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My Family Tried to Give My Baby to My Ex — So I Went No Contact Forever | Confess World
Jul 19, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories My Family Tried to Give My Baby to My Ex — So I Went No Contact Forever | Confess World There are moments in life when your gut screams at you — and you don’t listen. I wish I had. This is the chilling true story of how my own family staged a horrifying “intervention,” tried to convince me to give my baby to my ex-fiancé, and attempted to destroy the life I've built. From manipulative siblings and twisted loyalties to legal battles, emotional trauma, and ultimately — healing, boundaries, and a fresh start. This is a story of toxic family dynamics, gaslighting, and the strength it takes to walk away from blood for the sake of love and sanity. Watch the full video for a deep dive into one of the most disturbing family betrayals I’ve ever experienced — and how I reclaimed my peace, my family, and my future.
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There are certain invitations in life
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you just know deep in your gut are bad
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news. A whisper of dread, a prickle on
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your skin. A few weeks ago, that sixth
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sense screamed at me when my mom invited
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me over for lunch. But despite every
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fiber of my being urging me to decline,
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a lingering hope for normaly for family
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pulled me in. I visited anyway. The
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moment I walked through the door, the
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air congealed with an unspoken tension.
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My eyes immediately landed on two
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figures I hadn't expected. Two ghosts
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from a painful past. My sister, whom I'd
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gone no contact with 6 years ago, and my
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ex- fianceé, Liam, who I also broke up
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with 6 years ago. The setup was instant,
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glaring, undeniable.
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I knew exactly what they were trying to
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accomplish. My heart hammered against my
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ribs, a desperate drum beat urging me to
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escape.
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I turned to walk out, but my sister's
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husband, a broad-shouldered man with a
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deceptively calm demeanor, blocked the
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doorway. "Sit down," he said, his voice
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low, firm. "For your own sake." A minute
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later, my sister Lily spoke, and what
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came out of her mouth was so utterly
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unhinged, so far beyond the realm of
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sane human interaction that I actually
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doubled over in laughter, a raw,
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incredulous cackle that bordered on
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hysterical.
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She declared that after hearing the
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news, meaning my pregnancy, they all
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felt I was making a profound mistake.
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It was their solemn duty, she announced,
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to prove that my ex, Liam, was the right
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man for me.
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But it didn't stop there. Oh no. The
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true piesta resistance of their
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delusional plan was that once my baby
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was born, my husband, the man I loved
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and who had been my unwavering rock,
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should sign over his parental rights to
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my ex. I didn't even get a chance to
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respond. Lily, with a self-righteous
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flourish, began reading a saccharine
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pre-written letter. It droned on about
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how Liam was always the man for me and
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how I had torn our family apart by
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choosing not to marry him years ago.
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Perhaps 5 minutes into this agonizing
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monologue, my brother Marcus arrived.
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The air in the room, already thick with
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manipulation, crackled with his fury. He
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was angry beyond anything I've ever seen
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before.
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Without a word, he stroed over, grabbed
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my bag, and then, his voice cutting
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through Lily's droning. He looked at
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them all, his face a mask of disgust.
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"I am deeply disappointed and disgusted
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in your actions," he stated, his voice
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trembling with barely contained rage. He
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practically hauled me outside.
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We sat in his car, the silence a stark
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contrast to the madness we' just
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escaped. By then, I was just sobbing.
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the adrenaline finally crashing, leaving
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me rung out and vulnerable.
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Marcus just kept saying, "I'm so sorry."
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His hand rubbing my back in gentle
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circles.
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I'm still unsure what exactly transpired
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in that house after we left. What
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volcanic argument erupted, but I knew
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what I had to do. That night, with a
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trembling resolve, I sent everybody
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except my mom an email.
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Attached was my lawyer's contact
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information and a clear, concise
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statement.
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I do not wish to be contacted by any of
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you ever again. If you do, I will go to
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the police. No one has contacted me
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directly since.
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But I know from my dad that my mom and
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Lily are hysterical.
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They've been crying, raging, declaring
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their fervent hope to repair things and
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for Lily to be able to be in my baby's
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life, perhaps even being a godmother.
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My dad is staying with Marcus at the
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moment. Both of them staunchly on my
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side. But some others in the family, the
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more periphery members, are not.
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I've even had mutual friends call me
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genuinely worried about Lily's
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well-being, asking me what happened.
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Apparently, she's now spinning a
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narrative that my husband is keeping me
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away from my family. I despise having my
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personal business aired in public, but
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their lies and manipulation left me no
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choice. I took the public route. I
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posted a lengthy Facebook update about
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everything that happened, screenshots
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and all. Lily, her husband, and Liam are
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being dragged through the mud online,
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which even if it wasn't 100% intended, I
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feel is entirely deserved. The genesis
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of a nightmare. A twisted history. Now,
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for some very much needed background, a
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deep dive into the roots of this twisted
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family dynamic. I started dating Liam,
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my brother's best friend, when I was 16.
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We were together through high school, a
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sweet, innocent first love. But when he
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proposed right after graduation, I
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rejected it. I knew even then, with the
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clarity of youth, that he wasn't my
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forever. This decision caused a massive
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eruption within my family. There was
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immense drama with everyone, it seemed,
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urging me to reconsider.
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You could have a long engagement, they
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pleaded. Make a promise to reconcile.
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My relationship with my brother Marcus,
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who's 36, suffered for a while, a
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strained silence hanging between us. But
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the one with my sister, Lily, who's 32,
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never recovered.
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She was absolutely convinced that Liam
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was the best fit for me, my soulmate, my
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destiny.
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She became utterly unbearable,
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especially when she started dating
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Liam's brother, adding another layer of
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unsettling proximity to the entire
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situation. Liam was still invited
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everywhere by my siblings, even to some
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family holidays. I didn't say anything,
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biting my tongue, telling myself he was
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their friend, too. And it wasn't my
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place to dictate their friendships. That
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is until Lily started to actively,
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relentlessly push for us to get back
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together. She did everything, trying to
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set us up on blind dates, cunningly
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arranging for us to share a room during
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family holidays, ensuring Liam was
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invited to every single occasion, no
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matter how small or intimate. After a
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while, I'd had enough. I was exhausted
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by her schemes, by the constant
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pressure. I finally asked my parents to
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intervene. They were clear with my
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siblings. Stop inviting Liam to things.
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Stop allowing him to tag along so much.
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It got slightly better. While Marcus, to
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his credit, backed off, Lily didn't. Not
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really. She just got more subtle, more
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insidious in her attempts. It all came
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to a crashing halt when I met my now
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husband, David, during a semester
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abroad. He was from another university,
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but the same country, and we just
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clicked. It was magical for me, a love
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that felt effortless and pure, devoid of
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the toxic undercurrents I'd grown
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accustomed to. We got engaged after
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dating for a year. My family
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surprisingly was very happy for me,
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showering me with congratulations and
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well-wishes, all except my sister.
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She kept insisting I was in the
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honeymoon phase and would eventually
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grow out of it, a bitter mantra she
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repeated endlessly. I clearly didn't.
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And after many, many, many, I cannot
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express enough how many fights and
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relentless attempts to reunite me with
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Liam, I simply let her know. I gave her
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a final unequivocal warning. If she
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pulled anything like that again, I would
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stop talking to her. What did she do
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after that clear warning? She made me a
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bridesmaid. And then with breathtaking
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audacity, she requested I spend all my
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time with the bridal party, which of
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course included Liam. And to top it all
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off, she set up one of her friends as my
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husband's date for the wedding. We
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didn't realize the extent of her
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sabotage until we were at the reception,
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and the poor unsuspecting girl tried to
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make a pass at David. When I confronted
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Lily, her chilling response was that
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since we are not married, it was okay to
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explore things with other people. The
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sheer callousness of it, the blatant
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disrespect for my relationship was a
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final shattering blow. I left the party
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immediately.
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The next day, I spoke with my parents
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and Marcus. I explained calmly but
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firmly that while I wouldn't make them
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choose, I would not talk to Lily ever
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again. And if they tried to fix things
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between us, if they mediated or
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pressured me, I would simply cut contact
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with them, too.
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My mom was devastated, pleading, trying
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to negotiate. But my dad and Marcus,
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seeing the unwavering resolve in my
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eyes, said they would respect my
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decision.
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And apart from two attempts from my mom
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early on, I haven't spoken, written, or
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had any contact with Lily in the past 6
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years. My sister has tried everything to
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reconcile with me over these years.
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lavish gifts, dramatic tantrums, tearful
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please.
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But I simply don't talk to her at all.
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If we're at a family event or dinner, I
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act as if she doesn't exist.
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At first, she made snarky comments,
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tried to create drama. But since nobody
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backed her up, since no one gave her the
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validation she craved, she eventually
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gave up. She did have a meltdown, a
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truly spectacular one. when she was
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informed she was invited to my wedding
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but would not be part of any
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preparation.
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Marcus says he feels incredibly guilty
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for going along with their schemes for
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so long and his relationship with Liam
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has suffered since
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they still talk but they are not as
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close anymore. The toxicity has finally
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started to spread through their
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friendships too. The fallout, legal
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threats, family fractures and healing.
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So, the state of my family so far.
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After the intervention lunch and my
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subsequent post, things escalated
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rapidly. I had a conversation with my
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mother who, instead of showing remorse,
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doubled down on her delusion. She
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insists she knows best that I am a bad
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person and that she will be getting
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grandparent rights or even custody of my
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child. I don't know what bizarre legal
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advice she's receiving, but I still
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panicked at the sheer audacity of it.
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So we sent her a formal letter about it,
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a legal warning shot. My dad, bless his
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heart, moved out definitively.
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He told my mom in no uncertain terms
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that he could not sign on to her
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terrorizing his kid. Marcus and his wife
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also decided to go no contact with her.
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I know it seems very sudden, this mass
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exodus, but I think I had underestimated
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the level of despair and fury that my
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brother and father felt after witnessing
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that horrifying intervention attempt. My
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husband David had spoken to them
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afterward, telling them they had to
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think very carefully about what they
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truly appreciated in life, to be kind
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and receptive to everything, but that we
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would not raise a kid in a toxic
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environment.
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This is one of the 32,716
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337 reasons why I love my husband. He is
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unwavering in his moral compass. David
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is heartbroken about my mom and her
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fakeness, her cruel deception. He says
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she will never get anything from him as
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much as revenge goes. He and Lily's
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husband, who to his credit seems to be
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re-evaluating his alliances after that
11:34
lunch, even talked to my mother-in-law
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about her initial comments doubting my
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story and made her understand why it was
11:41
very out of line. As many of you
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assumed, she is a very loving mom from a
11:46
loving family. And once she had the full
11:48
picture, she was nothing but supportive.
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My dad and Marcus keep apologizing for
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any role they played in this extended
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nightmare.
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My dad can't believe it went to this
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point. He says it is still surreal for
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him. Regardless, they support me no
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matter what and say they are willing to
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help me fight whatever ridiculous legal
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battle my mom or Lily try to instigate.
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Update two. Marcus and his wife sat my
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nephews down and with age appropriate
12:16
care explained that grandma was ill and
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had tried to hurt Auntie Diamond and the
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little cousin. They explained that
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grandma would not be part of their lives
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anymore, but that doesn't mean she
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doesn't love them. It was really hard,
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but the kids are smart. They were also
12:33
told their other aunt, Lily, was no
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longer in their life. But surprisingly,
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they don't seem to care as much. Not
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just because of me, but simply because
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she isn't exactly great with them
12:43
either. Often absorbed in her own drama.
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My mom lost it when she was informed
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about this, claiming she had rights and
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would get to see her grandchildren,
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another empty threat. My dad is actively
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looking for a permanent place, but will
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stay with us until January, mainly due
12:58
to Marcus' mother-in-law coming to visit
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and us having the space. He is really
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sad, has called divorce lawyers, already
13:06
moved bank accounts, and done everything
13:09
necessary to disentangle his life from
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my mother's. He has been getting
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countless emails, messages, and calls
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from my mom, but he doesn't reply to
13:17
anything.
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His lawyer advised him not to block her
13:21
right now to keep a record. He even
13:24
considered forgiving her for a fleeting
13:25
moment. But then, a couple of days after
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my last post here, I got a huge spike in
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my blood pressure because she decided to
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come to my place with Lily. Lily had
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never even been to my home before. My
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mom knew I didn't want her there, but I
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guess that doesn't matter to her
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anymore. My cleaning lady, who has been
13:44
with us for decades and knows my mom,
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let them in as I hadn't had the chance
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to inform her she was no longer allowed.
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I was just coming home from some errands
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and saw their car. This time, I didn't
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even get out. I called all of my
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relatives and David's sister was the
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closest. She confronted them, told them
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they either leave or I call the police
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for trespassing.
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They left. I started feeling unwell and
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we went to the doctor. They told me all
14:12
the excitement and stress were not good
14:13
for the baby and I needed to start
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relaxing or it would hurt the baby. My
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dad went home with Marcus, my uncle, and
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David, and took every single thing he
14:23
could think of from the house.
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David says Lily was there, too,
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screaming at him that he had destroyed
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her family.
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My dad with a calm fury told my mom and
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Lily that they almost killed the baby
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and that he also didn't want to talk to
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any of them ever again.
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Lily kept sending messages to Marcus,
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begging for help, but it's not
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happening. I am devastated and very sad
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for my nephew since he is losing so much
14:50
of his family because his mother has
14:52
some wacky ideas. But it is what it is.
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As per the custody and grandparent
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rights my mom wants to throw around so
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much, my lawyer sent her a letter
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stating she caused harm to my health and
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the baby and if she keeps harassing me,
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it will become an official legal matter.
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Marcus also sent her a letter using her
15:10
harassment of me as the legal basis.
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Both mom and Lily have refused to go to
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therapy. They might be mentally ill, but
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with all of this coming to light, it is
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obvious they have been in agreement, a
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twisted pact for a very long time. I
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will focus on spending the holidays with
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my actual family, being healthy, and
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continuing therapy. Moving forward, new
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beginnings, old scars, and unwavering
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love. Update three. We all, Marcus,
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David, Dad, and even David's family,
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changed our numbers, got new
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electronics, and notified employers,
15:46
friends, and the police.
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We also started therapy, both individual
15:51
and family therapy. My dad and Marcus
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feel extreme guilt over the situation,
15:56
even if I have truly forgiven them. But
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we are healing as a unit, rebuilding our
16:01
foundation on trust and respect.
16:04
My sister and mom insist they are not
16:06
wrong and don't need therapy.
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My dad made a new will in which my
16:11
sister's son gets a trust fund and some
16:12
inheritance. But Lily herself gets only
16:15
a token amount. He is truly done with
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her. A final definitive severing of
16:20
ties.
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I initially felt bad for her, but I
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decided to focus my energy on my baby.
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She is here now. A beautiful tiny
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blessing, and we are so grateful. It's
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not the experience I thought I'd have
16:34
with my mom not around, but so many
16:36
friends and family members have truly
16:38
surprised us with their love and
16:40
support. By the end, we were so paranoid
16:43
about who might still be feeding info to
16:45
my mom and Lily that we started testing
16:47
some people we were unsure of, telling
16:49
them I was going into labor at odd
16:51
times. It worked like a charm. We
16:55
discovered who was still leaking
16:56
information and cut them out. The rest
16:59
understood when we explained the
17:01
reasoning behind our extreme measures.
17:04
My ex, whom my friends now
17:06
affectionately call Bates, as in Norman
17:09
Bates, for his creepy obsession, went
17:12
around saying the baby was his, claiming
17:15
we'd been having a torid affair due to
17:17
my undying love for him. Nobody believes
17:20
him anymore, but it still made David
17:23
contact Bates's employer and tell them
17:25
about all the craziness.
17:28
Long story short, Bates was put on
17:30
suspension pending an internal review.
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I'm almost positive he will be fired as
17:35
they've asked us for more and more
17:36
information and seem genuinely
17:38
apologetic. My mom has tried to find us,
17:40
but all the people who know of our new
17:42
location have gone no contact with her.
17:45
My dad's lawyer sent her a letter
17:47
stating that due to her instability, all
17:49
correspondence will now be through
17:51
lawyers.
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It has been just us and my dad because I
17:55
felt so bad for him being alone through
17:57
all of this. He has promised he will be
17:59
fine and that nothing is my fault. But I
18:03
still feel awful for what he's gone
18:04
through. He has been the best
18:07
babysitter, feeder, diaper changer in
18:09
the universe, an absolute champion. My
18:12
nephews are loving as always, and my dad
18:15
even got a visit with Lily's son. It
18:17
came about because she kept making
18:19
videos threatening to hurt herself if
18:21
David didn't stop alienating her family.
18:24
So, my dad emailed her about seeing her
18:26
son and told her he would call the
18:28
police about her threats, which seems to
18:30
have stopped that particular line of
18:31
manipulation. Lastly, someone brought up
18:34
that I had given Bates false hope in the
18:36
past.
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It couldn't be further from the truth. I
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spent years uncomfortable, thinking he
18:43
would just move on.
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Then after I finally spoke up and met
18:47
David, I spent such a long time fighting
18:50
Lily about him. I even had a very long
18:53
engagement with David, which is why I
18:55
married after Lily.
18:58
I still love my mom and sister, the idea
19:00
of them, the memories of a healthier
19:03
past. But I choose a healthy life for me
19:05
and my family over that toxic love.
19:08
Update four. We officially moved into a
19:11
new house with my dad moving into the
19:13
guest house. We had many discussions
19:16
both in and outside therapy and we
19:18
decided that while it would be good for
19:19
him to be with us, we all still need our
19:22
space.
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We are still renting out the old place
19:25
and will be deciding what to do later.
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My dad has the grandchildren altogether
19:30
about three times a week now. He still
19:33
has to see Lily's kids separately since
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she refused to let him take the kids
19:37
unless she knew where he lived, which to
19:39
be fair is a normal thing.
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But considering she is crazy, we don't
19:44
want her anywhere near our new home.
19:47
My mom complained to the lawyers about
19:49
how unfair it is that my dad still gets
19:51
to see all the grandchildren. But there
19:53
is nothing she can do about it. About a
19:55
month ago, my dad told me he had a
19:57
confession and my stomach started
19:59
hurting, dear reader. He pays for my
20:02
nephews, Lily's sons, schooling and
20:04
babysitting, which is why she still
20:07
allows him to see him. He felt so guilty
20:10
for hiding it and didn't want to keep
20:12
secrets from us. I assured him it was
20:15
nothing wrong and to please not feel
20:17
bad. He was doing it for his grandson, a
20:20
noble act despite Lily's actions.
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On Mother's Day, my dad got an email
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with a link to an Instagram account.
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It was a pathetic, rageinducing, sad
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video about my mom and how most of her
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family has abandoned her and how much of
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a Saint Lily is for being there for her.
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I just sent it to the lawyer. My dad
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officially filed for divorce in May and
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the process is still ongoing.
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My mom insists he is wrong, but my dad
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said he'd rather drink bleach than go
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back to her, so I think that is final.
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Marcus and David took my dad out for
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Father's Day and had a blast. Lily
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posted many, many, many things that day
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trying to provoke, but they managed to
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block my dad from even learning about it
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because we wanted him to enjoy his day.
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They also did a camping trip with the
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kids, aka went to a hotel, got a suite,
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and put a tent in the middle area for
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the kids and a little teepee for the
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baby.
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Honestly, having the baby is one of the
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best things that has happened to me. And
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seeing David being the amazing father I
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knew he would be makes me so incredibly
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happy.
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It is tiring, but we have so much
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support. I feel grateful beyond anything
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because I have my rocks on my side.
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Marcus and I now get to have a little
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calendar for sharing things, making sure
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all the kids get to do age appropriate
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activities. And if they want to, we want
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to let them all know they do not need to
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hang out with people they dislike and
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their voices matter.
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Right now they are all obsessed with the
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baby and say they are her protectors. We
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have little gettogethers, brunches, etc.
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Honestly, having family time is now a
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pleasure and not a headache without Lily
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there. I know it's wrong to say, but she
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just sucks the positivity out of the
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room. My mother-in-law also loves having
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time with the baby and stays in the
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guest room about once a week. She asked
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politely and said she didn't want to
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take the baby for sleepovers or
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anything.
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She just wanted to spend time with her.
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I feel respected and heard by her, which
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is a stark contrast to my own mother.
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And yes, I have broken down sometimes
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because I miss my mom a lot. I miss the
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mom I had or thought I had. Not the one
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that told me I would be a terrible
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mother or was a hateful woman. My
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therapist says it's a marathon. And to
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focus on the good, speaking about good,
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Bates was terminated from his job.
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Not only that, but his reputation in his
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industry was not only damaged, but
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nuclear level damaged. So was his
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brothers. But because his brother isn't
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in an industry that cares as much about
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reputation, he still has his job, as far
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as I know. Bates sent me two more very
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long, handwritten, rambling, singlepaced
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letters. each about 12 pages
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double-sided about how hurt he is that
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I'm denying him what's his and how David
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is so threatened by him that he had to
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destroy him professionally because he
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wouldn't be able to destroy anything
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else. I said seemed because I didn't
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read them. My lawyer did and gave me a
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summary. I also heard from the
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grapevine, "No, I don't ask people. They
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just tell me since they know he's
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stalking me." that the mother of his
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other children moved and he didn't even
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care, saying it was for the best.
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This man doesn't even care about his own
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kids and wants to play family with my
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baby and me. Sadly, he won't be homeless
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or anything because mommy already let
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him move back in with her, so I doubt he
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will learn anything from this. Update
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five. My parents are officially divorced
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now after many fights and tantrums from
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my mother. She kept the house and got a
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bulk payment, but that is it. My dad is
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like a new man, lighter, happier, and we
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are all so happy for him. A little
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throwback. When all the drama happened,
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we did not fire our cleaning lady. This
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is a woman who has been helping our
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family for decades. I was worried about
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her being out of work because of what my
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crazy family did. Also, we are not slobs
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and she is not polishing floors on her
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knees or anything like that.
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She is a professional.
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In any case, my dad spoke with her and
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told her the situation and until we had
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a new house to please wait for us if she
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wanted, but she was absolutely not
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fired.
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She was really happy about it and so was
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her family. My dad started to get food
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and stuff from them from time to time
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because they were so thankful about what
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he was doing for them.
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Well, she has a sister who owns her own
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nail salon and my dad is dating her now.
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She is a very lovely woman and has grown
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children so she understands the dynamics
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happening in our family. Sometimes he
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has been very clear he is not moving in
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or marrying and she is pleased with that
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because she likes her independence. My
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mother nearly had a stroke when she
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heard about his new relationship and
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kept saying it was a late midlife crisis
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and he had to resort to being a sugar
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daddy.
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This is obviously what I heard through
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the grapevine because I don't have any
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contact with her. But last I heard, she
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is having a hard time. She is struggling
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because she was never good at budgeting
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and relied on my dad to put a stop to
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ridiculous purchases. Lily is also
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struggling because my dad is not helping
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her with money anymore. You'll see. He
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was willing to keep helping for the sake
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of my nephew. But then things got very
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rough. My nephew started calling my kid
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an affair baby. How she is not with her
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real dad. called my other nephews
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delusional. And during a birthday party,
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he even pushed one of my nephews on
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David's side, saying they were not my
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kid's cousins, only he was. The kids
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were perplexed and so so confused, but
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immediately told an adult about it. My
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dad spoke with him, but he kept
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repeating it, paring the hateful words
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he'd clearly heard at home.
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My dad spoke with Lily and she said she
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could do nothing to prevent a kid from
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telling the truth and didn't all kids
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always tell the truth. My dad told her
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until there is a change, he is cutting
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them off completely.
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She panicked and cried, but she is also
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super stubborn. So now my nephew goes to
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public school because David made my dad
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cut them off financially. Bates, well,
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he is still unemployed.
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I know I was cryptic about it, but he
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was in an industry related to vulnerable
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women and some of his prior behavior,
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even before me, related to stalking.
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Irony much? That's why he was fired. The
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organization he was in didn't want this
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to splash on them. I have received two
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more very long handwritten rambling
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letters from him. And since he only has
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my lawyer's address, guess who has the
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honor of receiving, reading, and filing
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those ramblings?
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I love my lawyer and he is a champ.
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Apart from that and the gossip, I have
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not had bad issues related to him except
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for one. I was at the grocery store and
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a random woman came over to ask if my
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kid was Bates's baby. I was speechless
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and shocked. I asked her what she was on
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and she said he has a photo of us on his
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profile and I should be ashamed of
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myself for hurting such a good man.
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Turns out he is still going by the
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narrative that my kid is his and I loved
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him so much. This is all old news. But
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in the end, what shocked me the most was
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the profile comment. This is not a photo
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that has ever been public or anything
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like that. It was sent to a family group
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once and that is it. I told David
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immediately and he was enraged but
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composed.
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We decided to smoke out the rat. Long
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story short, it was my dad's two sisters
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feeding info to my mom.
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My dad was so disappointed, but also had
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no doubts cutting them off. They are
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still begging him to talk to them again.
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Update six. Marcus and his family are
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doing great. We see them a lot and have
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been on some family holidays together.
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They are also no contact with my mom and
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Lily. Marcus's mother-in-law is actually
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super happy about it because it turns
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out she was not a fan of my mom, but
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kept the peace for Marcus' sake.
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My in-laws keep being lovely as well. We
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allow m overnight babysitting now too
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and she is over the moon with it.
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Sometimes she has all her grandchildren
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under the same roof and they are all
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delighted to be with her. She is a
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former flight attendant so their
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favorite game is to pretend airplane.
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Overall they love her and we know she is
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good with kids so we don't worry. She
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had to make her socials private because
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my mom kept stalking her. I am sure she
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is extremely jealous, but she made her
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own bed. Lastly, David keeps me sane
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whenever little things come up. We are
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thinking if we should have another baby
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or maybe adopt one. We are still
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undecided. We have a great support
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system and the privilege to even have
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these conversations.
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I still miss my mom a lot. I sometimes
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cry when I realize there are milestones
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I can no longer share with her, but she
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is a bad person and the safety and
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well-being of my family matters more.
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Last fun fact, this Father's Day, they
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actually went camping. It went great.
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Apart from the mosquito bites and some
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ill-placed sunburns, having the baby is
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genuinely one of the best things that
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has ever happened to me. Seeing David be
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the amazing father I knew he would be
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makes me so incredibly happy.
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It is tiring but we have so much