosing what to focus
14:16
on I like that yeah and it applies to
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relationships too it's not about
14:21
ditching all your friends but it's about
14:23
nurturing the relationships that
14:25
actually matter quality over quantity
14:27
quality over quantity exactly like it's
14:29
better to have a few close friends yeah
14:32
a small group of people who you really
14:34
connect with who you really connect with
14:35
yeah than aund acquaintances that you
14:38
barely know exactly and it's not even
14:40
just the number it's
14:42
um the quality of the interactions you
14:45
know are you actually present when
14:47
you're with them yeah are you listening
14:49
are you listening are you engaged yeah
14:51
having those meaningful conversations
14:53
this is all about being intentional it
14:55
is it's not enough to just be in the
14:57
same room with someone you got to be
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present you got to be mentally
15:01
emotionally present yeah and all of this
15:04
ties into self-care too you know like
15:07
getting enough sleep eating healthy all
15:09
the basics all that stuff that we know
15:11
we should be doing that we know we
15:13
should be doing but but we don't we
15:15
don't always do it yeah because we're
15:17
too busy doing all the non-essential
15:19
things right exactly okay this makes
15:21
sense yeah it's about treating yourself
15:23
with kindness okay recognizing that you
15:26
can't pour from an empty cup you can't
15:29
give what you don't have you can't give
15:30
what you don't have yeah and so I think
15:33
a question a lot of people have is
15:35
what's that what about the guilt the
15:37
guilt yeah like when you say no or when
15:40
you prioritize your own needs right
15:43
especially for people who are used to
15:45
like putting everyone else first pting
15:47
everyone else first yeah it can feel
15:48
kind of selfish right it can to like
15:51
focus on yourself he says it's actually
15:54
the opposite it's recognizing that you
15:56
have limited time and energy and energy
15:59
yeah so you need to be strategic with it
16:01
it's like if you're constantly giving
16:03
away pieces of yourself eventually
16:05
there's nothing left and then you're no
16:07
good to anyone no good to anyone yeah
16:10
okay so it's an act of self-preservation
16:12
so you can be better for the people
16:14
exactly it all comes down to a mindset
16:16
shift I think you're right you know
16:18
instead of feeling like there's not
16:20
enough time we need to like create a
16:22
mindset of abundance abundance yeah like
16:26
their eye is enough time if you're just
16:27
willing to let go of all that other
16:29
stuff of the non-essential okay I love
16:32
that yeah and it reminds me of that 10x
16:33
rule it's about believing yeah in
16:36
yourself and your ability even when it's
16:38
scary even when it's scary yeah and
16:39
speaking of scary What Fear a failure oh
16:42
yeah that's a big one huge you know
16:45
keeps people stuck keeps people stuck in
16:47
their comfort zone they don't go for
16:49
those big goals right but his approach
16:51
to fear is really interesting what does
16:54
he say he says uh reframe failure as a
16:58
learn opportunity okay so instead of it
17:01
being like the end of the world yeah
17:03
it's just a stepping stone part of the
17:05
journey yeah part of the journey Embrace
17:07
a growth mindset I like that yeah
17:09
challenges are just opportunities for
17:11
growth okay so we talked about all this
17:14
mindset stuff right how do we actually
17:16
put this into action well he's big on
17:18
Clarity first step is getting really
17:21
clear on your core values your goals
17:25
what truly matters to you so like what
17:27
do I want to achieve in my life that
17:30
kind of thing yeah what kind of Legacy
17:32
do you want to leave behind ooh those
17:34
are big questions they are big questions
17:36
but if you don't know the answer when
17:37
you don't know the answer you're going
17:38
to get sidetracked you're going to get
17:39
sidetracked by other people's agendas
17:41
yeah okay so once you have that solid
17:44
understanding then you can start making
17:45
choices yeah that align it's like having
17:48
that Compass yeah a compass exactly to
17:50
keep you on track yeah and that leads to
17:52
another important step what's that
17:54
create a personal mission statement a
17:56
mission statement okay yeah so like a
17:58
concise nice inspiring declaration
18:01
exactly yeah that captures your purpose
18:04
okay guides your actions so you can
18:06
always come back to that come back to it
18:08
when you're feeling lost lost or
18:10
overwhelmed okay I'm digging this yeah
18:13
so we have our mission statement we're
18:14
clear on our values now what well he's a
18:17
big fan of routines okay and systems we
18:21
talked about systems we talked about
18:22
systems but but how do they like how did
18:24
they work in this context yeah so
18:26
establishing routines for things like
18:28
right exercise sleep focused work so
18:32
it's like taking the guess work out of
18:33
it exactly you just do it because it's
18:35
part of your routine it's part of your
18:36
routine yeah I can get behind that yeah
18:39
and also systems for handling those
18:42
recurring tasks email paying bills okay
18:46
meal planning all that stuff that can
18:48
just like take over your life yeah take
18:50
over your life if you don't have a good
18:51
system so you're like automating it
18:53
streamlining it streamlining it yeah so
18:55
you can free up your mental energy free
18:57
up your mental energy for the important
18:58
stuff okay that makes sense yeah and
19:00
what about technology yeah so technology
19:03
can be a huge distraction it can be but
19:06
it can also be a powerful tool okay for
19:09
productivity I'm listening so He
19:11
suggests using it for things like
19:13
automating those routine tasks okay
19:16
blocking distracting websites oh that's
19:18
a good one yeah I need to do that
19:20
scheduling focused work sessions okay
19:22
tracking your progress so you're not
19:24
letting technology control you right
19:26
you're using it to like you're in
19:28
control help you you're in control yeah
19:30
stay focused exactly and all of this
19:33
ties into creating an environment that
19:37
supports your essentialist journey so
19:40
not just digital environment but like
19:42
physical environment yeah your desk is a
19:44
mess right if your workspace is
19:46
cluttered it's going to be hard to think
19:48
exactly so he talks about decluttering
19:51
both physical and de digital makes sense
19:54
you know I think like physical clutter
19:57
yeah is a sign of mental tool clutter it
19:59
is it is so if you can clear out the
20:01
physical stuff it creates space then the
20:03
mental stuff will follow mental Clarity
20:06
yeah okay so not just talk about your
20:07
workspace your home your car okay your
20:11
social media feeds that's all connected
20:13
it's all connected yeah this is making
20:15
me want to go on a decluttering spree I
20:17
know right okay um what about the whole
20:20
Community aspect yeah so he emphasizes
20:24
do you do this alone or do you need like
20:26
well he says it's important to surround
20:29
okay with people who support your
20:30
journey okay so find your tribe find
20:32
your tribe yeah whether it is join a
20:34
community yeah a community workshops
20:37
find mentors find mentors yeah it's like
20:39
anything it's like anything yeah it's
20:41
easier if you have support if you have
20:42
support yeah and people who get it
20:45
people who get it yeah okay and what
20:46
about essentialist leadership oh yeah
20:50
that's an interesting concept how does
20:52
that work so essentialist leaders are
20:54
really clear okay about the
20:57
organization's purpose and values and
21:00
they communicate those to their team to
21:02
their team yeah so it's not just about
21:05
leading by example but it's about
21:07
creating a culture yeah a culture of
21:08
essentialism a culture of essentialism
21:10
within the organization okay and they
21:12
Empower their team members okay to make
21:15
decisions take ownership instead of
21:17
micromanaging instead of micromanaging
21:19
yeah so people can focus on what they do
21:21
best what they do best yeah that makes a
21:23
lot of sense yeah and they understand
21:25
that a happy Workforce is a more
21:29
productive Workforce okay and a more
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Innovative Workforce so essentialism is
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good for individuals it is it's good for
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teams it's good for leaders yeah it's
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good for parenting too it's good for
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parenting yeah how so well he encourages
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parents to create a home environment
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that reflects those essentialist Valu
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those essentialist values yeah so like
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setting clear expectations setting clear
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expectations routines modeling those
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behaviors for your kids
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modeling those behaviors yeah so you're
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teaching them from a young age right
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about like prioritizing you saying no
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saying no yeah setting boundaries
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setting boundaries yeah those are good
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life skills they are essential life
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skills okay so as we're wrapping up this
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section yeah on the practical
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application M I'm feeling inspired good
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overwhelmed it's a lot it is a lot but
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the beauty is it's not one siiz fits all
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you can adapt it to your own does it
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adapt it to your own life yeah
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circumstances circumstances priorities
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it's not about being perfect it's about
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progress not Perfection I love that yeah
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it's about finding what works for you
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what works for you yeah to create a life
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that feels authentic and fulfilling and
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fulfilling yeah I like that what can our
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listeners look forward to in part three
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well in part three we're going to talk
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about okay long-term benefits okay so we
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talked about the how now it's the why
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now it's the why can't wait it'll be
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good all right so we've learned how to
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figure out our real priorities yeah and
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how to say no without feeling guilty
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it's powerful stuff and even setting
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those big scary 10x goals R
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high but why go through all this effort
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yeah what's the payoff right what's in
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it for us at the end of the day well mck
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says essentialism can lead to a more
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fulfilling life okay that sounds pretty
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good yeah it's not just about like
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getting more stuff done it's about
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feeling better feeling better feeling
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more aligned more at peace more joyful
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even yeah he talks about how
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essentialism brings greater Clarity more
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focus and peace of mind yeah it's like
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you're finally in control of your own
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life of your own life yeah you're making
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choices that actually matter to you
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exactly not just going through the
23:47
motions right you're not just reacting
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to whatever comes up you're being
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intentional I like that and imagine this
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right okay you wake up every day feeling
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energized okay because you're not
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wasting your time on things that don't
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matter okay I can get behind that it's
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like you're stepping off that hamster
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wheel of busyness yeah no more busy for
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the sake of busy and here's the cool
24:08
thing when you focus on those essential
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things yeah it creates this positive
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feedback loop okay explain that so the
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more aligned your actions are with your
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values the stronger your sense of
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purpose becomes okay and then the more
24:24
motivated you feel so it just Builds on
24:25
itself Builds on itself yeah okay I can
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see that but of course there's always
24:29
that that what that nagging thought oh
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what if I'm missing out the fomo yeah
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that's a tough one it is tough because
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it feels like everyone's doing all these
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things everyone's doing all the things
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you're just like sitting here saying no
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to everything and that's where Jomo
24:45
comes in oh yeah the joy of missing out
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the joy of missing out yeah tell me more
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so it's recognizing that saying no to
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one thing is actually opening up space
24:56
for something even better that's not a
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it's not a sacrifice it's a choice a
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choice to prioritize when prioritize
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what matters what matters most to you to
25:05
you exactly I like that and when you
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start making those choices you realize
25:10
fulfillment doesn't come from like doing
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everything chasing every shiny object it
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comes from living in alignment with your
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values with your values yeah okay so
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it's about getting really clear on those
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values it all starts there and letting
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that guide your decisions yeah this is
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really resonating with me good but I
25:29
have to ask what's that what about
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relationships relationships yeah if
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you're always saying no to stuff yeah
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won't people think you're being selfish
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well actually he says it can strengthen
25:40
your relationships really yeah when you
25:42
prioritize your own well-being okay you
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actually have more energy for other
25:47
people for other people yeah so it's
25:48
like that whole oxygen mask thing right
25:50
exactly put on your own mask first so
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you can help others yeah okay that makes
25:54
sense it's not selfish it's essential
25:56
it's essential to take care of yourself
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to be able to take care of others
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exactly okay I'm sold good so what about
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our careers careers yeah like isn't
26:04
ambition kind of the opposite of
26:06
essentialism not necessarily really he
26:09
says it can actually make you more
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successful okay I'm listening when
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you're clear about your priorities and
26:17
not wasting time yeah you become more
26:19
focused more productive so you're more
26:22
valuable to the company more valuable
26:23
yeah you're not working less you're
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working smarter smarter yeah focusing
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your energy on what matters on the
26:30
things that actually matter okay that
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makes a lot of sense and this applies to
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leaders too okay tell me more
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essentialist leaders create a culture of
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clarity and focus Clarity and focus yeah
26:44
so they're inspiring their teams they're
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empowering their teams to do their best
26:48
work yeah not by micromanaging them not
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by micromanaging but by giving them that
26:53
space to focus and they understand the
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burned out employees burned out
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employees aren't good for anyone right
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they can't be productive or Innovative
27:03
okay so essentialism is good for you
27:07
good for your relationships good for
27:08
your career yeah even good for parenting
27:10
it is good for parenting how so well he
27:13
encourages parents to create a home
27:16
environment that reflects those values
27:18
so like setting clear expectations clear
27:21
expectations routines modeling those
27:24
behaviors so your kids learn by watching
27:26
you learn by watching you yeah and
27:28
you're not over schuling them with all
27:30
these activities right give them the
27:31
space to figure out what they're
27:33
interested in to explore and learn to
27:35
prioritize themselves okay so as we wrap
27:38
up this deep dive into essentialism yeah
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I'm feeling incredibly inspired that's
27:43
great but also a little overwhelmed it
27:46
can be a lot to process it can but the
27:48
beauty is it's not about like achieving
27:51
some perfect State it's about the
27:53
journey it's the journey yeah it's about
27:55
figuring out what works for you what
27:56
works for you yeah to create create a
27:58
life that feels authentic meaningful
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joyful yeah I like that it's about
28:04
making conscious choices prioritizing
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prioritizing what matters most exactly
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okay well it's been an amazing journey
28:11
it has exploring all these ideas with
28:13
you thanks for having me so what's the
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one thing you hope our listeners take
28:17
away from this deep dive take away from
28:19
this deep dive I hope they remember that
28:21
essentialism it's not a destination it's
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a direction that a process self
28:28
sovery refinement yeah intentional
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living okay and it's a journey worth
28:35
taking absolutely it is well thank you
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so much for joining us it's my pleasure
28:39
on this deep dive into essentialism yeah
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thanks for having me we hope you found
28:44
it valuable I hope so and inspiring yeah
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until next time yeah keep seeking keep
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learning and keep living intentionally